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Weekly Bitchfest 4/8/19
indulgentgypsy
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I just know I am going to be starting this every week, lol.
So I just got passive aggressive subtle crap from the school nurse because I refused to let a student come and eat her lunch in my room during class. For some reason she did not eat lunch during lunch, and was now already late to my class needing to eat.
Okay - if this kid was not late to class EVERY SINGLE DAY I might have made an exception. If this child did not frequently find reasons to skip class or "forget" what time class started or lose her work or whatever other excuse she wants to make... She has an F in my class because she does not turn in even half of her work. Work that we do together in class. Work that she has a study hall to do (not that she needs the extra hour to do the work, she is NOT SPED, she just needs to actually do the work and not skip class).
I bend over backwards for my kids and allow a BUNCH of exceptions, but eventually, SPED or not, they need to learn how to follow directions, show up on time, and get their work done. Period. Full stop. Functional human beings ALL have to do these things.
So I just got passive aggressive subtle crap from the school nurse because I refused to let a student come and eat her lunch in my room during class. For some reason she did not eat lunch during lunch, and was now already late to my class needing to eat.
Okay - if this kid was not late to class EVERY SINGLE DAY I might have made an exception. If this child did not frequently find reasons to skip class or "forget" what time class started or lose her work or whatever other excuse she wants to make... She has an F in my class because she does not turn in even half of her work. Work that we do together in class. Work that she has a study hall to do (not that she needs the extra hour to do the work, she is NOT SPED, she just needs to actually do the work and not skip class).
I bend over backwards for my kids and allow a BUNCH of exceptions, but eventually, SPED or not, they need to learn how to follow directions, show up on time, and get their work done. Period. Full stop. Functional human beings ALL have to do these things.
Re: Weekly Bitchfest 4/8/19
My bitchfest isn’t that bad. I just need to stop dropping everything in sight. I’m THIS FRIGGIN’ CLOSE to just saying, screw it, the floor is its new home. Over it. And I still have 10-12 weeks to go.
@jenniferjoy37 I sat on the ground yesterday and thought it was my new home, getting up just sounded exhausting and way too much work!!
#2 I got a phone call from my OB’s office that my Midwife won't be in on Friday morning. Which is when my next appointment is that I scheduled 5 weeks ago. So now the only time I can get in this week is with one of the nurses and I have to alter my schedule to make it work. I already had a full schedule this week between my kids and other appointments. (same for next week).
@jenniferjoy37 I have been so lazy lately too! I needed to take something out to the garage (detached, down a flight of stairs) yesterday and literally left it where it was because it was just too much work. Thankfully, DH took it down for me later. I just can't get used to how much more work everything is! What am I going to do in a few weeks?!?
@jennm0724 dont loan the money, especially if there is a divorce. The judge will divide their debts and it might not even be his, if he doesn't get the house. Most of the time it takes years of not paying property taxes before you're a risk of losing your house. He's got plenty of time to make payments.
@key33 That really stinks. Do they have any other midwives that you could see?
@jennm0724 That is so insane and rude. I am sure if he called they would give him some sort of hardship deferment and payment plan.
@indulgentgypsy That sounds so infuriating!
My week sucks because the past 6 weeks has sucked and this week has just brought more suck. I have GD, at this point it is questionable whether it will be manageable by diet. All carbs are spiking my blood sugar, regardless of being eaten with protein, but I'm also terribly limited on what I can eat because of my MTHFR mutation and serious digestive failures. So my midwives talked and want me to try to figure out to fix it all with diet, but they also threw in there that if it comes to medication or insulin, then they will not keep me on as a patient.
On top of that, I asked during my last 2 appts if there was a group for summer moms at my midwives yet. The receptionist said no and that they weren't sure they would and they'd contact me if they decided to set it up. So tonight I get a text from her at like.. 4:30pm *reminding* me that there is a potluck tonight for summer moms. I wrote back and asked why I was just being told then and she said that it was on their Facebook page.. I told her I'm not on FB and explained how I had asked about it before and was told it wasn't confirmed and that someone would contact me. Absolute radio silence. This is so disappointing because I have been wanting desperately to be a part of some sort of group and haven't found anything, but then I can't even go tonight because there was no notice, I'm solo parenting tonight and do not have a sitter anymore.
I'm feeling really disappointed with my care now. I feel like they don't really want to go the extra mile for their patients, despite being really kind and capable women. And the fact that they would drop me for trying to manage GD in a responsible way is insane.
I’m so sorry to hear about the GD and all the issues it is causing you. Are your midwives specifically in a practice alone with no OB to consult in the practice? I can't believe you would be dropped for having to managed GD.
My midwives are part of a birthing center, so no OB. The supervising person is a nurse-midwife over the certified midwife practitioners, so if you become "high risk" by any means, you're bounced to an OB. It's kind of ridiculous though that they would rather keep me on with wonky glucose numbers, trying somewhat unsuccessfully to manage it by an extremely limited diet, than to allow me to continue on while eating a balanced diet and taking commonly prescribed medication.
I'm trying to see if any local home birth midwives will work with me given the circumstance, and honestly, after all of this I'd almost rather, even if I can manage this with diet and other natural treatments. Our insurance is going to change at the end of the month, which will effectively triple (or more) our out of pocket costs with them and makes it even less worthwhile to continue care.
