Hello! This is a monthly thread for those who are of Advanced Maternal Age.
Upcoming Appointments? Questions?
Any specific AMA concerns?
GTKY: What are your thoughts about the possibility of life on other planets?
Due date/W+D: 3/18, 5wk3d I think
Age? 35 as of last Monday! I just became advanced!
FTM/STM/etc?: STM. I was 33 when I delivered my daughter, who is now 16 months old.
Upcoming Appointments? I have my first appointment with my midwife group on 8/13, when I’ll be 8 or 9 weeks.
Questions? Not so much.
Rants/Raves?: I’m glad they don’t call it a geriatric pregnancy anymore! haha.
Any specific AMA concerns? I’m just debating whether or not I want to get the genetic testing panel. We skipped it the last time around.
I believe it’s likely! It’s gotta be out there somewhere. My husband is actually kind of UFO weirdo and has been trying to convince me that Bob Lazar is telling the truth about spacecraft at Area 51. :P
@orbmaker HBD a few days late! I just finished reading the chapter in EXPECTING BETTER by Emily Oster on genetic testing & I think I'll be getting the noninvasive one first and then one of the invasive ones only if the noninvasive shows up positive. She does a good job laying out the facts so that you can make your own decision.
Due date/W+D: 3/21 5w0d
Upcoming Appointments? Questions? My first appointment is 8/1, a little earlier than they would normally do a first appoint. but (((TW loss))) bc of my history of loss, they wanted me in a little earlier, which I am grateful for, though I opted out of any HCG testing or anything like that. (((TW done)))
Rants/Raves?: I'm having an anxiety filled day filled with a severe lack of productivity. The heat index where I live has been in the 100s for about the past month, & I think it's contributing to my anxiety/depression. I just want to go for a walk to clear my head, but it's 100 degrees out. Doesn't help that DH is working all weekend.
Any specific AMA concerns? I am sure none outside of the "usual," though if I have any questions or concerns along those lines I'll pop back in here.
GTKY: What are your thoughts about the possibility of life on other planets? I also believe it's highly likely! I feel like it would be... almost impossible for there not to be life on other planets? I don't know if it quite looks like it's been imagined on Star Trek, but I think, somewhere out there, there's something.
What's up old ladies!? Kidding...sort of
@orbmaker HBD!! Welcome to the club! I just turned 35 last month and have a 15 month daughter.
@kagesstarshroom Thanks for starting this thread. I hope your anxiety is calming down. My husband works weekends too and I get really bored/anxious/unproductive without him around too.
Due date/W+D: 3/12 6w+2d
FTM/STM/etc?: STM My DD is 15 months
Upcoming Appointments? Questions? This Friday the 26th
Rants/Raves?: Raving about the bowl of kimchi mashed potatoes I just ate - don't knock it till you've tried it. So good!
Any specific AMA concerns? Not sure if this is AMA specific: I had an US on Thursday because of some pain on one side and they saw a subchorionic hematoma. The midwife did not seem concerned at all, but I went down a long, dark Google rabbit hole and have sufficiently freaked myself the F out. I'm really hoping that it is smaller at my next scan on Friday.
GTKY: What are your thoughts about the possibility of life on other planets? Space is soooo vast - it would be impossible to prove that there isn't life somewhere out there so because of that I have to assume that there is life somewhere. Wait, are you asking about life only in our solar system, or anywhere in the universe? Ahh, thinking about this makes my brain break.
Thank you for starting this @kagesstarshroom!
Due date/W+D: 3/27, 4+2
Age? 36/37 when I deliver
FTM/STM/etc?: STM, DS is 2.
Upcoming Appointments? Questions? First OB appointment is 8/13. I'll be 7+4!
Rants/Raves?: I'm just so thrilled to be pregnant again, but still very cautious as I had a chemical pregnancy in April. I think I'll feel a lot better after my first appointment.
Any specific AMA concerns? Not really. I'm healthy and in good shape so that should help with pregnancy and delivery. I had genetic testing done with my DS at 10 weeks and will definitely do the same as I'm 3 years older now.
GTKY: What are your thoughts about the possibility of life on other planets? I do believe there are other life forms on other planets, but not in the form of a human being. I'm more fascinated with the idea of parallel universes!
Due date/W+D: 3/10
Age? 34, but I'll be turning 35 in October so I think I'll be considered AMA, right? 🤷♀️
FTM/STM/etc?: This is baby #3.
Upcoming Appointments? Questions? First appointment Tuesday. I'll be 7 weeks.
Rants/Raves?: Rant: I am so freaking clumsy when pregnant. It's unbearable. Rave: Pad Thai is the most delicious thing ever invented and I can't get enough right now.
Any specific AMA concerns? Not yet. I'm going to try not to worry unless the doctor tells me I should.
