So, a friend gave me a huge bag of maternity clothes she’s done with, which included another bag of clothes a mutual friend had given her. I finally went through it last night, because I’m barely getting by with my non-maternity clothes, and at the bottom, there’s something wrapped up in notebook paper with a message on it: “vagina jock strap: the gift that keeps on giving.” I pull it out and it does look like exactly that. I died laughing, and am also amazed how I’ve gone through two kids so far without ever hearing about this. I’m kind of afraid to google it. Anyone heard of such a thing or know what it’s for?
I hope this doesn’t come across as stranger danger or anything but do any of y’all want a junk load of baby girl clothes? I have nb-6 months available. I tried to sell and was able to get a few things sold but it’s just more trouble than it’s worth. None of my friends here are having girls or they’re all older. I hate to donate to goodwill if I have people I know that need them. If you’re interested, let me know. I have 2 friends that are in this group from past bmbs that can vouch I’m a real person and not a creep. @Pascal86@NinnyJean
I can confirm, @rachstar18 is a real person, or has at least been putting up a VERY convincing front for like 4 years, involving lots of babies that look identical to her.
@bluguitarhannah it does look like underwear. I was going to get rid of it immediately and then decided if I had issues with whatever it’s for, I’d never want to go buy one so better hold on just in case!
@Pascal86 that reminds of me of the show "catfish" on mtv. It's so wild to me that people actually live their entire lives in an effort to deceive other people. I don't have the energy for that.
@blaf322 that really sucks that she didnt let the school know. Boo to her.
I've been MIA for the past couple of days because I'm still on that energy high and I've been getting so much done here at home. I just sorted and organized all the sheets in my linen closet. I don't even know who I am right now.
@rachstar18 that is super sweet of you to offer baby clothes to people here. Hopefully it works out well for someone!
@modoodles hello 2nd tri energy boost! Nice to see you lol I say keep at it until you aren't feeling it anymore and check in when you can! Glad you're still feeling good!
Is it normal to randomly start feeling a tighter/heavier ute throughout the day? It has just been in the last couple of days. Sorry if this was posted in the symptoms thread anywhere, I’m like 250+ posts behind there so too overwhelmed to look
@modoodles woop for energy! Keep on keepin on! I'm envious. I still feel like a sack of potatoes, or as one of my students said today "in sloth mode" (as he walked at snail's pace down the hall )
Walked into the staff room today to find a buffet of snacks and treats. best. lunch.ever.
@b_1029 I think so... I'll have times where I'm noticing I feel bigger and just more stretched out and then it'll subside and come back another time... I assume when there's some sort of growth spurt.
I just spent way too much time going down the rabbit hole that was the "odds of not having a miscarriage" thread while lurking the October BMB. I'm the worst employee ever. But if you want some drama, knock yourself out! I'm off to work for a little now... (jk, I'll probably be back in like 10 mins)
@b_1029 I've had what you are describing on and off for a while. This week I'm either getting kicked in the cervix or having lightening crotch a lot. Not sure how to tell the difference but it's weird.
Ugh, I know myself too well. Here I am again 16 minutes later. But FFTC: my friend just bought a house and she sent me a link to the end tables she's getting and I'm judging her for them. She has an 18 month old with plans for more kids in the future, and she's buying this CONCRETE end table with all of the corners. Why? I mean I understand you can't babyproof everything and they won't be little forever, but... this seems like a weird choice to me. (And I think it's ugly, but whatever.)
@b_1029 that’s definitely how I feel at the end of some days. Like a weighted balloon is being inflated in my pelvis lol.
I currently have an electrician in my house to install a recessed light over our sink. Not only was he kind of miserable but he absolutely reeks of cigarettes. Apologies to anyone if they’re a smoking household here, but it’s a smell that I can’t handle. Not only that, but why on earth would you show up to anyone’s house to provide a business smelling bad in anyway?? People have allergies, asthma, etc. I had to crack open all my windows. He better be doing an amazing job in there.
@stlbuckeye132 thanks for the tip! My only wish is that I had seen this sooner... like yesterday, when I was bored at work and our board seemed slow. Grrrrr...
@stlbuckeye132 +1 for getting sucked in. Thanks for the head's up! I can see both sides in that argument, tbh... but girlfriend whose BMB it was got sooo feisty... and then got upset because a group talked about it without her hmmm? What did she expect. Also, another thing about some of the comment(s) reminded me that I'm not mad about the fact that we don't have anyone that seems totally BSC here.
