Weekly Randoms 11/4-11/10

stlbuckeye132

What's on your mind?

stlbuckeye132

Hope it's ok I started this thread! I'm a very "randoms" type person, so I NEEDED it! 

My coworker just popped his head in my door and said, "congratulations!!" I immediately started blushing and wondering how on earth people already knew I was pregnant. I said, "on....?" and he basically was like, "come on! you know!" *continues blushing* ...he was talking about my football team being ranked #1. 

coffeeandcookies84

@stlbuckeye132 oh man...talk about timing!

My random is that this baby is loving taco salad 

pocketrose

@coffeeandcookies84 I was jonesing for some chipotle for lunch but am en route to the airport so had to settle for food at home womp womp.

coffeeandcookies84

@pocketrose boo!..I sent my husband to work with some homemade roasted vegetable soup.

nope not for me, taco salad everyday 

stlbuckeye132

@coffeeandcookies84 and now I want taco salad! Sounds delicious.

blaf322

As of today, my boss already knows... Just prior to my FET, I fought for a ML policy that included paid time off and the ability to take more than 6 weeks (and won) but it means a policy change for the office and everyone will have to sign. So he was asking about when is a good time to give that to the group... so I just told him b/c it was easier than dancing around the topic.

Now that the knows, I'm considering just letting my belly get really huge and not saying anything to anyone else until someone asks me 

footdrbritt

I’m in the military AND I work around radiation so I was just ‘ya’ll I’m pregnant yay for me’ 🤣🤣 
and it’s totally my excuse to wear scrubs and not my uniform. Everyone in my department knew about my IVF because my schedule was so screwed up so it is what it is now. 

Also yay for the Buckeyes being #1! 

blaf322

@footdrbritt I'm so awkward... I haaaaate announcing to coworkers because I'm super aware that they probably just don't care that much lol. Like, my pregnancy isn't really even a blip on the radar for them so I hate feeling like I'm forcing them to act excited for me.

My friend brought donuts and left them out with a note about her not being the only one to get a big belly, or something like that, for both her pregnancies. I just can't do it! When I worked from home, most didn't even know I was pregnant until I went on ML 

b_1029

@blaf322 I wish one of the managers on my team was more like that, last week he sent out an instagram worthy pic of him and his wife (that none of us know?) holding their US pic and announcing to us that they’re having a baby in May. Ok, cool??????? Lol

stlbuckeye132

@blaf322 I hated telling coworkers last time around! I told my boss, his boss, HR, and like 2 people I consider friends, and then I let the rumor mill do the rest. Just letting the belly grow without saying anything sounds like an excellent plan to me!

@footdrbritt are you a fellow Buckeye?! Did we just become best friends?? 

footdrbritt

@stlbuckeye132 yup 🤣🤣
We miss being IN Ohio so much but you know, Army life and all, at least the south has better winter weather 

dancingtreepose

My in-laws are visiting this weekend (pre-planned trip) and we aren't ready to tell them. Plus I want to tell MY mom first. I feel like they are going to know the second I decline a drink! I could say I'm dieting and laying off carbs/sugar but then I can't eat any good food  My other idea is taking a sip or two in front of them and then dumping the rest when no one is looking. 

b_1029

@dancingtreepose I’m not sure what you normally drink but I’m planning on doing grape juice at thanksgiving so no one questions it. Or sparkling grape juice! 

I can’t keep a secret after this long so we’ve already told my parents (my mom’s birthday was this week) and we’re telling DH’s parents tomorrow. It’s so early but after almost 2 years of infertility and all their support, we can’t not tell them. 

asf0613

One of my close friends is also pregnant (about 17wks) and I saw her yesterday for the first time since getting my BFP. I was Dying to tell her but feels too soon. Once I get my ultrasound done I will, and until then I feel like I want to avoid everyone!!

also on the topic of parents, and to @dancingtreepose ’s point, do you ladies plan to tell parents and in laws around the same time, or yours first?  DH wants to do same time but is it weird that I think my mom would be upset I didn’t tell her first?  Maybe it’s just my mother 😂

b_1029

@asf0613 my parents live in a different state (we told them over FaceTime) so telling at the same time isn’t really an option for us. I feel like even if we all lived in the same place, I would want to tell my parents first...no real reason, I just would. I don’t think my mom would be upset if I didn’t tell her first but she was definitely the first person I wanted to tell!

littlebug2010

@dancingtreepose I would just make some mock-tail and keep it in your fridge. This way you can continue to "drink" without anyone asking. 

