Weekly Randoms w/o 11/4

varimama

What’s going on this week? 

miss.sally

It turned winter here in PA. I’m happy that we got a few weeks of Fall, but I wasn’t quiiiiiite ready for the freezing temps. I’m also in shock with how soon Thanksgiving is and then Christmas and then it feels like I’ll blink and baby will be here! This time of year always flies! So much shopping to do! 

EmilyLove25

@miss.sally OMG winter here too... and like legit winter on Thursday/Friday. I'm hoping we get some more 50s+ days after that... Also I'm torn between thinking OMG it is almost Thanksgiving and the holidays go so fast to worrying about how interminable January/February (already sort of blah months) will feel??? 

kagesstarshroom

@miss.sally I feel like winter's coming early in a lot of places. We usually have long, beautiful falls in Louisiana & then a tiny short time of colder temps, but I feel like we're already leaning towards colder temps. Wahhh.

silverhope

Why will my toddler not sleep? I’m leaving him in there another hour. Gtf to sleep, baby. 

varimama

It’s turning into winter here too 😢 Fall is always too short! 

@silverhope I’m sorry your toddler won’t sleep, mine has been ok today so far but the last month or so he’s fought sleep so bad. He’s obviously tired so I don’t get the sleep fighting.  

stassischroeder

@silverhope is he on 1 nap per day? What's his bed time and wake time for nights?

silverhope

@stassischroeder he is on one nap. His schedule is a freaking nightmare the past few weeks. He stays up babbling to himself sometimes until midnight. I put him down for his nap five hours after he wakes up.

sometimes he’s out quickly and sometimes it takes 2 hours. He is usually babbling happily away in there, just won’t sleep.

I am hoping this is a phase. He finally went down today. But now he probably won’t go down for bed until crazy late. Bah. 

He went to sleep at 7 yesterday bc he skipped his nap and then slept until 7:30 this morning. And then he didn’t go down for his nap until 3 pm. I dunno what is up with him. 

creativesoul63

Winter is here too! It was literally 70 degrees on Halloween and then on 11/1 it was 55, and only going to be in the 40s this weekend. I still love this time of year though, all the holidays and comfy clothes make the cold bearable. I agree with @EmilyLove25 though, Jan/Feb are like never ending for me (I get the winter blues) and I feel like being huge and impatiently waiting for baby will make it worse. Luckily it is my birthday in January and DH’s birthday in February with our shower somewhere in between!

stassischroeder

Weird! At least he's happily babbling and not fussing. Naps and bedtime at this age are so tough. It feels like there's such a narrow window to get it right so that it doesn't eff up bedtime. 

dunder_mifflin

The daylight savings has messed me up! I can’t believe it’s dark at 5pm, what’s happening?! Work is so busy I can barely cope but I can only do so much with dwindling resources
Im so pumped for Christmas though! Then January and February will be exciting as we wait for lil’ miss to make her debut.

miss.sally

@dunder_mifflin I agree. Christmas will be so awesome and then hopefully waiting for the babe will make Jan and February go a bit faster than usual. 

kantobean

I’m already over winter. Blah! But H and I are thinking about taking a weekend get away over my birthday (right after Christmas) so that might be fun.

lemonlove86

Count me in for being over winter too- it snowed at least 3 inches here on Halloween!! So random. 

EmilyLove25

@kantobean Can I ask when your birthday is since you say right after Xmas? Poor DS was born on December 26th, and I'm so worried about what a bummer that is going to be hahaha.

miss.sally

@EmilyLove25 my BFF’s sister has a Dec 26th birthday, and she never seemed to mind much. They always did a really good job of completely separating her gifts and having family over specifically for her bday and not a combined thing. I think it’s what you make it though! And obviously depends on the kid and their attitude. 

miss.sally

I cannot shake the tired today. I’m putting DD down for a nap currently and I’m going to sleep with him, despite having a lot to do around the house. 

H has been in a terrible mood for days now and I’m so sick of walking on eggshells. It’s causing me major Stress and anxiety and I’m thinking that’s why I’m feeling kinda down in the dumps/sleepy. 

silverhope

@miss.sally that sucks about YH. Is something going on for him (fam or work) or is he just grumpy? I get more depressed in the winter and sometimes inadvertently take it out on DH. I’m sorry he’s causing you more stress. You have enough going on. 

