it’s weird too think this time last year I was getting ready to go back to work - seems like forever ago already. A robin built a nest by our front door - waiting to see if there are babies - mostly because I’m not sure when they lay eggs.
We had that happen two years ago and it was so fun to watch them grow. My kids got annoyed with them because it was by their bedrooms and they would squawk all the time when the mom would leave waiting for food.
You guys: the whining. I noticed Nora whining more than usual when I started my leave, and it's just been increasing exponentially. I'm sure some of it has to do with adjusting to our new normal, but holy cow... We also seem to go from 0 to temper tantrum in .0271 seconds. Anyone else dealing with this? What works for you? Dealing with it 24/7, my brain is dripping out my ears.
We haven't has much whining but the tantrums...OMG. LO will flip out over the snallest things. I wouldnt let him play with my keys and gave him his toy instead but it wasnt good enough and he started screaming in the middle of the grocery store. I tried to ignore it but it was embarassing to have people side eyeing me.
We went to the dr today with the 5th ear infection since February. They referred us to an ENT but I am terrified of LO needing surgery does anyone have babies with tubes?
Tantrums here too - we just try to stay calm and tell her it’s not the way to act - which I know is silly but am hoping will pay off. She still easily distracted from them - but I just try to ignore it and carry on with whatever....it gets me through them 😂🤣 @sgrn18 not tubes for LO - but I ended up with them so many times that if I had needed them again it would have been permanent. If it helps you at all - I don’t remember any of it except the last time when I was about seven and that’s because my aunt (who was a nurse at the hospital) got to take me back to the OR - and that I think I only remember from stories. I think it’s much harder/scarier for parents. I grew out of it and never needed them again and don’t have any issues as an adult. We had to take Maeve to Children’s for a hemangioma on her eye - I just made sure to bring every bit of paperwork I thought they could ask for and some toys to distract her while waiting/talking to the doc. I still love my ENT from all those years ago. Good luck to you! Keep us posted.
My oldest needed tubes and I did too. I know surgery is always scary, but the result is really night and day. My kiddo and myself has a much better quality of life after the procedure.
@ashtuesday whining and tantrums here also. And biting... I think it’s for teeth and not to be mean to us, but it hurts so bad with just 4 teeth. @sgrn18 good luck!
@sgrn18 you should try a chiropractor. Sometimes the eustacian tubes need to be moved a little and it will help hearing and for them to drain correctly. I have seen great results.
The whining is almost unbearable at times. He wants on my lap but he doesn’t but I need to stay sitting even though he doesn’t want me. And now we are starting stranger danger too.
@megpeg - totally seeing that - get comfortable and settled then she wants down again. We have fear of missing out over here. Doesn’t like the shower curtain closed or being where she can’t see everything.
Happy Mother’s Day weekend, friends! Love & hugs to you all
We have a lot of pointing and squeaking. At first I thought she was trying to tell me she wanted something, but our Montessori teacher said it's language acquisition. She wants to know the name of everything. That's helping but it is still annoying. By the end of the day I'm close to losing it, and of course she ramps up when she's tired. ugh. We don't have a lot of whining, but definitely she wants me to be nearby and doing nothing. She will be playing perfectly on her own, but if I get up to go to the bathroom, she whines and follows me. She's really clinging. And she doesn't want dad if I'm in sight, poor guy.
@fatstagnation I am constantly talking to Declan telling him what things are and I think it’s helping. He tells me juice now when he makes his sign for a drink when he wants that and not milk. He says this and pints at his palm when he wants a snack. They are sponges at this point but can’t get the words out. i feel like a bad mom but all I wanted for mother’s day is some time to myself. I sent DH and the kids camping with out me so I can clean, watch movies and have some cocktails. I really needed some time to myself which hasnt happened since January when we went to mexico. So I am laying tile in my bathroom, drinking cocktails and watching girl movies.
@mccurleya Declan points and says this too! Last we we ended up with veggie straws, a ball, and oranges when we were grocery shopping because he had to have them and it was really cute.
