I literally woke up near tears this morning thinking about it, and it feels overwhelming to stop. Because 1. I'd be cooking every night because my husband's form of helping is ordering in. 2. My husband won't stop which makes it infuriating and near impossible to not just cave myself. It's just so gross. I miss real food.
I keep saying when we move it'll be different, but I'm really not convinced. I seem to think that when we get a new house my whole personality, along with my husband's, is going to change. 😂
@eatinwatermelonseeds I so feel you on this, we were the same way! The Instant Pot and meal planning with the Paprika app changed us. The IP is just so easy and makes everything seem like less of a "to do". I also have a "command center" with two weekly whiteboards where I use one for our weekly schedule and the other for our weekly menu to help us remember.
@DuchessOfCambridge I have been considering the white board thing, because I frequently meal plan with good intentions and then forget what I was supposed to make. Then there are days I'll be ready to cook and my husband is like "can I please order out???" And I just say yes because I didn't want to cook anyway 😂
I have an instant pot. I need to use it more, but my husband is so picky it's hard to find anything he'll eat.
I hate going to the movies. I rarely have the attention to sit through a whole one especially because DH usually picks which one we see because he is the only one that suggests we go. I'd prefer to stay at home where I can do things like clean or crochet during the movie or sit in my pajamas with my dog and a huge fuzzy blanket. And my other confession that goes along with the first one is I dont like popcorn. I think it tastes like cardboard 🤣
@eatinwatermelonseeds I haaaate cooking. It's one of my least favorite things to do. The board helps for exactly that reason, it reminds me what we're making so I remember to get whatever I need to defrost out and whatnot. What kind of stuff does he like? Our IP go tos are:
-BBQ chicken sandwiches -Buffalo chicken pasta -Chicken and stuffing -Chicken gyros -Crack chicken -Potato soup -General Tso's chicken
In case you can't tell, we eat a lot of chicken I'm not a huge fan of red meat. We did make those brisket tacos last night though using the slow cooker function
@DuchessOfCambridge from your list, he'd eat the Buffalo chicken pasta (MAYBE) and the BBQ chicken sandwiches. We do a lot of chicken too, it's just easy. He'll eat mashed potatoes, but complains if they're real potatoes and not that gross powder stuff (he prefers processed food, apparently 😒). Rolls. Steak. Chicken. Macaroni and cheese. Pizza. Breakfast foods. Aaand.... That's about it. He won't eat pasta, no tomatoes/tomato sauces, no casseroles (he doesn't like that he can't immediately tell every ingredient), no soups, no vegetables. I'm sure I'm missing something, or several things. His diet is extremely limited. It hasn't always been THIS limited, it's gotten worse the older he gets.
I've gotten to the point where I will just cook what I want, but usually that means I'm the only one eating it.
@eatinwatermelonseeds oh wow, that's really limited. I can't believe he wouldn't like crack chicken, it's chicken, ranch seasoning, and cream cheese - what's not to like! But with that limited list, I don't blame you, I'd order out too haha
@eatinwatermelonseeds DH and I used to eat out a lot too. Then one day we went through our accounts and added up what we had spent on eating out over the previous month. Seeing those numbers and the potential savings helped us change our habits pretty quickly. I'm not great at following a meal schedule because I find I'm not in the mood for what is on the calendar, so I make a list of 10-12 meals I have ingredients for and then choose each night off the list. My husband isn't picky at all though, but maybe your DH could help make a base list of things he will eat.
Last night I bailed on my fiance for our weekly dinner with his mom and went to the mall to finish "Christmas shopping" instead. In actuality, I did most of my Christmas shopping on Amazon and I just went to the food court and ate pizza and just enjoyed the "Me Time" since my son was with his dad. Not even sorry.
@eatinwatermelonseeds DH and I used to eat out a lot too. Then one day we went through our accounts and added up what we had spent on eating out over the previous month. Seeing those numbers and the potential savings helped us change our habits pretty quickly. I'm not great at following a meal schedule because I find I'm not in the mood for what is on the calendar, so I make a list of 10-12 meals I have ingredients for and then choose each night off the list. My husband isn't picky at all though, but maybe your DH could help make a base list of things he will eat.
This. I used mint.com for a while, and it tracks and categorizes what you spend on food, gas, etc. It is absolutely ASTOUNDING what eating out costs per month and you don't even realize it. It's a big eye-opener.
