@tryingktogku We are planning to have the baby sleep in our room for the first couple months. The AAP recommends six months to a year, but I understand where @bearmomma1 is coming from with both parents and baby waking each other up. We will evaluate moving once we all get settled in a little bit. We are planning a nursery setup, but keeping it pretty basic I think. Our design style is minimal at best.
Are there things from your girl plan that you could make more gender neutral or boy themed? Maybe thinking about that might give you a jumping off plan on how to change it.
@tryingktogku we absolutely always have a nursery set up. We're all on the same floor so it's NBD to have baby down the hall, and we all sleep better. We are only starting the baby in our room this time so baby doesn't wake up DS. BUT if baby is too much in our room baby will move into the living room Boy/Girl it doesn't matter when it comes to "decor". All babies are stimulated by bold colors and patterns, they don't care if it's pink/blue or anything else. IMO when it comes to a nursery, function first.
We’re in a 2br apartment, so the second bedroom is going to be his room combined with some storage. He’ll be sleeping in a pack and play in our bedroom for the first bit, but the second will definitely be set up for him. We might be moving when our lease is up in March, but we haven’t decided yet. Living on the third floor with a mobility issue and chronic pain is awful 😣
@gingkomama Thanks! That’s reassuring because some people think we are crazy but I’d rather have another baby than wait and miss a chance between my kidney disease and GD! But honestly, I also don’t care what they think at the same time and usual I would because I’m a people pleaser lol
@tryingktogku I was having a hard time too used a lot of Pinterest posts for inspo, and also ended up doing a room design on Havenly.com. I’m not doing exactly what they designed but using a lot of the colors/patterns they put together!
Also we’re going to start with baby in the room, but I have a feeling my husband isn’t going to be able to handle it for very long if she’s a very loud sleeper.
We bought a new crib for baby, it’s grey. But just came up with The idea of maybe reusing DD’s dresser since it has a changing table attachment, instead of buying a whole new one. But it’s white. We have another tall white dresser we can put in her room. Also planning on putting the nice comfy glider in the new nursery, which is also white. Weird to have mismatching colored furniture? It got me going with the idea of a grey and white nursery and then pick an accent color to spice it up.
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@bearmomma1 - I think a gray crib with a white dresser and glider would look great!! I like mismatched furniture! We're planning on doing a white crib, white changing table and a blush pink dresser in the nursery!
@bearmomma1 - DD's nursery has white furniture and soft gray walls and I *love* spending time in there - it's so soothing! The color combo also lends itself well to a lot of different secondary color choices for linens/accessories as well
I’ve finally decided! The walls are already freshly painted Benjamin Moore Perspective (a light grey) then I am going with a rustic graphite grey crib and dresser and a charcoal rocker glider and I’ll do pops of baby blue in the room with some hints of a “baby bear” theme with an accent pillow and nursery bedding!
Idk why this stressed me out so much ahha we are now debating between a halo bassinet or just using a pack and play bassinet for room sharing but I’ll be putting baby in his crib for naps so he is used to it for when we are ready to transition!
@tryingktogku It's such a big decision! lol I think we're doing similar...Grey/white theme with possible pops of blue..and hints of bear theme! I think we're leaning towards the name Theodore, nickname Teddy, so we'd have a Teddy Bear and a Claire Bear
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
This is my preliminary design plan for baby girl’s nursery! Thinking of also pulling in some baby blue with art and maybe lamps! Going to try to convince DH to add some box molding to the walls as well!
Today we had board and batten put up on the accent wall and over the next couple of days we’ll start painting! We already have the furniture since this is our 4th he will get the hand me down crib and dresser 😂 I will splurge on new bedding and wall decor though.
We are team green. But this is my inspiration for the baby room. A lot bough I’ve made the decision that we will be doing a black wall with the others white. Natural wood crib and dresser too. If it’s a girl we will add some peach to the room once she’s born. Each of my kids have used their nursery’s, we move them into their own room around 4 months old!