We will probably tell our families around thanksgiving, as they know we are trying.  They have known about all of our losses, so it just makes sense.  We will have had 2 ultrasounds at that point anyway, so ill feel better about telling them as well. 

stlbuckeye132

@footdrbritt I'm not in Ohio anymore either, but I try to get back to visit family when I can. Lately that's only been like once/year though.

@dancingtreepose my ILs are coming to us for Thanksgiving, so we'll probably tell them in person while they're here. I have my first ultrasound the Monday before Thanksgiving though, and assuming everything looks good, I want to facetime my parents that night because I want to tell them before the ILs!  I'd prefer telling them in real life, but I won't see them until after Christmas, and I 100% won't be able to keep it a secret from my mom that long.

rachelredhead

Most of my friends know we’re doing Whole30 this month so that’s an easy lie to keep up for avoiding alcohol. I do have my bday party coming up in a couple weeks and I think I’ll just carry around a half glass of wine and take sips occasionally. I don’t have any concerns tied to a glass or two a week in the first trimester. But honestly I don’t find it appealing at all so I doubt I’d want more than a couple sips anyway.

I told my parents today and a couple of my best friends know. I will want their support if something goes wrong and they know about our prior losses. DH will tell his dad today, too. But we’ll keep it a secret from siblings and everyone else until I’m further along.

jlonie614

I have 2 friends that know mainly because our cycles were synced up and when I didn't complain about cramps, they got suspicious. Other than that, we are going to wait until about 12 weeks (around Christmas time). My biggest thought is whether to find out the gender. With our first, I was adamant about being team green, but DH really wants to know, so I don't know what to do. 

stlbuckeye132

@jlonie614 we were team green with our first too! Part of me wants to find out this time for some reason, but I think we'll probably stick with team green.

pocketrose

@asf0613 I’m telling my mom first because she’s coming for thanksgiving which is also her birthday. Going to give her a “grandma est. 2020” charm bracelet.

I am so impressed with all of you team green folks! I feel so strongly/like a control freak that the idea of not knowing something I could know for when I’m in labor does not compute lol (no shame at all to team green to be clear, really this is a self reflection of me liking to be in charge/know everything and knowing that labor is likely not a place where that is possible so if I can eliminate one surprise I will).

blaf322

@dancingtreepose get Fre (that's the brand) NA champagne. I for both this and my last pregnancy, I pre-make mimosas for myself and everyone just accepts that. And the NA champs is definitely passable. I had someone want a mimosa at a super bowl party when I was pregnant with DD and that girl was none the wiser. I don't do grape juice b/c it looks different and if anyone tastes it, they'll be on to you. 

@asf0613 - this is your news to share. Period. Share how you want. If that means telling everyone together, great. Separate, fine too. You don't need to tiptoe around others' feelings on when you told them (exception... friends/family struggling with IF... that's different than mom being mad you didn't tell her first).

surlyjaneausten

@dancingtreepose I stealthily ordered some tonic water and lime at an event last week because I knew if my friends saw that I wasn’t drinking they’d be suspicious. It’s hard being sneaky!

surlyjaneausten

@asf0613 we told my mom and mother in law together because they both came over for Halloween. My MIL doesn’t think my FIL can avoid slipping up and telling people. So it’s just them for now!

mytrueloves

Team green here too! I've wanted to be team green since my first but with her my family heavily pressured me and paid for the gender scan at a boutique (it was wrong by the way) and then with my second which was DH's first, I agreed to finding out in exchange for being team green for the rest of our pregnancies. I'm so excited to finally be able to do it! I honestly don't even want to find out right at birth either. I want to hold the baby and look at them in the face for a while before looking. I think that would be magical.

