GTKY 2/25

ruby696

Hoping we haven't done this one yet... What are your biggest pet peeves ladies?

sunshinesea22

When places designate single stall bathrooms as either Men’s or Women’s not just Men/Women, because it is a SINGLE stall so it doesn’t matter

rox7777

Oh, I’ve got one right now because MH has been driving me insane lately. 

Politics. I HATE listening to people rant about politics. I hate watching YouTube videos of people interviewing randoms on the street and proving how uninformed people are. I hate fake news. I’m over it. And have been for years. If I hear one more political based talk, I’m going to lose my mind. 

MH was trying to talk politics with my 7 year old last night and I literally about lost my mind. 

ruby696

I have a few, so not sure what kind of person that makes me... (okay, well I'm totally type A and super anal, so I guess I do know).

1. Habitual lateness. It's rude and there's reason for it, other than you don't respect other people's time. 

2.  Slow drivers in front of me. Just go the effing speed limit, that's all I ask!

3.  People letting their dogs off leash and telling me it's okay, they're friendly. Well, maybe my leashed dog isn't friendly to other dogs. And maybe I don't care to pet your dog.

4. People who don't get in the correct lane early enough and then expect a line of cars to let them in right before a turn. Clearly I have issues with other drivers. 

5. When MH puts a dirty dish on the counter, literally right above the dishwasher. Put the dish in the dishwasher, dammit!

I am actually a fun person though, I swear. 

rox7777

LOL @ruby696 if I listed my regular day to day pet peeves you’d laugh.

1. Loud chewing. My 7 year old has recently become a “smacker” and I have to leave the room when he eats.

2. Repetitive noises. The dogs nails on the floor have been my most recent hate. 

3. Dirty laundry on the floor, empty cans/bottles left in spots other than a trash can, towels not hung up, etc. I live with 3 boys and sometimes I threaten to move to a deserted island. 

4. Driving in general. I swear I live in a state full of idiot drivers. I’m pretty sure all mini van drivers are just annoyed moms stuck behind dumb drivers with a car full of screaming kids. 

ruby696

Omg @rox7777 you reminded me of dog licking. Its the worse sound and it drives me insane. My dogs all know if I snap my fingers, they need to stop licking immediately. But my oldest dog (17) is pretty much deaf now, so he doesn't hear me and IT'S DRIVING ME CRAZY.

And why is it so hard for boys to get their pee in the toilet? And the bigger question is why am I, the one person in my house who always pees where I'm supposed to, in charge of cleaning the bathrooms??

I don't know how I get through the day without screaming. Your island sounds good. Maybe I need to move to a deserted island.

cmhme

@sunshinesea22 Totally agree! Just had that this weekend at a bakery. The employees have to use the same bathrooms as the customers and they only have two single stall bathrooms. ALL employees i saw were women so i stood in line behind two women while the mens went unused. Why can't both just be a bathroom??

thepretzelchick

-Open cabinet doors
-Uncapped pens
-People who walk slowly in the middle of the aisle at the grocery store. I get more road rage in Kroger than I do on I-65.
-Skim milk. It's water that's lying about being milk. (This opinion predates Parks & Rec)
-Toilet seats left up. I have signs in the bathrooms stating that only terrorists leave the seat up.

lajoliedreamer

1. Expanding on one of @ruby696’s - dogs off leash or even on leash, but the owner thinks my kid will want to say hello. She is scared of dogs for some unknown reason and will hide behind me and climb up my body if any are anywhere close, yet people will continue to insist it’s okay and their dog is friendly. (We never say she’s scared, though, we say she’s nervous because she doesn’t have experience in hopes that she’ll be open to experiencing more interactions, but it hasn’t worked.)

