My parents were here for a week and a half and just left this morning. It was amazing having extra hands on the super active 13 month old and the husband and I even got to go boating/fishing with the dogs! Now I am back to having to cook and keep the kiddo alive after work (husband works late in the summer).
Today I'm a "print out a list of Maternal Fetal Medicine providers to take to my next OB appointment because apparently telling 3 separate staff that I refuse to go to MFM at their sister hospital means that they still schedule an appointment for me anyways" level of petty pregnant.
The OBs office just called with our NIPT test results and there are no chromosomal abnormalities!!!!! I’m so excited and relieved and now we can tell our families this weekend! (I’ll be 12 weeks) Both of H’s sisters already know so we will be telling his parents and my parents and brother. AND we can pick up the sex in an envelope tomorrow or Wednesday so we can do a little cupcake reveal for me and H to find out.
This is a huge anxiety relief after having a loss earlier this year. I basically feel like I can enjoy this pregnancy now.
@mdfarmchick - They did! But apparently even though it's "SO IMPORTANT I GO" that we can't wait to see if I actually need MFM, they didn't schedule me until 6 weeks from now. Oh, yes. I definitely see that you think this is a priority
I already called to cancel the appointment (because apparently they just schedule you and expect you to show up?) and sent a note to my OB through their online portal that she's going to have to send me somewhere else.
@moguippy Yay!!! Congrats!!! We opted for the counsyl test and I got the call today that my vial of blood broke on the way to the lab..... back tomorrow to give them some more.
Me: 31 Husby: 36 Married May 2014 TTC # 2 Since December 2021 Baby girl W born 2/2021 Our journey so far... (tw loss & infertility)
Diagnosis: Poor Egg Quality Working with an RE since March 2016 2 failed TI cycles 3 failed IUI cycles
IVF Feb - April 2017 23 eggs collected, 20 mature, 14 fertilized with ICSI, 4 day 3 blasts, 3 day 5 blasts, 1 PGS normal Transferred 1 PGS normal embryo 4.12.17 BFP 4.21.17 MMC due to small gestational sac 6.8.17
Our adoption journey: 12.25.18 Agency picked and apps submitted! 5.1.19 Adoption on hold so we can buy a house! 1.1.20 Homestudy process started 3.14.20 First social worker visit 5.25.20 Homestudy Approved & Submitted to Agency
6.1.20 Surprise! Positive pregnancy test! Healthy baby girl born 2/10/2021
@tamalahoops I did Counsyl with my DS and they messed up my first blood draw too! I think they left it out too long because it was a holiday and the blood went bad (or something?) and I had to redo it.
@WildMagelet so frustrating!!! Good for you for bringing a list of other MFMs.
@WildMagelet it’s like they just don’t listen to you. I would be so angry. 🤦🏻♀️ Also that whole “it’s super important we have to schedule it now for SIX weeks later” is just ridiculous. I’m not very patient so I might have started looking for a new OB just for ignoring me over something that is very important to me and personal. 🤷🏻♀️
@tamalahoops I'm sorry you have to do a repeat draw. I imagine the cleanup of broken blood vial(s) was very thorough and I can imagine whoever had to clean it up may have been on edge because of the general hazards of spilled strangers' blood! I hope it didn't ruin anyone's day.
I found out that my insurance (United Healthcare) offers a Healthy Pregnancy Program where a nurse calls throughout the pregnancy and after delivery to help the mother stay healthy, and there's a gift card involved. I tried to ask what the gift card amount is, but no one I talked to knew. So I signed up anyways and I'm hoping it's better than like a $15 Visa. 😆
I just vacuumed the living room for the first time in longer than I care to admit. I’m pretty sure I vacuumed up enough crackers crumbs to feed a fleet and enough cat hair to make another cat 🤦♀️
@moguippy That's great news! Are you doing anything special to tell them?
Mine is taking longer than normal, so I'm at the phase where the receptionist is going to be tired of hearing from me because I'm definitely calling every day now, lol. We're also waiting to tell parents & such until after we get the results back because of our previous MMC.
@WildMagelet wtf is their problem??? Did you say this was the only OB near you? Could you find a family doctor that also does OB? Definitely call them out on their shenanigans
@WildMagelet my results actually came really fast and I was shocked when she called today. Last time it took a lot longer. We got a shirt for DS that says “big brother”. We’ll just put him in that and wait til somebody notices lol.
