WRW November 2019

jackie_dunny

***General TW that this thread might contain discussions mentioning MC and loss.*** 

Welcome to Waiting Room Wednesday! You can express your thoughts, feelings, and frustrations on not TTC and connect with others who are in the same boat. TTC can be a long journey, and having to wait makes it feel even longer -- even if it is for a good reason. 

I invite you to resurrect this thread at any point in the month if you have something to say. Treat this like an ongoing conversation. 
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When do you think you will start TTC? 

What brings you to WRW?

Any R/R?

GTKY: Where did you get married? If you’re not married, where are you hoping to get married? 

jackie_dunny

When do you think you will start TTC? November 2020

What brings you to WRW? Thinking about babies. All. The. Time. 

Any R/R? This is kind of a joint rant rave I suppose? So I’m still suffering severely from depression and anxiety but I went to the doctors recently and I’ve been signed off of work for almost a month. Well, 3 weeks and then I go on an already signed off vacation to Disneyland Paris. So I’m happy I can take these few weeks and just focus on myself. 

GTKY: Where did you get married? If you’re not married, where are you hoping to get married? My parents have a beautiful 30 acre property in Tennessee so we got married there in a field surrounded by trees and that long wheat-like grass with a view of the Smokey Mountains.  It was stunning. And I love that we can go back there and when we have kids we can tell them it’s where their mom and dad got married which is really special. We also planted a tree during our ceremony so it can grow there over the years and our kids can climb in it and such. 

duck_duck_goose

@jackie_dunny yay for time vacationing in Disneyland! But I am sorry about the circumstances of your prolonged time away from work. 

When do you think you will start TTC? 
Either December or, more likely, January. 

What brings you to WRW?
Like minded ladies who wanna talk about babies because my husband doesn’t wanna right now. 

Any R/R?
Rant: my kitchen flooded 3 months ago. My 2 DSs, MH, all three dogs, my cat and I have been staying at my parents house for 3 months with my parents and my sisters. I.am.done. The contractor keeps pushing our move in date back. If I don’t get back in my house this week like he promised I will snap. 

GTKY: Where did you get married? If you’re not married, where are you hoping to get married? 

We got married at a building called the academy. I honestly couldn’t tell you the history of the building. I was like a 3rd choice, but it was perfect. 

jackie_dunny

@duck_duck_goose oh my goodness that would be driving me up a wall! I hope you get to be back in your house this week! Ain’t it funny how things work out that way re: it being your 3rd choice but being perfect anyway

darkrose88

@duck_duck_goose oh my! hopefully you get your house back this week! I'd be reallllly upset if I were in your shoes. 

@jackie_dunny MH suffers from depression & anxiety, so I understand how hard it can be to cope with everyday life while depressed and anxious. I really hope the time off will get you in a better mental place. But Disneyland Paris sounds like fun! Will you get to explore France while you're there, or are you just staying at Disney?     

When do you think you will start TTC? Sept 2020

What brings you to WRW? Thinking about babies, and expanding my current family

Any R/R? Rant and Rave I suppose? DH and I had a long talk about TTC recently and came to the decision we needed to wait until next year to start trying for a second. This saddens me because I would have loved for it to be sooner but I know from a practical stand point waiting is for the best. DS will be older, and further along in his development, so we will be in a better place to handle a second child. Also, unexpected expenses (see below rant) came up so we need the money for other areas of our life. 
Definitely a rant: We have a brick veneer on the side of our house, and because they people who installed it didn't do a good job, it is slowly getting water damage... well last week part of the siding completely collapsed. We got a brick mason out (where we found out about the water damage and bad install) and we pretty much have to replace the entire house. This is going to be very costly... the only bright side is the brick veneer was very dated looking so I am happy to give our house a face lift. I just wish we could have saved up for it first.   

GTKY: Where did you get married? If you’re not married, where are you hoping to get married? I got married at a Community Arts Center about 30 mins from our house. The ceremony was held in an art gallery, and the reception was held in a hall. It fit perfectly with our theme (books) and budget. 

ktbkitten

When will you TTC? Maybe May 2020. It depends on daycare for my 4yo but that is the earliest. 

What brings you to WRW? Looking for others that have babies on their mind seemingly 24/7 🤯

Any R/R? Kind of dumb but I don’t feel like I can express it elsewhere. My closet coworker’s wife and my best friend are both expecting girls. I’m so happy for them, but I’m also so jealous. I have two DS and if I would have a third that would be great. It wasn’t until my best friend found out she was having a girl that I started feeling like I really wanted a girl over a boy. I’m already upset about it and it’s so dumb! I’m not even trying yet but I’m already positive I’ll have a boy and then I’ll be disappointed and then I’ll feel horrible. Ugh! 

