Weekly Randoms w/o 8.26

bygodsgrace20

@mrsc918 feels incredible to know you’re not alone. This first trimester does suck. I guess when we were TTC all I could think about was pregnancy glow, growing a tiny human in me, and holding my belly with a gleeful smile on my face. While that does happen, sadly most days I’m counting down till I feel better! People don’t make it easier by saying “it just gets worse” or “you’re gonna feel sick for the next 18 years of your life”. I prayed and prayed for this child. My DH told me month after month it’ll happen when it’s our time. When people are so negative it’s hard to focus on the positive. 

miss.sally

@bygodsgrace20 I know 100% how you’re feeling. We dealt with years of infertility before DS and then I ended up having a terrible pregnancy. Bad morning sickness and they a whole slew of other issues throughout. It was awful. I had a very difficult time feeling thankful and then guilty for not enjoying every moment of it. I internalized most of my feelings because I didn’t want to sound ungrateful for the baby I had wanted for so long. But please know we are here to vent to, and I won’t judge you for your feelings!!

treetop19

@bygodsgrace20,  I feel you.  When you feel so sick in the first trimester, it's hard to really focus on anything else other than wishing you felt better.   are you a FTM?   I know when I was a FTM, I expected pregnancy to be much easier than it was - then came the morning sickness, the back pain, ect, ect.    I also expected the newborn phase (and breastfeeding!) to be much easier than it was.   I can remember holding my DD as a newborn and bawling my eyes out because breastfeeding wasn't going so well, and I felt like a complete failure.  Now, as a third time mom... I can tell you that I still don't like pregnancy, or the newborn phase. at all.      The only reason I put myself through it all is because I love the end result - the babies/children.  My kids themselves made it all worth it in the end.  But dang, I did not like them sometimes as newborns, after getting zero sleep for the umpteenth night in a row. And morning sickness is the worst.  So hang in there.  It's worth it, I promise.

dckateh

@bygodsgrace20 , I was there too, I felt very similar during my last pregnancy. This is my second and the ONLY reason I was willing to do this whole thing again is that she turned two and became awesome. I loved her, of course, but I really didn't like being a mom until she hit two. Breastfeeding was hard, pumping was horrible, maternity leave was lonely, and once I went back to work I just wanted to come home and be by myself for just a little bit! I even went to see a therapist about it because I felt like there was something wrong with me. She told me that the early stages weren't my favorite and that was fine. Now that she can talk and has opinions and likes to do stuff she is just a blast! I LOVE spending time with her and she's just so delightful and loving and fun. I will willingly go through that first year and half of so to get another two year old. If the bond/bliss doesn't happen for you immediately or even soon, IT'S OK and it doesn't make you a bad mom!

Malidocious

@miss.sally YES TO A FALL DECOR GTKY THREAD!  Autumn is my absolute favorite season and I love all things fall decor, food, festivities, etc.  

@bygodsgrace20 @mrsc918 It's completely understandable to feel the way you're feeling.  I didn't start to feel excited about my pregnancy until this week (and even now it's back and forth with sheer panic and cluelessness) and I'm 12 weeks along.  It's a scary and completely life-altering thing.  Take it all at your own pace; you're going to be a wonderful mother.

dunder_mifflin

I’m down for a general decor GTKY - I live and breathe interior decor, I love it so much! I don’t decorate for fall as much but I do for Halloween and my all-time favorite: CHRISTMAS🎄 

miss.sally

@dunder_mifflin I always say fall is my favorite time to decorate until I get my Christmas stuff out. I have a slight addiction (well over 25 trees - most of them tiny), and probably about 7 bins worth of Christmas decor. It’s bad. But I cannot help myself. Every season I end up adding to it also.

I’ll start a thread tomorrow!! 

dunder_mifflin

@miss.sally oh my goodness I would LOVE to see the Christmas stuff! We decorated our small apartment really well and I can’t wait to expand it all with our new house! DH is going to have to hold me back

miss.sally

@dunder_mifflin that’s what happened here. We got a new house (three and a half years ago now) and I’ve just gone crazy decorating it. I never felt very inspired in our townhouse but it’s so much fun here. 

varimama

I really need to get better about decorating. We have a few Christmas things but I want to do seasonal, it just never seems prioritized...

miss.sally

@varimama it’s definitely a process. The getting everything out is always fun but I loathe putting it all away. It takes forever. I’m usually so over it by the end of Christmas that I barely put out anything for spring and summer. 

dunder_mifflin

@miss.sally I agree! It takes time and I always play Christmas music and decorate and spend weeks tweaking it all. We have it up late November because we are so eager and excited and DH loves it so much I can’t convince him to take it down until mid to late January and by then I’m over it. We have a deal where I run Christmas decor, DH is in charge of Halloween since that’s his favourite. 

miss.sally

@dunder_mifflin I usually start getting my Christmas stuff out during the first week of November. I know it’s totally insane. But I won’t actually decorate the tree until after Thanksgiving. Lol

Malidocious

Oh I put my Christmas stuff up on November 1st, lol!  I would do it in October but I love Halloween enough to let that holiday ride out all the way now, lol.

