October 2019 Moms
elle-0409
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June FTM Check-In
elle-0409
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I don't think we had one of these last month, but I'm reviving it!
1) How many weeks are you?/EDD?
2) How are you feeling? (physically, emotionally, all the feels)
3) Appointments this month?
4) Rants/Raves?
2) How are you feeling? (physically, emotionally, all the feels)
3) Appointments this month?
4) Rants/Raves?
5) Questions for FTM or STM+?
6) What food/drink/activity do you miss the most?
TTC History
Me: 38 DH: 52
Started trying June 2018
BFP Jan 2019 DD born October 2019
TTC July 2021 BFP, ended in MMC August 2021
TTC October 2021
BFP January 2022
MMC March 2022
Beginning May 2022 under the supervision of an RE - Benched while undergoing testing
Re: June FTM Check-In
22w3d
2) How are you feeling? (physically, emotionally, all the feels)
Physically pretty good. Some tailbone pain and soreness in my pelvic bone, but it's manageable.
Emotionally feeling pretty self conscious. I'm having some body image insecurity, which I didn't expect. I had this expectation in my head that I would stay pretty trim, but with like, a big ole basketball belly. Instead, EVERY BODY PART has grown and everything just feels gross and squishy. I also seem to gain 5 pounds from eating a single donut these days. I'm sad that I'm feeling this way but also don't know how to snap out of it.
3) Appointments this month?
Yes, but I can't remember when 🤦♀️
4) Rants/Raves?
Rave: my H is nesting and it's adorable.
-FTM specific: approximately how many items did you register for? Just curious how mine compares 😂
-anyone else feeling body-conscious right now?
I read somewhere that soft-serve ice cream machines can carry listeria if not cleaned properly. Ice cream is my favorite food and I want a DQ blizzard like none other. Or a Wendy's frosty. Or a milkshake. I also miss non well done meat. A medium-rare steak sounds devine. Washed down with a milkshake!!!
2) How are you feeling? (physically, emotionally, all the feels) Physically, I'm not too bad. I get pretty awful tailbone pain, but that's my only major complaint. Emotionally, I'm crying at the drop of a hat. I'm also tired from adding a new part-time retail job to the mix. My new co-workers look at me like I'm crazy, but I don't want to be treated like an invalid.
3) Appointments this month? Routine check-up next week.
4) Rants/Raves? See above re: work fatigue. However, I get to travel back home in two weeks to see my mom and I am so excited! I need some home cooking and rest.
And for what it's worth, I've had more than my fair share of Moolattes since finding out I was pregnant (they have ice cream, slush, coffee, and mocha flavor in them). 🙊
I feel like I'm getting the opposite kinds of comments, where people are like, "you still have 18 weeks to go?! You're so big already!" Ummmm. Okay thanks. Why do people feel the need to insert their commentary on a woman's size?
Also, this week I was NOT PLEASED with that site I sent you. It was the first week I was outside of the recommend weight range, and I felt it was entirely unnecessary for the site to point it out to me in bold red font. Rude!
@elle-0409 thank you for starting this! I was thinking us FTM needed one. Happy 6months!!! Hope you really enjoy time at home with your mama!! Yes! The heavy belly thing for sure. I leaned over in the garden yesterday and the weight of it caught me off balance.
@meagan-t my first job was also at a DQ!!
2) How are you feeling? (physically, emotionally, all the feels)
Physically I feel a pretty good. A little bit of hip pain that I’m trying to correct with good stretches. I finally got a cute maternity swim suit and talking myself into feeling good about my new body has been a task for sure.
3) Appointments this month?
not till June 14th for the 24 week check up. Can you believe that after July’s appointment we start going every 2 weeks 😱
4) Rants/Raves?
Going to the beach this weekend!! It’s with all my female coworkers and I can’t drink but it’s the beach!!
Any of you FTM’s planning on doing an unmedicated birth? I’m planning on being medicated but was wondering where everyone else was at on this.
