Monday BF 11/18

ruby696

ieles2531

B#1: my panorama was drawn 19 days ago and STILL is not ready!

B#2: parents in car line who think it’s ok to park, get out, and socialize while they walk their kid to the door. NO. I am starving and I need to pee...gtf out of my way. 

B#3: MFM just called me to push my appointment on Thursday from 8:30 am to 1:30 pm. This is when we will finally find out with reasonable certainty if this baby has a recurrence of HLHS or if he is healthy. 1:30 means that I will be going by myself...🤬

shamrocandroll

@ieles2531 Ugh, I'm so sorry to hear about your appointment.  We have a hard time planning around MH's schedule, so I'd be so mad if they did that to me!  I hope the appointment goes great either way!  Is there anyone else you're close with who can go with you?

ruby696

@ieles2531 Ugh, i would be super bitter about the appt and would 100% want MH there. Agree with @shamrocandroll - is there someone else you would be comfortable with? Also, parents who hold up the drop off line should have eggs thrown at them. Just saying...

ieles2531

@shamrocandroll @ruby696 MH is going to try to get someone to swap with him at work so he can come with me. We had it planned where the appt was right after his overnight shift so he could just come home after and sleep. Luckily most of the people in his group are parents and usually everyone tries to help out when stuff like this happens. It’s not the going alone that makes me anxious...it’s having to tell my husband if something is wrong. Last time, he was the one who told me that he was reading the echo as it was being done and that our son had HLHS. Later on he told me that that was the hardest thing he ever had to do...I’d like to avoid that if possible. 

This parent in car line is SUCH an asshole! He holds up the line at least twice a week. Last night my SIL asked me what crime I would most likely commit to get the death penalty...this morning I have the perfect answer 😂

chewie5990

this sinus infection that will not go away! I called in to work this morning though and I have been eating soup and laying in bed all day with a warm wash cloth over my face. The pressure in my nasal passage and forehead is insufferable. Finally though with the first trimester only to get sick.  

soprano19

Ugh, don’t even get me started here. I want to b*tch slap several people at work. If everyone did their jobs on time and owned their mistakes, the world would be a much more tolerable place.

mamaj1220

@soprano19 I felt that in my soul, just say you made a freaking mistake so we can fix it and move on!

TattoosandLace

I know it's not Monday anymore, but this happened on Monday and I'm just now getting around to finishing processing it in my brainspace.

There's a note in my file that I didn't want to know the sex until the baby was born. The doctor's office called and left a voicemail to call them back. They said they would only ever call with bad test results so I was freaking out, clocked out of work and called them back only to be put on hold (without even getting my name and/or DOB first) for twelve and a half minutes. I hung up and called back and said that I literally didn't have time to be on hold another fifteen minutes since I stopped working to return their phone call. Receptionist takes my name, DOB, and then my phone number and says "a nurse will call you back". Every other clinic I've worked with will transfer you to the nurse line and if the nurses are too busy to answer you just leave a message. When I asked about that, the receptionist goes "no ma'am. we're a very busy clinic. we don't just have people standing around to answer your phone call." So, that was basically the last straw, especially since I wasn't 100% on board with the doc. I switched to a doctor that has privileges at the  same hospital. Had my first appointment with him Tuesday and really liked him/his office staff.

SO then the nurse calls me back and goes "Congratulations, we got your Counsyl results back and everything came back negative! You're having a healthy boy!"

So I found out important information that I didn't want to know until May, in the car with my crappy coworker, unexpectedly. Who now things she's so important because she "found out" because she wouldn't stop the car and let me out while I took the phone call for some privacy and I wasn't about to play phone tag with the stupid receptionist again.

shamrocandroll

@TattoosandLace Oh, wow.  Just.... wow.  That makes me so enraged for you on so many different levels!!!  I'm so sorry you had your surprise ruined like that.  What a b*tch!  I cannot believe she didn't ask first to double check and make sure you wanted to know.  Even if you did want to know, the vast majority of people don't want to be told over the phone without their partner there to find out as well.  UGH!  And also WTF to your selfish co-worker!!!  I'm so angry for you!!!

m6agua

@TattoosandLace I am sorry that this office dropped the ball so seriously. I'm glad you switched and seem to like the new office so far. Also your coworker is an idiot! Congrats on a healthy boy boy though!

