Week 6

lacielay4

Heart rate 115 😊

stassischroeder

Congrats and all, but



Please read this and intro here if you'd like to be a part of this community.  

varimama

We have a pinned thread for ultrasounds, please use that thread. One off threads are discouraged because they clutter the board and make it hard to find threads. There are so many of us imagine if we all posted individual u/s pics. 

EmilyLove25

Is it a boy or a girl?

silverhope

@EmilyLove25 you can’t tell from the skull theory? Amateur. 

keeksie84

@silverhope and @EmilyLove25 oh, BTW can you Ramzi me? 

EmilyLove25

@keeksie84 I can Ramzi you if you make a one off post with an ENORMOUS ultrasound with all your personal information on it. Deal?

babyfox320

And you wonder why the boards have been silent lately.
@lacielay4 don't worry about it, I hope the rude reactions dont discourage you from sharing or reaching out further. It honestly disgusts me to see grown women being rude to others. We are suppose to build each other up not put each other down. @varimama thank you for giving a respectable response and not attacking another member for a mistake. 

EmilyLove25

@babyfox320 I always appreciate someone defending someone who is being attacked, so that's a good thing. And I certainly don't mean to be rude; it's just that... we know where these go and have seen 1000s of them over the years.

That said, certainly @lacielay4 You should intro yourself, find your due date week on here, and come on in, especially if you are a first time mom. So many women on here have so many useful tips, and it's always good to have other women with whom you can commiserate and celebrate!

silverhope

@babyfox320 I really don’t see any blatant rudeness here. Just some jokes about one off posters asking about ultrasounds...which is unfortunately common on The Bump and shows that the OPs didn’t take the time to read any of the board before making a post all about themselves.

My guess is that like most one off posters she will never even come back to see the responses to this thread. She hasn't been active since she posted (you can see her activity if you click her screen name). 

mrsc918

@babyfox320 I totally agree. I am tired of seeing girls jump down people’s throats like this (mind you it’s usually the same people)...the rude GIFs need to STOP! And you may think your jokes are funny but an innocent person that simply just doesn’t know how this app works yet prob takes it personal! It’s one thing to educate, it’s another thing to bully. Knock it off! 

stassischroeder

@babyfox320 @mrsc918


1. there's a reason there's a 3 day waiting period to post anything when you create an account: you're supposed to lurk and learn the guidelines/culture of the boards before posting erroneously. 
2. those who don't lurk and learn the organization and culture before posting are, historically, drive-by participators who just want to use us as google, don't want to become part of a community of support, and never show their face again. You'll say "well maybe they never come back because you're rude!" to which I'll say "Not usually. You can see the last time they logged in and, with most one-off or drive-by posters, the last time they logged in is when they posted their one-off." 
3. some of the best community members are the ones who respond to being called out with grace, learn the rules, and start participating in a meaningful way. 
4. there are thousands of other pregnancy sites that encourage a free-for-all, chaotic board. This doesn't happen to be one of them. 
5. stick around and actually participate in the boards for 2+ years (I see you're both new in the last couple of months) and you'll likely come to understand where myself and a lot of the other regulars are coming from. This is our home, and we're fiercely protective of our friends and our safe place. 


Or, you know, continue to fight a losing battle. Your choice. 

keeksie84

Andplusalso, you wouldn't go into a restaurant you've never been to before and shout out your order before taking a moment to figure out how things are done. Is it counter service? Do you need to be seated by a hostess? You'd likely be heckled by other patrons (or at least laughed at quietly) if you did.

The guidelines/culture of this board reflect years of BMBs that have come before. They are held up by members who request that new users simply read the rules before doing whatever the eff they want. If you don't like the structure here, as @stassischroeder said, there are so many other options for you. With that being said, I challenge you to hop on BabyCenter and find the same sense of community that you'll find here. You will undoubtedly find uncropped ultrasounds and a rainbow of crotch snot photos, so enjoy. 

mrsc918

@stassischroeder @keeksie84 Neither of us said anything about not liking the structure or not agreeing with it. We simply said stop being mean girls. Educate politely and be welcoming like @varimama. I’m sorry if that’s too much to ask for from us newcomers lol

stassischroeder

@keeksie84

stassischroeder

mrsc918 said:

@stassischroeder @keeksie84 Neither of us said anything about not liking the structure or not agreeing with it. We simply said stop being mean girls. Educate politely and be welcoming like @varimama. I’m sorry if that’s too much to ask for from us newcomers lol

Much easier said than done when you've only witnessed 1 or 2 drive-bys. Educating politely is no problem with newcomers like you who have obviously made an effort to read the room and learn the organization. Stick around long enough and you'll grow tired of politely educating people left and right (you'll see I've done this at least 5 times in the last week or so). Especially when they don't ever come back to check their thread anyway. So, a lot of us choose to have some fun and snark. It's not for everyone, but neither is TB. We're more science, snark, and truth than rainbows and unicorns here.