Re: the table... meh on the corners. I would have never thought DD would bust her head open on her bookshelf, but there we were, getting staples at 9pm lol.... That said, that table is not my jam at all. It's not cute.
@kristinl492 omg... the smoke in Vegas was killing me this weekend! I'm usually not super bothered by it, but having it even kind of in the air (smelling it but not seeing it) was choking me up. I'm so much more sensitive to it right now!
@blaf322 oh yeah, resort/casino smoke is rough because it’s just everywhere! We live nearish to Atlantic City and we’ll go over for a nice dinner in the casinos once in a while and the cigarette smoke always brings the experience down a bit for me. I’ve always been sensitive to the smell of smoke. I didn’t grow up in a family where anyone smoked, so I’ve never been able to tolerate it. Pregnancy definitely makes it worse!
@mrsdrez@meanjellybean@blaf322 I ended up with multiple tabs open so I could see all the conversations in the different places. I can see both sides too, I don't think it was posted maliciously, and the OP responded super nicely when made aware it could make some people feel bad. That one chick went bananas though! I'm sad the screenshot of whatever PM she sent was removed before I saw it...
@stlbuckeye132 this is getting nuts lol I'm not even to the end yet. I went there thinking "what could anyone find to fight about on a post about reducing loss percentages??" Well, I found my answer lol. I feel like when I've been bored I've chosen to lurk the BMB's that are farther along than us, but what a mistake that is! They are super boring compared to the early BMB's!
@stlbuckeye132 yes lol I wish the bump had a board that compiled all of the threads that had been closed by admin, so we didn't have to skip around looking for them
I also just don't really get what the argument was even about... also who are these people who see that chart and think "well I guess this is telling me I won't have a miscarriage"? Like, I see that chart and am reminded of the fact that things are more than likely fine, and the risk goes down over time, but like, SOMEONE has to be in the percentage of women who experience a loss. There's always a chance it's you. I've been extremely lucky, but that fact has never been lost on me. Sorry that's morbid but I'm generally always waiting for the other shoe to drop for the simple fact that I HAVE been so lucky, def no rose colored glasses here.
Agreed @meanjellybean. Also, having been in TTGP for a brief amount of time I get the desire to share the information (or that it doesn't paint a full picture) as many of the pieces of expert advice I got came from that cohort but I also think that both from that group and occasionally from other folks who are regulars of boards there comes an air of superiority that is just occasionally unnecessary/too much. Don't get me wrong, some people are dumb and deserve an "are your serious" check in but not everything needs a call out.
Y'all I've been slammed at work the past few days and feel like I've missed a ton!!
@stlbuckeye132 my main reaction to those end tables are 1. She's trendier than me (and I don't care) and 2. You can't store anything in there so that's a hard nope from me!
My random: last night I had a dream that I gave birth to a cat. And people were all like "that's uncommon but is a thing" and I was like wtf hahaha what is wrong with my brain??
@meanjellybean agreed! TTGP has a lot of them, but TB also ends up just deleting a lot of threads that get really dramatic too 🤷🏼♀️ I think there’s a deleted thread area, someone on TTGP found it once, but we can’t access them.
@pocketrose agree to disagree (as a former “regular” on TTGP). I think there’s a ton of actual science based knowledge over there and a lot of people are so clueless with everything regarding pregnancy (“we tried soooo hard this month so I knew it had to be the one; I saw a fertility psychic and I just KNEW I had gotten pregnant right as DH finished” type crap). While I don’t think it was necessarily needed to go post on that MC thread, I understand the reasoning behind trying to educate. Was it the right forum? 🤷🏼♀️ I can’t say I like or agree with your comment about the air of superiority but I understand where you’re coming from.
My 7 year old has taken to wearing a clip on tie almost every day. It makes no difference what he's wearing. Today his teacher sent me this message and it has me cracking up.
@pocketrose idk, to me it seemed to be coming from a place of support towards the one girl experiencing a loss and then they sort of got jumped all over and that's when things got feisty.
Also just realized my comment about OP being super nice and editing was in the other thread that got linked, not October's. Told you I ended up in like 5 places, my brain can't keep all this straight haha
@b_1029 Overall I enjoyed TTGP (I was there like 2 months) and agree that they did have a lot of science-based evidence/expert advice but it just seemed like there was occasionally an eagerness to be the expert for the sake of being the expert vs being helpful or worse, to put someone in their place. I was on a wedding site for awhile back in the day and got the same vibe, it makes me uncomfortable because I think of myself as a hyper-empath (though I see the flip side of the empathy towards those who MC). I see both sides, I think my inclination is to normally not publicly comment, here being a bit of an anomaly for me today.
