2nd Tri Check In W/O 4/22

ndz2018

• How far along?
• How are you feeling this week?
• Rants/Raves? Questions?
• Any upcoming appointments?
• GTKY: How was you holiday over the weekend?
• Feel free to share a HDBD!!

 
Mommies to be

If I am Forgetting to add someone let me know! 

@leilee101 10/02 BOY!

@blackhottamales 7/18 Team GREEN!

@ndz2018 7/25 BOY!

@flanners1 7/27 BOY!

@wilde1410 7/31 GIRL!

@wabash15 8/15 Team GREEN

blackhottamales

Hi! Sorry i have been MIA on this board, i was out of town for about two weeks, but i'm happy to be back!

• How far along? 27w4d
• How are you feeling this week? I feel big and tired and i know i have a lot more growing to do before LO arrives.
• Rants/Raves? Questions? Just not loving my current contract right now. I'm working with a client and they need a lot of help but it's turning into work i don't like.  I really need to focus these next few weeks on getting a plan in place for my leave and then hopefully i won't actually come back... I keep channelling @wabash15 to remember i might not feel the LO. So nice to have STM+ on here to let you know things are normal. 
• Any upcoming appointments? Had my fetal echo last week which went normal and no need for concern which is nice to hear.  Monthly OB on Thursday and then moving to biweekly appointments which i think will be nice.  
• GTKY: How was you holiday over the weekend? It's funny, it's not really a holiday for MH and I, so it was really odd when we tried to fun our normal errands on Sunday and so many places were closed.  I guess i should pay more attention to holidays that may close stores.  
• Feel free to share a HDBD!!

wabash15

• How far along? 23+5 
• How are you feeling this week? not too bad... mostly just tired but that might have more to do with all the yardwork and house cleaning.
• Rants/Raves? Questions? this weekend was beautiful. It was so nice to have a glimpse at nice weather. I think winter is finally over. one rant are the middle of the night hot flashes... I had to have DH get me an icepack last night to try and cool down.
• Any upcoming appointments? I have a midwife appointment friday.
• GTKY: How was you holiday over the weekend? other than  not getting much sleep it was a good weekend. we did a ton of yard work and the kiddos had lots of easter fun. 

@blackhottamales I'm glad your fetal echo went well. Sorry your still not feeling much. I know it can be hard to relax and trust when the movement is really muted

ndz2018

@wabash15 Take it easy miss!! That sounds like a lot and exhausting.
@blackhottamales glad your Fetal cardiogram went perfect!  I just Started to REALLY feel this little guy movin and groovin these last few weeks. It started out feeling like bubbles popping. I’m sure you’ll feel baby soon. Again like you said, other mommas have been in similar situations. 

• How far along? 26 weeks and 4 days 
• How are you feeling this week? Good. Still tired but I guess that’s just NEVER going away! 
• Rants/Raves? Questions? Getting excited foe my shower in a few 
• Any upcoming appointments? Next week i have to get my Tdap shot, May 1st Glucose test and May 3rd Ultrasound/growth scan.
• GTKY: How was you holiday over the weekend? We woke up on Easter to our dog having a tough time breathing. Shes 15, liver cancer and not doing great this week. She had perked up
• The week prior and i thought maybe she would this time.. when I heard her at 5am i jumped up grabbed my DH got in the car and rushed to the 24 hour emergency vet where we knew it wasn’t going to be good. We wound up saying good bye to our sweet sweet old lady. She technically isn’t our dog our very sick friend is in the hospital waiting for a heart transplant and we were caring for her. She’s been with us for over a year and she’s part of the family. My heart is broken and I miss Her so much.  
• Feel free to share a HDBD!!

blackhottamales

@ndz2018 I'm so sorry for your loss.  My heart is broken for you.  

ndz2018

@blackhottamales Thank you

Ok, so I have a little rant to add. 
My best friend for over 25 years is completely ignoring my pregnancy and me for that matter. She lives in CA but we have always kept In touch. I noticed this a few months ago when she called and didn’t even ask how I was Or the pregnancy was going. I just kinda ignored it maybe she was in a hurry to get off the phone or something. Then i noticed when I would Send her u/s pics she wouldn’t respond,  at all. Then on Easter I sent her a text saying happy Easter and tell her about the dog and NOTHING! No response at all!!!! I’m extremely hurt right now.
we are in completely different places in our lives she’s living the single life in Sunny San Diego and I’m getting ready to welcome my first child into the world. My mom keeps telling me she’s jealous but even if she was why would she completely ignore me? We’re both older and turning 39 this year.. she has spoken many time about wanting children but she can’t seem to find a guy to settle down with. When I spoke To her a few
months back about how she wanted to come home in July she kept saying she REALLY wanted to be back in NJ for some party, her birthday and to see her family... after that she added and meet the baby. Idk I know I cant Force her to be interested but as a best friend since we were 11 years old you would think she would show a little more interest, ask how I was At least??  Idk what do you guys think? 

