Advice, no judgment please!

msfree2u

If i slept with my ex on september 3rd and another ex on september 14th, who could i be pregnant for? My ex slept with his ex too, and we are both way too old to make such immature decisions, but it happened and I'm dealing with it. My ex is very supportive, and the other ex from the 14th is not. I need to ask my doctor my estimated conception date, but this is driving me crazy and I'm estimated to be due june 12th, but don't want to wait that long to find out. Any advice? Anyone screwed up and experience this before? Please no judgment, I've already beat myself up for the stupid mistake.

pourmeanothermocktail

No judgement, but that's a doctor question, not people on internet question. An early dating ultrasound would have given you the most accurate information. Sex on September 11 gave us a due date of 6/6. I know, because it's the only sex I had that month. 

msfree2u

I did ask my doctor, but she said she can't be "sure". I wasn't thinking anyone could give me a definite internet question, just figured I'd vent and get some opinions. Ive never been in this situation before so I am losing my mind

pourmeanothermocktail

This forum operates different than most, we ask that you introduce yourself in the Introductions thread, read the ***READ THIS FIRST*** thread and try to be part of the community, and typically questions are posed in general topic threads-Randoms, Symptoms, etc. rather than just a bunch of people each starting their own thread just about them. 

I'd be shocked if doctor couldn't nail this down a little, especially if you had a dating scan around 10 weeks. You should be able to make a best guess yourself if you know your normal cycle length and the start of your last period.

If you're just looking for emotional support, great, but I suggest doing the intro, reading some other posts, getting to know people, as we've been connected since late September (for some of us), and post some other things in already popular threads. 

diagonalley

If your due date is June 12, then your last menstrual period would have to be around the middle of the first week of September...which means you ovulated at likely 10-14 days later - so science tells me there's no way it's the first one, because that's when you should have had your period or started within 24-48 hours of, so it has to be the 2nd one.  

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runwmusic

Agree it'd be the second one most lik

msfree2u

I did do an intro a couple of months ago. I'll check to see if maybe it didn't go through. Sorry

alli392

@msfree2u I’m due June 12th and ovulated around the 15th. I think you’re probably looking at the second one for your answer. Sperm can only live for 5 days in the body in cervical fluid so if it was the first one, pending normal conception timing, you would be due the first week of June instead. Good luck! I hope it all works out!

msfree2u

So I go for the CVS amnio test on the 28th. My doctor said from the beginning that the baby measured with a due date of june 5th, but going by my last cycle, june 12th. With my last cyxle though, I wouldn't even call it a cycle. I spotted the whole day on sept 6th, then very dark blood for 2 and a half days after that. So I'll be at ease once I have the test. If it is the second one, then I'm screwed.

diagonalley

Even still, I have a due date of June 3...I would have gotten pregnant around Sept. 9-10, having DTD September 8.  I'm sorry, but I think it is unlikely to be the first person especially considering you had some semblance of a cycle on Sept. 6. But hey, do a DNA test once baby is born.