TLDR: July14 BMB had a catfish and the high-level story is below. I can’t remeber some details.
@galentine A woman who was not pregnant made up a whole life and participated all the way through to delivery. She had stolen photos from some woman that lives in Europe’s account - posted a weekly bump photo and everything (we did a hump day, bump day thread on Wednesday’s back then). She had a labor buddy and texted with her through delivery, etc. She was really over the top and had a unique story - lesbian about to have her 5th kid - and always was willing to openly share and that made people trust her. She claimed to not have Facebook so never joined our group.
It all blew up when someone was texting with her and then started looking into some of the things she had posted to verify. She was traced back To a different name, etc.
The woman in our group that figured it out even spoke to the producers of Catfish because our catfish wanted to make amends with some of the people she had gotten closest with or something. Turned out she had catfished a LOT of people. It was SO crazy. I wonder if the threads where everything was revealed still exist?! I’ll have to dig and see if I can find them.
@galentine the post is still there. It’s titled “newb in town” and is super long. It was last replied to in Nov 2014 if you want to read the saga. It starts with the catfish pretending to be her pretend fiancé just joining the group.
@galentine the post is still there. It’s titled “newb in town” and is super long. It was last replied to in Nov 2014 if you want to read the saga. It starts with the catfish pretending to be her pretend fiancé just joining the group.
I remember that! Our BMB had migrated to Proboards by that time and when the catfish stuff went down we just completely binged on it.
I was just coming to say I think the thread was still around. I remember when it went down! One of your BMB members came and played on mine, so we all got brought into the loop as things started going down. 😬😬
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@PenelopeSnuz77, ahhhh ok. Now that you mention it, I realize I have read that one. That's totally crazy, and I sincerely hope we don't deal with any catfish on October 2019. That being said, everyone should always practice good internet safety because you never know!
@emily1052 That just happened to us last week! We had to throw out everything in our freezer. It sucked.
@PenelopeSnuz77 Wow! That's so crazy that there's people in the world that will do stuff like that. On my Oct 15 board, we had one that we eventually found out was a fake.****TW***** We found out because at like 20 weeks or so she said her baby wasn't moving anymore and the doctor told her she had to carry the baby to term even though the baby had passed, which would never happen. Eventually some people found her profile pic to be someone else's. It was pretty bad.
we also had a catfish on July 2017. I don't remember the whole story but it ended up that she was stealing one of her friends' facebook pics and using them on TB. Someone from our BMB actually messaged the friend and her responses just made it all seem super fishy. Never found out if she was actually pregnant or not. It was pretty early on I think so nobody was super invested in her or anything.
I totally have read through the July 14 saga. I think my last BMB also had a July 14 mom in it? Or I just stumbled on it, don't remember now.
@galentine I am also not good with blood draws. When I had mine done for the blood work panel with DS, they only got about 4.5 out of 6 before I passed out in the chair. I woke up with 3 nurses standing over me. Since then, I always have them lie me down on the examination table, even if I'm only having one or two vials done. The GD test was the worst, because I was already feeling a bit faint from fasting!
@steminist, I'm sorry you get woozy too, it's no fun. It's been a several years since I've fainted for a blood draw, but since I have fainted for other random things too in the meantime, I just don't take any chances. I lie down every time too. I figure it doesn't hurt anything, so I might as well be extra cautious just in case.
I went back and was reading that thread...that’s crazy. And scary. The app glitched so I didn’t get to the end. I’m assuming that she (or her wife) never came back on to confirm anything?
Aw, my friend is hosting a bachelorette brunch for her sister and wanted to know what she could buy so that I would have a festive drink, too! I was just planning to drink juice or La Croix, but she said she was going to set aside some of the mixer from the fancy champagne cocktail so I can have something fun.
@steminist, I'm sorry you get woozy too, it's no fun. It's been a several years since I've fainted for a blood draw, but since I have fainted for other random things too in the meantime, I just don't take any chances. I lie down every time too. I figure it doesn't hurt anything, so I might as well be extra cautious just in case.
