Weekly Randoms w/o 11/25

chichiphin

dunder_mifflin

This week is going to be low-key, but my Christmas decorations are mostly up and it’s making me SO happy! 

I just wanted to wish you all a very happy thanksgiving this weekend! We celebrated already north of the border but I know how big thanksgiving is in the US so sending all of the love! 

chichiphin

@dunder_mifflin your place is so chic and modern!! I love that you have the yule log on your TV too... I 100% decorated yesterday. I realized that after cooking all day on thursday my energy will be very low for the remainder of the holiday weekend so I powered through on Sunday! 

dunder_mifflin

@chichiphin ohhh you know how to make a pregnant woman blush ☺️ Thank you so much, that log is actually from an Indigenous community I worked in doing youth programming in Northern Quebec, we didn’t need the firewood to I kept it and brought it home. It’s a very sentimental piece and it always sparks a conversation.

show some pictures if your decor! I would love to see. Should we get a holiday decor thread going? I still need to add some touches to my house and complete my staircase garland

kantobean

I only have to work today and tomorrow, and then I’m on thanksgiving break! So pumped. We’re supposed to get snow tomorrow so that could be interesting. I’m not excited.

chichiphin

@kantobean hopefully it isn't much snow if any. 

I'm waiting to hear from management if we get a "half day" on Wednesday. We get Thurs & Fri but I'd love to leave around 1 on Wednesday

stassischroeder

@kantobean we're supposed to get snow on Thanksgiving, which would totally spoil my plans because I'm NOT driving 2+ hours in a snowstorm with DS. I hope you enjoy your Thanksgiving break!



FFMC: The "Gender Disappointment" and "Gender Preference" threads in June and April, respectively, are making me cringe harder than I have all year. 

chichiphin

@stassischroeder ew. the gender disappointment thread in June.... I was worried about the gender preference thread but it seems some people have taken it over to explain how silly their thought process was when they originally had a preference. maybe those two boards should have a chat lol

stassischroeder

@chichiphin I do appreciate the explanations in April, but I still feel the whole premise is antiquated andplusalso it's SEX not gender. Maybe I'm just extra hormonal today 

chichiphin

lol @stassischroeder totally fair!! I agree 

treetop19

@chichiphin, @stassischroeder, this may be a UO, but I can kind of see where they're coming from with the gender disappointment thing.  For my first two, I had no preference whatsoever, and I thought people that did were kind of nuts or ungrateful for having a healthy baby to begin with.  This time around..  *TW I lost a baby boy last year* end TW *   so, I kind of had my heart set on having another boy.  When this LO turned out to be a girl, well.. it threw me for a loop in a way I was completely not expecting, and I just couldn't control the feelings of sadness/disappointment.   I had built up all these hopes/dreams centered around my DS having a little brother, and that all crumbled in the blink of an eye (I know this LO will be my last, my family can't handle any more than 3.. lol.)  So yeah, now I completely get that people have these feelings and it's hard sometimes to deal (though I would have said, gross people, grow up) when I was pregnant with my first 2, because I really didn't care at that point if I had girls or boys.   

stassischroeder

@treetop19 I don't like to tell anyone that they're emotions are incorrect or invalid. And I think the *TW a loss of a baby endTW* can have an impact on your feelings toward any subsequent children. My biggest beef with those posts is that they're full of assumptions of antiquated gender roles. How your baby pees is all but irrelevant. And, for me, especially after having my first, I can't fathom giving two craps what is between their legs because I know that the baby will be perfect to me, no matter what. Not to mention that posts like that are very insensitive and offensive to those struggling with infertility. 

Just my two cents. 

ETA feeling like my above post was a little harsh. @treetop19 I am very sorry for your loss, and I agree with @varimama that those circumstances are very different from what is being discussed in those two threads.  

varimama

@treetop19 I think a loss is totally different. You were already preparing for someone to join your life and I can’t imagine how hard it must be loosing that.

i went and read those threads and I agree they are pretty cringe worthy... I mean I’ll be honest I wanted another boy for logistical reasons (don’t need to paint the nursery, he and DS can share a room when #3 is young, reusing the same clothes, etc...) but sadness over having the other sex doesn’t make sense to me. My only fear for having a girl is that there are only boys so far in our family and SILs so I’d be worried she’d get extra attention and the other kids would be hurt. That shouldn’t happen but it did to me. My dad’s brother had 2 girls then I was born as a girl then my brother was born and got so much more attention and stuff bc he’d carry on the family name. Like they always took boy only generation pictures and stuff that I wasn’t allowed in and it hurt. I don’t think DH’s family is like that though, at least I hope not. Still none of that would make me sad for having a girl 🤷🏻‍♀️

miss.sally

@dunder_mifflin yassss start the holiday decor thread! I’ll join in also. I just have to take some photos!! 

