FFFC 12/28

Dcwtada

Come on ladies let’s purge our dark souls before the New Year 

navyblueladybug

I was awake this morning but pretended I was asleep so DH would get up and get DD ready for school

nmbrcrnchr1

I dropped DD off at daycare so I could get laundry and other housework done, I'm sitting on my couch playing on my phone.

Dcwtada

I had an affair with a married man about a decade ago (before I met DH but I told him when we were first dating anyways). While I regret it in most ways and feel awful for his wife and kids, it helped lead me to where I am now so I can’t completely regret it either. 

My kids also had popsicles with breakfast today lol

chachacharrrmin

I love the random, drive by AW posts. Mostly because of their reactions to being redirected to the rules or correct discussion thread. 

luckystar28

I don’t know if this is a confession or an opinion or just a rant so bear with me 😂

I’ve been losing weight due to the hyperemesis gravidarum and didn’t gain much weight with DS because of the growth restriction and the type of Preeclamspia I had which basically made my body attack the baby from the getgo. So weight during pregnancy is sensitive to me.

The confession: When someone says something like “Oh, you’re lucky you didn’t gain more” or “I’d love that problem!” it really hurts my feelings. I know people mean it to be “nice” (I think) but it comes out weird and I feel like I should somehow feel guilty or thankful that my body struggles to gain during pregnancy? When I don’t feel that at all. It’s a tough thing to explain. 

Anyway, thanks for reading my novel 😂 Just needed to vent 

messymyranda

I felt the same after my first. I lost a ton of weight in the first trimester and never completely gained it back. After I had him I was 18 pounds lighter than prepregnancy at my 6 week postpartum checkup. I felt really run down and not healthy but everyone thought I was so lucky. I try to assume less about people's weight changes with pregnancy and only discuss it if they have something to say about it, whether it's pride in goals they met or struggles they have and want to vent. 

dntstpbelieveing

@luckystar28 while it is not the same at all I feel the same way when people tell me I am lucky that I had my son at 35 weeks. "That great you missed the miserable part of being pregnant!". umm actually there is nothing great about the fact that I had pre-e, lost my vision in my left eye and have a blood condition that is a risk at the end of pregnancy. 

luckystar28

@dntstpbelieveing I’m so sorry. That’s so insensitive. I had a preemie too. I don’t wish nicu time on anyone, even if that means missing the “miserable part” of pregnancy. 

antera23

@luckystar28 I’m glad you let us know. That way we can be sensitive to your experience and make sure we never joke around about that with you. I know I would never want to hurt someone’s feelings *hugs* 

chrssyms

@dntstpbelieveing and @luckystar28 I’m so sorry that you went through those things and felt that way. Probably the moral of the story is that you just never know what someone else is going through so maybe it’s best to just not say anything. Or, not that you need to, but if you felt like you wanted to you could share with them your experience and help them to see a different perspective. I would also think that most people who think it’s great to have your baby early have either never been pregnant or are just ignorant about the dangers and seriousness of it. 

Also speaking from the perspective of someone who does put their foot in their mouth sometimes, I know I would appreciate it if I ever say anything that makes someone feel that way. I like to understand new perspectives and especially with all of this stuff, being a FTM. 

My confession: I was at the pool today and an old
man who feels like I sit in “his spot” tried to beat me to the seats this morning. So he put out towels for his entire family and then just went home! Chair saving is not allowed so when the pool monitor came by and asked me if I knew whose towels they were I was like “Nope. And I haven’t seen anyone there.” Haha she took all the towels and put them in the main office. I didn’t take the chairs but another family ended up coming and sitting there. He looked perturbed when he came back like 2 hours later wondering where his towels were 😈

dntstpbelieveing

@chrssyms if it is someone I am close with I will share what happened, especially now that I am pregnant again and will deliver early again (though hopefully not that early). I have no issues talking about that kind of stuff but at the same time if its brought up in a big group where I am not able to speak up for myself or somewhere that I am not comfortable it does bother me. It really is also a case by case basis of if it is someone who just doesn't understand/know better or someone who is using my "misfortune" (can't think of a better word, it really wasnt a misfortune because I have my DS) as a punchline. 
I know I have been guilty of it too, making light of something for a smile or laugh but some topics are just easier to move on from than others. 

coco2787

My H got home early from work and I’m not at all excited about it. His presence has been irritating me lately. 

pbtoast

@coco2787 I feel this so hard. My H owns his own business so can pretty much do whatever he wants as long as his employee is in the office. When he comes home early sometimes I’m like “whyyyy??” Especially if it’s during nap time. That’s my only alone time! I feel like an a$$ for thinking that but sometimes it’s just annoying. 

TJtheGoat

@coco2787 I have been so irritated with my BF the last couple days. Literally everything he does is annoying. Sometimes I just want to watch trashy tv in peace. 

My FFFC: when I was 17 and a brand new driver I scraped the car next to me in a parking lot and drove away. I still feel guilty about it, especially because I know how mad I would be. Sorry random person!

antera23

@coco2787 I hear you! Since I got pregnant I’ve been easily irritated by my SO. Poor guy. 

pbtoast

Sorry to break the news for FTMs, but the irritation with your SO will only continue to build and peaks after delivery when you’re caring for a newborn together. The good news is it does get better. 😂

antera23

Oh man @pbtoast I better show my SO your comment, lol. Before I got pregnant one of my PMS symptoms was that I couldn’t stand my SO. Now it’s just pretty constant, lol. 

pbtoast

I remember when my son was a newborn just looking at my H and thinking “I can’t stand you. I just don’t even like you at all.” Hormones + sleep deprivation + general confusion about WHAT IS GOING ON = marriage trouble. 😂 But we stuck it out and after a few months it was all good haha

eleven_

@pbtoast OMG same! I remember holding my son in the middle of the night while he was screaming because of colic. My husband was passed out in bed and I hated him so much in that moment. 

Penguin81

Bump "drama" isn't as entertaining as it use to be 😶 now it's more like click & block...does this mean I'm adulting?