Sprinkle or Shower for Baby #2?

mommy_2_mally

Hey Mommas! Pregnancy #2 here and it's a boy!!! My daughter was born in 2016 and just looking for advice for baby #2. My husband is on board for having another shower, but I am super hesitant asking for what I feel like is another handout from the same group of people. While I understand we are having a boy this time around....why cant he have "girl's" stuff (rock and play, jumper, excersaucer etc) clothes, obviously we will need to change!! Thanks for your input, I look forward to your advice.

Panaceia

Can you wait to see if someone offers to throw you one? That might help gauge the climate of your friends and family a little. Personally I would just reuse everything you have. Maybe throw a little party after baby is born for everyone to meet him. Most people will likely show up with a cute little outfit so if clothes are really the only thing you need it's probably better. I don't think the colour of things matter and if you already have the important things then I say if people want to spend money on you let them buy things you really need. Like clothes:) I did this with DD (my first). We didn't have a shower but my mom had a family party when she was a few months old. I got enough clothes to last her the next 2 years:) We're not having a shower this time either but might have a little party again after so that all her cousins can meet her.

NicholeL16

My best friend has mentioned wanting to throw a sprinkle for me this time around. I was pretty intentional about buy gender neutral stuff with my son, it definitely leans more towards “boy” but I plan to re use all of his big items. Car seat, crib, pack and play, strollers. So the sprinkle will be more of a celebration with some diapers and probably some cute outfits. If my friend didn’t want to do it I would be fine not having one though.

bartonolivia

My mom said if this one is a girl she’s going to throw a shower or sprinkle for me. Considering we’ve moved a couple times since my last was born, we got rid of literally everything. So we’re starting over no matter the gender

Panaceia

@NicholeL16 We bought all gender neutral too even though we knew DD was a girl. It definitely is seen by others as being more "boy". Even her squishy baby clothes. When she was around 6 months old we took her to a restaurant and the waitress told us that DD was "so handsome...he keeps flirting with me. He's definitely going to be a heart breaker when he grows up". I never corrected anyone when they called her a boy because it doesn't really matter to me and it happened all the time. I'm sure we'll get the same thing this time around.

ameliabedelia-2

This is one of those topics people tend to have strong opinions about. I am firmly in the “never throw your own shower” camp. I think it’s tacky and gift grabby. Other than clothes, does it really matter about any of the other stuff? A shower is thrown as a way to usher you into motherhood, gifts just happen to be part of it. If someone offers to throw you a sprinkle that’s fine, otherwise just pony up for new clothes and make do with what you have. 

coco2787

I think it's tacky to ask anyone to throw you a shower.  If someone offers I don't see any problem in accepting.

mommy_2_mally

Thank you all for your responses! It's a difficult road to navigate the second time around! Definitely not looking for big stuff again, but clothes and diapers are never underappreciated!! 😆👶

nopegoat

You couldn't pay me to have another shower. I was very appreciative with my first, but also so incredibly uncomfortable. I might be an AW online but IRL I hate having all eyes on me. 

mrscammack

My friend wants to throw me a second shower, she and I didn’t know each other when I had my first (we met at a baby play group) so she says she’d love to throw one for me. I’m just not comfortable with it since I still have everything from DD since she was born in 2016. I’m thinking I would be okay doing a sprinkle after baby is born so everyone can meet baby and if anyone wanted to bring anything we’d always welcome diapers. I just don’t like the idea of a second baby shower it seems like I’d just be asking for gifts from the same group of people. 

nolemomma14

Definitely don’t like the idea of throwing your own shower, and I’m not a huge fan of a shower, just because the second baby is the opposite sex. Everyone is different though. After my second son was born, we had friends who came to visit us and they brought over a small gift for him. Very much appreciated, but not expected at all! 

In my moms play group, we always do a brunch with the mom to be, regardless of first, second, etc, but it’s just a nice way to all get together before the new baby arrives. 

Cbeanz

Another don't-throw-your-own-shower vote here. People will give gifts even without a shower, especially clothes! So many second babies are born in different seasons, so they almost always need some new outfits.  

rgn12

I don’t think there is anything wrong with having a shower, especially if people want to throw you one. We’re probably going to end up with three (granted s/he is our first, work, family, friends). I’ve had a bunch of friends that have had people throw them showers for their second. I personally wouldn’t organize it myself, but I think if someone wants to throw you one, go for it.

key33

Our first was a girl (Jan13), our second a boy(Oct14). We never had a second anything shower or sprinkle. I personally think it’s tacky to have a second shower, especially to do so yourself. 

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Close friends and family gave gifts and asked what we needed. We reused what we had and bought what was needed. 

canuckmomma

I also vote it’s tacky to throw your own shower. I don’t think we’ll have a shower for the second. We are team green again so most of our clothes from DS are neutral. When my girlfriends/family have multiple children I always bring them a little gift with a meal/food when I go meet the babe. So not that I expect gifts, I know this babe will still be treated special. 

motherofdogs

Add me into the don’t throw your own boat. 

My my sister wants to throw me a second because first was girl and now it’s boy... we did gender neutral for all our big stuff so we don’t need nor want much. Thought about having a sip n see but I am not physically capable of carrying le bebe to term so I can’t have germs around little one....

my husband joked about a Rum & Rub so my sister is throwing a luau where people can see my big belly and drink rum drinks.... since it will be the temperature of the sun here we might rent a big slide or something for laughs. 
I’ll take some diapers and cute boy clothes but gifts 100% not required. 

Cbeanz

@motherofdogs
LOL @ "Rum & Rub!" I've never heard of this but I love the idea!

Happyin14

You cannot ask for one. If someone offers, great. 

For my second, I had a group of friends who really weren’t around for my first so they threw me one. And that was sweet and appreciated. But I didn’t register and if I had, wouldn’t have asked for the big ticket items again. Reuse. It’s better for the world as well, right? Think about how long you used some of that stuff. 6 months? In the grand scheme of things, totally not a long time to use again for a different gender. 

erynpdx

I have a friend who’s excited about throwing a party- we were super intentional about choosing neutral gear for #1 so it’s really jsut some small stuff. New bottle nipples, pacifiers, diapers, the consumable stuff. 

jenniferjoy37

I agree with everyone else about the “don’t throw your own shower”, especially if it’s baby #2. If someone offers to throw one for you, I’d say that would be fine. But yeah, just to throw your own shower because the baby is a different gender is a little rude to me. It’s been 2 years since your last baby.... how much stuff do you need/want? Are you able to afford it? Can you ask grandparents to help you if need be? 

foodislove

Another for not throwing a shower for yourself, ever. 

This is our second go-round, and we pretty much have everything we need. No showers. If someone happened to offer to throw a sprinkle as a "let's celebrate another baby!" with zero presents, zero games, like tea or something, I'd be all for it cause I love parties. But I don't need the things, even if this lil Dibbun is a girl as opposed to a second boy. 

annewheeler2

I hated being center of attention for my shower and didn’t have a second one. My sister said if this one is a boy she wants to do a sprinkle. It will be something super small at my moms house with just close family. I think if someone offers to do it then it wouldn’t be a problem.