PGAL Check-In Week of 11/19

nmbrcrnchr1

1. How many weeks are you?

2. Previous loss(es)?

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?

4. Any appointment updates?

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? 

6. Any milestones coming up? 

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why?

sparklingdiamond

1. How many weeks are you? 10w1d

2. Previous loss(es)? CP, early m/c, still birth at 32 weeks 

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?  Doing ok but still anxious .Physically just tired.

4. Any appointment updates?  I have my OB appt wed and should get my MFM referral.  I am going to get the NIPT and then go to MFM for u/s or any further testing necessary.

5. Rants/Raves/Questions?  I wore some new pants today without washing them which was a huge mistake.  They smell really chemically and it's making me nauseous.

6. Any milestones coming up?  The NT scan is a big one for us.  That's when they first found the CDH so this is a huge stressful hurdle for me.  This should happen probably the first week of December.

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why?  Hmm I love outlander so maybe during then?  Although I don't think women were treated super well then 

antera23

1. How many weeks are you?
9+4 according to the ultrasound. Im not convinced but i’ll adopt that because it puts me 3 days closer to the second trimester. 

2. Previous loss(es)?
MMC at 10 weeks by their dates, 12 by mine. 

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
Physically I feel very pregnant. I spent the weekend puking up everything I ate. My boobs are getting increasingly more painful. I fall asleep at 5pm every day and then I wake up every hour at night. I have so much extra mucus that it chokes me and I throw up. 
Emotionally I feel ok. I’m past my milestone and hoping that means I’m safe. I’m actually starting to believe I will be having a baby in June. I didn’t realize that I was holding back until this last week when I started thinking about the baby as a real possibility. 

4. Any appointment updates?
I go back in about 3 weeks for my physical and to hear the baby’s heartbeat! 

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? 
Rant: the foods that I am craving are the ones that create more mucus and make me throw up. Ex: apple juice. 
Raves: There is no other feeling than when I get to eat the one thing that will make me not nauseous. Also, afternoon naps are The Best. I’ve never liked naps before. 

6. Any milestones coming up? 
I’m past my milestone! 

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why?
If I could keep all my rights then I would say the Victorian era. I love gowns! 

ruby696

1. How many weeks are you? 8+3

2. Previous loss(es)? Two CP's. One MMC at 6 weeks and another at 8 weeks.

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Ugh. I'm really trying to prepare myself for bad news at my next US. But I still have all my symptoms, which makes me have hope that I really don't want to have. With my prior MMC's, all my symptoms went away and I had spotting. I keep telling myself that every pregnancy and every loss can be different.

4. Any appointment updates? US tomorrow at 4:00.

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Rant & rave: I'm so excited I only work two days this week, but I'm bummed we have to travel for the holiday, potentially right after I get bad news.

6. Any milestones coming up? We'll find out tomorrow. 

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? Oh, so many (except for the part about being treated like property, not having running water, and doing laundry by hand). The 1800's would be top of my list. Or the 1950's, when life seemed so simple.

dntstpbelieveing

1. How many weeks are you? 10 +6

2. Previous loss(es)? MC at 9.5 weeks

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? I am doing ok. I felt really confident after my apt last week but it is already fading. Yesterday I had a lot of stomach pain that I am thinking was gas pain but it was annoying. 

4. Any appointment updates? I have my MFM apt at 1230 today. I am SUPER nervous about it but also really excited that I should get a really good long look at baby today. 

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I am so glad that this is a short week. We have plans Thursday and Friday but so far saturday and sunday have been left open. Hopefully we will see some friends or just sleep.

6. Any milestones coming up? I am past my milestone. 

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? hummm this one is a hard one for me. I will have to think about it and come back to it. 

kjr9519

1. How many weeks are you? 9+1

2. Previous loss(es)? MMC at 12 weeks

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically, I felt pretty good all weekend. I felt like I actually was able to eat a decent amount of food. Then I woke up at 5 am today to vomit, so I’m not out of the woods with nausea yet. I’m visiting family, so I’ve been exhausted from constantly going and going. Emotionally, this last week was really difficult for me. The last time, my pregnancy stopped progressing at 8 weeks, so I was in a really bad head space. This week has been a little easier. I’m not feeling quite as anxious, but I’m also not completely sure that everything is okay. 

4. Any appointment updates? I have one tomorrow.

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I’m so happy that I was able to get one more ultrasound squeezed in. I’m just really hoping I get good news because otherwise Thanksgiving is going to be really hard.

6. Any milestones coming up? I made it past 8 weeks, which is great. The next one will just be getting past 12 weeks.

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? I love all of the answers before! My top two are always the Victorian era and the 1950s. 

