Weekly Questions 3/3

purplg8r

What Questions do you have this week?

mrosek91

Has anyone created a second amazon baby registry? I want to create one, just so we can get the completion discount, but I can't find the option to create one. If I click on the link to create one on Amazon's FAQ page it redirects me to the one I already have. I don't really want to delete my old one, because I want to refer back to it.

grangerhp37

@mrosek91 I wonder if you need to make a new one under a different email account? Which would suck if you have prime, but if you don’t wouldn’t be much of a difference.

sourlemon

@mrosek91 I think I had to delete the old one before I could make a new one, even though the old one was 2 years old. For any items that remained, I moved them to a list, deleted the old registry, created a new one, and moved the items from the list to the new registry. It was a pain but worth the discount to me.

peachy0709

I think I did the same as @sourlemon, @mrosek91.  You could always make a list first and then covert it to the registry after deleting the old one? 

zamoraspin

Movement -- So I know it's different for everyone but starting last week around 14w I occasionally feel kind of a funny sensation in my low abdomen/roughly where I think baby is based on u/s and doppler. I would liken it to muscle spasms, but not painful. Last night while lying down they happened for a while somewhat to the left of middle, one day last week they happened in that spot and then a few minutes later on the other side. Could that be baby? Is it just too soon to know? I'm willing to accept it's just muscle spasms but curious if that's what it feels like for some. I do know my placenta is posterior, but am a FTM so I don't really know what I'm looking for. 

wabash15

@zamora_spin what you describe sounds a lot like early baby movement. it can feel like small muscle twitches or some people say bubbles or a little flutter. 

thirdtimesacharm2019

@zamora_spin I felt movement at 13 weeks this time. I thought I was crazy, because everyone I read said it was too soon. But now at 17 weeks the baby is super active and it’s been progressively so. 

EmilyA724

I started feeling movements right at 15 weeks. I was getting over a stomach bug, so at first I thought it was just that, but now I realize it was the babe moving. I can also feel where it’s hanging out already because I get a hard lump. I’m nervous that means it’s going to be a big baby.

zamoraspin

@wabash15 @thirdtimesacharm2019 @EmilyA724 Thanks ladies. 
@EmilyA724 Idk what that means but it's kind of cute! 

goldfishcraker

@zamora_spin I'm also FTM so I have no previous experience to be sure. But I'm starting to believe that the little tickles and flutters I've been feeling are baby. I occasionally get little spasms, but I believe those are GI, or muscular. And probably what people say women confuse gas for baby movements. Even though they aren't gas for me haha. But those spasms are closer to the surface than the tickles and flutters, and sometimes more lateral, and more diverse in location. So I'm quite sure they aren't baby. (But that doesn't mean anyone else's aren't! I just mean that I do think I'm feeling baby already, but also having weird non-baby feelings haha)

EmilyA724

@zamora_spin DD used to stick out her butt when I was pregnant with her and I could feel her little butt from the outside pushing against me. She continued to sleep like that after she was born and it was my favorite thing ever - like this:


I'm already feeling that lump of this babe pushing against me. Not all the time, but I definitely know when it's there and it moves.

wabash15

@aecm with twins just like people their personalities/movement can be very different. My baby A was always way more active than my baby B. That and with twins because they can flip all over the place even till the very end sometimes it can be hard to tell who is doing what.

peachy0709

@EmilyA724 LOOK AT THAT SQUISHY BABY!!!! 

cato99

@EmilyA724 oh my goodness that tiny little one! I can't believe we'll all have one of those soon!

purplg8r

@zamora_spin sounds like it could be to me!!  I’m jealous!  Last week at my ultrasound, we could see our LO clearly lift her leg and kick me and I felt nothing!  So ready to feel it!

