Unpopular Opinions - 12/27

nmbrcrnchr1

meatballs37

I think tiny houses are a ridiculous fad that will be over in the next few years. I like the idea of minimal living and financial freedom, but I think tiny houses takes it to the extreme. 

I cannot imagine raising a toddler and newborn in one. 

Dcwtada

I don’t agree with the anti-screen time or tablet idea. In moderation, I think it’s important especially since it’s the way kids are learning most both at home and in schools (elementary students even in our little town all have Mac books they HAVE to do their school/homework on) and it’s essential in the workplace for the most part. Not saying it should take the place of reading and physical play by any stretch but not introducing or using it at all seems backwards. 

kjr9519

I think any parents who take something to an extreme end up having it backfire. I have known people who do zero sugar in their house, and their kids go crazy on it when they get a chance at someone else’s house. I’m not sure what will happen when they move out on their own.

coco2787

I think it's uncomfortable to go braless.  

tuxielove93

@coco2787 I think bras of all shapes and sizes are uncomfortable, and have been 100% braless for the last 5 years (barring the couple of weeks I had to wear these soft sleeping nursing bras to contain leaks post birth with DS) 

canuckbaby

@coco2787 omg i hate being braless. DH doesnt get it lol. I guess he thinks its more uncomfortable to be in a bra.

 I will sleep braless but if i am just at home. I am gonna be in at least a sports bra. We have a friend who comes over and is braless by the time she has her stuff in our spare room lol

ShadeofGreen816

Add me to the bra wearing club!! I hate being bra-less unless I’m in jammies. I feel too floppy and if I do it all day, it chafes me. 

My Maybe actual UO: I don’t like gender/sex reveal parties. I am fine if you have family for dinner etc and announce then. But a big to-do with pink and blue decorations is too much. ESPECIALLY when mom/dad already know. And I double down and give extra side eye to gender reveal parties for subsequent kids after #1. Which doesnt make that much sense, I’ll admit. I just don’t care that much about the genitalia of someone else’s fetus. 

messymyranda

I have small boobs so the bras seem pretty pointless to me unless I'm using it to conceal nipples.

As for the extremes of things the sugar ban hits home. I have a cousin who grew up in a sugar/food coloring/artificial flavor free home and as soon as she was old enough to get out and buy candy she went nuts. She'd hoard candy under her bed and gorge on it. Despite doing ballet, soccer and swim team she still struggled with her weight and it remains a problem to this day.

I think the American culture regarding alcohol encourages the same thing. My children have been raised being allowed to try very moderate amounts of alcohol and so far show no signs of being interested in the wild drinking that many teens get into. It's not a taboo, they've been taught healthy respect for it. I'm sure at some point there's a chance they'll still go through a wild nights of getting drunk but I also trust they'll be more responsible about it and call us if the situation gets to the point of being out of hand and unsafe. 

cricket1688

Braless over here and I have big boobs for my size. I’ve started wearing them more since being pregnant since I’m afraid not getting enough support will hurt how they look post pregnancy. No clue if that’s true or not but I love my boobs and will do anything to help 🤣

canuckbaby

My UO is that all beef hotdogs are stupid and gross. If I want all beef I will eat a steak or hamburger lol. Unless you are eating them for religious reasons I dont get it. Needless to say I avoid Costco hot dogs but love their poutine ha ha.

cricket1688

My UO (but maybe it isn’t) is pregnant women who take photos with captions like “baby’s first time at the beach”. NO. No it isn’t. Your baby isn’t born yet. 

canuckbaby

@cricket1688 i havent heard of that before but now that you said it i prob will see it.

Another UO is proposals on holidays. My cousin proposed to his gf on christmas day (in private at their house at the end of night) and although I am happy for them as a couple it makes my skin crawl that it was done on Christmas day. 

chrssyms

I have to wear a bra. I feel vulnerable without one. I’ve always had larger breasts and now that I’m pregnant they are already enormous. I feel exposed and just uncomfortable. Plus, I think they look nice in a bra and I enjoy buying fun colored bras. It’s like an accessory for me. 

@canuckbaby I guess I’d rather know my hot dog is all beef rather than not know what’s in it. Actually, that’s probably my position. I just want to know what’s in my hot dog. Period. 

canuckbaby

@chrssyms well yes i don't want mystery meat and lets be real even if its all one type of meat its not the best parts anyways lol. I prefer a heinz 57 of chicken beef pork or all pork. 

Also vulnerable is a good way to put it by being braless. I am lopsided and feel in a bra i can hide that fact better

chachacharrrmin

Add me to the bra wearing lovers. I rarely go braless. I have pretty comfy bras, so sleeping in them has never been an issue. I just feel so unsupported without one!

kjr9519

I’m also a big bra wearer. Ever since I was a preteen, chafing has always bothered me with not wearing a bra, so I wear one all the time, including to bed.

antera23

This is so interesting! I hate bras and never wear one at home lol. I didn’t know so many women liked wearing them. 

ncm1919

The thing I’m excited about most with this pregnancy behind baby is the fact that I’m getting a reduction/lift as soon as it’s feasible. That way I’m done with bras. I have no idea what size I am now I’m that big but know what size I’m going to be- a B. 

My guess is that almost most none of the people who wear bras all the time do it because they like it. Most of us have to because our chest is so large it isn’t comfortable otherwise. 