I almost passed out at a blood draw in December. My vasovagal nerve overreacts (vasovagal syncope), always from an intense stomachache that comes from nowhere. It's common, and you'll see that many people actually get it from the sight of blood (which I don't personally understand, but I also don't understand my unexplainable stomachaches that come from nowhere). The best thing to do is get your legs in the air, but lying down is a good option when that isn't possible. I've only passed out a handful of times in my life, but it's scary! I've learned to listen to my body when it's about to happen, so I like to think I'm better in control of it now? 🤷
I'm scared about when labor happens. I feel like I'm going to pass out!
Yeah, one of the months just before mine last time, maybe January 2017, also had a cringy situation in which a woman took advantage of her BMB to literally get money and stuff through paypal. (This is not as weird as it seems; my BMB for March 2017 absolutely collects money through PayPal for things like if a woman has a loos and we buy her flowers or something.)
Another board, maybe even the same one, had a fb group and a woman totally outed someone's real life name and info on the bump.
So I'm in favor of waiting to create a group. Then the group has to be secret and unsearchable and you have to get an email invite to join.
@meagan-t other than the unknown aspect of labor, what are your fears? Maybe those of us that have been there can help?
@wintersong my BMB had a situation like that. All her personal info and that of her husband was blasted on here. Back then, each board had mods, and she had to get one of them to actually block her (the one who’s info was blasted) in order to get all the info deleted. It was really bad. It was late summer, maybe early fall, 2014 when that happened.
@cmbt2 Well, I know my passing out happens from stomachaches that literally come from nowhere and suddenly, and while I have no idea what to expect with labor, I'm expecting it to (maybe?) resemble a stomachache, among many, many other things. Maybe that's completely irrational, I don't know. I'm sure crazier things have happened!
@meagan-t I don’t think it’s irrational. I would definitely bring it up to your OB early and often. They may have ideas on how to handle things when you get close to your due date! I’m going to bet you won’t be the first person with a similar issue!
i will say a stomachache is not a word I’d have used to describe contractions 🙈 mine were more like period cramps x100 on the pain scale and over my entire stomach 🤷🏼♀️
@meagan-t My vasovagal response definitely includes the sight of blood. I have on many occasions had to lie down on the floor after nicking myself shaving or chopping vegetables and have passed out for blood draws (even just one vial) a few times. Childbirth was terrifying to me for that reason, but with the epidural, I felt nothing and didn't have to look down to see the blood when my water broke. I also was given some morphine or other IV pain killer because my epi was leaking on the floor, and that made me feel WAY worse than the bleeding/etc. You are so amped up on hormones and adrenaline that everything is going to be different from your responses anyway. Obviously, still not irrational to be nervous about labor, especially if you labor at home for a while before going in, but like others said, talk to your OB and DH so that everyone can be prepared if you get woozy or faint.
@cmbt2 Well, I know my passing out happens from stomachaches that literally come from nowhere and suddenly, and while I have no idea what to expect with labor, I'm expecting it to (maybe?) resemble a stomachache, among many, many other things. Maybe that's completely irrational, I don't know. I'm sure crazier things have happened!
please don't take offense to this, but i just LOL'ed pretty hard at comparing labor to a stomachache.
I think having anxiety about birth is super normal, especially as a FTM. I definitely had it my first go around, and yet here I am willingly doing it again, so maybe you can take comfort in that. It sucks, but then it ends and you get the world's best reward for your hard work.
@longhairdntcare No offense taken! These stomachaches aren't even real stomachaches. Ha ha! I just have no better way to describe them. But I don't think labor will be like a stomachache at all. With my nerves, though, I'd be surprised if I didn't have a stomachache when the day comes. 😄
@PenelopeSnuz77 I remember that, there was also someone around that time that scammed their board of of a lot of money. I don't remember the exact story or month but I remember it happening. My group Dec14 wasn't catfished but after we moved to FB and our littles were about a year we came to find that one of our members have gathered a few thousands dollars from us by opening and ETSY shop for TULA supplies and then not delivering or refunding. No body said anything for a long time because they
@nnaelilak sorry I was reading what I typed and it didn't all transcribe. So yes she opened an ETSY shop for TULA accessories and then ran into some financial hardships and never sent the stuff and didn't refund people. Nobody said anything within the group because we didn't want to our her because she had, had a bad year. But it came up during an intense discussion about something else and we came to find out that the majority of the board had purchased stuff and were never delivered or refunded. The admins of the board talked with people and she had around $3000 totaled owed to people. We threatened to sue her and she either refunded money or provided the promised product.