2. Smokers who have complete disregard for others and feel entitlement to more breaks. My desk is unfortunately near the three smokers in the office and even before I was pregnant the smell would sometimes cause me to have to walk away from working or take my laptop to another part of the office, but now that I’m pregnant it extra sucks. Two of them tend to go smoke together and take breaks hourly, if not more often. The other takes fewer breaks, but chain smokes in her car for 30+ minutes each time. The smell is instantly nauseating when she returns. 

bananapanda

+1 to pretty much everything that's already been said except the dog thing because I usually enjoy random dogs jumping on me.  But I do try my best to keep my dog on his leash at all times and not be that person with the dog running wild.  The only time it really happens is when we are in a public place for family pictures and someone walks by close he will want to run up to them and obviously he isn't on a leash because we are doing pics but that's rare.

I think my biggest pet peeve is two faced people and my next biggest pet peeve is people who are dumb enough to not see through it.  I am 100% what you see is what you get.  I speak my mind about anything and everything and let my feelings be known even when I really should keep my mouth shut.  I would much rather know where I stand with everyone than have someone be fake nice to my face and turn around and talk crap. 

On a lighter and maybe more normal note, I hate overflowing trash.  It usually falls into DH's chore list to take out the trash, but he seems blind most of the time when it's getting too full which drives me insane so I do it myself or end up yelling at him.  

TattoosandLace

everything @thepretzelchick said.

also, lying. I cannot stand lying.

bender29

@ruby696 oh man! Late people! I’m early, for literally everything. Most appointments I end up sitting in my car for 10 minutes because I always get to them too early. My mom threw me a baby shower this past weekend, and asked my mother in law to come at 10 (shower started at 11) to help finish making sandwiches and because she was bringing some of the food. She rolled in at 10:45 and didn’t think anything of it. They live less than 10 minutes away from each other. MH’s whole side of the family is ALWAYS late for everything. Except for when we meet them for dinner at 4:30pm with all the old people, and by 4:15 they are calling us wondering where the heck we are. It drives me NUTS!

@rox7777 I bring the kids I nanny to dance every Monday night. I sit in the waiting room for an hour and a half, and there is a woman who every single week for the whole time chomps on her gum like she’s trying to murder it! I was to slap the crap out of her. I’m debating the MN passive aggressive and making myself a shirt that says “spit the gum out sister” and wearing it every week until she realizes it’s directed at her. 

@thepretzelchick for real at the grocery store road rage! I feel you so much on this one!
As far as open cabinet doors go, I’m so guilty of this. We have soft close cabinets, so every time I go to my parent’s house I end up leaving their non-soft close cabinets halfway open

@TattoosandLace yes to lying! Even though it’s still bad, I do understand big lies. But it’s the little stupid lies that people have no reason to lie about that get me! MH is fairly antisocial, and lately he’s been using me “not feeling well” as an excuse to get out of things. Then those same people ask me how I’m doing and I really can’t complain! I told him if he doesn’t want to do things, he’s got to man up and come up with his own excuse!

mamaj1220

+1 to all the driving ones, we live in a college town and most of the kids here haven’t seen snow before let alone driven in it and they make me nuts. Also when people dilly Daly across the fucking cross walk, you see the line of cars and you’re jay walking I better see some hustle! 

Aside from that when people breathe extra loud for no fucking reason (DF is so guilty of this) and another for louder eaters I can’t stand that. More normal ones lateness makes me crazy, not calling to cancel and chronic cancelling.

shamrocandroll

Basically +1 to everything @ruby696 said.  My boss is always late and I've outright told him it makes me angry because it's disrespectful of my time.  He is still late all the time. 

I cannot handle mouth noises of any kind.  Chewing, licking (people or dogs), lip smacking, etc.  There is a guy who sits near me who makes that nose/throat snort noise that (gross) people do before spitting about once a minute and one of these days I'm going to snap and lose it.  It's so gross.  Also, there are at least 3 people who sit near me who think it's okay to clip their nails at their desk.  So basically I live in headphones all the time at work.  

MH leaves cabinets/closets open and no matter how much I hound him, he still does it.  He also leaves his socks everywhere and now our dog chews them when she finds them.  I buy him really high quality socks because he works outside and wears through cheap ones, so I get so ragey when he leaves them out where the dog can get them.  He will also leave his clothes on the floor RIGHT NEXT TO the hamper instead of putting them in the hamper.  