FWIW my office will take down my info and have the nurse call me back.

shamrocandroll

@TattoosandLace Ohhhh yes, I got so caught up in being angry for you that I forgot tot say congratulations on the healthy results!  I'm so sorry the joy was sucked out of that moment for you.  

TattoosandLace

Thanks, guys! 

We have three girls and this is our last baby. I’m so frustrated that a) the surprise was ruined and b) my husband didn’t share the moment with me.  

so glad I switched. The new doc and office staff have been nothing but helpful and sweet. New doc is male (which is a first for me), but he does things more like my previous OBGYN who I absolutely loved. 

bananapanda

@TattoosandLace congrats on the healthy results, but that is ridiculous they made you worry like that and wonder and then spoiled your surprise.  I would think most people would realize they should ask first even if there wasn't a note in your file already.  And it sounds like your coworker sucks so sorry about that too 

rox7777

@TattoosandLace That majorly sucks, but congrats on the healthy boy! 

ieles2531

@TattoosandLace congrats on a healthy boy! OB nurses are notorious for not reading chart notes...I had to go into OB triage 6 days after I delivered and 3 days after my baby passed, only to have the nurse (who had been reading my chart for five minutes while I was signing paperwork) ask me how my baby was. It was in a red box on the front of the chart that he passed! I could see it from 10 feet away! 🙄🙄🙄 now I always ask if they’ve read my red flag notes. 

soprano19

@TattoosandLace that sucks and makes me really angry for you. It should be standard practice to ask if you want to know the sex before they just blurt it out. But congrats on a baby boy!

heyybritt

@TattoosandLace echoing everyone else here, congrats! But definitely sounds like a good thing you switched OBs. Glad to hear the new one has been great so far!

bananapanda

@ieles2531 oh my gosh so sorry you had to go through that.  I seriously wonder how some people get jobs when they seem so incompetent at times.

sunshinesea22

@TattoosandLace So sorry that nurse ruined your green surprise, but congratulations on the healthy baby!!!  I hope you can still be excited. Hopefully you will continue to have a good experience with the new doctor

@ieles2531 My heart breaks for you and the insensitive lack of attention to detail...fingers crossed everything looks good at your appointments. I can’t even begin to imagine how you feel, but perhaps there’s ways to slightly reduce the unwanted feelings. Idk if it’s helpful to you but perhaps meditation could to be useful with calming the anxieties of things we have no control over. Maybe it’s a stupid suggestion or maybe you already do things like that, just thought I would put it out there.

mamaj1220

@ieles2531 I am sorry about your appointment being switched, can they just do that? I mean I would think they would understand the importance of your H being there and also work scheduling. Also I thought of you this morning while in the car drop off lane at DS school, when the asshole in front of me literally sat and talked to her kid for ten minutes after he was out of the car and then another 2 with the aides who help the kids get out safely. I can't go around because of the way the cones are set up either, the guy behind me started beeping and I giggled. 

@TattoosandLace sorry the nurse is a moron but congratulations on a healthy baby boy! Also I am glad you found a better OB fit, FWIW I have a male OB and I love him, he was amazing through a high risk pregnancy for me and has always made me comfortable (for now I am seeing the midwife at the practice because low risk this go around).

TattoosandLace

@ieles2531 I am so incredibly sorry that happened to you. That makes me furious for you!! You would think that they would read the highlighted portions first at the very least...
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queenklau

@TattoosandLace, what a frustrating situation. I am sorry! I think it is standard practice to ask whether you want to know prior to divulging any info. I feel like at every chance & by different providers  something could have been divulged to me, I was always asked, “will you be finding out?”. 

Amazing news about the healthy baby, big relief! It is good you switched.

@ieles2531, it blows my mind how some providers  are so incompetent. So sorry!