RE: telling families. We can't tell our families at the same time because they live in different states. DH and I haven't discussed it yet because he wants to wait for the ultrasound to determine whether we'll even tell anyone, but my idea is to find cute ways to tell them at Christmas. DH is anxious about it because he knows that neither side will be approving, which is a whole other thing.

My random of the day is that Mrs. Meyer's Compassion Flower cleaner made me sick and Disney's Descendants made my cry today. That's fun.

asf0613

good points by everyone!  we are fortunate that parents and in laws both live close so the more we think about it, it would be nice to tell everyone together and i wont be as paranoid about others' feelings

random of the day for me today is that i just got invited to a girls' night out next week and im already brainstorming what my mocktail will be!  im typically a wine drinker so i hope no one notices!  

stlbuckeye132

@mytrueloves wait I need to know more about the wrong scan! Did you find out it was wrong at another scan or not until she was born?

blaf322

stlbuckeye132 said:

@mytrueloves wait I need to know more about the wrong scan! Did you find out it was wrong at another scan or not until she was born?

following for this!

stlbuckeye132

Will somebody please talk some sense into me and tell me I don't need to buy the baby name book that's currently in my amazon cart? I need to slow my roll.

blaf322

stlbuckeye132 said:

Will somebody please talk some sense into me and tell me I don't need to buy the baby name book that's currently in my amazon cart? I need to slow my roll.

with all the internet has.... no. You don't need a baby name book lol

b_1029

@stlbuckeye132 I wish I could but I’ve had a secret amazon list for a long time now 😂

I made it to the gym for the first time since finding out I’m for sure pregnant on Monday. I was terrified the whole time and don’t think I’ve ever checked my HR so much. This gets easier right? 😅

stlbuckeye132

@blaf322 you're right, you're right, you're right. I know you're right.......but I just really like highlighting things in a book...

blaf322

@b_1029 oh, I definitely have a secret Amazon list for registry stuff I don't want to forget. But I definitely found sites to have so much more than books last time.

blaf322

stlbuckeye132 said:

@blaf322 you're right, you're right, you're right. I know you're right.......but I just really like highlighting things in a book...

then, girlfriend, get yourself that book! If it makes you happy, you should DEFINITELY purchase!!

footdrbritt

@stlbuckeye132 if it makes you happy, totally buy the book

rachelredhead

@stlbuckeye132 buy it!! 😁 I say this as a woman who accidentally bought Expecting Better twice this week. I ordered it Tues. Forgot. Ordered it Wednesday. Received first one yesterday, thinking it was too fast, even for prime. Ah, yes, that would be the first purchase. 🙄 When does pg brain start? 

blaf322

@rachelredhead  BTW, my good friend really recommends that. It sounds similar to the one I used too! Hopefully you like it as well!

stlbuckeye132

@blaf322 @footdrbritt @rachelredhead haha thanks for all the encouragement! I managed to just buy the things I actually needed (like my toddler's winter hat and mittens that I should've already bought), and I'm telling myself to at least wait until after my first appointment to get the book.

And @rachelredhead, you can definitely start blaming pregnancy brain now! lol

rachelredhead

@blaf322 I really enjoy it so far! I appreciate data so I’m on board with the author evaluating all the data around the pregnancy “rules” and essentially encouraging women to own their informed decision around all those rules (food, caffeine, alcohol, etc). There’s so much anecdotal and conflicting opinions around, it’s helpful for me as a decision-making tool. 😁 It also helps to just see data around risk levels because I do have that lovely PGAL brain. 

coffeeandcookies84

@rachelredhead oh I also just ordered that book! Mine isn’t here yet though 😩

@stlbuckeye132 buy the book!