Weekly Randoms 7/22-7/28

momoftoddlers

Drop this week’s random thoughts here. 

momoftoddlers

Well it was an eventful weekend for me. Ended up in the ER for some awful GI stuff. I’m headed to the gastroenterologist today, but it looks like I’ve got IBS/IBD. So that should be fun. 😩 

In positive news, we ended up having an ultrasound while I was there and our little nugget was measuring at 7 weeks with a strong heartbeat. So, thank God at least my issues don’t seem to be affecting the baby. 

I rested a lot yesterday and I’m hoping to get back into the swing of everyday life today.

kailanae

Very nice weekend here!  Spent Saturday in my coworker's pool with my family and some other coworkers.  Since we work from home, we don't see each other much, so it was nice to catch up.  Then Sunday we had a little birthday party for DS1 and DH.  We shared the news about being pregnant with the folks there, and they were all excited.  DS1 basically ran across the room yelling "there is a baby in mommy's belly!" then DS2 repeated "mommy belly!"  it was pretty adorable.

Tonight we have a birthday party for a girl from DS1's preschool class.  DS1 is not very physically coordinated, and the party is at a trampoline park.  I'm a bit anxious to see how it goes!

kagesstarshroom

@momoftoddlers I have IBS-D--no fun. I know you're going to see a GI, but I can't help but recommend an elimination diet? I know what it is, for the most part, that makes me get sick, and by avoiding those ingredients, I feel like I'm way more on top of my problems than ppl w/ IBS who don't know what makes them sick. There are other times it's unavoidable & seems to be tipped off by, like, hormones, but I've been fine this PG so far, and I'm glad to hear your u/s went well!

stassischroeder

@momoftoddlers oooooffff that sounds rough! But I'm so glad your nugget is looking good!

@kailanae glad you had a nice weekend!


AFM, this morning our giant dog jumped on our bed after being outside in the wet/muddy yard. Of course I JUST washed the sheets and comforter this weekend. And then we didn't have any clean travel coffee mugs for me to use this morning because DH hoards them in his work truck. This coupled with 1st tri irritability made me decide that I deserved a salted caramel mocha from our local coffee shop. It didn't help my low-grade nausea, but was still worth it!

kagesstarshroom

@stassisschroeder MH hoards travel mugs in his work truck too! Luckily, there's one he never uses (bc it doesn't fit in the cup holder, but I like it/don't care) & one he always forgets about bc it's glass. You need to get one with like unicorns and rainbows on it or something.

stassischroeder

kagesstarshroom said:

@stassisschroeder You need to get one with like unicorns and rainbows on it or something.

OMG you're a genius! Plus that means I get to do some fun shopping; double score!

zetuslapetus

@momoftoddlers ack hope you feel better soon!

kantobean

@momoftoddlers glad the little one is ok! I hope you get some relief!

momoftoddlers

@kagesstarshroom Thank you so much for the advice. Unfortunately my husband has IBS so I am all too familiar with the elimination diet and triggers. I’ll definitely be trying to identify my triggers and eat super plain for a while because I would very much like to avoid another episode like this. So glad that your IBS has been calm so far this pregnancy! Hope it stays that way! 

momoftoddlers

@stassischroeder @zetuslapetus @kantobean

Thanks so much, ladies! Feeling a lot better this afternoon, just so darn tired from the whole ordeal. 

silverhope

@momoftoddlers I have IBD (ulcerative colitis). I hope you don’t have that, but I’m here to talk if you find out you do have it.

I fortunately only had one flare last pregnancy and it was pretty mild.

I hope your gastro can help you feel better!

silverhope

AFM, we just got home from our vaca. DS did not sleep well the last two nights bc the blinds didn’t block out all the light at our last hotel. Him not sleeping well meant I didn’t sleep well, but otherwise we had a great trip!

I’m looking forward to sleeping tonight.

orbmaker

Uggghhhhh. I just got home from work and my husband cooked cauliflower with dinner (which I normally like). the smell is ruining my life!!!

miss.sally

The only food I can stomach right now is a turkey sub from Jimmy Johns. I just asked H to go get me one because I literally cannot eat anything in my house. 