I have a lot to do and not a lot of time this week. We leave Wednesday for Virginia and I need to do laundry and pack and get groceries for the car rides eeeek.  

miss.sally

PSA: Everything on the Freshly Picked website is 30% off right now!! And Nordstrom will price match (I always prefer ordering from there, because customer service and free shipping) so it’s a great deal! I had been waiting to pull the trigger on a new diaper bag but I’ve been looking at their backpacks forever (plus I have the mini and LOVE it). Yahoo! 

mrsvp614

@stassischroeder @chichiphin I haven’t lurked much on the other monthlies, but those threads sound... interesting. Let me guess, the majority wanted girls and are disappointed to have boys. 🙄

@dunder_mifflin Your home looks gorgeous! We plan to decorate this weekend after Thanksgiving. DS is super into Christmas lights this year, so it should be fun. 

DS ended up in bed with us for part of the night, so that meant crap sleep. I just want these 2 days at work to be over with so I can celebrate my fave holiday! 

kagesstarshroom

@stassischroeder @chichiphin behind yall in cringing over even the idea of those threads--esp the idea of a disappointment one ::SMH emoji:: (fyi threads that i haven't visited bc--my pgal brain/self is just like nopity nope). I'm glad to hear the preference one is more... explain-y... And yes to sex-not-gender agh. 

@dunder_mifflin If you want to start a holiday decor thread, I'd be down to snoop at yall's swag! I don't think we're doing much this year bc of limited space & also... that we won't be here for like the bulk of the holidaze.

keeksie84

@stassischroeder I'm just jumping in to add a +1 to the sex not equaling gender sentiment! It's one of my biggest beefs with pregnancy talk. June does a nice job of making it clear in their sex post. I find it insane that the Sneak Peak results still say gender instead of sex. Like, they have literally ONE JOB. Why can't they figure it out. On the flip side, I kind of get the sex disappointment thing. I wanted a girl and was overjoyed when we found out we were having one. I think it would have taken me some time to reframe my thinking. 

silverhope

i’m catching up on our board so I haven’t seen the sex disappointment threads on april and june, but I was (initially) disappointed with DS as a FTM. Obviously over it now bc he is the bomb.com. However, he does love all the “antiquated stereotypes” (to use @stassischroeder ‘s term) that society deems males like. Do I want to wave down a garbage man to say hi to my son? Not really, but DS is so obsessed with trucks (and tractors and trains) that I do it. And I’m sure when he is bigger I will have to go to monster truck shows and other things I really have no desire to do, but will do bc I love him. 

Will DD be a girly girl? Who knows. Maybe she will love trucks and trains too and I won’t get to do all the “girly” things I envision with her. And even if she is “girly,” I’m sure she’ll have hobbies I don’t enjoy, but I‘ll do them with her anyway. but yea, I definitely had sex disappointment the first time arnd and I would have been a little bummed if this one was male (but not to the extent of last time).

i do get the whole you-should-just-be-thankful-baby-is-healthy part. But then I feel like people should get the same amount of scolding/cr4p when they complain about morning sickness or weight gain or back pain or contractions or really anything pregnancy-related. If I’m nauseous and cursing my nausea, it doesn’t mean I hate/don’t want my baby and if I’m disappointed about the sex, it also doesn’t mean I hate/don’t want the baby. 

kagesstarshroom

I finally caved.... and put xmas music on! I was listening to Sharon Von Etten on Spotify, which was working for me well for a while, but then something of hers that was more rock-y came on, and I saw my saved "A Quiet Christmas" playlist (I didn't make it-- it's a Spotify one) and now I'm listening to that. I'm usually a strict "no-xmas-music-until-after-Thanksgiving type, but--Thanksgiving is late this year, and I'm moving in slowly, instrumental like, and all. 

varimama

@kagesstarshroom you reminded me I need to make a Christmas playlist! We switched from Spotify to Apple Music so I don’t have my playlist from last year! Also I’m all ready for Christmas already!