UGHHH, my 2.5yo would rather hide in the corner to poop and then stay in his dirty diaper than get treats for using the potty. I know it'll happen when he's ready, but I'm so tired of these big-kid poops. They stink! (pun fully intended)
@kindbytealikat, oh my word, that's unbelievable that someone from your BMB didn't deliver her Etsy product after receiving payment. I'm betting Etsy has a pretty good policy about this and would probably remove her rights to sell and maybe even refund any customers who reached out, but STILL. As someone you all considered a friend, it must have felt like such a personal violation of trust and friendship.
Random mid-week confession: I get a little queasy getting blood drawn, and for some reason (no clue why), I was under the impression that the NIPT draw required like, an adult vampire's dinner sized contribution of blood. I'm legit doing a happy dance reading the NIPT posts saying it's only one or two vials. 🎉
I had five vials of blood drawn today and the phlebotomist, a sweet chatty younger lady, asked me how I was feeling. I filled her in on my symptoms, and it wasn't until she asked again around the last vial that I realized she meant am I getting queasy or light headed. Total face palm moment.
Me: 41 / Fiance: 35 + One DS, one dog & two kitties...
First BFP: 1/17/16 = EDD 9/21/16 (MMC)
Second BFP: 6/24/16 (CP)
Third BFP: 2/7/17 = EDD 10/20/17 🌈 *** BORN 10/23 *** 🌈
@steminist We are also having potty woes. I tried to potty train my 2.5 a couple weeks ago. It was a disaster. She began to fear the potty and wouldn’t sit on it, but she realized after one day that she now has to pee and poop. She wants us to change her after she pees and poops now, but won’t go near the potty. I’m hoping one day she just decides it’s time. She has to be potty trained by Sept. though. Ugh.
@steminist We are also having potty woes. I tried to potty train my 2.5 a couple weeks ago. It was a disaster. She began to fear the potty and wouldn’t sit on it, but she realized after one day that she now has to pee and poop. She wants us to change her after she pees and poops now, but won’t go near the potty. I’m hoping one day she just decides it’s time. She has to be potty trained by Sept. though. Ugh.
We tried with DD1 when she was a little over 2 and she completely shut it down. What we thought was "no pressure, just no diaper" was a lot of pressure for her. Crying every time she peed on the floor (even though we didn't get mad! We just said, yes, that's what you do on the potty). We didn't touch the subject again and let her watch friends on playdates go pee. She got progressively curiouser about it until she was 2 months shy of her third birthday and decided (at the playground. Of course) that she HAD to pee on the potty RIGHT NOW. Cue me sprinting home with her and she went. She had like a total of maybe 5 accidents in the year after that, so it was just a case of her needing to be ready mentally.
Of course, getting her to poop on the potty was another chapter. She didn't relinquish the diaper for that until she was 3.5 and DD2 had been born. "Only babies poop in diapers" was the key concept there.
UGHHH, my 2.5yo would rather hide in the corner to poop and then stay in his dirty diaper than get treats for using the potty. I know it'll happen when he's ready, but I'm so tired of these big-kid poops. They stink! (pun fully intended)
We had a much easier time poop training than we did pee. DS1 was such a noisy pooper, that DH grabbed him and would plop him on the toilet mid poop. Anytime he did even a little in the toilet, we made it a giant deal, lots of clapping. took about a month, but he got it. It was another 9/10 months before he was ready to pee train
@grapeskittles4lyfe That's how DD was. We tried when she was like 21 months because she was acting very ready. She would just cry and cry and her mood throughout the day got so bad. So we stopped after like 3 days. 2 months later, we were stuck inside for 3 days during a hurricane and thought it'd be a good time. She did awesome! By the end of those few days she was 99% potty trained with peeing on the potty. Pooping took a lot longer. She liked to hold it in. That's a whole other story!