@jumpy57 - There used to be (2) OB/Gyn clinics in town, one tied to each of our hospitals, but the hospital connected to the OB I went to previously closed their birthing center, and the associated clinic switched to just Gynecology. I'll have to commit to driving 40+ miles each way to find a new OB, so I'm legitimately trying to give them a fair shake - they're just really trying my patience.
@moguippy - Aww I'm ordering DH and I bear-themed parent shirts on Amazon and will see if anyone notices. (Mine is just "Mama Bear", DH's has a picture of a grizzly and says "It's not a Dad Bod, It's a Father Figure". We also got the dog a bandana that says "Big Sister." I'm also getting one of the "You can stop asking now" shirts to wear to work, because one of my co-workers is notorious for that. On the NIPT front, my results came back today - insufficient fetal DNA, which I'm guessing is because they pulled at like 9+2. So I had to go back to the clinic after work today and do a re-test. Hopefully it doesn't take 2+ weeks again.
@WildMagelet my doctor won’t do the NIPT test until you are at least 10 weeks. She says it’s a very expensive test to have to do twice. Bummer you have to do it again. Hopefully it will be faster this time.
Ugh. I am having the worst cramps, which is probably to be expected since my uterus is tilted backwards for some stupid reason, and the ultrasound tech warned me this would happen as the uterus tries to tilt up in the next couple of weeks with baby growing. It still makes me paranoid, especially when I know I haven’t had enough water to drink today. 🤦🏻♀️
DS (1.5) keeps climbing all over me and kneeing me in the stomach. It doesn’t bother me yet because baby’s so small and padded in there, but soon he’s going to have to give it a rest.
@mdfarmchick I’ve never heard of that happening! Is it normally tilted for you, or has this just recently happened? My best friend has a tilted uterus but she’s always had it that way.
Anybody else on the meat is the most disgusting thing in the world train? When I was pregnant with ds chicken was so gross but this time any sort of meat is so unappetizing. I was eating a quinoa bowl and accidentally bit into a piece of chicken in it and almost puked.
@hannahbananas11 same with my son. He’s a little older, but I’ve been on him about not using me as a jungle gym and now his response is, “bc the baby’s in there?” Maybe once it’s more visually obvious it will make more sense to him.
@babymamadimo +1 to meat aversions. The only thing that’s ok for me right now is breaded chicken like nugs or breaded chicken sandwiches. The thought of anything else like a burger or a steak makes me want to vom.
@hannahbananas11 So this is my third take home baby hopefully and they’ve never mentioned it with any of my previous pregnancies so I think it’s new. 🤦🏻♀️😣
@mdfarmchick they mentioned a tilted uterus at my first ultrasound this pregnancy. But never with my DS or loss. I wonder if it’s something you can just develop?
@babymamadimo meat is basically vile. But lately I’ve also been able to eat nuggets or if it is “hidden” in other food. Usually I just pick it out or only eat sides.
@moguippy she said you can have it one pregnancy and not have had it previously. I didn’t ask her if it would go back possibly or be tilted from now on? 🤷🏻♀️ But yeah. This is my sixth pregnancy and no one has mentioned it before so I feel like it just happened this time.
@mdfarmchick I'm wondering if this is my issue currently. Is it sharp cramps or more period type? I too have a tilted uterus. It's back and to the left so it's my Joe Cool uterus. HA! I'm having sharp intermittent pains today so am curious reading that. (If you don't mind me asking!) Hope it feels better soon!
@babymamadimo No haha! I was there a week or so ago tho so I feel your pain! How far along are you? I hope it gets better for you!
Y’all. Let me just start this with I’m not super close with my mom. Nothing is wrong we’re just not that close. She’s been asking me for probably a year when we are gonna have kid #2. I hadn’t told her about the loss earlier this year. Tonight she waited till we were alone and asked if we were “having trouble getting pregnant since we had no problems with DS”. I looked at her bewildered and said “it took us 18 months and two diagnoses to have him.” And she got all mad bc I never told her And I was just like “well I didn’t tell anyone” which isn’t entirely true but it defused the conversation. It was just super awkward as I tried to hide my bump and just thinking “we’re literally announcing thIs pregnancy on Saturday”. At least this was hopefully the last function I’ll have to hide it from people.
