WTF Wednesday

pocketrose

What's making you say wtf on this lovely Christmas Wednesday? Bonus points if it's holiday themed!

pocketrose

I'll start - How long is insomnia a pregnancy thing? I woke up when it was dark outside and never really went back to sleep after having some vivid dreams...on the plus side, H is making me breakfast in bed and I may be able to convince him to watch some Lost in Space in bed before we go to meet friends for Chinese food.

rachelredhead

@pocketrose I’m there with ya. Went to bed at midnight, woke up at 5:15 and never fell back asleep. Uggggggggh. At least our Christmas will be quiet and I can just be a slug on the couch after presents. I am OVER the poor sleep thing.

b_1029

My dad is a total asshole and had a 30 min freak out session at me (probably drunk idk) when DH and I got back from our family’s party last night that he refused to go to because he hates my mom’s family and she was working last night. Then this morning we’re back to the whole happy family charade even though my parents basically hate each other and I’m pissed at my dad. I could literally not want to pretend any less. Thank god DH is good at being all chipper with my dad because I am just not in the mood after all that and the fact I slept like ass. Merry Christmas? Lol

eta I don’t know if I’m more pissed at my dad for his freak out in the first place or embarrassed that DH saw some of it. At least he got a glimpse into my childhood and can see why I just completely shut down when faced with an argument (because I always just don’t speak hoping my dad stops his ranting so I can leave haha). Ahhhhh the holidays. 

rachelredhead

@b_1029 ugh, that sounds miserable. Glad your DH can pinch hit on the chipperness and hope you get a break from family soon! 

modoodles

@pocketrose ugh the insomnia. Even taking unisom when I go to bed I was up around 3/4 every morning and dont get back to sleep until after 5. My alarm goes off at 6. 🙄

@b_1029 ugh. My mom is a ranter like that, it gets old so fast. 

My bitch is that my 7yo was a complete asshole this morning while opening gifts from my mom. She got him a few toys and a bunch of (really nice) clothes. He opened the third box of clothes and said, "ok. More clothes." I said, "excuse me? What do you say." His response, "wow. Thanks for MORE clothes I guess." 😡😡 I sent him to his room and told him.he could come back to join us again when he lost that attitude and could be more grateful. I was so embarrassed. None of my kids have ever acted that way! 

mama_of_two_huskies

My bitch this fine Christmas morning is that we hosted DH’s extended family today. Most of his family is ok, but some only show up for the presents that we buy. We are the only ones (other than his parents who can’t afford to do it) that buy any presents whatsoever. Since we will have lots of our own expenses next year we cut back. His brothers girlfriend said to their daughter as they left “Is that all you got today? Are you sure you gathered all your presents? That’s not much.” 

Like seriously? We don’t even have to buy presents. We just do out of the goodness of our hearts for the kids. 

footdrbritt

@b_1029 I’m so sorry. My grandfather was like that, and I remember watching my mom and aunts just shut down rather than argue. 

Mine is my sister and mom. My sister just got engaged and we were talking wedding stuff while cooking breakfast and I was informed not only am I not in the wedding party at all, but neither will either of my children (this one and my DS). 

She instead is asking an older cousin of ours who hasn’t been to any of our other weddings and lives across the country and her kids. Also, WTF. I had my sister in my wedding when she was 17 because it was the right thing to do, but I guess fuck me. I told my husband it makes me want to leave (we’re here until Friday). My kids are the only immediate family on either side to be a flower girl/ring bearer. My mom just agreed and said my job was to be ‘matronly’ and watch my kids 🙄

rachelredhead

@footdrbritt ouch! Ugh, that’s awful. I’d have a hard time swallowing direction to be “matronly” when I just wanted my sister to act sisterly. I don’t blame you for wanting to leave. 😕 Hope the rest of the trip improves! 

modoodles

@footdrbritt it stinks when sisters leave us feelong replaceable! 

I was supposed to be in my sister's wedding in August, but I hated her fiance and I told her no. I was made out to be a horrible b!tch and my sister basically walked all over everyone to get her wedding and he showed up drunk, made an ass of himself, and she caught him cheating on her 3 weeks later and now she's living with the next guy. Hopefully your sister is actually making a good choice, but my decision to not be a part of that sh!t show gave me a chance to sit back and just watch and know that I was right from the beginning. I was the only one honest with her about what a POS he was, and everyone else just said they were going to be "supportive." Being supportive cost my mom $7,000 three days before their wedding (on top of everything else she had paid for) because my sister and her fiance had said they had been making payments on things when they hadn't, and he was fired from 2 jobs during their 8 month engagement and they didnt tell anyone because they didn't want to make him look bad. My sister and I both got married over the summer and she wanted to compare everything. It was just so damn petty. She hadn't even been with this guy for a year by the time their wedding came around. He 'proposed' to her around a campfire while drinking with friends and she held him to it and made him go buy her a ring 2 weeks later. It was a mess from the get go. 

modoodles

I have another wtf. My stepdad (super duper nice guy, love him a lot) told me "you're looking pregnant!" today. 🙄 Dude, no, I'm just fat. I've lost 9 lbs in the last month. It's still fat, not baby bump yet. 

rachelredhead

@modoodles had a similar WTF last night. DH’s aunt said, “I could tell you were pregnant.” I’m not showing, lady, that’s my damn stomach. 

