Hi everyone! So my mom and aunts want to throw me a sprinkle but I want to get some feedback about whether it is appropriate or not.
I have twin sons who will be 3 in April, this is our 3rd baby and we were very surprised and excited to find out that it is a girl. We needed to do fertility treatments to have this baby because I was diagnosed with unexplained secondary infertility after about a year of trying (it took 15/16 months total to conceive), so I think that's the big reason why my mom and aunts want to do this. For extra information, my husband's family has not had a girl born into it in over 50 years, and my cousins have all had boys, so that also makes it extra exciting for our families, even though of course they would have been happy and excited if the baby was a boy.
While I think the above information does not mean I deserve to have a sprinkle or mean that I think a sprinkle necessary, I thought I should provide some context as to why they want to throw it. Clearly since we have twins, we don't need any baby stuff, so I guess I'm just worried that it will come off as gift grabby. My mom wants to keep it to just my aunts and female cousins, my MIL and my husband's aunt and cousin, and my closest friends which I completely agree with. I also will not be doing a registry because besides gender specific clothes and diapers, we really don't need anything that a registry would be necessary for.
I've tried searching online for opinions on sprinkles but opinions seem so mixed. So I guess my question is, do you think sprinkles, specifically for different gendered babies, are ok etiquette-wise? Does not having a registry make it a little better? Am I overthinking this? I really would like to have the sprinkle because I love any excuse to see my family and close friends all in one place, but I just don't want it to look like we're trying to get gifts because we really really don't need them. I appreciate any feedback you all have!