The robin in our yard had two babies - it is so cool watching (from a distance) the parents taking turns feeding them. It’s been a really sweet way to start the warmer weather. We’re hoping they do okay and the other birds let them be.
How is everyone doing? Over here we’re on a fairly good schedule. I feel like we’re always going and when there’s a chance to rest or relax LO wants to get into everything. I don’t think I ever realized how much of my day work takes up until now when we have to rush through dinner, brushing teeth, cleaning up all in the hour and a half we’re home before bedtime. @sgrn18 how did it go with the ENT?
@shoretobe we dont get to see them for another month... which i think is stupid so i brought it up at the drs today. She said if he gets another ear infection between now and then she will call them. The last one took 2 rounds of antibiotics to get rid of. Its frustrating.
I feel like i havent been on here in a while lol its been super busy and hectic lately!
I come on and check up, but my energy has been so low by the end of the evening that initiating dialogue has not been my strongest asset. I am following along.
We final transitioned three of the four out of our room and Samantha to a pack n play next to the bed. She still wakes up a bunch to nurse, but tonight is the night I tell her to go back to bed without nursing every time. I don’t want to wean her, but that’s the only way my babies usual learn to sleep through the night. They all wanted a slow drip in their mouths until I cut them off cold turkey. If she doesn’t take to my gentle approach I will wean her. With working full time and everything else with my other kids I need sleep. It’s making me not feel well. It’s time.
Here is a cute picture of her at the splash pad...excuse her bruise. Walking is hard.
I hope everyone had a good Memorial Day weekend. We got a lot of yard work done. Except V always leaves the grass and goes crawling over the gravel driveway and someone has to chase after her. Both her knees are bruised now.
Welp! I guess I am in the tww. We didn’t use any protection and I think I was ovulating for the very first time since getting pregnant with Sam. I wanted to wait until the end of summer, but if it happens sooner than later it’s meant to be. We’ll see!
@fatstagnation Declan loves outside too. He is all over and his new fave is riding in the power wheel with big sister. He fell on the cement at my grandparents last week end head first and has a giant goose egg on his forehead.
Catching up after a long time MIA - miss you ladies! Thanks to all who sympathized with tantrums. N has gotten better - I think it had a lot to do with teeth coming in.
@megpeg Your mother's day plans sound like they were a dream! Hope you enjoyed.
@sgrn18 No personal experience with tubes, but five ear infections in just a few months sounds so awful for LO. The tubes seem like a crummy experience the day they're put in, but like they could lead to LO feeling a lot better long term. Let us know when you go to the doctor!
@DDRRT1982 Squuuuuueee!!! Good luck!! And I hope you're getting more sleep and feeling well.
All is well here. Nora is still a great big sister, and Murph is a sweet, mellow baby. We're doing pretty well routine-wise, except when it comes to dinnertime: by then, Nora's fussy, it's Murph's witching hour, and I just can't get my act together to get food on the table. Being on maternity leave this time has felt really isolating (I'm chalking it up to being in the 'burbs this time when I was in the city with N), but I finally really spoke to my husband about it and he's been doing a lot to help me feel connected - he even surprised me by contacting two of my best friends last week and working from home so I could go out with them!
I go for my six week check-up on Tuesday, and I'm really hoping my ob will put in my IUD then. He wants to wait a bit longer to make sure my uterus is totally shrunk back to normal, but I have very vocally requested we just do the damn thing. It feels weird to get an IUD when I plan on trying to get pregnant again at the end of next summer, but my body feels like it NEEDS that time. Birth control pill issues + my husband and I being stupid with condoms got us Murph when it did, so the IUD feels like the best choice: I am so grateful that she's here, but I also want to enjoy her and Nora as a duo for more than four minutes. I do feel weirdly... guilty? about wanting the IUD. We tried so hard and it took so long for us to have Nora. We do want more kids. The magical thinking part of me worries. The logical thinking part knows my body and our brains need time to rebound before doing this again.
@ashtuesday good luck at your appt! I hope the doctor follows your wishes. I’m glad Nora is doing so well with Murphy! I’m sure you’ll fall into a better routine soon and get better connected. That’s awesome that your husband did that for you.
