J19 Next Move Poll

Bear14+

Trying to figure out our next move. With the babies getting closer to being born, many of us want to be able to share in a more private setting. 

nopegoat

If TB was glitchy AF I'd totally be down for a private group first then moving to FB but since I can barely post I'm all for straight to FB as long as there's some sort of vetting system in place.

nopegoat

Ugh... Like it won't let me go back and edit my post to say if TB WASN'T glitchy.. Ugh.

canuckmomma

+1 to what @nopegoat said... TB gives me so much trouble and i hate the app. I am interested in staying in touch with July mamas and hearing all your birth stories and names so whatever we do I'll be here for it. 

mamanbebe

Would anyone consider pro boards? I think the tapatalk app works with it and it has decent reviews.

foodislove

@mamanbebe I personally hated the tapatalk app before my O16 board moved from Proboards to FB. I would potentially consider it, but Proboards requires a lot more oversight, we need to trust our admins that much more. 

I was part of the initial group that fled TB to thencomesfamily on Proboards, until that blew up. I picked TB this time around to avoid Proboards. So I'm hesitant to go that direction again. 

mamanbebe

@foodislove I'm curious how having an admin of proboards would be different than whomever would be admin at FB? I won't rejoin FB again regardless of the decision, but having been here since day 1 I'd rather try to stay with the group if there is another viable option out there. 

key33

I'm all for a FB group. TB is always super glitchy and irritating to post anything.

I agree with @foodislove part of my N14 group fled to ProBoards and I absolutely hated it and stuck with our FB group (which is still active). I wouldn't bother with ProBoards at all. 

Cbeanz

I'd be up for Proboards or Line. I'm not on FB so I can't participate in a move there.

leylea89

I don’t know what any of those things but Facebook is lol. But being on here and not being able to simply like everyone’s bump pics has me ready for a change. I didn’t want to do it in March when the topic was first brought up mainly because I think that was too early but I am due at the end of J19 and I only have 9 weeks left. Some of you are basically in your last month so I’m ready for the move. 

I definitely want to stay connected with mamas of babies of a similar age to mine too and I know if a group forms this page will die pretty quick.

frenchbaby18

I’m happy with any option so haven’t voiced an opinion definitely won’t share pics of baby/name/birth story etc though unless we are in a private forum (even if we know that nothing is really private anymore!). 

Panaceia

+1 to not being on FB so I'll be sad if that's where everyone goes:( I didn't vote because you should do what the majority want to do...but I'll still be hanging out here with anyone who stays behind:)

foodislove

@mamanbebe I'm not sure what access the MAIN admin has these days, but way back when Proboards was EZboards, I was owner of a forum group and I could see personal emails, not just account names, IP addresses, etc. That's not information I want someone individually to have, versus a corp like FB. Maybe that's not what admins have access to now, but having yet another account I have to make and track, not having that accountability of knowing who someone is in real life at this point, just makes me more prone to FB. I'd rather do a private group here on TB than Proboards.

indulgentgypsy

With the number of randos we have had popping up lately, I am more than ready for a move to something more private. 

expatmom39

I’d be happy to stay here til end of July, then switch to FB.
I won’t be looking in two places at once, though, so as soon as folks head over to FB, I’ll go.
I definitely don’t love the TB app and would like to shed the threads! 🙈

msimi

I'm also sick of TB platform and would rather move to a more private setting. The app is AWFUL and desktop can be glitchy as well. Right now I only really check it during the week when I'm on my computer since the app is so terrible and knowing I'll be on my computer WAY less once I'm on maternity leave I'd rather make the move to Facebook. I'm bummed that we'd lose the ladies that aren't on Facebook but I'm not sure how to get around that. Also, I'm a FTM so no idea what ProBoards are.

gembud

Noooo don't leave me ladies! No facebook for this mama 

erynpdx

@msimi ProBoards is another forum holding place. After The Bump blew up in 2014 lots of groups migrated there, but I never really caught on there either. I need fewer things to check in on headed into baby land, not more.
I'm with you though, will be super bummed to not keep everyone.  I do think it's inevitable that these huge internet groups suffer through some fracturing at some point or another.

Bear14+

Okay... so basically safe to say the Facebook is the outcome here. @nopegoat since you mentioned it, how should we establish a vetting process within the group? I'm happy to accept private messages with emails and add people to the group...if I remember from my last bmb creation, I have to add you as a friend, add you to the group and then defriend. (At least until anyone decides to add as a friend...) As far as vetting, at least 2 posts in the group? Or do we need more than that? 

Just to add... In my last group, there were a few people who made a private FB page only for the group. They used a bogus name and no one that they know IRL knew about it. Just an idea, I don't see how it's much different than a random forum or group. But I also know some feel strongly against FB... 

nolemomma14

@Bear14+ I think my last BMB had someone create the FB group secretly, and then a few admins were picked. Those admins then PM people here on the bump, the name of the group to search and people were added. We had a rule that you had to post a picture of yourself with the date written on paper or something, within 24 hours of joining the fb group or you would be removed. 

As far as deciding who got added, we said that only posting in HDBD wasn’t enough to get added. There was a post where people could asked to be added, and the admins would like the posts if they recognized the person as a contributor, and then send a pm. There was an initial wave of people to join the fb group, and then after a few weeks more people were added because some do find these boards late, and we felt as long as they were participating here during the time they did join, they could be added to the fb group. 