And yea, the heavy belly is normal
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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@elle-0409 yes my stomach feels so heavy! esp if I lay on my back it just feels like this weird heavy weight. Super uncomfortable.
Re: body image, me too. I've always been really active and due to placenta previa am on pelvic rest and not allowed to exercise besides walking. I just feel like a soft little blob. Also, I'm not quite as far along as you all so I'm still in this awkward, maybe she's just sorta fat phase. I hate it.
@emily1052 I would love to do an unmedicated birth. But I am trying not to fixate on it because I am high risk and also currently have placenta previa, so a lot can happen between now and birth that we just need to be prepared for. I am terrified of an epidural and/or c-section, but also know it is what it is and I'll do whatever I need to for baby to get here safely.
2) How are you feeling? (physically, emotionally, all the feels)
Lots of RPL and crampy from time to time. I still wouldn't say I am ravenous. Also, unfortunately I tried to quit my prescription anti-nausea (Bonjesta, a cousin of Diglecis) this weekend and puked the ENTIRE weekend. I'm wondering if I'll have to take it my whole pregnancy.
3) Appointments this month? Next Tuesday the 11th for my anatomy scan at last!! I failed the maternal serum AFP test twice, so I'm pretty nervous about the anatomy scan and any neural tube defects (we had a scan at 16 weeks that looked normal, but I just have this weird fear the baby was too small at that time to truly tell).
4) Rants/Raves? Rant - pelvic rest is hard, y'all. It's harder on DH but I definitely miss the intimacy. It's been 6 weeks!
And I agree, I really should step away from the online calculators and ignore those who comment on my size. I think I'm just fixating on it this week because I'm not feeling my most attractive right now. But I'm trying to remember my body is busy creating a human life, which is an incredible feat and going to take its toll on my body is some ways. And even if I'm uncomfortable with my body right now, it's still so worth it.
@emily1052, I haven't done enough research yet, but I'm not opposed to an epidural during delivery. Where are you doing your research? I should really start paying more attention to birth plans.
yes, I’m totally crashing your thread. Carry on 🙈
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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I have heard of that, I forget the article but it was really interesting. I’ve never actually had laughing gas so I don’t know exactly how it would make me feel. I’d kind of like to have my wits about me during labor but then again, I’ve never been through labor either.
@cmbt2 crash away!! I personally value your opinion 😊
My only complaint was that by the time it wore off and I could walk, I was in soooo much pain because my bladder was too full (and I know it was that since I felt immensely better after). I plan to ask for a 2nd cath after delivery to avoid that this time.
@emily1052 apparently you do have your wits about you and can move around more which is why women are beginning to choose it. here's the article: https://parenting.nytimes.com/pregnancy/nitrous-oxide-laughing-gas-labor?action=click&module=Discovery&pgtype=Homepage
I'm not opposed to the idea of an epidural as pain relief (minus my abject fear of huge needles and being unable to move my legs) and that's a total game time decision for me, but I'm trying to read up on alternatives so I know all the options!
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BFP #2 5/4/14, EDD 1/15/15, DS1 1/19/15
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I definitely still eat eat ice cream. I had heard this before and asked my dr and she acted like I was the first person to ask her. I’m too lazy to see who said what, but I agree with pp whom said to look around and see if it’s clean. If it looks clean, I eat the ice cream.
I also feel the heaviness down there occasionally. I usually question it briefly and then just move on. It’s definitely a weird sensation!
My initial plan was no epidural, mostly because of needles. I figured I’d make the decision in the moment once I see how strong contractions are/how long it takes. I’m happy to hear that some didn’t see the needle and some still had leg control. I’m thinking I’ll still plan on not, but I’ll just see how it goes. I’m not opposed to it.
2) How are you feeling? (physically, emotionally, all the feels) Pretty emotional and still tired, but getting better
3) Appointments this month? Friday! Normal check up
4) Rants/Raves?