It’s so LOVELY that folks feel they have license to comment on others’ bodies. 🙄

modoodles

@rachelredhead uuugh. People are so insensitive.
 It doesnt help that I'm already so uncomfortable with my body right now. I weigh 20lbs more than I did at my highest pregnancy weight previously. I have some serious getting in shape goals after this pregnancy, but please don't comment on my body!!

pocketrose

Ugh, I hope I have the strength to say "what's your excuse" to anyone who thinks they knew I was pregnant/was showing early (am not, just bloated, also a slightly overweight human if one measures BMI but I wear "straight" sizes in much of my clothing/did until pregnancy bloat happened/still do/BMI is a terrible way to judge size generally).

footdrbritt

@modoodles OMG. That is awful. 

My sister and I are 10 years apart, and she’s only 21 but they’ve been together for 3 years. I’m just really perturbed they thought this was okay, and that I’d want anything to do with their wedding now. My SIL had both of us in her wedding, and I reciprocated with mine because it’s the family thing to do. 

@rachelredhead yeah that got to me, especially my mom saying it. 

meanjellybean

My husband can be such a moody grouch around the holidays and it gets on my last nerve, especially now that we have a kid who loves seeing her family and having fun. We got to tell all the family about this baby which was nice, except when my mom was like “so that’s why you’ve been looking so tired.” I mean she’s not wrong, but still. Oh well, now I’m finally in my pjs watching die hard and I took the next week and a half off from work so all is good.

b_1029

I’m with you all- several people at the family party said I was showing. I’m already self conscious because I’m pretty sure it’s probably just from overeating at our 15 Christmas events over the last 18 or so days (plus thanksgiving to kick off the overeating)...I was like thanks, but I’m pretty sure I’m just fat right now. 🙄

JessDG

We see SIL/BIL and their 2 kids about every 2 months.  Every time we see them they are ALL SICK.  I get with having little kids that just happens, but DS has picked something up from them the last four times we have seen them.  And they give no head's up.  Showed up to Christmas with all 4 of them having colds.  Colds are no big deal for most people, but mine get super severe and paired with not being able to take much medicine for it, it just annoys me.  

kristinl492

I was just getting a load of laundry going in the washing machine when a wave of nausea hit me. Cue me gagging, trying not to throw up, then smashing my finger on the washing machine and cracking the absolute shit out of my fingernail halfway down the nail bed. The stupidest thing ever. WTF??? Pregnancy should come with hazard pay, I swear 😂

meanjellybean

WTF Thursday.. anyone else 11+ weeks and not getting any relief nausea-wise?? I think I’m more frustrated this time because I know it will get better and I’m just anxious to get there. I’m such a baby and I’m tired of constantly feeling like I’m going to barf. Pity party over here!

rachelredhead

@meanjellybean I’m 11w5 and I was feeling much better last week but this week I’ve had a lot more queasiness and heartburn. Very rude. I’m telling myself it’s just one last push of nausea before 2nd tri but it can really let up any time! 

kristinl492

meanjellybean said:

WTF Thursday.. anyone else 11+ weeks and not getting any relief nausea-wise?? I think I’m more frustrated this time because I know it will get better and I’m just anxious to get there. I’m such a baby and I’m tired of constantly feeling like I’m going to barf. Pity party over here!

My nausea didn’t fully subside til 15 weeks with my first pregnancy 😳

meanjellybean

@rachelredhead rude is definitely the word for it! Hope next week is better for both of us.

@kristinl492 yeah with my daughter (who will be 2 in March so not all that long ago) I didn’t have a true appetite back until prob 16-18 weeks but I could have sworn I started to have decent days in the lead up to week 12... but maybe I’ve tricked myself and am remembering it wrong 😩

modoodles

@meanjellybean I sometimes get angry about feeling so crappy because if it hadn't been for our loss, I would be at 19 weeks right now and likely past this horrible nausea phase. 

busymom247

@meanjellybean
I'm 11 weeks and over 24/ 7 nausea. Mine didn't  go away until 19-20 weeks first time. Really hoping I get relief at like 13-14 weeks though...

Also, I got food poisoning Fri night so that's been fun.....My stomach still aches but nothing out either end since Fri night

meanjellybean

@busymom247 ugh food poisoning on top of first tri nausea is so unfair. I hope you get relief earlier than 19-20 weeks (I hope we all do)!