PSA for those looking for a bob double stroller. I noticed today it’s dropped to $511 (was $639 when I added it to my registry.) not sure if it’ll go on bigger sale for Black Friday but I pulled the trigger and will probably just exchange it if it goes down more unless it’s not by enough to bother. 

chichiphin

may get crucified for this question - but is the Uppababy in William too blue for a girl's stroller *insert commentary about gender vs sex* but honestly will I get annoyed to high heaven with people assuming she is a he for this stroller color?

lemonlove86

I love the William @chichiphin!! It's a great neutral and looks like it's on sale now at albeebaby too!

varimama

@chichiphin I don’t think people will assume your baby is a boy over stroller color. Though people are idiots and will get your baby’s sex for all sorts of dumb reason. DS was called a girl so often even though he was always dressed very traditionally boyish. He has big pretty eyes and long lashes so I think that threw people off but honestly it was pretty obvious and people just suck. 

treetop19

@chichiphin with my DD - we bought her a royal blue stroller/infant car seat combo with a teddy bear pattern, and honestly, I didn't have any issue with people coming up to me and asking me if she was a boy or calling her a boy.   then again, she was usually covered in pink blankets or wearing girly clothes while she was in the stroller or car seat.  the one time she was called a boy was when we were out without the stroller and she was wearing a yellow shirt.  come to find out the person who called her a boy was actually a relative of her dad's I hadn't met, and she apparently looked just like her dad did as a baby so they assumed 'boy'.     I'd say if you like the stroller, go for it... like @varimama said, people will be dumb either way.  

kagesstarshroom

Ugh yallll. I made myself some hot chocolate last night & I put wayyyy too much cocoa powder in it & not enough milk & I felt so sick all night & I feel like crap right now still, & I'm kicking myself big time bc I am cleaning/should be cleaning, but also walking around like a zombie. I really tested the limits and got knocked down. I'd been feeling so good! 

chichiphin

haha okay thanks guys for the input - the william is the black friday special so I will prob just pull the trigger then

silverhope

@kagesstarshroom oh no. I hope you are feeling better now.

kagesstarshroom

@silverhope FINALLY.  

Happy Thanksgiving to all! 

momoftoddlers

Happy Thanksgiving Ladies! Thankful for the camaraderie we’ve got going here to get us through our pregnancies. 💗

dunder_mifflin

@chichiphin I absolutely love the William and we are having a girl! But I’m still debating between the Cruz and vista and it’s starting to stress me out in a weird way. I had a horrible experience with a stroller specialist at buy buy baby who was “helping me” - I just really needed someone to walk me through the differences and pros and cons at the store vs. online (wheels being better on the vista vs. Cruz being lighter and more compact). Anyway, this stroller sales person was a disaster and was literally throwing the rumble seats/car seats all over the place and throwing the dummy baby into the car seat - it was so ridiculous (like an SNL skit or some sh**) but I was so overwhelmed I maybe cried in the car after because she was so judgmental and confusing and really just not helpful - like AT ALL. Lol. 

Anyway, I digress, but the point is that I LOVE the William and if I do go Cruz I will likely go with the Gregory blue as it looks like a chambray/grey. And I’m having a girl so 🤗

mrsvp614

Happy Thanksgiving, y’all! Hard to believe our babes will already be 8 months-ish at Thanksgiving next year! 

lemonlove86

@chichiphin you inspired me... we just got the William Black Friday pricing! MIL ordered ours from Albeebaby and she said they've already shipped it! I'm having a girl too. @dunder_mifflin I had a long chat with a salesperson at a boutique baby store near us and she convinced me to go with the Vista. I mean obviously she wanted the sale but she was really helpful. 

Just came across a pretty big kate quinn sale- don't you like her stuff @miss.sally? What are your favorites of hers?

chichiphin

Yay @lemonlove86 we will be stroller twins! I ordered from buybuybaby & it’s coming today lol 

@dunder_mifflin good luck deciding - but that price on the vista is too damn good