ETA: currently in bed crying because they closed early and H couldn’t get me a sandwich. I haven’t eaten since lunch and I’m so hungry but everything in my house makes me want to throw up. So I’m going to sleep and praying something sounds satisfying tomorrow morning. 

mrsvp614

@momoftoddlers Hope you're feeling better!
@miss.sally I want that sandwich now!

AFM, this week is crazy. Yesterday afternoon, we found out my ILs were coming to our house because my FIL has an appointment this morning, and then surgery Thursday. *TW he has esophageal cancer.*
With a week recovery, that means MIL will likely be at our house through next Thursday. Yikes. She's a nice lady and all, but having people in my house stresses me out, especially with my weird work hours, and because she refuses to drive, so it'll mean DH and I playing chauffeur. DH told me last night that he's now taking Thursday and Friday off work. I reacted poorly to that, so I'll need to apologize. But I have a feeling he'll just be playing video games at home, instead of being in the hospital, so I'm unclear why he wants to take time off. 

chichiphin

@momoftoddlers I have IBS & SIBO and unfortunately it is flaring for me as well. I really hope you can find some relief when you visit the gastro. At least YH gets it - MH doesn’t understand it 
@MrsVP614 I’m sorry for the upcoming stress. I also do not like hosting folks at our house. 

momoftoddlers

@silverhope @chichiphin Thank you for the support! My new gastro seemed hopeful that this could be an isolated event and if I watch my diet maybe it won’t happen again, or at least not this severe. 🙏 

ruby696

@MrsVP614 I hope your FIL's surgery goes well. I hate hosting people (well my family and friends are okay...) too, so I totally get your anxiety. You're a good person for going along with it, given the circumstances. FX YH does a good job of making your life easier and being a bit of a buffer if you need it.

miss.sally

@MrsVP614 good luck with everything this week! and I hope FIL surgery goes well. I know it’s always stressful having house guests, no matter who they are. So having a MIL who won’t drive just sounds like an added stressor. I hope YH will be helpful! 

miss.sally

Warning. Long rant ahead:
We booked a last-minute vacation for the second week of August, and I’m really excited. Except.... H invited his parents yesterday without even talking to me first! We are staying in a TINY beach cottage with one bathroom (there is a second one but it’s an outdoor beach bathroom so it doesn’t really count). We stayed at this place last year just us and the two kids and we were on top of each other the whole week. I can’t even imagine having two more adults. Plus MIL is really fussy. And he also told them they wouldn’t have to help pay for anything. Anyways. MIL said yes, but FIL said no, and now H wants ME to try and convince FIL that they should come. I’m annoyed to say the least. I probably wouldn’t mind so much if the house were a little bigger, or if he had even just talked to me first, because it would be kinda nice to have a babysitter while we are there. Ugh. We shall see what happens over the next week or so. 
Ok. End rant. Thank you for listening. 

ruby696

@miss.sally I would kill MH. If nothing else, I expect to at least be consulted first. I'm sorry.

Oh and I would totally show them pictures from the last trip so they can see how small it is. Hopefully your FIL will dig his heels in and refuse to go.

Eta: tag

mrsvp614

@miss.sally I would lose my sh*t on DH. 

 

lm45678

@miss.sally I think I would legit kill my husband! Especially if I weren’t able to drink that week! I would show them pictures of how small it is to get them not to come!!

chichiphin

@miss.sally oh hell no as mrsVP said... that ain't cool. 

silverhope

@miss.sally oh man. I would be FURIOUS at DH. We shared a too small space once (actually when I was pregnant and had to sleep on a pullout) and he knows that is not happening again. 

Also aww ha. I remember the crying about food phase. I am not even nauseous yet, but my funniest memory in retrospect of pregnancy was me crying over DH eating the last english muffins (I never eat them so he thought it was safe  )

varimama

@miss.sally yea you have every right to be pissed, I’d be furious! Idk if I’m just old now or what but I need my own space (with my immediate family). I don’t like having people stay at our house or staying with other people on vacation no matter how much I like those people  🤷🏻‍♀️

stassischroeder

@MrsVP614 the fact that your MIL refuses to drive makes me instantly dislike her. Does she also refuse to use the internet or anything else that majorly inconveniences EVERYONE else???