@moguippy I'm sorry to hear you have a tense relationship with your mom. Unfortunately, I can relate & would not of even told my mom of our pregnancy let alone our loss last year, either, had she not violated my boundaries & barged into our house on the day I was having my miscarriage (immediately upon returning from the hospital no less). To this day I'm extremely angry about it, because this pregnancy, I felt I had no choice to tell her immediately so as to avoid a similar situation. It has been exactly what I anticipated & we are currently not speaking due to her being tense and causing drama/scenes in our home ever since we told her. I truly wish I had some good advice for you, but I really just wanted to let you know I get where you're coming from & you're not alone. It's really tough when you're being undermined and pressured by your own mother. I wish you the very best of luck.
@animommy I don’t have a tilted uterus as far as I’m aware, but I’ve been starting to have sharp pains, too. I had them with DS but not as early. I’m pretty sure it’s round ligament pain for me. The best description I’ve heard is that it feels like you’ve got guitar strings in your pelvis and someone’s plucking them. Very sharp specific pain (not a dull overall period ache), that come on quickly and don’t last longer than a minute. Happens often after I sneeze or quickly change position.
Anybody else on the meat is the most disgusting thing in the world train?
Yes. I can eat it only if it’s mixed in with other things and/or cut into tiny pieces. I gag at the grocery store if I look at it (and sometimes even just talking to my husband about it). Unfortunately it has required drastic changes to my usual diet/cooking habits and I’m eating more pasta and processed food because of it.
@animommy and @moguippy sorry to hear about your tense mom situations. I have a similar one. Luckily we don’t live nearby, so I haven’t had to hide anything. I’m really not looking forward to telling family. It’s unfortunate.
@animommy I'm having round ligament pain as well and it feels like what you describe. It was really alarming at first! I was told at my 6w ultrasound that I had a tilted uterus and was very surprised since I went through a lot of fertility treatment and had never been told this. By my 10w ultrasound I no longer had a tilted uterus so maybe I never did. (shrugs) who knows!
Me: 31 Husby: 36 Married May 2014 TTC # 2 Since December 2021 Baby girl W born 2/2021 Our journey so far... (tw loss & infertility)
Diagnosis: Poor Egg Quality Working with an RE since March 2016 2 failed TI cycles 3 failed IUI cycles
IVF Feb - April 2017 23 eggs collected, 20 mature, 14 fertilized with ICSI, 4 day 3 blasts, 3 day 5 blasts, 1 PGS normal Transferred 1 PGS normal embryo 4.12.17 BFP 4.21.17 MMC due to small gestational sac 6.8.17
Our adoption journey: 12.25.18 Agency picked and apps submitted! 5.1.19 Adoption on hold so we can buy a house! 1.1.20 Homestudy process started 3.14.20 First social worker visit 5.25.20 Homestudy Approved & Submitted to Agency
6.1.20 Surprise! Positive pregnancy test! Healthy baby girl born 2/10/2021
I live about 5 minutes from my mom and see her at least once a week. Me and my mom are just different people but also the same person. I’m super independent. She’s cold and stubborn and not very open. And because of that I reflect that behavior back to her. She is a good mom, works hard, tries her best and doesn’t usually mean any ill will. We just don’t have a warm, fuzzy, emotional connection, we never have. We don’t usually talk about personal things. Which is totally fine, that’s just how our relationship is. I was just caught off guard by her conversation (but not by her being mad that I hadn’t told her anything). I stopped telling her a lot of things after DS was born bc she was so dismissive and it was hurtful. It was so bad even my H was mad at her for me. I’ve just learned to live with how she is. It could be so much worse so I guess I’m lucky... but it could also be better 🤷♀️
@animommy I’m sorry your mom is causing drama. You don’t need that in your life. I have zero tolerance for drama and I would cut her off for now too.
@animommy I would say it was closer to period cramps but really it felt like I was about to have bad diarrhea even though I never actually had to go to the bathroom. 😣 I’ve only had it at night when I want to go to bed so I shouldn’t complain.
Ps, I’m sorry your mom sucks.
@moguippy as an alternate perspective I’m kind of glad she recognized that there could be a problem getting pregnant. My MIL tends to ask me abruptly when we are having another kid and it’s way more hurtful to me when it’s phrased that way. Sorry for the awkward conversation though. Sounds like you have a good way of coping with her difficulties.
DS (1.5) keeps climbing all over me and kneeing me in the stomach. It doesn’t bother me yet because baby’s so small and padded in there, but soon he’s going to have to give it a rest.