On another note, I’m leaving Nate over night for 3 days next week and I’m excited for my trip, but dreading leaving him. We’ve never been apart over night or for more than a work day. I know he’ll be better than me but I’m not looking forward to it.
@ashtuesday glad you’re settling in. I find that time hard too - I’m ready for bed and there’s still a million things - hope it gets easier. That was sweet of your husband. Decompression time is so important.
@DDRRT1982 how exciting!! Wishing you a quick two weeks with a positive ending (pun totally intended 😂
@ashtuesday I am so glad the girls are doing so well! I hope your dr appt goes well. Don’t feel guilty about an iud you know what you need. Mother’s Day was good I watched chick flicks and laid flooring.
@ashtuesday so glad to hear everyone is adjusting pretty well.
Well, I believe I am 8 dpo and there is a very faint line. I am so nervous and excited. I need to go get my progesterone tested. The fact that I haven’t had a period since before Sam has me worried about egg quality. Hopefully, everything will be ok.
CONGRATULATIONS, @DDRRT1982!!! Holy cow!!!! I am SO excited for you and am wishing you a smooth, uneventful 40 weeks. Hooray!!! (Also: I'm blown away by how well you kniw your body! Teach me!)
@ashtuesday after having a hard time getting pregnant with my first daughter I learned everything there is to know about cycles and symptoms. My body has geared up several times since Sam, but hasn’t actually ovulated until now. I think this baby is just meant to be. We have been so careful since Sam until just that one time. It’s kind of funny how all that worked. If everything goes well this will be my last pregnancy. It’s kind of sad and exciting.
You know what my main concern is? I feel really bad that I am going to feel like dog shit with morning sickness and worry about ruining my kids summer. Ugh.
@DDRRT1982 Eh, I think most kids will find a way to enjoy their summers no matter what - it'll be okay! I'm sorry you'll have to spend yours dealing with morning sickness though - or I guess sorry's the wrong word because it's the best reason to feel terrible. I also studied all things cycles when we struggled to conceive N, but I'm lousy at accurately seeing them in myself - so I guess I'm really praising you for being able to apply your knowledge lol
I'm sitting in my doctor's office right now for my 6-week appointment and I'm simultaneously hoping they'll give me the IUD today and thinking "Fuck it, should we just go for another one right now?" My brain is the worst.
Re: MAY
A robin built a nest by our front door - waiting to see if there are babies - mostly because I’m not sure when they lay eggs.
We went to the dr today with the 5th ear infection since February. They referred us to an ENT but I am terrified of LO needing surgery
@sgrn18 not tubes for LO - but I ended up with them so many times that if I had needed them again it would have been permanent. If it helps you at all - I don’t remember any of it except the last time when I was about seven and that’s because my aunt (who was a nurse at the hospital) got to take me back to the OR - and that I think I only remember from stories. I think it’s much harder/scarier for parents. I grew out of it and never needed them again and don’t have any issues as an adult. We had to take Maeve to Children’s for a hemangioma on her eye - I just made sure to bring every bit of paperwork I thought they could ask for and some toys to distract her while waiting/talking to the doc. I still love my ENT from all those years ago. Good luck to you! Keep us posted.
@sgrn18 good luck!
The whining is almost unbearable at times. He wants on my lap but he doesn’t but I need to stay sitting even though he doesn’t want me. And now we are starting stranger danger too.
Happy Mother’s Day weekend, friends! Love & hugs to you all
We don't have a lot of whining, but definitely she wants me to be nearby and doing nothing. She will be playing perfectly on her own, but if I get up to go to the bathroom, she whines and follows me. She's really clinging. And she doesn't want dad if I'm in sight, poor guy.
i feel like a bad mom but all I wanted for mother’s day is some time to myself. I sent DH and the kids camping with out me so I can clean, watch movies and have some cocktails. I really needed some time to myself which hasnt happened since January when we went to mexico. So I am laying tile in my bathroom, drinking cocktails and watching girl movies.
Happy Mother’s Day everyone!
