UO 11.7

stassischroeder

stassischroeder

This is probably more of a TW Tuesday or WTF Wednesday, but oh well...

I'm starting to get ragey when people who either 1. don't have kids, or 2. have kids who are now adults post parenting advice/judgement/articles on FB (or anywhere). 

I feel like parents of adults have rose-colored glasses towards the early years of parenting, and pass judgement WAY too easily. And people who don't have kids can just go f*ck themselves. 

miss.sally

@stassischroeder I agree. Truly I think even people WITH young kids have zero right to judge other people’s parenting. Literally every child has to be parented differently (even in the same household), so nobody has any right to tell me “oh well you have to do this” or “you need this thing because it worked for my kid.” Like. Good for you but kindly leave your remarks to yourself unless I come to you for advice. GAH! 

varimama

@stassischroeder agree! Honestly everyone needs to stop with the parenting articles and advice. Just because it worked for your kid does not mean it will work for mine. Since having DS I’ve become way less judgy of parents. Like as long as you aren’t abusing or completely ignoring your kid when they clearly need you then do what works for you!

kailanae

@stassischroeder I have a neighbor who has two kids in college who shares any article she finds about the detrimental effects of screen time for young kids.  She is also a music teacher, so she does have some exposure to younger kids, but it definitely gets an eye roll from me every time I scroll past one of her reposts.

stassischroeder

kailanae said:

@stassischroeder I have a neighbor who has two kids in college who shares any article she finds about the detrimental effects of screen time for young kids.  She is also a music teacher, so she does have some exposure to younger kids, but it definitely gets an eye roll from me every time I scroll past one of her reposts.

YES. This is almost exactly what inspired me to post in the first place. People who post about the detrimental affects of something that wasn't available/wasn't a thing when they were raising kids. My favorite is the recent study that has a ridiculous sample size of like 56 kids. Correlation isn't causation, and making mass assumptions based on poorly conducted studies to fear monger parents is infuriating. 

treetop19

@stassischroeder, agreed, people like that are irritating... and it's weird, it seems people are much more ready to give their two cents when it comes to kids, when they wouldn't on other topics.  I was sitting in a restaurant with my kids at one point, and they were both being good and quiet.. but this guy behind us was like 'Ugh, breeders, why do they come to restaurants?"       Um, ok guy, we have as much of a right to eat here as you do, and we're not making any trouble, so why are you acting like a jerk?    

miss.sally

Lol I had tons of judgy eyes on me yesterday when I was at the grocery store and my toddler was screaming the whole way through. He wanted to eat the blueberries but I told him he couldn’t until we got home. 🤷🏼‍♀️  I just don’t even care anymore. 

stassischroeder

Also, my 27 yr old coworker has always been SUPER judgey towards parents of young kids, and now she's pregnant with her first. I've always just bit my tongue or kindly offered a parents' perspective, but now I'm just sitting here like 

mrsvp614

@stassischroeder I feel you so hard. MIL keeps asking about when we're gonna turn DS around in the car. I'm not worried about it, and CURRENT research says to keep him RF for as long as possible. It also gets annoying because it gets in DH's head, and I'm like a) I've heavily researched this, and you've done nothing, but listen to your momma. b) We've had zero issues with DS in the car so far, so let's just leave it be. 

A lame UO, but because I'm eating a Hawaiian calzone for lunch today, pineapple pizza is delicious! 

miss.sally

@mrsvp614 I like pineapple and pepperoni pizza 😂

stassischroeder

@mrsvp614 YAS!!! DH also likes to question my HEAVILY researched decisions, refuses to do any research himself, and then lets his mom get in his head with outdated garbage. GRRR.

And now I really want Hawaiian pizza   

stassischroeder

miss.sally said:

Lol I had tons of judgy eyes on me yesterday when I was at the grocery store and my toddler was screaming the whole way through. He wanted to eat the blueberries but I told him he couldn’t until we got home. 🤷🏼‍♀️  I just don’t even care anymore. 