@feather_heather we almost picked that CB furniture & i lovee that pink dresser!
This is a 3D rendering of our Nursery & design plan from Havenly that we are working from, but I've modified a bunch of the details! The wallpaper is no longer available and the glider looks tan in this pic but its actually a very beigey pink velvet. I ended up going with different furniture from west elm that is a very pale beige, and cutting out all of the yellow and green. I vetoed this rug for a different one that is cream & more modern looking with blue and pink. I ended up ordering these pillows for the bench and these are the main colors that will be in the room that we’re designing around!
We are having a new Elfa closet system put in tomorrow - I’m so excited. New ceilings will go in a few weeks, and then we will paint - hopefully by then I'll have picked out new wallpaper for the accent wall. This part of baby planning is so fun!
Okay sorry for writing again so soon, but I’m just dying with happiness over how great this Elfa Closet turned out! We had the most inefficient storage system before that was grungy looking - the inside walls were like a dirty khaki color. I painted it white myself earlier this week & the guy who installed this was so nice to work with. Very excited to fill this with baby things!
We decided to go ahead and paint the walls in our nursery and get the accent wall done with board and batten before I go back to work. I love how it turned out. This is our 5th bedroom so it’s a tiny one so it’ll be just big enough for the main baby items.
*lurking from November BMB* @shelmcclel your nursery plan is gorgeous! Would you mind sharing how you did the 3D rendering? Was it a specific website or something?
Just as an FYI - you can use floorplanner.com for free to plan the layout of your nursery! I've been playing with it all day! You measure your room, create a custom floorplan and then you can scale all the furniture you place to the exact measurements of the furniture you are looking to buy! You can even make these really awesome renderings of the space!
All my nursery furniture is in and stacked in the baby room in cardboard boxes because DH is very insistent that he is to put the nursery together. So there it shall sit until he comes home sometime before October lol I’ve decided I won’t “decorate” until the furniture is up because the room is small and I don’t want to over clutter it!
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@tryingktogku - OMG I could never wait that long! My DH is away working for 10 days and the crib is getting delivered Monday and the only reason I won’t be putting it together is because I won’t be able to get the box up into the nursery 😂
@feather_heather I know I’ve had to close the door because seeing the boxes makes me tempted to go in there and take it all out haha but it’s the one thing DH reallllly wants to do to feel like a dad pre baby so I gotta give it to him! And he will prob do a much better job thab n I haha
@willashbaby. You mentioned getting a Ruggable for your nursery. Do you have any experience with that carpet? My husband and I are just bad at it I think. We washed it last night and always struggle to put it back on the bottom mat correctly. Not sure how the lady does it one person in the video. Granted ours is a large rug, but didn't know if you knew a secret trick. I love that it goes in the washer. We learned our lesson house-training our Dobie.
@dobiemom11 mine is a runner so it's pretty easy. I start with it rolled up at one end. Get it all lined up with it slightly over the bottom part and just unroll and smooth as I go.
So DH won’t be coming home from working out of town until AFTER my drive by baby shower and now my type A personality is in full panic mode because I just feel like I have to have the nursery set up so I can efficiently put away and organize all the goodies my lovely family and friends will be getting for this baby. I just can’t stock it all into that room and wait for DH to come and set it up then unpack it it’ll drive my OCD crazy and I’m not sure how to break the news to him that I’m going to set everything up. Do you think I should tell him ahead of time or just let him come home and voila the baby room is done? I’m torn lol I think he will be a little upset either way because he really wanted to set everything up but he is pushing it real close to baby time when he even gets home lol
@tryingktogku so I know my DH would want to talk it through. He may end up a bit bummed, but he’d want me to tell him first and explain my POV. I find that 95% of the time he acquiesces, and the other 5% of the time he makes a good case, and I give in to his side, lol. But about this - I think you’re in the right!