blackhottamales

@ndz2018 You rant all you want.  First off it is selfish of her not to be able to be the better person and be there as a friend.  And you are not wrong to wish for her to be interested and for her to respond to your communications.  At the same time--I kinda get it, she probably is jealous and doesn't know how to respond.  She can't relate and doesn't want to put the energy into being "fake" happy for you.  Sadly i would let her lead the communication for now.  If you're going to do birth announcements, still send one to her but I wouldn't send her more texts with u/s or pictures from the hospital.  When it's her birthday, make it about her and then if she every wants to bring up the baby she can.  She might be grieving the "what might have been". I have a single SD friend as well who also can't seem to find a guy to have a family with although she says she's always trying.  I think it's a culture and lifestyle choice and while they are happy in the moment I think they know they are missing out on other things.  I've known her since we were in first grade and our friendship has ebbed and flowed over the years as we drifted apart but it's there in one fashion or another.  Nowadays its birthday cards and occasional texts but not much more and i'm at peace with that.  I wish her the best.  

ndz2018

@blackhottamales It really sucks! I want To share this stuff with her but I cant Force her to be happy for me. My shower is coming up and her family is invited , she is too but I dont expect her to fly home from CA for it but it would be nice for her to acknowledge it but again can’t force someone. You’re right, I’ll let her lead from now on. I’m just so hurt, after struggling to get pregnant and finally getting there it really sucks that the one person you thought would be there and happy for you isn’t. Hopefully , if it is jealousy she can put it behind her once this little guy enters the world. I have Always pictured her being part of my children’s lives in some way. 

wabash15

@ndz2018 I'm so sorry about the pup. Loosing a pet can be so hard, you keep looking for them to walk around the corner or jump on the bed. I'm also sorry about your friend. I wonder if it is a bit like IF brain... where you are getting something that she wants and may not ever have and is just not in a place to be celebratory for you. It does suck that she is choosing not to or can't be part of this journey with you. Unfortunately relationships with single or childless friends change when you have kids (even if you don't want them to.) Hugs lady. Good luck with your appointments next week

leilee101

Hi! 
@ndz2018 ugh so sorry about the loss of your doggo. I always have such a hard time with the loss of pets, they really are such special parts of the family. As far as your friend not recognizing your pregnancy, I would say that she is definitely feeling some type of way about it. I say that because dealing with infertility for almost 3 years had me feeling some type of way towards pregnant friends, to the point where I felt super guilty about not being involved in their pregnancies at all because it just caused me too much pain. So obviously a totally different situation, but if similar feelings of jealousy are driving it then it's still quite the same. My only advice would be to try not to take it personally, maybe try to reconnect over something not baby or pregnancy related.
@blackhottamales congrats on the great scan! You are so close to the third trimester 
@wabash15 I'm soo excited about the weather improving too, although where I live has just been rain rain rain

• How far along? 17 weeks tomorrow 
• How are you feeling this week? I've felt great this entire time and this week is no exception
• Rants/Raves? Questions? I am still so hesitant to tell people we are pregnant. I think years of infertility and loss are driving that, and I'm not really sure what I am waiting for? Maybe waiting to feel movement, or after our anatomy scan in a couple weeks. I just want to feel confident enough to shout it from the rooftops ..or at least make a social media announcement lol. I just worry that by the time I actually feel like this is real, my pregnancy will be over. 
• Any upcoming appointments? OB appointment on Monday, Anatomy Scan on 5/6
• GTKY: How was you holiday over the weekend? Weekend was great, I am Jewish and DH is Catholic so we get the best of both worlds. and I love ham. 
• Feel free to share a HDBD!! Still waiting on the bump to pop, but I am definitely not able to suck in anymore so I think it's coming! #bumpwatch2019

ndz2018

@wabash15 and @leilee101 Thank you so much! I’m still trying to adjust to life without her around, getting up in the morning to take her out or rushing home after work to snuggle with her:( !
As for my best friend that really sucks too! I can5 empathize with her as I had those jealousy feeling each and every time one of
my friends fell pregnant BUT that being said she’s more like a sister than a friend.. her and I have been through so much together and she knows the struggles we had getting pregnant and you would think she could find a piece of her to be sorta happy/exciteed and put aside the jealousy and be like WOW they have been trying for years to get pregnant, had to go through IVF, surgeries , delay after delay and finally got there. It just really sucks not having her to talk to and makes me incredibly sad but I’m gonna have to let her go through it. Maybe once this little guy gets here she will change how she feels?? I can only hope  also her entire family is invited to the shower. Her one cousin is coming but her sister and mom haven’t rsvp’d yet. She’s in CA so I dont expect her to come out here for it but again it would be nice for her to acknowledge it and tell my mom she’s not coming.