Fall/Autumn into Christmas is my ultimate favorite time of the year.  I wish I could keep the house decorated for festivities year round!

dunder_mifflin

Haha @Malidocious I’m with you! I have to push it back to mid November or else I know I’ll get sick of it by mid January and I love to hold on the Christmas for dear life when it’s done 😂

miss.sally

I have a cold/cough (thank you DD and first week of school germs), and it is NOT helping the RLP. Also got zero sleep because of it last night. I’m taking DS to a bounce place this morning so that he can get out energy with minimal effort on my part. I look like the walking dead. 

stassischroeder

I'm the anti-decorator. Not because I don't enjoy how it looks, but more because I can't fathom spending money (and energy) on it I'm jealous of everyone whose houses look super cute and festive during holidays!

@miss.sally ugh. First trimester is sh*tty enough without being sick on top of it. Godspeed my friend.



Is anyone else slightly freaked out that there are now 2 BMBs open after ours? 

mrsvp614

@stassischroeder I thought the same thing about the other BMBs. I can't believe I'm already ending the first trimester! I feel like I should be "savoring" this pregnancy more, in case it's my last. 

silverhope

@stassischroeder yea my lazy butt is not decorating. DH is actually the one who makes us get, put up, and decorate the Christmas tree. I will want to do it when DS is bigger and gets excited about it, but I honestly thought it was a waste of time and money last year even though it was DS's first Christmas. I might be the laziest person ever though...

stassischroeder

@silverhope our tree is a pre-lit artificial, so many years we've just put that up and called it good. No ornaments or anything! Last year was DS's first Christmas so we actually put a few ornaments on the tree, but I agree that I'll have a hard time getting excited about doing it until the kids are.

miss.sally

@stassischroeder we have an artificial tree also. We started out with no ornaments but we have made it a tradition now that every time we go to a new place (as a couple or as a family) we get a new ornament. I write the year on it with a sharpie and it’s SO cool to see that every ornament has a story, and the kids will hopefully y’all about the trips we’ve taken together every time we unpack the box. I don’t do the whole “color coordinated tree” thing. Lol. 

dunder_mifflin

@miss.sally I love that! My Christmas tree was like that growing up! I have a colour scheme now I do go by, but I just put the “off theme” ones in the back 😂 I’m a Monica from friend when it comes to decorating for Christmas (think when she turned the tree!) I’m sure this will ease up when we have little ones!

DH and I didn’t have a tree topper for so long - we have a cute pencil tree from our apartment -  and then we found the perfect one that’s so us since we love sloths (new have loved them before they become stupid popular and everywhere). I just love holiday decorating so much! I want to get a fuller, flocked tree this year but DH loves our tree and is so attached. I may put this one in our bedroom/ second floor

lm45678

I love everyone who decorate and makes their house look great! I’m always so jealous. I’m not great at it and like @stassischroeder can’t imagine spending all the time and money on it. But i will definitely admire everyone’s photos!

Also, is there any better feeling than taking your bra off after a long day? 🙌🏻

miss.sally

Ughhhhh I started throwing up again today. I’m 13.5 weeks. What gives?! It’s like my body has gotten used to the unisom and b6 and it doesn’t do anything now.

Ideas anyone? I’m starting to get nervous that baby isn’t getting enough from me. Now that he’s getting bigger and requires more. I may call my OB this week and ask for suggestions, but I’m feeling like I’ve tried a lot of things. Blah! I just want to eat again. I miss food. 

silverhope

@miss.sally my friend had HG and could only eat bagels for 20+ weeks and her baby (now 5 yo) is fine. I’ve heard the fetus will suck you dry. So I’d be more worried about yourself and staying hydrated and not woozy. The baby will suck the nutrients out of your reserves. I still think it’s a good idea to check with the doctor for your own sake and wellbeing though. Maybe they can offer some other medicine that can help with the nausea so you can take care of yourself. 

lm45678

@miss.sally i was vomiting until about 26 weeks with my first and lived in bagels, clementines, Gatorade and protein pasta. She was 8lbs4oz and totally healthy. As @silverhope said, she asked me dry though! I felt terrible!! When I went to my dentist a few months after delivering he mentioned that my teeth seemed weaker and some enamel seemed to be missing (obviously some from vomiting) but the baby literally started stripping my teeth and probably my bones for nutrients 😭

So take care of yourself! But don’t worry, that baby will be fine!

silverhope

@laurenm2123 I had a fitness instructor who told me her little girl ruined her teeth when she was pregnant too! Ah. 

stassischroeder

@miss.sally I puked this morning, and I'm about 13.5 weeks. Luckily for me it was just water, but yeah, I took for granted that I'd be over the puking by this point. 

wednesdayschild

@stassischroeder and @miss.sally, add me to the puking again train at 14+1. Although mine was entirely hubris, thinking I could get away from meds “because the second tri is magical.” 🥴

Hope y’all are feeling a little better! 

jenEP

@miss.sally will your doctor prescribe Zofran. That's what all my friends who've had severe MS have taken and sworn by.