Mine is based in an all female practice, but the Office is ran by an OB. They are also hospital based and not home birth based, but if any issues arise their is an OB to consult. The Midwife I regularly see, I've seen with each of my kids now.
Can I just put out there that I hate hate hate hate hate all Metal Gear Solid games. My DH and BIL play them, my BIL got the newest one for my DH for a late birthday/Christmas present. These games trigger a rage in my DH like no others. I hate them so fucking much.
I have a student in my first hour math class that refuses to work. Literally puts his head down on his desk and will not do any work whatsoever in my class. He currently has an F despite being a SPED student because he does NO WORK. I can't grade or modify nothing. Even exempting him from 3/4 of the assignments he is still failing.
And it is not just my class. It is every class. He does nothing in EVERY CLASS.
This morning he asked if he could check his grades on the computer, I said he could, once we got some work done. The instant I delayed (notice I did NOT say no, I said later) what he wanted to do, he put his head down and refused to do the assignment we were working on. SMDH.
There are two customers who have been in the department for a good 5 minutes. They must have hearing issues, because they shout everything they say, and keep testing the speakers at crazy high volumes. A sales associate is trying to help them, but they don't seem to be listening to him. GGAAAHHH!!
1) I had twins my first pregnancy. They will be 3 this month. Not everyone at my work knows that I'm pregnant. I'm a high school teacher but with my lab schedule and the location of my classroom, I only see the same few people every day and I'm not friends with the entire staff on social media. So anyway, now that I'm very visibly pregnant, people are congratulating me which is really nice, but then ultimately it is followed up with the extremely clever "Twins again???" Like it's not funny when you've heard it for 5 months straight from family, friends, doctors, and now random people. It's just annoying.
2) On the same level, people that are finding out I'm pregnant are making comments like "I can't believe you decided to have another after twins!" Oh ok, I didn't realize we were the first people ever in the world to have a third child. My husband said I should take it as a compliment, like they can't handle it but I can, but it just annoys me so much.
We have a joint Apple calendar, and him failing to put things in there is an ongoing issue he's acknowledged.
His "get out of work" time varies based on a few factors, but today was supposed to be a pretty early out, certainly in time for a vet appt. after 4. Except he has a work meeting that's in his work Outlook calendar, which he's also fully aware I don't have access to (I DO have access to calendar that gives me an idea of whether he'll be out early-ish or not), and its presence in the Outlook calendar is why he didn't put it into our joint calendar.
He says he "told me about it" at some point, but he's also fully aware of (and justifiably amused by) my ongoing pregnancy brain, where I forget stuff he told me or I meant to do, etc. in some cases 2 minutes after it's mentioned, so how he expects me to remember something he told me 2+ days ago, especially combined with my worry over the dog, is a mystery to me.
good luck with the diabetes situation. I hope you can find a midwife who will work with you.
@indulgentgypsy
I met with a fertility naturopath I worked with in the fall this afternoon, and she is going to work with me to see if we can get the GD under control with diet, supplements and activity. In the meantime, I talked to DH about how I'm feeling w/ our current midwives and he supports me in whatever we need to do. I have an appt next week where I plan to talk through the risk of them transferring care and air my grievances. In the meantime, I'm going to meet with small midwifery group that is close to my house who have 1 opening left for July births.
@mamanbebe I hope your care improves soon, that would seriously make me preg-rage.
@Panaceia Oh hell no! A week?! Wtf are they doing. I hate having to go into the non-private bathrooms here at work. It's so awkward being in a stall and pregnant anyway.
Rage here is that yet ANOTHER thing has broken in my house. It was 78 yesterday and my A/C cannot seem to cool my house properly. Like, it's not completely broken, we have cool air coming out of the vents, but my main floor was 75 and upstairs was 80. Thank god the temp broke yesterday and dropped below 50 overnight. I got sleep for the first time in three days. But second half of the rage is that with DH out of the country for work, and half our staff out at my own work, I have no time to meet with an A/C guy to get it looked at. AUGH.
I’ve been traveling constantly this pregnancy and starting to really get over it...just back from 3 days in Switzerland/the UK and I don’t know how I’ll ever make it through the next two days before the weekend! Baby moon is first week of May (I’m due end of July) then I think I’m going to cut off travel....if I can!
night...now it’s just a miracle I worked a full day and there’s food in the fridge for tomorrow, forget tacking on anything else!
@ketomommy Wth. That is... absolutely ridiculous. Esp if you are salaried.
@Bear14+ Good for you holding your ground on that. DH really wants to go to the local food benefit the zoo throws every year and I was like... I'll be 7mo preg, there will be so much booze, and probably a lot of things I can't eat while pregnant (rare red meat, raw fish, etc.). Doesn't sound like much fun. He (sadly) agreed. Hope your DH sees the light and doesn't whine about it.
This week got shittier. Came home last night to find our water had been turned off, on top of us not getting A/C fixed til Friday. Apparently when I had to call in to setup automatic billing over the phone because the website wasn't giving me access to my account, they weren't supposed to promise me that it was okay and set it up. Because the bill only comes every three months, I totally missed it not coming out of our account in January. So we were "delinquent." The emergency line told me my bill did not constitute an emergency, but I think they took pity on me because I was just sobbing at that point. I paid it online (money was never the issue), and they graciously had it back on by 10pm, but my nerves were shot by then.
I can take all the 1 hour dance/cardio classes I like and still breathe. Walking up the stairs in my school, I am fucking wiped out!