Bear14+

@nolemomma14 I was looking at the "secret groups" on FB and they are unsearchable. If you make a "private" group, anyone is able to see who is in it and stuff like that. I think my last group was the unsearchable kind.... I think that's why you had to be added by someone who was your friend. I'm not a FB expert though... but I did notice it today when I was messing around with possibly making a group. 

nolemomma14

@Bear14+ i think you’re right! maybe it was a private group originally so people could search it, and then switched to a secret group once the first group of people were added. 

jasonsgirl92

I really hate this app and with a toddler I can't use my laptop unless he's sleeping or he thinks he should touchy it! Lol
I'm all for a move to Facebook!! I don't know what a proboard is and I don't like Tapatalk. I tried it once that was enough for me.

key33

@Bear14+ - Private groups can be searched and people can request to join. Private groups you should be able to invite people via email (so long as they accept friend requests) Secret groups cannot do either. I do believe you can change a private to a secret, I’m not sure if anything has changed with that rule on FB or not.

Usually a post can be made in this forum for people to request to join. They can be voted on by the initial members of the group or admins can look and see if they are in fact active members here on TB.

Like @nolemomma14 said, a picture of yourself (face visible),  user name and date to confirm identity once added to the FB group within x amount of time. 


I think it’s sad that we will loose some members who are active on the forum. Unfortunately, that is just what happens with these types of groups at one point or another. For me personally, one of the main reasons I came back to TB and not elsewhere is because these boards do typically move to FB. I like the ease of FB groups, and love my last BMB group.
 

runsoncoffee

@Bear14+ with my other two groups we had chosen 3 admins and then those interested in joining sent a PM to one of them on TB. They then sent an email to join the group. I believe my groups are both secret but we didn't have to be friends with anyone. Or maybe like nolemomma said it was private first and then switched to secret? For vetting the one group posted someones username and they had to get 5 or more likes that others recognized their name. The other group it was just the admins who went back and checked activity, but I don't remember what their exact parameters were. Both groups we posted a bump and face pic with TB username, real name, and todays date. 

leylea89

My only thing about liking people’s posts as recognition is that I legit can’t. It gives me a java script error. I know @nopegoat also had this issue. 

nopegoat

My other groups chose 3-4 admins. They added the obvious regulars and once those were added the voting started for others that aren't so regular. Voting happened in the FB/private group (so if you have a problem liking posts here that won't be an issue)and was strictly on if the person was recognized and/or if they participated in a few threads besides just the intro, sex announcement, etc. So a Randoms thread, a check in, something. They don't have to post a ton or even regular just need to show they aren't a random flyby. 

Once in you have to post a pic including your face, bump, your screen name and date written on a piece of paper, and a random object like a spoon, brush, etc that's chosen beforehand (everyone has the same object). Once seen and verified by the admins it may be deleted if you aren't comfortable leaving it up or you can choose to send it through a pm to the admins.

mamahmh2

@nopegoat
that process sounds great.
how do we go about voting for admins? 
I’d like to suggest you and @indulgentgypsy, considering I remember you both from the Waiting Room before our BMB even went live. 

mnkenned

On my last BMB many of us exchanged Instagram accounts which has been fun to keep up with people. I think there was a FB group too that then turned into a popularity contest over who was really a "regular" so then a second one was formed.

mom2b77373

I agree with Facebook. I’m not sure what any of the other apps or websites are. TB is way to spastic, it’s hard  as heck for me to use on my phone and I have to use the website through my work computer which I’m not a big fan of. Ive only got 6 weeks to go so I am hoping we can all decide on something soon. Plus I’m sure some of us will pop sooner

nerdtoyourmother

Could we have admin nominations followed by a poll to narrow it down? 

expatmom39

Whatever we do, please someone break down the steps we need to take to join the FB group so people (like me!) don’t get lost.

Im happy to do vetting, etc...but never have joined an online group like this and while it’s probably simple, I don’t want to misunderstand and not know what to do. 

Thanks to the “vets” for your leadership here! It’s appreciated! 🤓

key33

I think starting off with adding some regulars would be the way to go and seeing who would like to be  admins out of the bunch. I agree with all all those who have been mentioned for being admins. The problem with nominating people is those people might not want to or might not have the time to commit to doing so.

mom2b77373

@nerdtoyourmother I agree! Everyone that has been mentioned would be great options 

mizzmeg

leylea89 said:

My only thing about liking people’s posts as recognition is that I legit can’t. It gives me a java script error. I know @nopegoat also had this issue. 

I thought it was just me! I was so angry that I couldn’t like anyone’s comments on here because of an error! 

Happyin14

We started as a Private group so we could grab people and then moved to Secret. I think you can still do that.

For anyone that wasn’t an obvious regular, admins did a vote in the group so it wasn’t just admins deciding. Then they deleted polls so feelings weren’t hurt when people said “WHO IS THAT?” 

Anyone volunteering as admin, keep in mind that it’s more than just gatekeeping. It’s responding to pin requests (although only one at a time, right?) and when drama happens... potentially banning folks from the group. If you aren’t comfortable with that possibility, I wouldn’t sign up. 

I am super sad about some of the regs we would lose. But I know I’ll be more active and imagine others would be also. I successfully convinced a few from O14 to sign up a dummy account just for us. Maybe I can do it again?!?! 

Funny story. I later asked one of those people if she was legit because her FB Page was suspicious. She was like “uhhh.... you made me do this”. 

PS - I would join the group but not Friend request/accept for a while. Again, privacy. Don’t be offended!! Man, this was long.

quinniebear

I haven't been on here while traveling last week but I would definitely prefer FB! I'm not very active on there on my regular page anymore (family politics blah blah) but I do like groups.

gingermama46

I'm in the same boat as @mom2b77373 in using the site on my work computer because the app never works for me, so I would like to stop doing that soon especially when it comes to birth stories and pictures of the baby

gembud

@mnkenned I like the IG idea, especially since I'll be dropped not having FB

Happyin14

@gbud630, until I convince you to create a dummy account that looks like a catfish. 

mama_bear19

@gbud630 yes create a dummy acct! I don’t have IG. @happyin14 want to love it, but can’t 💗