Sleeping issues.  I am a mostly stomach sleeper who tosses and turns a bunch and sometimes ends up on her back. I got a Snoogle to try to help with that. It’s been fine with helping me not sleep on my stomach but I’ve still been ending up on my back. A couple of times I have ended up on my back with the pillow up over my shoulders and then other times I will end up on my back on top of the pillow. How do I stop from rolling on my back if the pregnancy pillow which is pressed behind my back isn’t helping? 

goldfishcraker

Do people fund body pillows are helpful? I've been in quite a bit of pain, and sleeping in super funny positions.

sw1122

@chillycanadian - I have a u-shaped pregnancy pillow that has been helpful. I’ve never really slept on my side and was experiencing shoulder pain. The pillow certainly helps and makes sleeping on my side more comfortable, but like @purplg8r I still occasionally wake up on my back. I’m not sure how to prevent that. 

BigBadWolf12

@chillycanadian  I also find my u shape pillow helps a lot.  I put the u under my rib cage and use 2 regular pillows under my head.  One arm of the U sports my back,  the other supports my belly and leg. It works for me. 

wabash15

@purplg8r I wouldn't worry about sleeping on your back. I still sleep on my back 75% of the time... as we get a little farther along your body will wake you up when you need to adjust positions or if your super concerned you could put the pillow under one side of your back so your slightly tilted to one side. I slept on my back for much of my last pregnancy and quite a way through my twin pregnancy. 

Avrilmai

@purplg8r I was going to comment something similar to @wabash15. FTM here, but I was reading an article yesterday and it said not to worry too much about back sleeping and that having a pillow under one shoulder and hip to kind of tilt your body so you're not completely flat is good. 

@zamora_spin I'm right there with you. I'm having all of these differnet sensations, and I have no idea if it is baby movement or muscle spasms or just something else. 

zamoraspin

@purplg8r Don't worry, I'm still not 100% sure it's really him. From what I've read ideally you try to go to sleep on your side later in pregnancy, and if you wake up on your back it's ok. I have been a lot more comfortable lately on my back than my side for some reason, even though I'm usually a side sleeper. I figure for now it's ok if that's what's working best. 
@avrilmai Same. I sometimes think it's him and sometimes not. 

EmilyA724

How is everyone's nipples? Mine aren't sore all the time. but I get sudden surges of pain-like feeling kind of like when your milk first comes in/having a letdown. I can't remember if I had this last time and just didn't have anything to compare it to or if this is a STM sensation.

law_and_little1

All the talk about spasms / little movements makes me scared because I'm 16 weeks tomorrow and haven't felt a thing. 

BigBadWolf12

@emilya742 first pregnancy my nipped weren't sore at all from my memory (maybe just a little tender in first tri?) This time I started getting sensitive nipples when ds nursed. That hasn't happened since he was like a week old and we got in our groove. Idk if it's nursing while pregnant or just pregnancy alone causing it. I will say it's been better recently. DS may have also been sucking more aggressively while getting his molars, so who really knows. His other teething never bothered me though. 

sw1122

@law_and_little1 - I'm just over 18 wks and haven't felt anything either 

BigBadWolf12

I didn't feel DS until after 18 weeks.  Posterior placenta placement so that wasn't an issue.  The ultrasound tech who did my a/s at 18+2 or 3 couldn't believe I couldn't feel him bc he was moving so much.  I felt him the next day,  but it was so weird seeing the screen and not feeling anything. @law_and_little1 @sw1122

Lotus_2008

@EmilyA724 I started having those sharp stinging surges this week. It felt like it more in the actual tissue as opposed to the nips, tho.

olivemomma

@law_and_little1 you would be in the minority to feel movement as a FTM at 16 weeks. I think most mommas who felt it earlier have been pregnant before. 

Twinkiedoll

I was told by my OB that I may feel baby movement at 16-17 weeks because this is my second pregnancy (and I have felt the occasional flutter but it's not consistent).  With my first, I didn't feel any movement until closer to 20 weeks. 

Avrilmai

Lotus_2008 said:

@EmilyA724 I started having those sharp stinging surges this week. It felt like it more in the actual tissue as opposed to the nips, tho.