@meanjellybean i totally agree with you on your thoughts about the other BMB drama. did i find some hope/peace when i read those stats and saw that i had a 87% chance of no MC? absolutely. did i also realize that i could have a MC and be one of those other 13%? for sure. that is how statistics work. but as someone who has dealt with IF and hated my body for "not working right" and feared being too excited about a BFP, those stats helped calm down my crazy stressed self and say "ya know, the odds are in your favor right now, and so far your body is doing this well." also, if that hope was able to calm my stress levels even a little, then that's good for my health and the health of my baby. i'm 20 weeks today and i'm still terrified that something could happen to our LO, but each day is closer to me being able to hold her in my arms, so i can say a prayer for each successful pregnant day so far and remind myself that each day is a win.
also, im an auditor and work with numbers and all that all day long. so ya, i guess i dont get it when people take statistical things super literally/seriously.....every statistic out there has a lot of reason to be questioned and disputed. how big was the sample size? what is the confidence interval? was the population tested a variety of individuals or all people from one area/race/socioeconomic class? has anyone redone the test to verify the accuracy of the results? blah blah blah.....so ya, stats are not like laws and fool-proof things. if they make you feel better, then let it give you hope. you gotta take wins when you get them.
married to DH on March 15, 2018 TTC since May 2018 dx: PCOS, hypothroidism tx: timed intercourse with meds (dexa, clomid, letrozole, metformin, trigger shots)
First TTGP: 5/9/19 BFN, 6/21/19 BFN, 7/29/19 BFN, 8/1/19 started a break from tx, 11/16/19 surprised with a BFP! LO born 7/7/20 Second TTGP: started meds for first cycle of tx on 10/13/21
@knockupthestock agreed- I took comfort in that chart early on too (like you, after IF and all the failures I didn’t have much faith in my body), but knew that it could obviously go either way. It just helped me mentally to see the % go up a little every day but I won’t fully relax until we have a baby in our arms (then I’m sure I’ll find new things to be anxious about)
It’s 4 am, I woke up and couldn’t fall back asleep because I was hungry so why not go down a BMB rabbit hole?!
I got a lot out of my TTGP time. I found most folks to be very supportive and armed with a lot of no-nonsense (but sympathetic) advice. I just don’t really understand the desire to lurk on BMBs and post that kind of comment. Early pregnancy is a minefield of anxiety, especially for those who struggled to get pregnant or who suffered previous losses (or both). So posting the warning about the chart, no matter how well-intentioned, feels borderline cruel to me, and patronizing. Did I receive misguided hope from that chart before my prior losses? Absolutely. But I’m an adult. I can experience hope and loss and counsel myself on how heavy to weight statistics. I was comforted by that chart again this pregnancy even though I knew by experience that comfort wasn’t rooted in anything definite. While I can believe that the TTGP commenter was truly coming from a place of wanting to provide support to those who felt pain/anxiety looking at the chart, I still think that desire to quasi-police misinformation on other boards is always going to come off heavy-handed and, for those who don’t have a sense of the general supportiveness of the TTGP folks, confusing if not hurtful.
And perhaps that’s ok to the TTGP commenter, if she feels she supported those who experience trauma looking at the chart. 🤷♀️
Finished my bowl of cereal, now to try to go back to sleep. Heaven help me.
Starting potty training today! DS will be 3 years old in April so it is time
My husband took the lead and chose book, date and is like we are doing this. It is 3 day intense (& of course we know it won't be 100% after but hoping this is the motivation we/he needs).
@busymom247 Good luck with potty training! DS is 2.5 and since his best buddy at daycare is PTing right now he is super interested. We are traveling week after next and I am trying to stall him until we get back but he is doing things like waking up with a dry diaper and going potty first thing in the AM haha. What book are you using?
Re: Weekly Randoms 3/2/20
@stlbuckeye132 I hope your daughter feels better soon!
@Pascal86 @NinnyJean
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
@blaf322 that really sucks that she didnt let the school know. Boo to her.
I've been MIA for the past couple of days because I'm still on that energy high and I've been getting so much done here at home. I just sorted and organized all the sheets in my linen closet. I don't even know who I am right now.
