FFFC 12/20

ruby696

*Not guaranteed to be flame free

shamrocandroll

Okay I have a good one this week.  My company is big into community outreach and pays every employee for 32 hours per year of community service time.  Basically you get to use normal work time to volunteer for a non-profit of your choosing for us to 32 hours per year.  I volunteer for an organization that sends volunteers out to help new moms.  Basically I spend 2-3 hours per week a the home of a new mom and newborn and help out wherever they need me.  I looooved my family last year and still keep in touch with them.  The baby loved me and had no issues with me holding him, and I was the only other person he ever fell asleep on besides his mom. 

This year, the mom is great and I love talking to her, but her baby does NOT like me being there, haha.  It would be fine if the mom left and it was just me and her, but she knows her mom is just in the other room and cries pretty much the whoooole time.  She's super cute when she's not crying, but my FFFC is I'm pretty excited today is my last volunteer day and I just have 3 more hours of being screamed at to get through.  

catem07

1) I love giving opinions on names. The baby name board on the bump is my favorite because the general understanding there is if you post, you're gonna get opinions. 

2) What are my strong name opinions? Glad you asked. Not a fan of naming sons after their living fathers. Not a fan of naming kids something with the intention of calling them by their middle name. Just name them their middle name! 

pirateduck

Also why name them something if your intention is to call them by the nickname, why not just call them by the nickname so people don't call them the wrong thing or they don't adopt the one form of the longer name that you hate.

ruby696

I refuse to post my name choices on the name board because I don't want anyone to "steal" them. Even though I will likely never meet any of you or your children. The flipside side of this is I worry that people will think I stole their name of they post and I don't.  I tend to overanalyze most things, in case you can't tell. 😆

Also, don't pick a name when you hate the nickname and then get mad at everyone for calling Anthony, Tony. Or Michael, Mike.

Eta: words

rox7777

@catem07 My mom gave me my great grandmothers name as my given name and my middle name is the name I go by. But my middle name is also shortened to a nickname. It’s easily the most annoying thing in the world when you’re a kid. I had teachers/professors that wouldn’t call me by my middle name and it caused a lot of issues over the years.

@ruby696 Saaaaame. I have around 30 friends pregnant and due between April-July. I will share her nickname and I can tell people aren’t fans/don’t like it. But I refuse to tell them the full name because I don’t want anyone to steal it.

On the topic of names. I HATE unique spellings. HATE HATE. If I have to sound out the name and still don’t get it right, I don’t like it.

pirateduck

I am a firm believer that if you read the name written down that you should be able to pronounce it out loud with some degree of accuracy even if it’s not a common name.  

soprano19

@ruby696 @rox7777 just to play devil's advocate, I think sometimes there are situations where one might want to share name choices with certain friends or family members in order to "claim" them. For example, my brother and his fiancee already have a boy name they really like, even though they don't plan to get pregnant immediately, and knowing the name helped me avoid it as one of our choices because I now think of it as "theirs." I guess it depends on your relationship with the people in question though.

mamaj1220

I side eye a lot of name choices around here, I just cannot get on board with Nevaeh and Heaven like at all. And there are about 4 of them in DS grade. Also I can't with cutesy names that are adorable as kids but don't translate to adults well, I actually ruled out a girls name I loved because I was like yeah at 30 she will hate me.

pourmeanothermocktail

I'm not for unique spellings or naming after any living relatives, or calling lie primarily by their middle name either. You do you, but it's not my thing. 

My FFFC-I've been hanging out in June since I got my BFP, but I always knew I'd likely have a May baby anyway, and I just don't feel like I'm fitting in there. Not a bad group of people, but maybe not my people. Hoping maybe I can go here now and fit in better.

First: due 7/7/16, born 6/6
Second: due 9/7/18, born 8/30
Third: due 6/6/20, born probably in May

ruby696

@rox7777 MH loves unique spelling. I put my foot down hard. No way. Not happening. We are educated adults. We can spell properly.

@soprano19 I agree in some circumstances. My cousin had a loss at 16 weeks and, even though she didn't know the sex, she shared her boy name with me. It's a great name, but I would never, ever consider using it.

drkoyya

I’m actually all for sharing the name if you’ve firmly decided on one. If friends/family hate it, tough. They have time to get used to it before the baby is born. We chose a name that’s meaningful to both me and DH and I’ve made that connection clear in case anyone thinks I’m copying or “being trendy”. 

My FFFC... I’m glad that we’re waiting until after the baby shower to really set up the nursery. I’m glad because that means DH will be forced to do some housework. I do all of the housework. DH helps with the yard but that’s it. By March, I’ll be too big to put together any furniture. This has to get done and since I won’t be able to do it, DH will be forced to do it. 

sunshinesea22

Just found out this week that my husband’s dad’s cousin, who is closer in age to MH than his dad, is also pregnant and due in May. Oh and her mom already has the baby shower planned for March. The cousin is kinda like a cold fish and always looks like she’s smelling a fart. She only ever talks to me at family events if she wants to be nosy, like the time 3 years ago after MH and I got engaged and she “congratulated” me but really just wanted to see my ring. I’m pretty sure she didn’t say a word to me at the last party. Any who, MH and I were talking about if I now have to invite her to my shower, which I also hope to have in March but I don’t think anything is set in stone yet. I don’t really want her there but I feel like I have to invite her now since we are having our babies around the same time. MH doesn’t like this cousin. Apparently she threw herself a second bridal shower because she didn’t get enough stuff at the first one. We are seeing her at the family Christmas party on Sunday and I’m secretly hoping she looks terrible. I’m an awful person.

soprano19

@sunshinesea22 she sounds like a real charmer. 🙄 I say if you don’t want her at your shower, don’t invite her.

mamaj1220

@sunshinesea22 I need to know how she looks lol also don't invite her if it will make your baby shower stressful or less fun! 

sunshinesea22

@mamaj1220 She looked fine but made a comment at picture time about how she needed someone to block her belly. I was like “Girl now is the time to flaunt that belly!” I’m not a tiny person and I usually don’t wear tight shorts, but I’m all about it now seeing as my belly has a baby in it, nothing to be self conscious about!