My 1.5 year old sits on our abdomens and bounces. I tell her she's on baby but I think she's too young to understand. One day she will be very sad when she can't jump on my stomach anymore. I'll try to teach her to hug me instead.
On relationships with our moms, I'm much closer to my MIL. When I told my mom that we were trying and I tested negative after my period was supposed to show, she said something like "You need to calm down." My MIL on the other hand responded in a more sensitive, loving way so I'm closer with her and confide in her more often.
I think I shared this already, but I was testing 14+ dpo and I kept getting negatives until 30 days past confirmed ovulation. I have my first appointment next Friday and I'm not sure how far along Baby is going to measure. I am curious if the measurement-based EDD will be later than my Ovulation-based EDD because of how long it took to get a positive.
Well a couple things.. I am on day 4 of a migraine that won't seem to completely quit.. it comes and goes in waves, some much worse than others my go-to was always excedrin migraine which I of course cannot take right now.. I have a scrip for sumatriptan, but I hate to take it unless absolutely necessary. Any advice out there?
The second thing weighing heavily on me right now - I have a family reunion scheduled in 2 weeks in Florida. I am really struggling with the decision to attend. I paid a lot of money in flights and accommodations, but I'm wondering if it's worth the risk. I know there is no research or proof of any covid related pregnancy issues, but after 1 loss already this year I am nervous!
What would you all do?
P.S. I have changed my username and it reflects on the app but not on the site
Hi Knottie! I would call my doctor and ask what I can take for the migraine. (Edit: or ask if there's an alternative to sumatriptan.) There are a lot of variables with the reunion and I don't know what decision I would make in your situation, but I'd say your nervousness is enough to justify not going and when your family learns of your pregnancy, I'm sure they would understand your decision to stay home if that's the decision you feel most comfortable with.
Ugh, acetaminophen isn't doing anything for my pain either. I've had severe lower back pain this week. Same here, other than the back pain I've been having a great 1st trimester (Except for the day I took metformin to treat constipation. That was a bad idea.)!
I know someone who swears by poweraid for her migraines. Though she has a hormonal imbalance and I don't know anyone else who uses poweraid for migraines. 🤷♀️ I wish I could be more helpful.
Hey Knottie, my MFM prescribed fiorcet for migraines for me. I also had a script for it when I was pregnant with my first with a different doctor. The OB with my second didn’t want me to take it in the first trimester but the MFM is a specialist and said that he didn’t understand at all what the reasoning for that would be so if the sumatriptan isn’t helping, you can at least ask about that.
I drink extra water when I have a migraine coming on to try to help it and I’ve had some luck with putting an ice pack on my neck and my feet in warm water. Also sometime peppermint oil cut with coconut oil works on my temples or behind my ears.
@moguippy - Your description of your mom sounds a lot like my mom, except we live around 2 hours away from each other and barely see or talk to one another. I wish it was different, but she's always been emotionally distant which I am 100% not on a normal basis. That, and with her I always seem to feel like I'm living in the shadow of my older "perfect" brother. (Don't get me wrong, my brother is awesome, and totally deserves the world and more, sometimes I just think she wishes I was more like a female version of him instead of just appreciating me for me.)
@animommy - That situation with your mom during/after your loss sounds awful. I'd have a hard time forgiving that too.
@mdfarmchick I’m so glad you mentioned this! I have a super tilted uterus, too, but no one told me cramping could be a thing. I didn’t have any with my first, so hoping I’ll get lucky again;) But this will ease my mind if I do!! I hope it doesn’t last long for you- hugs!!
Re: Weekly Randoms 7/20
SD: 21 & SS: 17
BFP #2 6/3/2020
*Trigger Warning*
I already called to cancel the appointment (because apparently they just schedule you and expect you to show up?) and sent a note to my OB through their online portal that she's going to have to send me somewhere else.
SD: 21 & SS: 17
BFP #2 6/3/2020
*Trigger Warning*
Married May 2014
TTC # 2 Since December 2021
Baby girl W born 2/2021
Our journey so far...