OMG I had an old lady judge me because I WAS letting DS eat blueberries in the cart at the store  We legitimately can't win 

kantobean

YES TO ALL OF THIS.

especially the screen time thing. DD has a tablet and gets tablet time for a few minutes every morning and night while we get ready. It amounts to way less than an hour most days, but I still feel like lots of people without young kids would seriously judge that. I don’t care! 

kailanae

@mrsvp614 we got a lot of push back with DS1 for having him rear facing as long as we did.  So many "he must be so uncomfortable with his legs all squished up like that" type of comments from my parent's generation.  It got to DH and he started questioning me on rear facing as well.  He has asked a couple times now when we will front-face DS2 and I just keep pushing it off.

varimama

Ugh yea so many comments about the extended rear facing and then DH is always asking when we can turn him. He’s 2.5 so he does FF in DH’s car because he passed the RF limit on our spare car seat. But in my car, the one he’s in 95% of the time he’s still RF. DH thinks he likes riding in his Jeep more than in my car (DS says the Jeep is his favorite) bc he’s forward facing. I’m like no he likes it more bc he doesn’t get to do it often and because you put the top down and he thinks it’s fun to have the wind in his face 🙄

Also we get a lot of comments on extended breastfeeding that bother DH. We don’t really breastfeed in public anymore and DS is old enough that if we are missing a time we normally nurse bc were with family we just skip it so it’s cut down but they all think it’s weird to nurse past a year. Doesn’t help that DS is legit the size of an average 4 yo so Im
sure it looks funny. DH and I got in a big fight once bc he said I was raising him to be be Robin Arryn. I’m like dude Robin was like 8 in season 1 and our kid is 2.... worldwide self weaning average is anywhere from 2-7 so people can suck it. We’ve had drs and stuff (not our normal ones but specialists or drs we’ve seen bc ours was out) question it too which is really frustrating bc medical professionals should know better. One was particularly horrible to us about it and I told DH I will never let any of our kids see him again. 

varimama

@mrsvp614 now I think I’m gonna put pineapple on our pizza tomorrow and DH can suck it bc he’s wrong it’s good 🤣 plus I just cut up a fresh pineapple today so perfect timing 

silverhope

I'm kind of alarmed that so many of you like pineapple on your pizza, but okay whatever. 

@varimama I'm so sorry even doctors are giving you a hard time about EBF. I find it really weird when ppl criticize GOOD things: like EBF, RF carseats, etc. It sometimes makes me wonder if it's ppl feeling guilty they couldn't do the most beneficial thing or something. My mom always gives me a hard time about safe sleep habits and when I pureed DS's food instead of buying pre-made. I think she just feels bad she didn't do it for me. But I always tell her the rules were different and also I think there were less chemicals in food back when I was a baby. Plus I'm fine ha. 

@treetop19 HE CALLED YOU A 'BREEDER'? Hellllll no. I am guessing you ignored his obnoxious a$$ but I really, really wish you b*tched him out. Who the eff says that? And he clearly purposely said it loud enough for you to hear it. This makes me so rage-y. I would have then purposely had my kid fling food at his smug face. Actually I would have just done it myself. 

miss.sally

@varimama I started legitimately loling because you were talking about BFing and then said that people could suck it. 😂😂😂. 

miss.sally

My UO comes from a FB post today also. Of someone letting their dog lick their newborn in the face when they came home from the hospital. I wouldn’t even let a human kiss my newborn, let alone a dog who has been all up in his own junk... 

kantobean

@miss.sally honestly my UO is that dogs are cute but generally kind of gross/annoying. I never want to own one. I will pet them and stuff but they’re way too needy for me. And big NO to licking a newborn.

@treetop19 @silverhope I feel like a lot of people think it’s super edgy and cool to hate children and resent people who choose to have them. It’s not. Everyone was a child once so get over yourself!

stac4056

@mrsvp614 I'm team pineapple on pizza and will never hear the end from my BIL. And not sure everyone would put their child behind passenger in FF, but my DD DESTROYS DH's headrest constantly when he's in the car, kicking it forward if you wanna bring that up!! 
@varimama I thoroughly enjoyed all the BFing comments when Robin showed up in the finale looking handsome, milk does a body good!!

EmilyLove25

@varimama DD Is 4 and still rear facing in my car (she’s little). Her pediatrician said to keep holding strong. My parents and DH want to flip her. Also you are freaking awesome for extended breastfeeding. LOL to those “doctors” who are judging and the Robyn comment and LOL LOL to your response @stac4056. He did look good! 

@miss.sally My dog is like way cleaner than humans and not carrying around a bunch of nasty human viruses so IDK sounds kind of cute to me haha. That said my dog is going to be like “OMFG you are doing this again. I don’t want anything to do with that one.” Lol.

 

projectalice

@kantobean I agree, I don't much like most dogs, and absolutely no to licking any of my children in the face. Dogs eat cat poop, their own poop, vomit, they vigorously lick their own genitals... Pass!

@treetop19 that man actually loudly called you a breeder?! I would have a FIT. Who does he think he is?!! Props to you for handling his bad behavior better than I would.