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July 2019 Moms
ketomommy
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Weekly Bitchfest 5/6/19
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Re: Weekly Bitchfest 5/6/19
I will take responsibility for my fuck up and fix it, but why the fuck did you wait until there are only 2 weeks of school left?!?!?! And of course the emails came when I was taking a personal day to deal with stress/blood pressure and then got hit by the flu and have been throwing up and not sleeping all night.
Fuck this week.
crap right there... so many school districts pull this shit. My mom gets this ALL THE TIME! And she’s been teaching for 30 years.
@acw452 Well crud! I’m so sorry! How does it feel? Bruising much, or just swollen/red?
Edited to add: We have cheesy popcorn, Cocoa Kind Bars, and some dark chocolate.
thanks! It’s mostly swollen with some bruising. It’s a bit better today. The challenge was typing without that finger at work!
1. We have all white towels - from kitchen to bath towels. My routine is to wash all of them together in hot water, soap and bleach in the washing machine. I try to not use paper towels, so I'm fine wiping stuff off the floor with kitchen towels. My philosophy: After everything is washed in hot water and bleach, it is clean. And it is best to wash kitchen and bath towels together, so there are heavier, bigger items in washing machine with kitchen towels so the friction gets everything clean. My mom's philosophy: It is "gross" to use kitchen towels on floor and "gross" to wash them with bath towels. So wash them in teeny-tiny loads alone and use tons of paper towels for pretty much everything.
2. I buy a bunch of fresh produce for the week from farmer's market -wash it, chop it, have it ready to go for the week. Each night I just cook whatever seems like it might go bad first. I base all my cooking off what we already have to not waste food. My mom: "Oh.. I feel like chicken tonight. None of THAT produce "goes" with chicken. I better go to the store and buy (insert super specific thing that we may or may not already have)" Then to top it off, she adds "Your DD likes (insert super specific thing), so we have to make sure we have something for her to eat." (Another clashing point, because I try not to cater to DD's picky toddler tastes.)
3. I store things in clear glass mason jars. I want to see exactly what I have, so I use it. The stuff doesn't get old, because I see it and use it. My mom: "Aluminum foil keeps things fresher. Plus I don't like washing out the glass jars after stuff has gotten old and gross." As a result, she has hundreds of aluminum foil mystery balls - half of which are rotten food that went bad weeks ago.
4. In general - I am a minimalist and pretty environmentally conscious. My mom complains about the plastic problem in this world ALL the time, but she uses more plastic bags, aluminum foil, and paper towels than anyone I know. Both my parents buy way too much food (and stuff in general). Then the stuff accumulates and they can't even see what we already have, so they buy duplicates of the same thing. Before they lived with us, we would have a full but organized fridge at the beginning of the week and an empty fridge at the end of the week with basically no effort in between because we just ate everything we had (no throwing food away). Since they moved in, I'm constantly having to throw old food away, reorganize stuff, shove stuff in, remind people what we already have... it is exhausting!
Disclaimer: I feel like a brat writing this. My parents have been amazing overall. My mom watches our daughter for free every day and has dinner ready before I get home from work nearly every night since they moved in. I just need to rant and see if I'm really being unsanitary?
Edited to add: Also, for someone who thinks everything is "gross"... my mom also lets nasty dish water sit in the sink all day long.
My MIL still uses sponges... I won't touch them.
me too, but I think it’s just the way I grew up.
I agree on the “your house, your rules” and I wish your mom would respect that. Keep doing what you’re doing. It won’t last forever, even though it seems like it now.
Here are my thoughts on it.
1. The towels, totally fine. As long as they get washed and your washing machine is doing the job, who cares. The only place I really draw the line at is wiping up something like raw meat juices. That is a paper towel with a Clorox Wipe chaser for me! Otherwise, totally fine.
2. The produce situation sounds AMAZING! We do about the same. Start off the week with a bunch of stuff prepped and ready to eat so that we don't make bad choices. I start with what is probably going to go bad first, so I will eat all the strawberries before I move on to the grapes or cut up the pineapple, etc.
And the catering to your child thing is something I would absolutely put my foot down about. That is a not in my house, not with my child, non-negotiable item for me.
3. We use clear snapware for all of our stuff because I like how it all stacks up nicely and washes easily. What planet is she on that foil keeps things fresher? I'd really have an issue with the foil, it isn't air-tight and I agree that it is a pain because you can't see into it. I use it very sparingly like to cover a casserole while it bakes. I probably buy 1 roll of foil in an entire year! You wanna know what is gross... my grandmother washes Ziploc bags in order to reuse them!
4. I can't help but commiserate on this one because my husband moves everything around on me in the pantry and then he spends half his time complaining that he can't find XYZ. And then I go into the pantry and find it in seconds. I always start with, "Are you sure you can't find it? Because if I come in there and find it in under 10 seconds, you're going to be in trouble!"
Also, the sink water thing is gross and my Nana does that and it makes me crazy.
Deep breaths. It will be done soon before you know it, but I know the preggie hormones make patience non-existent.
Telling me to "calm down and quit being crazy." When I am complaining about bad customer service is not helpful for me and not healthy for you.
We've had some really bad customer service issues the last week. Including one incident where I banged my plate on a table because after trying to politely get my waiter's attention at a restaurant for being served cold food, for over 20 minutes, I tried to see if being obnoxious would get me anywhere. (Spoiler, it still didn't get his attention, and we are NEVER going back to Rock Bottom Brewery, and we probably should have just walked out.)
Also... my Yelp/Open Table reviews are EPIC right now. Hahaha. (And I'm leaving nice reviews for good experiences, too!)
You may have tried this, but have you checked online for coupons or discount programs? A lot of the long acting insulin types have these from the manufacturers and it can make it affordable even without the insurance covering it.
Parents in the kitchen is a lost cause! My parents use a sopping wet regular size dish towel to both wash dishes and wipe counters...and don’t wring it out properly, if at all. Mold. Need I say more. I buy a new little sponge that dries quickly for every visit I am there.
They also have multiple containers of the same thing open at once, and organize nothing in the fridge.
So, if she’s cooking for you, you can’t do much to regulate those habits. Maybe hide the aluminum foil and stand your ground there. The mystery packages are insane! 😆
I wouldn’t fight her on the towels, though, even if you’re right. If she’s cooking, that’s something she needs for peace of mind. She’d be doing that at her place, too. Don’t feel guilty about her choices in your home.
It’s totally a pick your battles adventure!
I’d pick the practical problems over the philosophical ones.
For your sanity, let a couple things go completely...it’s temporary...and she’s helping the ways she knows how to...better to focus on that.
With the towels thing, that’s probably something I’d grin and bear. If they buy the paper towels, let them use them. Or get a mop so there’s an alternative to paper towels on the floor.
With the toddler tastes, she’s grandma- she’s gonna after. I once went to Louisiana and my great aunt Jessie Mae went to the store just for me and got chicken breasts to make me my own chicken strips because my mom told her I’m not a big fan of chicken on the bone. I was 14 at the time and I’ve gotten over it since but grands and greats love spoiling the kids and as long as it isn’t outrageous sugary crap, I’d let it go for now.