@eatinwatermelonseeds I second using the instant pot. It was a total game changer for me when we bought our new house and my drive time for work put me home closer to 6-630 every night. I cook more like @fatmonica not a specific plan but plenty of options I can pick from. Maybe if you start eating more at home and keep track of how it affects your finances maybe it'll help hubby try to make the change too?
@eatinwatermelonseeds I'd be tempted to do with your H what I do with my kid. If he doesn't like what I fix for dinner, he can make himself a PB&J. I'd buy a case of Easy Mac and tell him that's the alternative lol. But I think you gotta get him on board the 'takeout is so expensive' train first.
@sleepy33 oh, he acknowledges it. I'm going to try the mint.com thing. But it's just putting it into action. It's harder right now since he didn't getting home until almost 8pm 7 days a week. I can't wait that long to eat, and then he's too tired to cook (or doesn't want the left overs because he's picky 🙄) so he orders out. It'll be different soon in that respect. Which is where moving into the new house comes into play because a lot will be changing when we move too. Obviously not our personalities 😂 but I do actually try to have alternatives. If I make sure we have breakfast food, he'll make it. I just can't stand eggs right now so I threw them out 😂
@eatinwatermelonseeds I feel you on the eating out. Our biggest problem with cooking at home is that my husband won’t touch leftovers. It is so tiring to make a new meal every night and then trying to eat the leftovers by myself for lunch. Cooking for 2 people (and a 3 year old) is so hard. We do Hello Fresh, Plated, etc and order the meals for 2 and that helps cut out a lot of waste. And you don’t have to go grocery shopping and make sure you have all the ingredients. It is probably pricier than meal planning but it works for use because there isn’t leftover food or waste.
I think I may have mentioned this in here before, but grocery shopping online and doing the curbside pickup has been a game changer for me. I haaaaate to grocery shop unless it's a super off-peak time, and I also hate grocery shopping with a 5 year old lol. So I can place my order by 10 am Monday, pickup Monday at 5, and I have the ingredients on hand for my 2-3 weekly meals. Plus you can save lists and favorite items that you buy all the time, so the more you use it the faster you get. They text you when it's ready, you text when you're in the parking lot, they bring the groceries out and load them for you. Boom.
@sleepy33 I'm just waiting and waiting for the day curbside pickup comes to my town, there are NO options I'm debating checking if a town like a half hour away has it because I will drive for the convenience! Would probably take me over an hour to go shopping anyway!
@sleepy33 yaasss!! We don’t actually have online ordering/curb side pickup in our small town, but I’m in the city every few weeks for the weekend so I usually put together my meal plans and subsequent grocery list in the evenings while I’m there and have my order ready to pick up as we leave town. I freeze the meat and only buy the fresh produce I need for that coming week, then just have to buy produce for the following weeks’ meals once I’m back home.
@eatinwatermelonseeds we haven’t ever been too bad with eating out, mostly because we have always lived in small towns with limited takeout options. Also, before having kids I loved to cook. I experimented in the kitchen a lot and I did convert my very picky, Saskatchewan-born, meat and potatoes DH into a somewhat less picky eater. He’s still picky but much more open-minded than he once was. I dread cooking most days now, mostly because it feels like I don’t have the time for it and it’s often such a chore with young kids underfoot. I use my slow cooker and the delayed start feature on my oven a lot. We have an Instant Pot but i don’t find I really like it that much. DH was obsessed with getting it so I scooped it up on a Prime Day deal but I might sell it.
My go-to weekday meals, now that it’s cold, are: - Soup, salad and crusty bread (household faves include hamburger soup, broccoli cheddar soup and chicken soup) - Roast beef, mashed potatoes, steamed veggies - Lasagna - Tacos - Healthful chicken Parmesan (not breaded, light on the cheese and baked on a bed of kale) - Chicken and broccoli fettuccine alfredo - grilled chicken, veggies and rice - pork chops in a mushroom sauce with rice and veggies
Maybe we should have a weekly meal planning thread on Sundays to give inspiration for the week and to be accountable for planning?
@mcewen3 that just made me so hungry. 😂 But my husband wouldn't eat anything on that list. I wish this was opposite. Like, I was the picky eater and he would eat anything. I feel like that would be easier.
@mcewen3 that just made me so hungry. 😂 But my husband wouldn't eat anything on that list. I wish this was opposite. Like, I was the picky eater and he would eat anything. I feel like that would be easier.