Nate also points at everything. If he wants your food or something he points and says this over and over and over until he gets it.
How is everyone doing? Over here we’re on a fairly good schedule. I feel like we’re always going and when there’s a chance to rest or relax LO wants to get into everything. I don’t think I ever realized how much of my day work takes up until now when we have to rush through dinner, brushing teeth, cleaning up all in the hour and a half we’re home before bedtime.
@sgrn18 how did it go with the ENT?
I feel like i havent been on here in a while lol its been super busy and hectic lately!
Poop diaper in the vent sounds....uhh...fun! Lol
We final transitioned three of the four out of our room and Samantha to a pack n play next to the bed. She still wakes up a bunch to nurse, but tonight is the night I tell her to go back to bed without nursing every time. I don’t want to wean her, but that’s the only way my babies usual learn to sleep through the night. They all wanted a slow drip in their mouths until I cut them off cold turkey. If she doesn’t take to my gentle approach I will wean her. With working full time and everything else with my other kids I need sleep. It’s making me not feel well. It’s time.
Here is a cute picture of her at the splash pad...excuse her bruise. Walking is hard.
@megpeg Your mother's day plans sound like they were a dream! Hope you enjoyed.
@sgrn18 No personal experience with tubes, but five ear infections in just a few months sounds so awful for LO. The tubes seem like a crummy experience the day they're put in, but like they could lead to LO feeling a lot better long term. Let us know when you go to the doctor!
@DDRRT1982 Squuuuuueee!!! Good luck!! And I hope you're getting more sleep and feeling well.
All is well here. Nora is still a great big sister, and Murph is a sweet, mellow baby. We're doing pretty well routine-wise, except when it comes to dinnertime: by then, Nora's fussy, it's Murph's witching hour, and I just can't get my act together to get food on the table. Being on maternity leave this time has felt really isolating (I'm chalking it up to being in the 'burbs this time when I was in the city with N), but I finally really spoke to my husband about it and he's been doing a lot to help me feel connected - he even surprised me by contacting two of my best friends last week and working from home so I could go out with them!
I go for my six week check-up on Tuesday, and I'm really hoping my ob will put in my IUD then. He wants to wait a bit longer to make sure my uterus is totally shrunk back to normal, but I have very vocally requested we just do the damn thing. It feels weird to get an IUD when I plan on trying to get pregnant again at the end of next summer, but my body feels like it NEEDS that time. Birth control pill issues + my husband and I being stupid with condoms got us Murph when it did, so the IUD feels like the best choice: I am so grateful that she's here, but I also want to enjoy her and Nora as a duo for more than four minutes. I do feel weirdly... guilty? about wanting the IUD. We tried so hard and it took so long for us to have Nora. We do want more kids. The magical thinking part of me worries. The logical thinking part knows my body and our brains need time to rebound before doing this again.
On another note, I’m leaving Nate over night for 3 days next week and I’m excited for my trip, but dreading leaving him. We’ve never been apart over night or for more than a work day. I know he’ll be better than me but I’m not looking forward to it.
@ashtuesday glad you’re settling in. I find that time hard too - I’m ready for bed and there’s still a million things - hope it gets easier. That was sweet of your husband. Decompression time is so important.
@DDRRT1982 how exciting!! Wishing you a quick two weeks with a positive ending (pun totally intended 😂
@mccurleya enjoy your time!
@DDRRT1982 cant wait to hear!
@megpeg cute haircut!
@ashtuesday so glad to hear everyone is adjusting pretty well.
Well, I believe I am 8 dpo and there is a very faint line. I am so nervous and excited. I need to go get my progesterone tested. The fact that I haven’t had a period since before Sam has me worried about egg quality. Hopefully, everything will be ok.
You know what my main concern is? I feel really bad that I am going to feel like dog shit with morning sickness and worry about ruining my kids summer. Ugh.
I'm sitting in my doctor's office right now for my 6-week appointment and I'm simultaneously hoping they'll give me the IUD today and thinking "Fuck it, should we just go for another one right now?" My brain is the worst.