@rachstar18 that is super sweet of you to offer baby clothes to people here. Hopefully it works out well for someone!
I say keep at it until you aren't feeling it anymore and check in when you can! Glad you're still feeling good!
Walked into the staff room today to find a buffet of snacks and treats. best. lunch.ever.
also this app is the worst! Never alerts you when you have a message
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
Also, another thing about some of the comment(s) reminded me that I'm not mad about the fact that we don't have anyone that seems totally BSC here.
Re: the table... meh on the corners. I would have never thought DD would bust her head open on her bookshelf, but there we were, getting staples at 9pm lol.... That said, that table is not my jam at all. It's not cute.
also also, I sent you a PM
I also just don't really get what the argument was even about... also who are these people who see that chart and think "well I guess this is telling me I won't have a miscarriage"? Like, I see that chart and am reminded of the fact that things are more than likely fine, and the risk goes down over time, but like, SOMEONE has to be in the percentage of women who experience a loss. There's always a chance it's you. I've been extremely lucky, but that fact has never been lost on me. Sorry that's morbid but I'm generally always waiting for the other shoe to drop for the simple fact that I HAVE been so lucky, def no rose colored glasses here.
@stlbuckeye132 my main reaction to those end tables are 1. She's trendier than me (and I don't care) and 2. You can't store anything in there so that's a hard nope from me!
My random: last night I had a dream that I gave birth to a cat. And people were all like "that's uncommon but is a thing" and I was like wtf hahaha what is wrong with my brain??
@pocketrose agree to disagree (as a former “regular” on TTGP). I think there’s a ton of actual science based knowledge over there and a lot of people are so clueless with everything regarding pregnancy (“we tried soooo hard this month so I knew it had to be the one; I saw a fertility psychic and I just KNEW I had gotten pregnant right as DH finished” type crap). While I don’t think it was necessarily needed to go post on that MC thread, I understand the reasoning behind trying to educate. Was it the right forum? 🤷🏼♀️ I can’t say I like or agree with your comment about the air of superiority but I understand where you’re coming from.
Also, running to check out bmb drama.
Also just realized my comment about OP being super nice and editing was in the other thread that got linked, not October's. Told you I ended up in like 5 places, my brain can't keep all this straight haha
also, im an auditor and work with numbers and all that all day long. so ya, i guess i dont get it when people take statistical things super literally/seriously.....every statistic out there has a lot of reason to be questioned and disputed. how big was the sample size? what is the confidence interval? was the population tested a variety of individuals or all people from one area/race/socioeconomic class? has anyone redone the test to verify the accuracy of the results? blah blah blah.....so ya, stats are not like laws and fool-proof things. if they make you feel better, then let it give you hope. you gotta take wins when you get them.
dx: PCOS, hypothroidism
Second TTGP: started meds for first cycle of tx on 10/13/21
I got a lot out of my TTGP time. I found most folks to be very supportive and armed with a lot of no-nonsense (but sympathetic) advice. I just don’t really understand the desire to lurk on BMBs and post that kind of comment. Early pregnancy is a minefield of anxiety, especially for those who struggled to get pregnant or who suffered previous losses (or both). So posting the warning about the chart, no matter how well-intentioned, feels borderline cruel to me, and patronizing. Did I receive misguided hope from that chart before my prior losses? Absolutely. But I’m an adult. I can experience hope and loss and counsel myself on how heavy to weight statistics. I was comforted by that chart again this pregnancy even though I knew by experience that comfort wasn’t rooted in anything definite. While I can believe that the TTGP commenter was truly coming from a place of wanting to provide support to those who felt pain/anxiety looking at the chart, I still think that desire to quasi-police misinformation on other boards is always going to come off heavy-handed and, for those who don’t have a sense of the general supportiveness of the TTGP folks, confusing if not hurtful.
Finished my bowl of cereal, now to try to go back to sleep. Heaven help me.
My husband took the lead and chose book, date and is like we are doing this. It is 3 day intense (& of course we know it won't be 100% after but hoping this is the motivation we/he needs).
Oh, husband is at work today too 😬
Good luck with potty training! DS is 2.5 and since his best buddy at daycare is PTing right now he is super interested. We are traveling week after next and I am trying to stall him until we get back but he is doing things like waking up with a dry diaper and going potty first thing in the AM haha. What book are you using?