THIS^^^
I had this sharp stinging pain this morning. For me I think it is hormone related bc I used to get them right before my period started, but haven't had it in a few months...so nice to know I'm not alone is this because it freaked me out a bit. 

purplg8r

@wabash15 @Avrilmai I did try the pillow against my back but it didn’t need to help. I need to not stress about it (but I like to worry about everything I can)

peachy0709

@EmilyA724 yeah dude what is UP with that? This is my third pregnancy and my boobs are out of control.  I'm having all the feelings and tingles, and I'm also seeing COLOSTRUM already on my nipples.  WTAF, I'M NOT READY!! I saw somewhere on TB that our boobs are ready to BF by the end of second tri, so I guess it's normal???

mkrel

For all you second time plus moms, did anyone else's husband not love the newborn stage? I didn't really care because I don't like sharing my daughter, but I just find it so odd that a person could not think it is the best thing ever! Don't get me wrong, he helped a ton, but I feel like he was always looking forward to her being able to "do more" and have more of a personality.  I could keep taking care of a NB-1 year old constantly for the rest of my life and be happy.  

sourlemon

@mkrel I hate the NB stage. It's 100% survival for me. Yeah cuddles are nice and all and of course these cute blobs that need you for everything are worth it...but I hate it. I still don't like sharing my newborn, but it is certainly my least favorite time of babies/young kids. Maybe that's an UO. 

mrosek91

@mkrel With us it was exactly the opposite! DH is so good with newborns, and for me it's just survive until they are a little older. I love the snuggles, but it was very hard having someone so dependent on you. Every time I think why are we doing this again?! I look at my boys and am like, right this is not forever, and they are just so cute, and worth it.

Allycat11

@mkrel DH is not into the NB stage. He feels like he can't help at all because our kids have been EBF. It is tough that the kids dont really want him at that age and he can't really interact with them much. 

Many of my friends hate the first 6-8 weeks and consider it strcitly survival mode. I actually love the newborn stage, which is ironic because I get far less help than some people I know who hate that phase. 

mkrel

@sourlemon and mrosek91 I get it, I thought I would hate it, but ended up loving it so much.
@Allycat11 This was the same for us.  My daughter was EBF and after the first couple weeks of my husband getting up to change the diaper and stay awake with me for moral support, I just told him to sleep since there was no point both of us being up.  She definitely strongly preferred me, but we'd find some time to have him give a pumped bottle every now and then.  I do think he felt like he wasn't doing enough, so I had to remind him a lot of how much him supporting me and making sure I (and the house) had what I needed, was helping our daughter too.  

EmilyA724

@mkrel DH did not like the NB stage at all. He was of course great with DD and loved her, but could not wait for her to get out of it. He always says if he could skip the first 2 years, he'd have a bunch more kids. I loved it and loved the first year. But yeah, I felt like he was always counting down until more stuff came and he was missing what was happening. I figure it will even out though, because I am not looking forward to late elementary/early middle school age at all, and DH is counting down to it. I think that's when he'll really shine.

mkrel

@EmilyA724 I'm dreading those years too!!! I also think my husband will be so much better at parenting than me at that point and he is really looking forward to it.  I have had similar thoughts and conversations with him about enjoying "now" versus counting down to the future but I guess we are all different.  The other day my Dad and brother who was in town were talking at dinner and my dad made a comment about how he always looked forward to when the kids would sleep a little later and have more independence but then he realized how fast it goes, my brother agreed.  I think it made my husband feel a little better because I'm sure my comments have made him wonder if he's normal. 

thirdtimesacharm2019

I have likes and dislikes at every stage. Babies are super cute and cuddly, but can I get some sleep?!? Lol. Elementary is nice because they gain independence in eating/dressing/bathing/small chores, but the innocence and exploration is still very much alive. Middle school is rough y’all. The kid is coming into his own and there are lots of opportunities for patience and acceptance. Like maybe this one won’t be an over achiever like I am, but he’s his own person and that’s ok (as long as it is HIS best person). 

What overwhelms me at this point is having kids at three completely different stages with very different needs. I’m not complaining, this current baby was VERY much planned and I knew what I was getting into, but I want to give them all everything (non-material), and I see that being challenging in the next few years. 

I’m starting to tear up just thinking about it. Maybe this should have gone in “why I’m crying this week”....