I also hate people who don't acknowledge you as you walk past them in the hallway.  At least make eye contact and nod!  Or people who walk through a door right in front of you and don't hold it for 2 seconds and let it just close on you.  

I also hate people who check in everywhere they go on social media.  I do not care that you are getting brunch at IHOP, Karen.  No one does.

This makes it sound like I hate everyone and everything, but I promise I don't.    

bananapanda

@shamrocandroll when you mention the nail clipping coworkers are you talking about a full on manicure at their desk or just one or two clips?  Because I'm guilty of having nail clippers at my desk but use them only when I get a torn nail to trim it it back before it rips so we're talking like 2 clips once a month or less.  Does this make me a bad coworker or would this be acceptable?

pirateduck

I love my husband, but I hate his mess.

I will likely have a heart attack in a fit of road rage because I cannot handle unsafe drivers.  The biggest issues I have currently are people running stop signs, tailgating on icy roads, and illegal passing on blind corners.  Don't endanger me and my family with your vehicle please.  I don't care if you want to ruin your own life at 3:00am with no one else on the road.

Pedestrians who jump out into traffic from their safe haven on the sidewalk without looking or waiting for a gap in traffic/safe time to cross.  If I was a pedestrian, I certainly wouldn't like to be run over by a motor vehicle, just sayin.

shamrocandroll

@bananapanda I'm talking full manicures and several minutes of clipping noises.  And who knows what they're doing with the clippings.  One or two clips wouldn't make me ragey, although I would prefer people go into the bathroom to do it.  We're in open concept offices and the idea of one flinging over to someone else's desk makes me want to vom.  

pirateduck

@shamrocandroll clipping in the office is NOT acceptable with the one exception being a random hang nail that needs to be addressed.

tj_2

@sunshinesea22 I use the "men's" bathroom all the time because it makes me so mad. I did this before pregnancy too.
 
+1 to all the food noises and husband's who don't understand how to put things in their right place 

pourmeanothermocktail

Lol, but yes, to most of these. Trying to explain to my husband that if he gets irritated because sink is full of dishes, then putting them into the damn dishwasher makes us both happy. Instead, he wants to leave them on the counter, 2 feet from dishwasher, and won't stack them because "then the bottom gets dirty."

He also doesn't wipe crumbs off counter after meals, won't just wash knives right away after a meal-which I care about because we only have one decent knife for cutting fruit, that I normally rinse directly after any fruit use, and wash at end of day so it's clean for breakfast, and I only use it for fruit. He uses it for anything/everything, including super fatty sausage or whatever, and leaves it when it's his turn to clean up after dinner. (While I'm disabled, dinner and cleanup is his job, and breakfast is mine. When I'm hale, we switch off). Then in the morning, I have to vigorously scrub it for a long time while myself and kids are starving for food. And I'm so clumsy, me scrubbing hard on a knife is basically how I've gotten every knife wound ever. Ours are wood handled, so just soaking or using dishwasher isn't preferred. Hence, I wash knives immediately after dinner, after loading dishwasher. Always. Even if it's stupid late and I'm tired and putting off the pots and pans until morning. But every time he cooks or even just cuts something while reheating leftovers he leaves knives dirty for me, but doesn't even let me know, so I have to swear at it in the morning. Irk!!!

