For those of you who haven't been following in the UO thread this week, there is reasonable consensus that we would all like to get to know each other a bit better, but are hesitant to do so in such a public forum. Putting together a poll with majority rule. I propose that we keep this up for one week (we'll try to keep it bumped), and make the call on Feb 1st. Please, feel free to list your comments/concerns/opinions below.
Transition to non-public group 49 votes
Transition to a "The Bump" PG (private group) Feb 1
Transition to a Facebook group Feb 1
Happy with whatever the group decides and want to participate Feb 1 either way
Not interested in any transition yet. Want to wait, or may not join a private forum at all
Re: Transition to non-public group
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019My group from DD really came together post-birth and we didn't move into a private group until our kiddos were 7-8 months old. Even then we've stuck to the bump because not all of us are on FB or want the group to be there. I admit it can be frustrating because the bump has its issues, but I prefer it.
I guess lets let this play out for a week and try to keep it bumped. If there's no obvious majority, then no problem to pause for a month and revisit it later. Group consensus wins in my opinion.
I also think it's nice to give lurkers some time to get active, so if we say now, basically, that you have a month to contribute and become part of this community before many of us migrate that seems fair.
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
I guess after months I'd be sad to see everyone go, especially before babies are born and not share birth stories and such.
I don't think it needs to be a very long period of time between PG and FB. I just need SOME amount of time to make sure the people I'm interacting with are legit before going to FB. I've had a couple too many catfish experiences on TB to just trust anyone who wants to join a FB group. We'd only need like a month or so maybe, then could possibly move to FB to get to know each other a bit more and by name a little bit before the LOs arrive. As far as waiting until after the babies arrive.... I won't be posting any photos of myself or my baby in a non-private forum.
*fixed typo
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
with how bad the app has been lately I'm having trouble keeping up now and it’s making me sad.
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
ETA sounds like a consensus right now might be wait until March and then open this discussion again?
FTM
BFP: 9/5/19 ~ EDD 5/15/20
Pros/Cons:
PG-keeps same user names, easy way for some people to share more specific info like names, pictures, etc, keeps the stuff we post from being available to the entire internet (public TB stuff you don't have to be a member just to read and see literally everything). Still deals with clunky website/app, which sucks. Either way gives chances to open up with more details to learn more about people and hopefully figure out who isn't going to be around to stay and who is just trying to make drama or make up a whole life. It's set up to be invite only and we can keep/kick creeps out.I don't think it's a great long term solution as many people are glad to be rid of the bad app/website when having to care for newborns.
FB-user interface is easier and for people who use it often it's one less thing to check for social media. Can set up a group to be entirely invite only and invisible to the rest of the interwebs. Easy to kick/keep people out. Would have to relearn names. Doesn't have quite the same ease of threads as a real forum site, but is way less clunky and crashy. BUT, lots of people don't have/want/like FB, so we'd lose some.
Proboards - user interface is easier than TB, not as easy as FB. It's ONE MORE THING to have to check into. User names can totally change. Just as conveniently private as either above option so randos that aren't in group can't find or see it. Ability to tag and quote and just reply in general is less streamlined as you can't see any previous replies while you are typing your response. I hate that app too (Tapatalk) but some people love it and use it for other forums, and there is a website to use with computer or mobile browser. It's a free app, but if you want to post more than one photo at a time and get rid of annoying ads, you have to pay. We'd lose people just because it's another website/app to use and some people don't have time/energy for learning new stuff (I get it). Still has the convenience of deliniated threads in a true forum fashion.
So that's just my thoughts for people to peruse.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green