Edit: acronyms... bah. 

kagesstarshroom

@miss.sally I felt so super tired yesterday? IDK if it was the weather or what, but no matter what I did in the morning/afternoon, it was yawn central! I yawned just now thinking about it haha.

AFM, I went to my first prenatal yoga class last night (a series of one of three!) and it was so magical and perfect and good and everything I needed. I am NOT the best at yoga, so I don't love going to classes, but I feel like no one is really judging you when you are pregnant. It felt so wildly empowering to be in a room full of other pregnant women! I feel like I just talked about this briefly in the Group 3 check-in, but wanted to talk more about it here. 

I am in my student office hours now, and usually no one comes, but for the next three office hours blocks I have, students are scheduled to come by every fifteen minutes, which is annoying bc I can't really Get Anything Done in the short in-between times when I am just...waiting for students. Except, like, jump on TB/check my social media. 

I taught from this super controversial text today in my women's lit class, so that was cool. I would love to teach a class where we read texts by women that address sex/sexuality/topics like that through the whole semester. There's a class next semester on motherhood and lit that... I kind of want to audit while I still can haha. But then I also don't want to feel obligated at all to be on campus ever next semester, esp. since my assistantship allows me to not have to be on any regular basis.

EmilyLove25

@kagesstarshroom I need to know what text you taught??!?!?!? Also I have tons of student meetings today too. But I have a nice break now to eat yay!
@miss.sally I had that tired you can't shake feeling all weekend. I really hated it. I hope your nap helps. Also boo DH. I loathe when DH is moody.

kagesstarshroom

@EmilyLove25 They read from this novel called Tampa by Alissa Nutting? If you... look up a description you will see why it's so controversial. It's basically a gender-swapped Lolita set in the 21st century... Oh yay, food break! I had to eat really quickly in like 15 mins., and allll my upcoming office hours are like that over the next week/so. Blargh.

miss.sally

Omg you guys. I woke up from my nap feeling a bit better. And then... my phone rang. It was the heart monitoring company. Calling to activate my monitor. That I’ve been wearing for a FCKING WEEK. That they said they activated when I called to effing activate it last effing week. Can you tell I’m pissed?! Omfg. I’m ready to call the doctor and be like ok I’ll wear it for one more week but no way I’m wearing it for another two more. It’s annoying as hell and my skin is raw from the electrodes. Not to mention the cords that run all over my belly. Whatever is going on obviously isn’t life threatening. I’m over it. And this day. 

And for those of you asking about my grumpy H, he just gets in these moods every few weeks and I have to wait for them to go away. Male PMS I’m guessing? I dunno. He’s a butt. 

treetop19

@miss.sally, what a bummer about the monitor!   Idk, men are weird sometimes.  My DH was all angry at me last night because we had a stupid disagreement about how much pizza DD ate... lol... then this morning he sent me a sweet text when I was sure he was still mad at me.   WTF.  I think he gets PMS as well.

silverhope

@miss.sally omg WTF on your heart monitoring company. I would be livid. Yea one more week tops. Seriously what are they doing? How inept can you be?

kantobean

@EmilyLove25 mine is dec 29. I love it! I never half to work on my birthday since I’m a teacher.

@miss.sally wtf! I’d be pissed!

dunder_mifflin

@miss.sally @silverhope lol i think a study came out not too long ago that showed males have monthly mood fluctuations that are hormonal and akin to something like “male PMS” hahah so yes you are correct. It’s them PMSing.

@miss.sally I’m so frustrated on your behalf with the heart monitor!

varimama

@miss.sally Wtf on the heart monitor company! I’m sorry you’re having to deal with all that!

kagesstarshroom

@miss.sally For a while, I thought MH had BPD because he gets into these moods too, but he started seeing a therapist (back when we could afford it) and she thought it was PTSD episodes from him being abused in his youth. It took me so long to get him to see someone, but I'm so glad we did. He takes Zoloft now and is so, so, so much better bc Zolofy helps with his depression AND pain management. He also doesn't drink as much, which truly helps. I'm only saying all this bc I was like "yeah he is just moody" for so long, until I started to realize he had certain triggers--and I wished I hadn't written it off at first. 