GTKY: Where did you get married? We got married at a place called Roop’s Mill. It’s an old house with the original farm, mill, and bridge. Beautiful place. It’s the last place I looked and we just pulled in there on a whim. Fell in love with the location. 

jackie_dunny

@darkrose88 no, we have both been to Paris so we will just be staying at Disney. I’m so sorry about your house and the TTC delay. That must be so stressful but good for you on staying positive and looking at the bright side of a face lift. I love that you got married in an art gallery! That’s so unique and lovely! 

@ktbkitten welcome! I’m sorry that you have babies on the mind and are surrounded by pregnancy and that you’re feeling worried about your third. 

bserena

When do you think you will start TTC? Hopefully sometime in 2020, all depends on us being able to buy our first home. Our struggle currently is my credit, but we are getting there!

What brings you to WRW? Wanting to talk with others who are excited to start trying and have baby fever like me

Any R/R? Rant: This home buying process is so crazy. It is taking us way longer than we imagined and it is very frustrating. We planned on just using my husbands credit, but with his student loans they are now saying it is best to add mine in as well. We are getting there though!

GTKY: Where did you get married? If you’re not married, where are you hoping to get married? We got married in a beautiful historic chapel and had our reception in a nearby hotel ballroom. It was amazing!

jackie_dunny

Hi and welcome! It would be a good idea to change your username so we can easily tag you and get to know you better. You can do this by logging in to the knot, changing your username and logging back out. I think you have to logout and log back in again on the bump after that. 

I think there here are a fair few of us who will be TTC around the end of 2020 so welcome aboard the long wait! I hope the house issue goes along quicker and easier than you think! 

darkrose88

@ktbkitten Welcome! I totally get the jealousy around having a little girl. I love my son so much but I'd love a baby girl. DH only wants two, so if it also ends up being a boy I will be so disappointed. When we found out we were have a boy for the first one, I was really sad, because I had wanted a girl for my first. I've obviously moved past it, but I think knowing it might be my last (unless I convince DH otherwise), it'll be worse. FX when you have baby #3, it'll be a little girl and you won't have to worry about those feelings of disappointment. 

@bcrystal1012 Welcome! We went through the home buying process about 3 years ago - and I totally agree, it the worst. I remember being so stressed during the time! Hopefully it moves along quickly and doesn't drag on.  

ktbkitten

@bcrystal1012 we just bought our house two years ago this past September. Purchasing a home is SO MUCH STRESS! This was actually our second time looking for a home. The first time we looked we lost on every offer or turned out there were serious issues with the house. Then we found a historic house that we loved in our price range, put in an offer on Sunday and DH lost his job on Monday. We had to pull out our offer. It was horrible. Our first year of marriage was pretty rough. I got so tired of the saying about the first year being the honeymoon period. This time around everything just fell into place. Trust that it will happen. 

Thank you for the welcome everyone. @darkrose88 DH now thinks we will have a girl as does our four year old. I love my sons but I’m trying to already accept that there is a very good chance we will have a boy and once he gets here I will love him and he will be everything I’ve wanted. I actually felt bad today because there is a lot of excitement around me having another baby but everyone is excited with the idea it could be a little girl. I feel bad because the baby isn’t even here yet and it has some high expectations! I am the only girl on both mine and DH family. Totaling 6 boys plus two step brothers! Surprisingly I was a bit of a tomboy 😂😂

bserena

@ktbkitten Thank you for your insight! I know that it will happen, it just really is so much stress to deal with. And we want to start trying, but have agreed we won't until we are in our own home so it just adds another layer of stress to it all. However, I know it'll be worth it in the end! Also, I am the exact opposite, I want a boy but we are a family of girls! I have two beautiful step daughters (13 year old twins), and I am one of three girls. My mom is one of three girls too! So hoping we have a boy but most likely that won't be the case. Oh well! We will be over the moon regardless!

leahrnmom

Not even sure if we will ttc again but I can't stop thinking about being pregnant again and giving birth again. I love being pregnant and feeling so strong after. I don't know if that means I want another baby or just want to be pregnant. I think I do want another baby but not until a bit after my littlest turns two, so Jan 2021 I'd like to ttc if we decide to.

Having somewhere to talk about babies and pregnancy without actually being pregnant.

Not really any rants or raves!

Got married at a church my grandparents attend and and our reception was at an old barn that's converted to venue space  

bserena

@leahrnp Welcome! I agree, it is nice to have a space to talk about babies and pregnancy. I lurk the TTGP board and the BMBs, and I can't wait to get started on the journey myself.

leahrnmom

@bcrystal1012 me too. I've been lurking a ton on the bmb!