Level of not giving a fuck
today: I'm wearing a PJ top with a kissy face Brussel sprout and "sprout
pout" written on it to work. (Also this is hidden under a vest but this
is definitely one of my schlubbier outfits).
I found out last night that I have three family members getting married in October. Yikes! A nephew (23), a niece (28), and a cousin (29). All a week apart. Yowza.
They are all before my due date, but I have no idea how I'm gonna make it through that month. 😦
@meagan-t oh man, that sounds intense... 3 different weekends or is there 2 one weekend in there? Can you hope you go into labor the day before the first one and just skip them all?! 😂
Re: Weekly Randoms 3/11
@galentine A woman who was not pregnant made up a whole life and participated all the way through to delivery. She had stolen photos from some woman that lives in Europe’s account - posted a weekly bump photo and everything (we did a hump day, bump day thread on Wednesday’s back then). She had a labor buddy and texted with her through delivery, etc. She was really over the top and had a unique story - lesbian about to have her 5th kid - and always was willing to openly share and that made people trust her. She claimed to not have Facebook so never joined our group.
It all blew up when someone was texting with her and then started looking into some of the things she had posted to verify. She was traced back To a different name, etc.
The woman in our group that figured it out even spoke to the producers of Catfish because our catfish wanted to make amends with some of the people she had gotten closest with or something. Turned out she had catfished a LOT of people. It was SO crazy. I wonder if the threads where everything was revealed still exist?! I’ll have to dig and see if I can find them.
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@PenelopeSnuz77 Wow! That's so crazy that there's people in the world that will do stuff like that. On my Oct 15 board, we had one that we eventually found out was a fake.****TW***** We found out because at like 20 weeks or so she said her baby wasn't moving anymore and the doctor told her she had to carry the baby to term even though the baby had passed, which would never happen. Eventually some people found her profile pic to be someone else's. It was pretty bad.
@galentine I am also not good with blood draws. When I had mine done for the blood work panel with DS, they only got about 4.5 out of 6 before I passed out in the chair. I woke up with 3 nurses standing over me. Since then, I always have them lie me down on the examination table, even if I'm only having one or two vials done. The GD test was the worst, because I was already feeling a bit faint from fasting!
10/17/13 - DS (w/ ex)
6/2/18 - Married DH
8/25/18 - BFP #2
9/2/18 - MC at 6w
2/25/19 - BFP #3 (LMP 1/19, EDD 10/26)
2/25 Beta #1 3300; 2/27 Beta #2 6700; 3/1 Beta #3 12,100
I'm scared about when labor happens. I feel like I'm going to pass out!
Another board, maybe even the same one, had a fb group and a woman totally outed someone's real life name and info on the bump.
So I'm in favor of waiting to create a group. Then the group has to be secret and unsearchable and you have to get an email invite to join.
@wintersong my BMB had a situation like that. All her personal info and that of her husband was blasted on here. Back then, each board had mods, and she had to get one of them to actually block her (the one who’s info was blasted) in order to get all the info deleted. It was really bad. It was late summer, maybe early fall, 2014 when that happened.
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i will say a stomachache is not a word I’d have used to describe contractions 🙈 mine were more like period cramps x100 on the pain scale and over my entire stomach 🤷🏼♀️
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I think having anxiety about birth is super normal, especially as a FTM. I definitely had it my first go around, and yet here I am willingly doing it again, so maybe you can take comfort in that. It sucks, but then it ends and you get the world's best reward for your hard work.
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DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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ETA- and distinctly remember it being a BMB due before mine (Jan’15)
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@kindbytealikat how did she get money from you all through etsy?! Like you all bought items and she didn't deliver?! That's terrible!
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DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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They are all before my due date, but I have no idea how I'm gonna make it through that month. 😦
@meagan-t oh man, that sounds intense... 3 different weekends or is there 2 one weekend in there? Can you hope you go into labor the day before the first one and just skip them all?! 😂