And the pee on rim of toilet, that inevitably runs down bowl, and so I have to clean toilet and a bit of floor every 2 days or the smell in the bathroom gets of nauseous. True story-my 3.5 year old is neater than my husband and cleans up after himself. Including not getting pee on floor, even when standing to seed. And wipes counters after cooking, eating, or brushing teeth. Son also puts seat down and flushes at a 99% rate. Husband, maybe a 45% on seat down and 30% on flushing pee. And he'll clean toilet if I ask, but ONLY the inside of the bowl. Not the tank, lid, seats, outside of bowl, or floor. Ya know, the mess HE makes. Kinda hoping baby 3 is a girl, so it'll be me and two daughters giving him grief and our son showing it's possible to not suck. Maybe then DH will get it. Or I could just not clean up random period drips that inevitably happen, and let them stay on toilet and floor, etc. (Kidding, because while drips happen on bad days, I couldn't bring myself to not clean them).

soprano19

I can't stand walking barefoot on dirty floors. The feel of dirt or cat sand under my feet makes me irrationally angry, and it's a frequent state of our house because our cats are not tidy and also we live in the redwoods, which drop needles and crap EVERYWHERE and then it gets tracked in the house.

I also hate it when H shaves over the bathroom sink and then doesn't clean up the hair. This morning, it wasn't even in the sink, he just left it all over the counter. WTF?

pirateduck

@soprano19 ugh, we have a litter box in our master bathroom, it’s across the way from the shower but to get out of the shower and step on cat litter is terrible!  I keep a little dust pan and brush on top of the litter box so I can try to prevent this very scenario.

pirateduck

Add to the annoying things list husband not cleaning the litter box as frequently as it’s needed, I’d totally do it if I was allowed, I don’t mind, but it’s seriously not fair to the kitties.

bananapanda

+1 on the dirty floors @soprano19.  It's so bad right now because our yard is terribly muddy and we have a doggy door so our dog is coming and going and tracking mud across the hardwood floor constantly.  Running the roomba daily helps a lot but still isn't perfect.

ruby696

@pirateduck I think you can do the litterbox if you use gloves and a facemask. Or maybe if YH sees you putting on gloves and a facemask, he might be motivated to clean it more often?

pirateduck

@ruby696 hmm...  maybe, but I clean the whole rest of the house regularly, I feel like he should be able to handle this one chore!  Eventually the cats protest and that's when he gives in.  

jhysmath

@ruby696 late people is probably my biggest. I'm always early (a few times since have dd we've been late because she decides to poop right when we're leaving) my mother and her family are one of those people who you give a time and they show up 3 hours later. Mh isn't that bad but he's one of those people where everyone is ready and heading out the door and he decides he needs to poop, or clean the drain, or collect all the trash to bring out. He was late to our wedding because he needed to bring the trash to the dump before going??? I was also late but because my hair dresser decided to book another person before me and that person needed extra time I almost killed her, I was only 5 minutes or so late. 

Mine is people who don't think they are right when you can show them proof they are wrong. And when you tell/show them they are wrong they tell you well that's your opinion when clearly it's based on facts not opinions. 

chewie5990

@jhysmath - I swear every time we are getting ready to go somewhere, about the walk out the door, MH decides he needs to poop. It's infuriating. 

chewie5990

- slow drivers - I feel like everyone in Denver drives like a snail and too many people are way too nice! Coming from Houston where 20 miles over the speed limit is the starting point and aggressive driving is a much - it's unbearable here - like don't you people have places to be!?

- people who use the term "millennials" incorrectly and as a derogatory slur. We had a speaker at our school (for staff development - not students) who kept using millennials as an insult over and over when over half our faculty are considered millennials...

pirateduck

@chewie5990 I also don't like when older people refer to anyone younger than them as a millennial.  Just because not everyone is the same age as you doesn't mean they were all born in the same generation and had the same experiences growing up.

sunshinesea22

I tend to be on the slightly fashionably late side, not because I'm trying to be inconsiderate of people's time, but because I'm a time optimist ie I always think I can accomplish things faster than it actually takes me. I'm not talking 30+ minutes late, but today I was 10 minutes late to a work meeting...they don't need me there to start or anything. I'm on time to things that actually matter if I'm not on time (doctor's appts etc)

I don't appreciate people who show up 10-30 minutes early to parties at my house. Um excuse me, I'm still getting ready. My in laws all showed up 20 minutes early to our house for my 30th birthday party and I was not ready yet and then my husband got mad at me for not being present with our early guests!!!

pirateduck

@sunshinesea22 I’m with you on the being late.  I will be late to work because I think I have enough time left before it’s time to go to water the plants, wash the dishes, fold some laundry, stop at the post office, etc.  and then before I know it I’m way out of time.  Also I am only productive in the morning so I fear if I don’t try and get all things done before leaving the house that they won’t get done at all!

splashmountain

@soprano19 omg the facial hair in the bathroom sink infuriates me!