GTKY: What are your thoughts about the possibility of life on other planets? More likely than not. The universe is a big place. It may not look like anything we would recognize, but life in some form, yeah, probably.
Due date/W+D: March 12th/6
weeks + 3 days
Age? 36 (37 in October)
FTM/STM/etc?: This would make me a THIRD time
Upcoming Appointments? Questions? I am too
scared to make an appointment, but I am going to call tomorrow…
Rants/Raves?: Rant: How is tomorrow Monday?
Rave: It’s going to be a lot cooler tomorrow!
Any specific AMA concerns? Oh yes, all of
them. **TW** Had a lost in May, so I am on edge about not having another one. If
I can see a healthy baby, my next concern will be the chromosomal issues. I did
Informaseq with DS and will definitely do that again. I’ll have the blood drawn
as soon as they’ll let me, so around 9 weeks!
GTKY: What are your thoughts about the
possibility of life on other planets? I think it must exist in SOME form…
bacteria for sure, right? I hope it is out there, and I hope we learn more and
more about it! Now do I believe in anthropomorphized aliens who want to take over
our planet? No.
@orbmaker My OB practice no longer considers a
woman AMA unless they are 37. You’re a spring chicken!
@kagesstarshroom I hope you are getting relief from the heat tomorrow! We are
here in Ohio finally!
@keeksie84 I’ve never had a SCH but every
woman I’ve known with one went on to deliver healthy, full-term babies.
@puppyloves8910 Yay we are age twins!
@janice9821 You’re so young haha! I always wonder that, because
with insurance it can make a difference in some instances for testing. Like
what is the OFFICIAL AMA age. My OB practice now considers it 37!!!
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
Due date/W+D: March 7
FTM/STM/etc?: third time mom
Upcoming Appointments? Questions? Have my first midwife check in Aug 12.
Any specific AMA concerns? I'm concerned about genetic defects due to my old eggs.. sigh.... *TW* - my last pregnancy (at age 37), I found through the early non-invasive test that the baby had down's syndrome, and we ultimately lost him right at the start of the 2nd tri due to complications. I am soooo nervous of a repeat - so to anyone considering the early testing, yes, go for it! while it is painful and shocking to get the answer sometimes if it's not the answer you want, I'm glad that I knew earlier on - it made the loss make sense, otherwise, I would have not known why I lost my baby and would have had to go through an expensive autopsy. in any case, if my baby would have made it, I would have been glad to know he had down's ahead of time anyway so I could be prepared. that's not the kind of surprise I would like sprung on me at a child's birth. I even had to ask my midwife for the test, as he didn't know it was a 'thing' available for AMA moms. I learned about it from the March 2019 BMB.
GTKY: What are your thoughts about the possibility of life on other planets? Idk.. I used to be terrified of the idea of aliens as a kid. I'd rather not think about it.
Due date/W+D: 3/10
FTM/STM/etc?: First time Mom
Upcoming Appointments? Questions? 7/26 2nd ultrasound
Rants/Raves?: HCG rose slowly. Then 1st ultrasound baby was a week behind in size. Dr. said not overly concerned but am waiting two weeks for 2nd ultrasound. At least it's on Friday and may decrease my anxiety one way or the other.
Any specific AMA concerns? I have a donor embryo so the age of the donor Mom was 23. My BMI is 31 and if I understand correctly my age will mostly impact the uterine line and overall health vs. health of embryo.
GTKY: What are your thoughts about the possibility of life on other planets? Anything is possible don't think we have the technology to really now.
Due date/W+D: 3/13 | 6+3
FTM/STM/etc?: STM, DS is 15.5 months
Upcoming Appointments? Questions? First u/s on July 31st
Rants/Raves?: I'M SUCH A MOODY BITCH
Any specific AMA concerns? Just holding my breath until I get the NT scan and NIPT results.
GTKY: What are your thoughts about the possibility of life on other planets? The universe is so vast that I can't imagine there aren't other life forms out there!
@orbmaker insurance will most likely cover NIPT and NT scans since we're AMA.
@kagesstarshroom can you go for a walk in the early morning or evening to beat the heat?
@keeksie try not to stress! I've seen hundreds of women with SCHs on TB and a VERY, VERY small percentage of them have any complications resulting from them. FX for Friday!
@emilylove25 WUT?! While I'm flattered that your OB doesn't consider mothers AMA until 37, please don't tell my insurance! I'd rather not pay for NIPT or NT scan OOP this time!
@treetop19 first of all, I'm so sorry for your loss. Second of all, I WHOLEHEARTEDLY agree with your perspective on early testing. I, too, had to ask my OB for the test last time. She was going to gloss right over it and I was like "back up you conservative agenda pushing as*hole. I want the damn test"
@blueguitarhannah FX so hard for Friday
Due date/W+D: 3/3/20 & 7w2d
Age? 35, 36 by delivery
Upcoming Appointments? Questions? 1st appointment is July 31st - nervous, excited and anxious. Also interested to hear recommendations on which tests are most beneficial/necessary to ask about.
