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GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant?
GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant?
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GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant?
I haven’t gotten much yet but I had someone I barely know tell me I had to have part of my dad’s name in the baby’s name. Like hi almost stranger that’s none of your business. I’m sure this is tame compared to other stories.
GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant? I don't have too much here either other than people commenting on how I'm carrying low (which annoys me a little, even though I am) and also someone who said you look much better this time than last time! Haha. It was a good friend of mine so I wasn't that offended but she probably shouldn't have said it.
@kopp5988 how strange, your dad's name? Hm. People seem to have no problems commenting on names!
Rant: one of my dogs keeps pooping in the house and I cant figure out which one. Its driving me crazy!
Rave: we've started pulling out DS's old baby stuff and setting up the nursery this weekend. I love seeing it come together!
GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant?
Not *that* bad and I didnt take it personally, but someone else totally could have: I got up to use the bathroom on my flight last week and the flight attendant told me I had a cute baby belly. I'm on the smaller side so I clearly look pregnant in a form fitting shirt these days, but I'm not that big yet! So I was surprised she said something, given I dont look like I'm about to give birth anytime soon.
Rave: We close on our house in a month! And I can feel the baby moving way more, which is such a relief.
GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant? "Was it planned?" "Was it a 'Surprise Baby?" "Is there a wedding in the future?" To be clear, I am in a happy, healthy, committed relationship with my SO. We're buying a house for crying out loud! We just don't feel like getting married yet since we have both been divorced before.
GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant? “Why would you want MORE kids,” “you are crazy,” “now you have 2 of each, no need to have anymore after this,” “ surely you’re done after this one,” “you really don’t need anymore kids,”
I could go on with the comments about the number of kids we have. It’s so annoying that people think they have the right to make comments about the size of your family.
I got got a ton of people suggesting abortion to me when I was pregnant with my first. Like it wasn’t a big deal or anything. I was 17 at the time but I was capable of making the decision about whether or not I wanted to terminate MY pregnancy. I felt the amount of pressure people were trying to put on me was very inappropriate.
Edit: fix the fruit size.
@emeraldcity1214 ugh, sorry about all those comments you have gotten. It's no one's business how many kids someone chooses to have. Also sorry about the AK heat wave!
@dani_0921 that's horrible that some people at work don't support changes to benefits!
Rant - Sharing holidays is hard. My husband and I got into a bit of a spat because his parents want to come up for Christmas and Christmas Eve and Christmas day is a bit of a marathon for the two sides of my family (divorced parents) so when I asked if they could come the week before or the week after I was not being considerate of their feelings. On the one hand I understand they want to see the girls for Christmas but on the other, I also only see members of my family this one day a year for most of them where we see his parents literally every month for 5 days at a time. So it is a struggle for me since I don't think they are being considerate of my family. Add to that I know I am going to be moody and rough because baby #3 will be less than 2 months and so I just wanted one less thing to deal with since they are not easy to live with when they come and stay in the house.
GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant? I have had people insist on the gender I am having. For the first two it was a surprise so I would just roll my eyes but this time I know it is a boy and people are telling me I am having a girl (I assume since I carry high) but I am pretty sure that is just based on the length of your torso and not gender at all. Oi
GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant?
It really bothers me when we tell people we are having a boy and they see our daughter and say "oh, one of each! so you are done now?" A) no, I don't know if I'm "done now" B.) the gender of this child would not have been a determining factor regardless - I just want a healthy child.
PS - I introduced my self on the Introduce Yourself Here! thread (promise I'm not a complete rando
@emeraldcity1214 why do other people feel the need to tell a person how many kids they need?!? So ridiculous! Also sorry about the terrible heat wave, I hope you get some relief soon.
@dani_0921 but obviously marriage makes a relationship more stable 🙄🙄 (note the sarcasm in case that was missed!! Lol)
@gumby22c oh no! I hope you figure out who the pooping culprit is soon!
@creamcheeseplease omg at the you looking better this time around comment, although I guessed it’s better than you looked better last time!
@Dancer688 I can totally relate to that. My parents are divorced as well and trying to find the time at Christmas to see all 3 families is so difficult. My dad and ILs are pretty traditional so they typically get Christmas morning on a rotating basis. Luckily my mom is chill and we do it around NYE. I think this year though with baby being less than 2 mos old, we are going to use it as an excuse to start doing Christmas morning at home. We'll see how that goes over though ha. All other holidays we just rotate between ILs and my family (luckily my parents are from the same area so that makes it somewhat easier to split).
@Dancer688 sorry about the issues with holiday planning, its tough balancing different family dynamics. We end up at my family at a lot since MH is usually working anyway but also his dad is not at all local. I'm really wondering what we'll do this year and would like to maybe stay home, like you say. Not sure how that will go over though..
EDD/Weeks + Days: 22w + 1 day
I thought I was over the morning sickness, but forgot to take my Diclegis two nights ago and sure enough vomited first thing in the morning. Oh joy!
GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant?
The thing that has annoyed me the most is "was it planned?"... it's just so presumptuous, invasive, and inappropriate. It should be banned.
@creamcheeseplease my practice starts seeing you every 2 weeks starting 3rd trimester and then weekly starting at 36 weeks. When does 3rd trimester start though? Would be like 28 weeks?