Empty boxes in the cupboard, if you empty it, throw it away. That way I don't get my hopes up for a granola bar when there are none!

Texting and driving. I get so angry when I see people looking down when driving. The lives of everyone around you is more important than your text.

At work when women call to schedule their ultrasound "to find out the gender"...uh you realize they're looking for SO much more than that, right?

lisush

I'm on board with most of these and could make a list of about 50. Everything irritates me lol, especially while pregnant. My top 3 at the moment would probably be:

1. Drivers and all their idiot ways

2. MH being oblivious to basic standards of cleanliness (+1 on the dishes, trash, hair trimming stuff)
3. Incompetent employees make me extremely rageful

Is it so much to ask for people to do their jobs and be considerate humans? I feel like that's really simple.

Edit: removed apostrophe

ieles2531

On board with all of these especially the lateness! People used to laugh at me when DD was born and say things like “oh you’ll be late, you’ll see!” NOPE. Still never been late. 

My biggest pet peeve is parents who let their kids run wild in restaurants. I’m not talking about family places where everyone has kids...if I’m getting a sitter and paying $60+ a plate for dinner after 7pm, I’m gonna be annoyed and give you the stink eye if your 3 year old is screaming and watching Dora at full volume. 

drkoyya

@chewie5990 I wasn’t originally thinking about mislabeling “ Millennial” but that is a major pet peeve of mine. It seems like older generations just assume that everyone younger than them are millennials— wrong. We’re actually in our late-20s and in our 30s.

I agree with most of the pet peeves. My biggest pet peeve is when people make assumptions. I’m very deliberate in what I say. I mean what I say and I say what I mean. Nothing to read into. Related, I also don’t like when people expect me to read in-between-the-lines. That’s not my job. One of the reasons why I married DH who is extremely blunt. 

bananapanda

I used to be the type who was always super early to everything, but DH and DD really slow me down. DH is always making us late to unimportant things.  Mostly family functions when they say they're eating at a certain time or want to leave at a certain time we hardly ever make it anymore which drives me nuts.  Also agree on the husband having to poop anytime I ask him to do anything or go anywhere. He literally can't change tasks without "pooping" for 20 minutes.  If it's anything important though like an appointment etc I make sure we are always on time (usually 15 minutes early).  

@ieles2531 I'm with you on letting kids watch shows at full volume (or sometimes even adults).  Sure there are times I'm starving and NEED to go to mexican and DD is beyond tired or having a rough day so we'll prop a phone up with some Blippi but I turn the volume down where even I can't hear it because I don't want to drive people nuts. 

splashmountain

You guys are cracking me up with the husband pooping thing. I didn't realize it, but MH does the same thing a lot of the time!

m6agua

+1 for basically everything you all have said already.

My biggest pet peeve is when people feel the need to talk on their cell phone or answer a call while checking out at a store.

ieles2531

There is a meme that says “I pushed out a baby in shorter time than it takes my husband to poop” and I laughed so hard because I pushed my vbac baby out in 15 min...MH definitely takes longer than that 90% of his poops. 

@bananapanda I’m not judging parents who allow screen time at restaurants...you gotta do what you gotta do. But if I can hear your kid’s show 3 tables over, that’s just rude. 

pirateduck

This conversation has led me to a new theory.  I think, especially as pregnant women, we just poop when we need to/can poop.  I suspect, perhaps our husbands may be trying to avoid using unknown toilets/bathrooms outside of our own homes and pooping takes so long because they are trying to poop when it's not really time to poop.