People keep saying I’m going to regret going small but I’m not sure I believe them. I want to be able to buy a bathing suit at CVS because I never have to think about my chest again. B or bust 

catmommac

Add me to the bra love club. But it’s totally because I’m large chested and cannot function without the girls tied up. 😂 They just get in the way and are sensitive so I hate anything brushing up against them. I’d love to get a reduction, but I’m nervous about it. I might have to eventually for back problems though.

edit: autocorrect 

nmbrcrnchr1

@ncm1919 I’m also getting a reduction after this child and I’m soooo excited about it! I’m not huge, a D or DD, but I’m so sick of not finding tops/bathing suits that fit and the back pain. I will not miss any of it.

coco2787

“The Clique” chick is complaining in July UO that there’s no room for people with “actual” personalities in June 🧐😆

navyblueladybug

Two words... Boob sweat 💦 
I’ll be getting a reduction and a tummy tuck in the years ahead. I can’t do 40H breasts anymore!

nmbrcrnchr1

@coco2787 maybe July’s personalities will fit her better and she’ll find a home there
ETA I don’t mean that as a slam on you or any of the July ladies, she just clearly does not like us 🤷🏼‍♀️

Dcwtada

Poor July...

Add me to the no bra club, I wear one like once a month if that. But I have nothing going on (besides when I first start breastfeeding, then move over Jenna Jameson). I used to wear one every day when I was a gainfully employed member of society, all I can say now is f*ck business casual  

navyblueladybug

Ooh ooh! I have a good one! I kiss my DD on the lips. It seems to be a hot button issue with celebrities lately. It’s not sexual, it’s love between a parent and child. 

marijaa333

@ncm1919 i was always unhappy with my "full As" until my first pregnancy and breastfeeding, when my breasts grew at least 2-3 cup sizes. Having had both, I guarantee smaller is easier and more comfortable. Now that I'm pregnant again, I'm a C, but I really hope they bounce back to nice As/small Bs. Good luck with the reduction /lift!

battleangel

I don’t want to be defined as only a mom just because I have a kid. Some women live for that and it’s awesome but it’s also NOT ME. I’m a hockey player and a daughter and a wife and a friend and an awesome accountant and a fighter. I’m not JUST a mom or JUST a hockey player or JUST an accountant. There are many facets to my life and being someone’s mom is only one of them. I just don’t want to be defined by one element of who I am, however beautiful it is so far. 

dntstpbelieveing

I think it is really hard in the beginning to not get lost in having a baby. It took me awhile after DS to find myself again through the new fog of sleeplessness, hormones, and anxiety but I will 100% say that being a mom does not have to define you (if you dont want it to). For me a big part of that was communicating with my spouse on what I needed to feel like me again. 

tuxielove93

@navyblueladybug I don’t personally care what anyone dies with their own kids, but I didn’t want to kiss my kids on the lips myself. And then my son did not give me a choice. He’s an aggressive affection giver 😂

ETA: sorry, posted too soon. @coco2787 I saw that. I’m very tempted to post something like “if you want to know how she really feels check out our randoms thread”
I might actually. Stuff like that really irks me, and she was being a real .... jerk. I’ll use nice safe bump
approves language 😂

coco2787

@nmbrcrnchr1 no worries, I have no
loyalty to July lol. 

meatballs37

I said something.

I’m salty what can I say. But mostly just sick and laying in bed grumpy. 

tuxielove93

That should set the record straight. I’d be glad to be rid of her, but I don’t want July to suffer either. Only fair to warn them of the snob that’s lurking in their midst. 

ki1244

100% bra-wearer here. Honestly I don't even really care for being braless at night, just read somewhere once it was better to let the girls have a breather...no idea if that's accurate or not, but it didn't hurt anything to let them out while I sleep. But during the day? Hell no. I haven't been to the office in a week, just working from my couch in my sweats, and best believe I still have a bra on the whole time.

RE: kissing kids on the lips... Had a friend who did that with her son, until one day when he was about 4, he tried to slip her some tongue. She jumped pretty hard when he did that and asked what on earth he was doing, and he started crying and said "That's what Daddy does!" Soooo she had to explain the difference between Daddy kisses and Son kisses, and from that point on it was cheek-only. We had a lot of fun teasing her (and her husband) for that one, though.

chrssyms

@meatballs37 and @tuxielove93 I just checked out July and all I have is “hahahaha.” Love it. 

On a semi-related note, I feel somewhat honored that our BMB is like.. well-respected or that we have clever personalities on here. I know I have enjoyed chatting with you ladies on here and felt like ive gotten much needed support as a FTM.  Yay for our board!!

antera23

I hate saying *hugs* on here but sometimes I don’t know how else to convey heartfelt emotions! 

battleangel

(Side note: you ladies are 🤬 awesome. Like. Really. Mad love to all you mamas)

Dcwtada

Haha #TheClique knows no BMB bounds. It is somewhat satisfying to know we aren’t the only ones that won’t put up with that BS. 

eleven_

Aww July 


Maybe she'll finally realize that this isn't a clique thing and just how TB is. 

sparklingdiamond

I don't like wearing a bra but don't feel I can go without one at work.  But it comes off the second I get home.  If I work from home I won't always put one on.

antera23

I honestly don’t think “she” cares. I think it’s a bored woman or man who has nothing else to do and wants to stir the pot.