Pregnant and in a very messy situation

knottieaf14e43a0f5acc70

So I found out that my sister (not by blood but we share a sibling so I claim her as such) had a short fling with the guy I was dating and she didn’t tell me. He ended up telling me. When I asked her what he was talking about she said they were together for about a week some years back but they never had sex but he made it seem like it was more than that at the time and told me they did. After that day I completely stopped talking to her and I found out I was pregnant by him but we haven’t been in contact consistently or frequently. I’ve had her social media password since before all this happened and I checked her messenger and found out they’ve been in contact and have seen each other more than a few times since the whole situation. He knows I’m pregnant and even though the messages don’t say they’ve done anything it’s pretty obvious they have. They’ve seen each other as recently as last week. He initiated contact and she initiated them meeting up. I haven’t spoke to either of them about it because I don’t exactly know how to even feel yet but I feel very betrayed by them both and I no longer know how to deal with the situation but I can’t ignore it much longer. I’m 15 weeks pregnant and very stressed out
Thoughts?

meggyme

knottieaf14e43a0f5acc70 said:

So I found out that my sister (not by blood but we share a sibling so I claim her as such) had a short fling with the guy I was dating and she didn’t tell me. They both happened to be with me one day and both of them got high (I was the only sober one) and he said something about it. When I asked her what he was talking about she said they were together for about a week some years back but they never had sex but he made it seem like it was more than that at the time and told me they did. After that day I completely stopped talking to her and I found out I was pregnant by him but we haven’t been in contact consistently or frequently. I’ve had her social media password since before all this happened and I checked her messenger and found out they’ve been in contact and have seen each other more than a few times since the whole situation. He knows I’m pregnant and even though the messages don’t say they’ve done anything it’s pretty obvious they have. They’ve seen each other as recently as last week. He initiated contact and she initiated them meeting up. I haven’t spoke to either of them about it because I don’t exactly know how to even feel yet but I feel very betrayed by them both and I no longer know how to deal with the situation but I can’t ignore it much longer. I’m 15 weeks pregnant and very stressed out
Thoughts?

I think you need to be an adult and stop snooping and either talk to them or cut the toxic people out of your life. No one seems to be committed here, so other than maybe your sister not really taking you into consideration, no one has really done anything wrong here.

knottieaf14e43a0f5acc70

I cut her completely off and it wasn’t until she told our other sister that he had been messaging her and I could look for myself because “she would never do that” that I actually looked at it and saw that they had been meeting up. We were really close close and the fact that she never said they even knew each other and knew we were dating then pursued him after the fact is extremely wrong to me

harpseal135

Get rid if him, confront him AND her then move on with your life.  Sorry, but you have a little one to deal with now.  He isn't committed- he will cheat again- move on from him.  

stillcozy

Cut ties and move on. No one has time for toxic 

autumn87654321

Your sister should be honest with you about what’s going on with them and their feelings for each other.   You can be a great mom and have him in the child’s life but not be together 
if he and your sister are determined to be together it will hurt, but if you have a strong relationship I believe you and her can make it work after some Healing. But she needs to be honest with you.  

If you are not interested in having her in your life that is ok too. But they still need to do the decent thing and clue you in.