Not even roast beef? Or grilled chicken? My goodness, I feel for you. I’d say you have to have a sit down with him about real food and how good it is! 😂 My oldest daughter likes to think she’s incredibly picky. We have had a long battle over the past year-ish where nearly every meal was a fight. I don’t like this. I want this instead. She wanted junk or just plain pasta and I wasn’t having it. I’ll make some concessions but I wasn’t going to short-order cook an unhealthy meal for her every day. She’s finally coming around. Devoured her lasagna last night as soon as it was set in front of her, which was a huge win. In the past she would have whined about it while we all ate then would finally “try” one bite at the end of the meal to satisfy us. The one bite inevitably led to more bites because, as we all knew, she actually liked it. But every time was the exact same fight.
@mcewen3 I would be so down for either that, or just one big recipe dump thread. I feel like there's been a lot of stuff mentioned that I'd looove to eat, like @wishiwaspreggo 's brisket tacos that now IDK where the recipe is anymore.
@sleepy33 on my old bmb (like, June 2013 😂, I never joined DD2’s since we were still going strong in J13 and all having second babies around that time anyways) we had a Recipe Thread pinned post, and then sometimes would do a weekly meal planning thread if someone remembered. The Recipes Thread is awesome to have and to go back and reference for ideas!
I guess my FFFC this week is that my husband is an uneducated, unsuccessful, immature, irresponsible, not good humored, unattractive adult because he doesn't like vegetables 😒
I guess my FFFC this week is that my husband is an uneducated, unsuccessful, immature, irresponsible, not good humored, unattractive adult because he doesn't like vegetables 😒
@sleepy33 when we were in the process of going debt-free, we cut all eating out because we realized it was eating up all our money. when everything was paid off, we implemented a once a week rule (we typically go sunday) for a special dining out day. We can eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner if we want but usually just do dinner.
My FFFC is that I'm rarely active on here because my phone and desktop apparently hate the website/app so I can't keep up or reply to people. I truthfully believe it might be more of a user error and cannot for the life of me figure out what I'm doing wrong. I can't lovetit anyone or easily reply without a million error messages. Sad.
I like all food. There are very few foods I won't eat - they have to be exceptionally creepy or weird in American culture (like a boiled duck egg that contains a partially formed duck fetus or live fish sashimi where the fish is still moving a little bit on the plate but it's all cut up; or that tragic dancing octopus reacting to soy sauce - I know it's dead but it just makes me sad).
I'll see if I can find that brisket taco recipe for you, @sleepy33!
I guess my FFFC this week is that my husband is an uneducated, unsuccessful, immature, irresponsible, not good humored, unattractive adult because he doesn't like vegetables 😒
My ex-husband was also picky AF. I literally had to food process onions into liquid form and sneak them into his food. I credit myself personally with him not getting scurvy.
@haboobjob the app absolutely won't work in my phone. I have to go to my chrome browser app and go to the website. It's lame, so I don't really participate in the weekends. I even contacted the service saying the community part won't work and they were pretty much like 🤷
@eatinwatermelonseeds yea...that was weird. They came out of a month of silence for that one post. I read those in the opposite order in which they were posted (since they were on separate threads) and it seemed very pointed.
I think there's a difference between being a picky eater because you won't try something and having sensory issues and other "quirks" (sorry if that's a bad word to use) that make you that way which sounds like your husband's case. My brother used to be a picky eater (wonder bread with country crock...always) and I was telling my boss how great of an eater he is now (at 32). But I guess my boss's son has sensory issues and from the sounds of it, there's not a lot to be done without perhaps some sort of intervention (??). He literally lied to his golf team at their team dinner that his grandma was coming over and he had to wait and eat with the family so he didn't have to eat anything since all he eats is plain pasta.
My husband is super picky too, but right now I am the one with all of the food quirks! We usually do quite a few chicken dishes but I have a huge aversion to chicken right now. I can't even let my husband cook it. My poor baby is not getting the best diet from me right now but I have to do what I have to do to eat something. It is just so weird to go from being a meal planner, eating healthy salads and breakfasts to eating all junk food and frozen meals 😂😂
My FFFC is that my husband will eat ANYTHING while I'M the picky eater. Always have been. Im pretty sure my mom cursed me about that so my children do the same to me. 🤣 I love various ethnic foods but I'm still picky. I don't know how my husband is able to eat just anything.
@eatinwatermelonseeds yeah, I side-eyed that, it was clearly very specific. I do get upset when people won't try different foods like different cuisines, just because I've had people bash mine without ever having had it and that upsets me but sensory issues are a whole different ball game. I mean, there are times when the texture of something makes me want to gag too!