(tw loss & infertility)
Working with an RE since March 2016
2 failed TI cycles
3 failed IUI cycles
IVF Feb - April 2017
23 eggs collected, 20 mature, 14 fertilized with ICSI, 4 day 3 blasts, 3 day 5 blasts, 1 PGS normal
Transferred 1 PGS normal embryo 4.12.17
BFP 4.21.17
MMC due to small gestational sac 6.8.17
Our adoption journey:
12.25.18 Agency picked and apps submitted!
5.1.19 Adoption on hold so we can buy a house!
1.1.20 Homestudy process started
3.14.20 First social worker visit
5.25.20 Homestudy Approved & Submitted to Agency
6.1.20 Surprise! Positive pregnancy test!
Healthy baby girl born 2/10/2021
I found out that my insurance (United Healthcare) offers a Healthy Pregnancy Program where a nurse calls throughout the pregnancy and after delivery to help the mother stay healthy, and there's a gift card involved. I tried to ask what the gift card amount is, but no one I talked to knew. So I signed up anyways and I'm hoping it's better than like a $15 Visa. 😆
Mine is taking longer than normal, so I'm at the phase where the receptionist is going to be tired of hearing from me because I'm definitely calling every day now, lol. We're also waiting to tell parents & such until after we get the results back because of our previous MMC.
SD: 21 & SS: 17
BFP #2 6/3/2020
*Trigger Warning*
@moguippy CONGRATULATIONS!!!
@s_montgomery that sounds like a good program! I think the post partum check-ins woul be extra awesome, and hopefully it's a decent gift card!
@moguippy - Aww
SD: 21 & SS: 17
BFP #2 6/3/2020
*Trigger Warning*
@babymamadimo meat is basically vile. But lately I’ve also been able to eat nuggets or if it is “hidden” in other food. Usually I just pick it out or only eat sides.
@babymamadimo No haha! I was there a week or so ago tho so I feel your pain! How far along are you? I hope it gets better for you!
@animommy and @moguippy sorry to hear about your tense mom situations. I have a similar one. Luckily we don’t live nearby, so I haven’t had to hide anything. I’m really not looking forward to telling family. It’s unfortunate.
Married May 2014
TTC # 2 Since December 2021
Baby girl W born 2/2021
Our journey so far...
(tw loss & infertility)
Working with an RE since March 2016
2 failed TI cycles
3 failed IUI cycles
IVF Feb - April 2017
23 eggs collected, 20 mature, 14 fertilized with ICSI, 4 day 3 blasts, 3 day 5 blasts, 1 PGS normal
Transferred 1 PGS normal embryo 4.12.17
BFP 4.21.17
MMC due to small gestational sac 6.8.17
Our adoption journey:
12.25.18 Agency picked and apps submitted!
5.1.19 Adoption on hold so we can buy a house!
1.1.20 Homestudy process started
3.14.20 First social worker visit
5.25.20 Homestudy Approved & Submitted to Agency
6.1.20 Surprise! Positive pregnancy test!
Healthy baby girl born 2/10/2021
@moguippy as an alternate perspective I’m kind of glad she recognized that there could be a problem getting pregnant. My MIL tends to ask me abruptly when we are having another kid and it’s way more hurtful to me when it’s phrased that way. Sorry for the awkward conversation though. Sounds like you have a good way of coping with her difficulties.
On relationships with our moms, I'm much closer to my MIL. When I told my mom that we were trying and I tested negative after my period was supposed to show, she said something like "You need to calm down." My MIL on the other hand responded in a more sensitive, loving way so I'm closer with her and confide in her more often.
I think I shared this already, but I was testing 14+ dpo and I kept getting negatives until 30 days past confirmed ovulation. I have my first appointment next Friday and I'm not sure how far along Baby is going to measure. I am curious if the measurement-based EDD will be later than my Ovulation-based EDD because of how long it took to get a positive.
The second thing weighing heavily on me right now - I have a family reunion scheduled in 2 weeks in Florida. I am really struggling with the decision to attend. I paid a lot of money in flights and accommodations, but I'm wondering if it's worth the risk. I know there is no research or proof of any covid related pregnancy issues, but after 1 loss already this year I am nervous!
What would you all do?
P.S. I have changed my username and it reflects on the app but not on the site
Acetaminophen does nothing for me unfortunately!
I hate to complain because other than the headache I've felt amazing thus far!
Thanks for your reply
I know someone who swears by poweraid for her migraines. Though she has a hormonal imbalance and I don't know anyone else who uses poweraid for migraines. 🤷♀️ I wish I could be more helpful.
@animommy - That situation with your mom during/after your loss sounds awful. I'd have a hard time forgiving that too.
SD: 21 & SS: 17
BFP #2 6/3/2020
*Trigger Warning*