@shelmcclel I know and 100% understand why he wants to do it, it’s his way to feel connected to the pregnancy and the baby and a way for him to feel like he is doing something and as much as I don’t want to take that away from him if baby came early and everything was still in boxes in the room it’d make me 1000X more anxious that I’d have to do it all fresh post partum! I am the type of person that likes to be super prepared lol and right now DH is hoping he will be home around the 32 week mark which is cutting it too close for me lol (most women in my family have delivered 4-6 weeks early historically)
@tryingktogku That stinks that he’s gone so long! Maybe you can just set up the bassinet and essentials but wait on most stuff? I’d definitely talk to him about it. I do feel bad that the partners don’t have the same opportunity to connect to baby as we do and that does seem like a big way that he would get to participate and feel involved. Nesting is important for men, too. Plus, even if you did deliver that early, baby would likely spend a couple weeks in the hospital before coming home, I would think. I get it, though, it can’t be easy having everything sitting there!
@tryingktogku. I am not sure what furniture you need to setup, but can you do one piece (like the changing table or dresser) and leave some of the other furniture? That would allow you to get some of the essentials setup (like the diaper area or the clothes washed etc) but still allow him to be a part of setting up the room.
I would also consider the personality of DH. Mine can be a procrastinator which would also add anxiety if you are working close to the end. Maybe set up a date for when he gets back to work on it and make it a big celebration for the two of you (also an excuse to eat cake as putting together furniture is hard work). That way you both can participate and make the time special.
I know it is hard for you to be without him during this time. It is also hard to walk by all those boxes knowing the work involved with getting everything set up (and let's be honest, some amount of fun as well!). But your husband is probably aware and feeling both those things too.
@tryingktogku a good compromise might be you setting up the dresser by yourself. That way you can wash all of the clothes and get all of that put away. It's not everything, but it's a good chunk of what needs to be done and you can feel productive. That way you can set up the crib together, which is the most "baby" and "nursery" item. You can have the bedding all washed and ready to be put on when it's set up.
@laurenspdx@dobiemom11@karmba thanks for the suggestions! I ended up talking to him and he is (okay ish) with me just setting it all up as he gets where I am coming from. He said it will on one hand be nice to come home and not have that on his do to do list as he was mid way through completely renovating the entire basement when he left lol
@tryingktogku so glad to hear the convo went well! I’m dying to set up our furniture but we’ve still got another 4 weeks of renovations to go before the room is ready for furniture 😬
Re: Nursery Chat
Are there things from your girl plan that you could make more gender neutral or boy themed? Maybe thinking about that might give you a jumping off plan on how to change it.
Diminished ovarian reserve
BFP: 4/14/2020 EDD: 12/20/2020
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
This is a 3D rendering of our Nursery &
design plan from Havenly that we are working from, but I've modified a bunch of the details! The wallpaper is no longer available and the glider looks tan in this pic but its actually a very beigey pink velvet. I ended up going with different furniture from west elm that is a very pale beige, and cutting out all of the yellow and green. I vetoed this rug for a different one that is cream & more modern looking with blue and pink. I ended up ordering these pillows for the bench and these are the main colors that will be in the room that we’re designing around!
We are having a new Elfa closet system put in tomorrow - I’m so excited. New ceilings will go in a few weeks, and then we will paint - hopefully by then I'll have picked out new wallpaper for the accent wall. This part of baby planning is so fun!
@shelmcclel your nursery plan is gorgeous! Would you mind sharing how you did the 3D rendering? Was it a specific website or something?
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
I would also consider the personality of DH. Mine can be a procrastinator which would also add anxiety if you are working close to the end. Maybe set up a date for when he gets back to work on it and make it a big celebration for the two of you (also an excuse to eat cake as putting together furniture is hard work). That way you both can participate and make the time special.
I know it is hard for you to be without him during this time. It is also hard to walk by all those boxes knowing the work involved with getting everything set up (and let's be honest, some amount of fun as well!). But your husband is probably aware and feeling both those things too.