ETA: fix tag

mrsvp614

@kagesstarshroom @miss.sally Zoloft has made a world of difference for my DH too. His anxiety was taking a toll and although it's a small dosage, he's far less moody now. 

stassischroeder

@kagesstarshroom @miss.sally @mrsvp614 zoloft makes a huge difference for me. When DH and I first started dating he didn't understand why I (or anyone) would need to take it. Then he witnessed me going off of it a few times.... now he's a firm believer. I explain it to people like this: a clinically depressed/anxious person needs meds like a diabetic needs insulin. 

Of course not all cases of anxiety or depression are the same, and different meds work best for different people, but I really try to help decrease the negative stigma surrounding mental health issues and meds used for these issues. 

miss.sally

@mrsvp614 and @kagesstarshroom there is unfortunately NO way H would ever see a therapist. I think he would benefit greatly from one (I think everyone would benefit, truly). He’s one of those people who think mental illness isn’t a real thing and it’s really infuriating. I’ve stopped trying to argue though because he’s also one of those “I’m right and that’s that” type of people. With everything.  So either I just accept and move on or we argue and I get upset and he doesn’t care. 🤷🏼‍♀️ 

mrsvp614

@miss.sally My husband was actually the same, but after almost 9 years, he was finally convinced to see a general practitioner, and he brought it up there. I was there too, and added things like, "He gets physically ill, like an upset stomach, when he's dealing with stress from work." I think his dad's cancer and realizing his mom needs to be treated for anxiety gave him a little push. 
I feel your pain though. I think both our husbands are stubborn and we have to wait around until they convince themselves that something was their idea. 

miss.sally

@mrsvp614 that gives me hope. It’s definitely difficult, and I’ve had plenty of times where I feel like throwing the towel in because I get so frustrated with always being wrong despite having hard evidence to prove myself. It’s just ridiculous. I’m fairly certain he has narcissistic personality also but there’s NO way I could bring that up to him. My own therapist agreed with me just based on what I’ve told her, but that’s one sided so obviously I’m a little biased. Lol

silverhope

@miss.sally I'm sorry. It really sucks that you have to be the bigger person when he is having one of his moody episodes, especially while pregnant. DH cuts me a lot of slack while pregnant bc I am irrationally upset more than usual. I would have a hard time being the bigger person if DH was being a moody jerk right now. 

kagesstarshroom

@miss.sally MH heard a radio program about BPD, and that's what made him realize he might have it-- you never know what might trigger a new understanding of the self!

stac4056

@miss.sally SO frustrating, I cannot believe that!!!

treetop19

well.. got some icky news from my work.. my health insurance is changing in January and my premiums are going way up - like 200 more a month, and the coverage is much less.       It's getting to the point where family coverage is almost unaffordable... I love working from home, but I might have to find another job after LO is born because I can't afford for insurance to go up this much every year.. sigh.

kantobean

@treetop19 I’m sorry! That stinks. My insurance went up significantly this year and they’re covering less (didn’t even cover my flu shot! Had to be taken from my deductible!). I’m going to look into going on H’s work insurance, or at least putting both kids on it.

guys, I had a crazy vivid dream last night that baby was here! And she was like four months old! And she looked IDENTICAL to DD! And I was for some reason still keeping her name a secret from the world 😂 (we haven’t selected a name for sure but we’re determined to keep all name ideas secret from family/friends until baby arrives).

kagesstarshroom

@kantobean Aw I like your vivid dream! I had vivid ones two nights in a row that I mostly forget, except the first night it was really scary so I remember the scary part! Also, I am team no-one-gets-to-know-any-possible-names-sorry-not-sorry as well.

I am on campus, and I stupidly left some blank space in my student conferencing schedule which means I have to stay on campus LONGER bc I didn't get them over with sooner. It's fine. I am getting some grading in now during the lull, I am just all like #dumb #pregnancybrain over here. ALSO, one of the people with the office down the hall has a huge bowl of candy on her desk that I became aware of on Tuesday and I am dying for her to get back from her break so I can steal some candy. I am super full but neeeeeeed candy. Send candy.

silverhope

@treetop19 that a huge increase in your health insurance cost! That's awful. I'm sorry. 

lemonlove86

@treetop19 I'm so sorry to hear that! Does your spouse's insurance fare any better for family plans?