Any specific AMA concerns? Nothing in particular, just a general anxiety that something could go wrong that wouldn't have if I had kids earlier in life. Know it's silly and hoping the first doctor's visits will start to alleviate this.
GTKY: What are your thoughts about the possibility of life on other planets? Maybe not like ours or anything we can comprehend, but there has to be something out there!
Due date/W+D: March 29th/4+1
Upcoming Appointments? Questions? Nope. I refuse to be seen before nine weeks *TW* because of prior losses between 6-8 weeks. It's just too stressful. *End TW* My RE ordered betas today, so we'll see how those look.
Rants/Raves?: My tests are getting darker and I had a positive digital, so I'm starting to feel less pessimistic.
Any specific AMA concerns? Oh, all the usual. I know I don't have great egg quality, so I'm really just hoping everything is okay.
GTKY: What are your thoughts about the possibility of life on other planets? I would be shocked if there wasn't. The universe is just too big for us to be the only ones.
Due date/W+D: 5w
Upcoming Appointments? Questions? 8/8
Rants/Raves? My crampings and backach are becoming more freuent but not as strong(or I’ve got used to their strength)
Any specific AMA concerns? Nothing specific, but as PGAL, my mind is mostly there right now!
GTKY: What are your thoughts about the possibility of life on other planets? I think it is possible, we amcan only see/understand a tiny little bit of this universe, so no reason to reject the idea!
Due date/W+D: 7 weeks, 3/9
Age? 34, will be 35 next month
FTM/STM/etc?: TTM to 16 mo and 3.5 yo girls
Upcoming Appointments? Questions? Optional appt at 9 weeks, NT scan at 11 weeks (aug 19)
Rants/Raves?: moody and nauseous
Any specific AMA concerns? Nope
GTKY: What are your thoughts about the possibility of life on other planets? Absolutely possible!
41 (will be 42 time of delivery)
STM, a ten year-old son from previous relationship.
Initial OB scheduled 8/8
Questions - this pregnancy is a surprise (a happy and welcome one for me), but my partner has concerns given our ages (he's 49). He says he's on board. He has no children of his own. He likes the idea of becoming a dad, just wished it had happened fifteen years sooner I'm trying to figure out how to tell my son, though I still have time to figure it out. Any suggestions? Anyone with middle-age kid(s) from previous a relationship? It's difficult to keep quiet because my son can tell I'm not my usual self (I'm now exhausted, nauseous, etc). We're currently taking our summer trip (just him and I) and it's very slow going for me, with daily afternoon naps, early bedtimes and late mornings.
Rant: How did I put on ten pounds of bloat in two weeks?! My boobs are huge; I already look like I'm in my second trimester with my belly pooch. And the nausea. This preg is much different than the first time around. So glad to have disovered this community! It helps reading your thoughts and shares
Any specific AMA concerns - I'm worried about possible genetic conditions. I work in the perinatalogy imaging field and its a challenge to separate myself from what I work with. The statistics quoted are worrisome. I made an appointment for when I'd be over 8 weeks, to make sure I'd be good and pregnant when I go in . My caregivers for this pregnancy will actually be my coworkers which will be good in some ways but awkward in others. Here's hoping and praying for the best!
GTKY: If we're in here, they're out there....we can't be the only ones.
Due date/W+D: base do on LMP it should be 3/28, 5 weeks 6 days
FTM/STM/etc?: STM, had DD just days before my 37th birthday
Upcoming Appointments? Questions? First appointment on 8/15 for ultrasound, NIPT shortly thereafter (I had MaterniT21 last time.)
Rants/Raves?: I was just about to make an appointment for an eye exam, since my astigmatism seems a bit worse. Now I have to wait. And I just bought super cute frames for my new prescription! (Silly, I know.)
Any specific AMA concerns? This was not a planned pregnancy, so I am worried over the fact that I hadn’t been taking prenatal vitamins and I had a drink or two during those first few weeks. Now that I am over the shock/surprise, I am getting excited. I am just worried about everything. Will there Ben a heartbeat? Will it be a single or twins? (It’s a higher chance for multiples over 40!) How can we afford daycare? Will the NIPT come back normal? Thank goodness I was already seeing a therapist for my anxiety!
GTKY: What are your thoughts about the possibility of life on other planets? I am too much a fan of Star Trek to not believe life must be out there. It just feels awfully unlikely and egocentric to think we are the only ones. Will we ever encounter other life? Not in our lifetime. It’s fun to imagine and dream, though.