@miss.sally oooooooooooooohhhhhh I would've ripped DH a new asshole for pulling shit like that. I'd be like, ok you guys go, I'll stay home alone and enjoy the peace and quiet. 

kantobean

@miss.sally NO HE DID NOT.

you should be like “yes! Please come! I need someone else to do the cooking and cleaning while we’re there because I’m just not feeling up to it. Plus if the toilet breaks again like it did the last time we were there, it will be nice having help to clean it up!” 😂

kagesstarshroom

@MrsVP614 You should sign her up for uber. 

stassischroeder

Note to self: when you're driving on your lunch break and your wedding song comes on FOR THE LOVE OF GOD SKIP THE SONG 


If anyone is curious, it was Joshua Radin's "Today"

silverhope

I finally called my OB to make my initial appt. The earliest they can get me in is 2 days shy of 10 weeks (and actually 11 weeks if I ovulated on time...but I’m almost positive I ovulated late). I’m pretty bummed. I also don’t think DH will be able to go now bc they didn't have availabilities any of the days I asked for. 

Malidocious

@stassischroeder awww, I love that song!  My wedding song was Joshua Radin's "Lovely Tonight" and now I could cry just thinking about it...

dckateh

@miss.sally
Oh I would be furious! At least ask!

Do your in-laws know you're expecting yet? My SIL and her kids came to visit last week literally 2 days after I found out I was pregnant. I like them, but I was really bummed that someone I'm really not that close with had to find out immediately (since I wasn't drinking wine at dinner) when I haven't even told my parents yet. Just hoped to keep it close to the chest for a while but, oh well. 

EmilyLove25

@silverhope My first appointment is around that same time too. I get being bummed but there are some pros to it. First, if they do an ultrasound, the little blob actually looks more baby like and way cuter than at 6, 7, or 8 weeks... and you get even more clarity + it's late enough to schedule blood work and get an order in if you are doing it!

@miss.sally I agree with everyone, but to play devil's advocate... maybe he was thinking they could help out with the kids? Either way, I would just set boundaries (actually I would make DH do it). Let's hope FIL just stays true to his plan and you get out of having to do it AND don't have any confrontation. 

@MrsVP614 First, I hope FIL's surgery goes well. Second, I HATE HOSTING. BUTTTTTT I will say that it usually isn't as bad or as stressful as I expect it to be. I hope that proves true for you!

EmilyLove25

@stassischroeder Oh god. I'm crying at things I can't even explain. Happy tears especially. It's brutal.

EmilyLove25

I can't believe we didn't do a TW Tuesday... I mean... I'm having a good day and could still unearth a few likely candidates haha. 

kagesstarshroom

@EmilyLove25 You can start a WTF Wed. tomorrow! (I didn't start anything new today since this place is HAPPENIN' lately.)

mrsvp614

@stassischroeder Yeah, the not driving thing is ridiculous. She never once drove to us, until we had a kid, and she magically figured it out by going some backass way instead of the interstate. But once she's here, she won't drive anywhere. It's all in her head, and an absolute inconvenience to us. As @kagesstarshroom said, DH has pointed out Uber as an option, so that may happen.

DH says yesterday morning, MIL asked him if I was pregnant, because she noticed I didn't make coffee before work. Ha! He lied, but I'm sure she knows now. It does annoy me though, because if we were ready to tell, she'd be one of the first to know... so don't freakin' ask. It's going to be a loooong 8 days of having her around. 

varimama

@MrsVP614 I’m sorry about your MIL, you are a saint to put up with her!  DH said every time I leave the room his parents corner him and ask when we’re having another. He doesn’t get why that pisses me off but I’m like bc it’s none of their business what we decide. If I am pregnant when they ask they would be the first we’d tell so it’d be awkward that they bring it up early before we’re ready and if not it either means we’re trying and unsuccessful or we’re not ready and don’t need added pressure. He just doesn’t get it though 

mrsvp614

@varimama Yeah, that's super annoying. Get out of our bedroom, baby-making, business!