TW Tuesday 2/25

ruby696

Who's the TW in your life today? 

pourmeanothermocktail

It's either me or my partner or the flu. Partner and I have a cold. He's doing a bit of man-cold about it, but not awful. But with my broken self any extra duties are really rough, and our oldest having the flu is extra duties-so much more up and down and fetch and carry, because kids are now hanging out in separate places and need separate food, and big kid needs help getting to and from toilet, and now husband is refusing to fully clean up after dinner because he's "too tired" even though I'm pregnant and broken and sick too, so now I have way more clean up duty in the morning, because NEWSFLASH stuff left dirty and sitting for 12 hours is harder to clean off than if taken care of right away. 

But I'm just super cranky from everything that even minor stuff makes me want to rage or cry. The sickness means big kid is literally sad every time I'm not cuddled up with him, but I have all his fetch and carry and another kid plus myself to take care off...so PLEASE LET ME GET UP. I feel claustrophobic when he tries to hold me in place. 

But the flu is real the biggest issue making the rest so hard. 

ieles2531

TW winner today is this baby, who at 30w1d is measuring 33w3d and is 4lb 4oz, and still frank breech. Come on dude, give me a break!!!

ieles2531

@pourmeanothermocktail flu is so shitty. Especially with little kids who just wanna snuggle. I hope everyone feels better soon!

bananapanda

My TW is my SIL who is just really dumb and makes absolutely horrible life decisions for herself and her son.  I'm already done with her since she told FIL we were expecting before we were able to tell him even though we explicitly asked her not to so I haven't talked to her since October.  Well yesterday we were in town for MIL's birthday and going out to dinner.  SIL started texting DH asking if she could go with us.  I said that's up to MIL since it's her birthday but if SIL's baby daddy is going I am 1000% out because I cannot stand him.  So she ended up going (without baby daddy) and her son.  She didn't talk to us the whole time, her kid just ran absolutely wild, rolling on the floor etc refusing to eat.  So she gave him the phone and made false threats about if he didn't eat he wouldn't get this or that but she never follows through.  Of course this made it hard for DD to want to sit still and eat because her cousin was getting to run and jump and roll around and watch youtube.  And then of course we ended up paying for her food because DH said it would've been awkward to pay for the entire bill except one person.  She just drives me nuts.

tj_2

My TW is DH's inability to get organized. I have a conversation with him almost monthly about how I need him to put away his stuff in the right place right then instead of set it down wherever he is. I tell him I'm sick of his shit and he will nod and assure me things will change which they never do. 

About 3/4 mornings a week he can't find a card/keys/hat/something else he needs and uses daily but refused to just put in the same damn place despite hooks and trays etc. 

I really really need him to get his shit together before the baby which I've also told him but it's in one ear, smile and nod, then out the other. 

He's mostly a great husband otherwise so I keep telling myself it's a roommate issue not a marriage issue but I'm so over it today. 

bender29

I’m my own TW today. 

On Sunday both babies were crazy all day. They were super active, even at times when they are usually calm/sleeping. Yesterday was a little less crazy, but there was still quite a bit of movement. While I was laying in bed last night; a time they are normally both super active, only baby A was moving. Then I started questioning whether
baby B moved at all throughout the day, or if it was just baby A the whole time. I lost sleep last night being insanely paranoid. Now today they are both super active again; and I know I lost sleep for nothing, and I’m totally dragging ass today. 

heyybritt

I couldn't decide if I should put this here or in the GTKY because it fits both. I have no patience today for colleagues who need their hands held through simple tasks.

chewie5990

My SIL is the TW this week. My mom gave us the family cradle for DS 5 years ago - this cradle was built by my grandfather and slept in by my brothers, myself, and a few cousins over the years. It's beautiful and bigger than the average cradle so DS was able to sleep in it until he was around 5 months. It's made it through countless moves, 6 hurricanes, and a house fire. We passed the cradle to my brother and SIL when they had their first baby 2 years ago. They didn't end up using it - but said they would keep it at their house as we were about to move to Colorado. Anyways...brother and SIL moved to Colorado about 6 months ago and yesterday I texted her asking if we could get the cradle back for the new baby. Well...she donated it to goodwill before they moved! She didn't even ask my mom or us if we wanted it or anything! My mom is really upset about it on an emotional/sentimental level, and I'm pretty upset in that now we have to get a cradle or bassinet. 

shamrocandroll

@chewie5990 I just got so sad reading that, and it wasn't even my family heirloom.   

bananapanda

@chewie5990 sorry to hear that your SIL is so crappy Sounds like she is more of a TW than mine (at least this week)

ruby696

@chewie5990 That's heartbreaking. Your poor MIL. What were your BIL and SIL thinking?!

mamaj1220

@chewie5990 WHAT! I’m so sorry for you and your mom. 

mamaj1220

My TW today is people who don’t do their jobs. I’m so annoyed by this one DDRO we work with and it’s so bad that another DDRO just rolled their eyes and told me to come to them.

chewie5990

@ruby696 my SIL is doesn't have a sentimental bone in her body and she hates "stuff" - she's very minimalist and doesn't like having anything that doesn't have clear purpose (which is fine..when it's your stuff!). The thing that irks me is that she knew it was important to our family because we've had MANY conversations about it and she didn't even think to ask before just tossing it out! 

jhysmath

@chewie5990 my heart is breaking for you. We have a bassinet that every baby on my moms side has slept in for the last 75 years. I would put a facebook plea out there to the public to find this. Also contact the goodwill see if some miracle it was there. 

ruby696

@chewie5990 I'm the same way, but I also understand that there are some things you either return when you're finished using it. I'm sorry, but that's just beyond self centered and really just terrible. I hope your mom said something to her.

chewie5990

@jhysmath unfortunately they moved 6 months ago and we just all assumed they moved it with them (especially since they were moving closer to my parents and could easily return it to them if they didn't want it). So I'm sure it's long gone by now... 

pourmeanothermocktail

chewie5990 said:

@ruby696 my SIL is doesn't have a sentimental bone in her body and she hates "stuff" - she's very minimalist and doesn't like having anything that doesn't have clear purpose (which is fine..when it's your stuff!). The thing that irks me is that she knew it was important to our family because we've had MANY conversations about it and she didn't even think to ask before just tossing it out! 

I get needing it gone out of her house, especially for moving, that's my thing, but when I know it's a family piece, I definitely ask the family if anyone wants it first. 

sunshinesea22

@chewie5990 My heart hurts for you! That's so terrible. How can someone just give away a family heirloom that they know is a family heirloom!?!?! NO excuse for that kind of inconsiderate behavior. Seriously, its the one thing you have to make exceptions for when getting rid of stuff. I agree that you should maybe try a public plea if you have pictures of the cradle. You never know...

splashmountain

@chewie5990 you win. Your SIL is the biggest TW ever. Who does that? What a terrible thing to do. Hugs

lisush

@chewie5990 ugh I'm so sorry she did that! Why wouldn't she have at least asked first??? I'm angry for you.

soprano19

@chewie5990 that’s really terrible. Who doesn’t at least check with the rest of the family first? I’m sad for you.

emlettuce

@chewie5990 so angry at her thoughtlessness

chewie5990

You guys are making me feel so much better! I'm always worried that I'm being "dramatic" over things and I feel like my anger/sadness is totally justified now.

lisush

@chewie5990 nope definitely not. That's so thoughtless and rude of her

louessbee

@chewie5990 Absolutely not being dramatic, your SIL is in the wrong here. It wasn't *hers* to donate! It belonged to your whole family.