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GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant? Was it planned ? When are y’all getting married? Y’all need to hurry up and get married . Are you having twins?
Rant - cat pee issues here too. Our old man cat keeps accidentally peeing out of the box. He gets in, but then he misses 🤦♀️
GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant?
First pregnancy a fellow graduate student asked if it was planned - 1) None of your business, 2) the tone was insanely rude and implied that choosing to procreate in grad school would be moronic, 3) as we have had trouble conceiving both times this question always upsets me.
My son was a big baby so I got a lot of "is it twins?" questions too. Nope, just one big baby!
The obnoxious gender related statements are part of why we aren't telling the sex. Children are not Pokemon, you do not have to collect 'em all - I hate the way people act like a boy and a girl are a complete set 🙄
@Dancer688 I feel you! My parents are divorced and we just did a tour of the state (Sedona, Phx, and Tucson) to see my set of relatives.
GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant?
"How did this happen?!" was (I believe) a joke from his uncle. We told him "we have no idea! Immaculate conception, most likely!"
Also my doctor (of over 15 years) asked if I knew who the father was...
Also, we were fake team green with DS - we knew he was a boy but we didn't tell anyone we knew. It was great, lol, and most of our clothes we were gifted were neutral that way until he was born.
@drama_llama lol at children aren’t Pokémon cards 😂
@alaluap omg I can’t believe your doctor asked you that!
@drama_llama @BNBT I agree with the gender comments, I would have loved to have brothers too, it’s not any more special that we’re having a little girl, it does not “complete” us anymore than a little boy would.
@creamcheeseplease my practice switches at 28 weeks to bi-weekly then at 36 weeks to weekly. I’m secretly super excited to get to that point as much as I’m trying to enjoy the now, I just want this baby to be here already!
EDD/Weeks + Days: 19w5d, 11/28
GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant? Talking to my neighbor the other day we told her how my son is going to be a big brother, he was all proud and she replied “well I’ve been wondering when that was going to happen!” 😐. I wanted to cry and ***TW***tell her about our troubles and losses through the past year, but I’m trying to get past feeling those feelings. End TW. Luckily my husband carried on the rest of the conversation so I could keep biting my cheek. I know people mean well, but it’s along the lines of asking when someone is going to have kids, and she’s essentially a stranger, we don’t know her well, my son just likes to pat her dog. I wish everyone would just think before they speak 🙃
Nov. 15/ 21+something
Any other swing shift workers here? Or night shifters? I thought about maybe starting a thread if theres enough interest, maybe get some ideas on how you make life work juggling shift work and kids.
GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant?
Damn, anything I've heard is super tame compared to what some of you ladies have gotten. My supervisor (new rotation) just found out I'm pregnant, and she asked "why??" I wasn't upset about it though, the last time she was my supervisor I told her I wasnt sure I even wanted kids, so I can see where she's coming from. Other than that it's just my SIL telling me I shouldn't be drinking Dr. Pepper. I'm aware, but it keeps me from slapping the shit out of idiots so... I'm gonna have my little bit of caffeine thanks. And the doctor and nutritionist I spoke too weren't concerned about it (beyond the fact that I shouldn't drink it just cause soda is unhealthy, but whatev).
Baby is the size of a(n): Endive, I think?
FTM/STM/TTM+: STM
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Pink
Upcoming Appointments: July 29 for regular checkup
How are you feeling? Great! Love feeling her move more and more. Yesterday it felt like she was doing summersaults in there.
Rants/Raves: My 2-year-old is getting her first haircut this week!
Questions: I found out I can take 16 weeks for maternity leave, but the last 4 won't be job protected because my FMLA will have ended. My boss is completely supportive, and I would love the extra time, but should I be concerned about the job protection?
GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant? I'm with @drama_llama on the ridiculous gender comments. We are done after this one, and people can't believe we would feel our family is complete with two girls. Several people have said (mostly to my husband), "But... don't you want a son?" Ugh, why does it matter?
Well actually...first pregnancy I only had one coke a day. 2nd - It was 1 diet coke a day since I birthed a 9+ lb baby thanks sugar. Now on my 3rd I just try to keep it 2 or less, if I don't have my caffeine I can't function at a loving level for my kids. Kids are hard and it isn't alcohol so I am calling it a win.
I love soda though. It is my guilty pleasure. I drink diet too. 🙈 So I guess I will end up with cancer at some point from that. 😂
@kj17-2 maybe your boss/HR would be willing to put an agreement in place that your job will be waiting for you after the leave?
GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant? Nothing too crazy, I'm 37 and have been married 3 years so I think people were mostly like...cool, that seems about right. It's just been hard for me getting so much attention on what I look like right now, even though I do know people mean well.
raves: my uterus finally came forward and now i will begin to have a bump in the next week or so I believe! Extra points for lots of baby kicks
do y’all know about this Bloomingdale’s sale? I’m not much of a shopper so sorry if I’m way behind but i just bought an uppababy vista and the car seat/base and got $300 back in points. YEA BABY.
GTKY: What is the most ridiculous/inappropriate thing someone has said to you while pregnant?
back when in first trimester I was talking about the pregnancy with a girl I’ll be in a wedding with next week. I’ll be 24 weeks at the time and her comment was that I’ll “still be cute and not all gross and big” for the wedding. She’s precious.