My FFFC is that my husband will eat ANYTHING while I'M the picky eater. Always have been. Im pretty sure my mom cursed me about that so my children do the same to me. 🤣 I love various ethnic foods but I'm still picky. I don't know how my husband is able to eat just anything.
See, my SO is so unpicky, that it makes meal planning or even picking a restaurant challenging sometimes. The man will literally eat whatever you put in front of him. I'm like, ok but tell me what you actually LIKE or get excited about eating?
Maybe this is flameworthy. I never understand why people are so shocked when they find out they are having the opposite of what they thought they were having. Your family theories and personal "feelings" that it was a boy/girl still only make it a 50% chance that you're right. Sometimes people are literally floored because they were CERTAIN it was x or y and I'm like - but you can't be certain because you don't actually know...because science.
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I literally woke up near tears this morning thinking about it, and it feels overwhelming to stop. Because 1. I'd be cooking every night because my husband's form of helping is ordering in. 2. My husband won't stop which makes it infuriating and near impossible to not just cave myself. It's just so gross. I miss real food.
I keep saying when we move it'll be different, but I'm really not convinced. I seem to think that when we get a new house my whole personality, along with my husband's, is going to change. 😂
I have an instant pot. I need to use it more, but my husband is so picky it's hard to find anything he'll eat.
-BBQ chicken sandwiches
-Buffalo chicken pasta
-Chicken and stuffing
-Chicken gyros
-Crack chicken
-Potato soup
-General Tso's chicken
In case you can't tell, we eat a lot of chicken
I've gotten to the point where I will just cook what I want, but usually that means I'm the only one eating it.
I'm debating checking if a town like a half hour away has it because I will drive for the convenience! Would probably take me over an hour to go shopping anyway!
@eatinwatermelonseeds we haven’t ever been too bad with eating out, mostly because we have always lived in small towns with limited takeout options. Also, before having kids I loved to cook. I experimented in the kitchen a lot and I did convert my very picky, Saskatchewan-born, meat and potatoes DH into a somewhat less picky eater. He’s still picky but much more open-minded than he once was. I dread cooking most days now, mostly because it feels like I don’t have the time for it and it’s often such a chore with young kids underfoot. I use my slow cooker and the delayed start feature on my oven a lot. We have an Instant Pot but i don’t find I really like it that much. DH was obsessed with getting it so I scooped it up on a Prime Day deal but I might sell it.
My go-to weekday meals, now that it’s cold, are:
- Soup, salad and crusty bread (household faves include hamburger soup, broccoli cheddar soup and chicken soup)
- Roast beef, mashed potatoes, steamed veggies
- Lasagna
- Tacos
- Healthful chicken Parmesan (not breaded, light on the cheese and baked on a bed of kale)
- Chicken and broccoli fettuccine alfredo
- grilled chicken, veggies and rice
- pork chops in a mushroom sauce with rice and veggies
Maybe we should have a weekly meal planning thread on Sundays to give inspiration for the week and to be accountable for planning?
My oldest daughter likes to think she’s incredibly picky. We have had a long battle over the past year-ish where nearly every meal was a fight. I don’t like this. I want this instead. She wanted junk or just plain pasta and I wasn’t having it. I’ll make some concessions but I wasn’t going to short-order cook an unhealthy meal for her every day. She’s finally coming around. Devoured her lasagna last night as soon as it was set in front of her, which was a huge win. In the past she would have whined about it while we all ate then would finally “try” one bite at the end of the meal to satisfy us. The one bite inevitably led to more bites because, as we all knew, she actually liked it. But every time was the exact same fight.
My FFFC is that I'm rarely active on here because my phone and desktop apparently hate the website/app so I can't keep up or reply to people. I truthfully believe it might be more of a user error and cannot for the life of me figure out what I'm doing wrong. I can't lovetit anyone or easily reply without a million error messages. Sad.
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I think there's a difference between being a picky eater because you won't try something and having sensory issues and other "quirks" (sorry if that's a bad word to use) that make you that way which sounds like your husband's case. My brother used to be a picky eater (wonder bread with country crock...always) and I was telling my boss how great of an eater he is now (at 32). But I guess my boss's son has sensory issues and from the sounds of it, there's not a lot to be done without perhaps some sort of intervention (??). He literally lied to his golf team at their team dinner that his grandma was coming over and he had to wait and eat with the family so he didn't have to eat anything since all he eats is plain pasta.
I miss cooking.
I love various ethnic foods but I'm still picky. I don't know how my husband is able to eat just anything.