@sparklingdiamond I love Outlander too! I’m getting caught up on it right now. I had watched the first season a few years ago, but finally got Starz again so I’m watching it all now.

eleven_

1. How many weeks are you? 11w1d

2. Previous loss(es)? 1 MMC, 2 CPs

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? I’m feeling so much better physically. I’m still tired and have a few moments every day when I feel nauseous, but it’s not an all-day sickness anymore so I’m feeling extremely grateful. I’m a little nervous that I’m feeling better, but all of my pregnancy apps are saying week 11 is when most women feel some relief. I’m trying to just enjoy it.

4. Any appointment updates? I had the NIPT done last week and I have the NT scan on the 27th. I assume my OB will give me the NIPT results then.

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Rave: It’s a two day work week for me and I get to leave work early tomorrow because I’m getting my hair done. Also, I’m really excited to eat all the things on Thanksgiving!  Rant: My house is such a mess because of how sick I’ve been the last few weeks. We have family from Switzerland coming to stay with us for a month so this week will be dedicated to cleaning   

6. Any milestones coming up? No

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? Honestly, I would stay right where I am. Women have never had more rights and freedom. If I had to choose though, it would probably be during the Roman Empire.

mkfolse22

1. How many weeks are you? 9+6

2. Previous loss(es)? Termination in April

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? I think I’ll feel a bit better today once I get to see the baby. Still nauseous, nothing helps. And tired. Sciatica is already a killer. Gonna have to find a chiropractor  soon. 

4. Any appointment updates? First appt today and I’m so anxious. Also first pregnancy at an Air Force base so not sure what to expect. I’m used to Army Hospitals. 

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Can’t wait to get through the anxiety of today so I can focus on our trip to Universal Studios this week! 

6. Any milestones coming up? Just getting to see baby and hopefully my MFM referral today as well

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? I think 1800’s forward, any would be cool. I’d love to spend like a week in each decade

bumblebee0210

@ruby696 Fx for you tomorrow. And I think everyone is different, so take or leave this advice but I was worried about having a bad news ultrasound right before family descended on my house for Thanksgiving, and the day before the appt. I made a list of what I would need to do if things went wrong to free up the time for myself to rest and heal (ask mom to help with cooking, cancel work calls, etc.) Feeling like I had a plan made me feel better, but I could imagine dwelling like that could make some people feel worse, so as I said, take or leave...

@mkfolse22 @kjr9519 @dntstpbelieveing
 FX for you all this week as well. Take care of yourselves (the anxiety is real)! Hoping for this board to be flooded with good news. 



1. How many weeks are you? 10w3d

2. Previous loss(es)? MMC Dec 2017, CP Jul 2018

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?  Physically, better, though I got a little arrogant and stopped taking the unisom Friday night and Saturday threw up my toast. But with unisom, all-day queasiness has turned into sporadic queasiness. Emotionally-- like a HUGE weight has been lifted off of me. I know we are not out of the woods yet (especially with the late losses some of the ladies on this board have experienced), but being past my milestones and seeing that healthy 10-week-old baby with it's super fast heartbeat really, really helped. Much more that I had anticipated, honestly. 

4. Any appointment updates?  NIPT (I think this is what it is? The cell free DNA test?) next week some time, next actual apt. not until 14 weeks. 

5. Rants/Raves/Questions?  We bought a big, sprawling 1750s farmhouse last spring and we are now filling it up with family for Thanksgiving for the first time! I am really excited-- I feel like the house was meant to be full of people and cooking, and fires in the fireplaces... 

6. Any milestones coming up?  Passed! Feels good to know that for sure. 

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why?  As myself, now (or the future!). If I could be a white man, I'm not sure. The 1950s maybe? If I were really rich, maybe the 1890s. 

meatballs37

1. How many weeks are you? 10 + 2

2. Previous loss(es)? 22w stillbirth, 29w, and 6w. 

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically, still tired and the nausea comes and goes. 

4. Any appointment updates? my next appointment isn’t until Dec 5th. Although I really need to call insurance today and see if the NIPT is covered. I think I have been putting it off because I wasn’t sure I would make it to 10 weeks. And also I am sure t won’t be covered (our insurance blows). I just don’t feel like dealing with it. 

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I’m hosting thanksgiving for the first time for 10 people. I am kinda regretting it because cooking right now makes me so ill if it is a food aversion. Which meat has been. I basically have been living on carbs and cheese. 

6. Any milestones coming up? My milestones now are so far out. I guess the NIPT could be one, although it wouldn’t have picked up the issues with my sons (TTTS, pelvic kidney, echogenic bowel, cardiac failure). Those were all determined later by amino to not be genetic. So in a way the NIPT won’t make me feel any better. So now I’m sitting here wondering if I should even bother? Ignorance can be bliss sometimes.  

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? I guess maybe the 1940’s. Mostly because I want to see what our house we live in was like back then. 

bakerstreetboys

@ruby696 Thinking about you today and tomorrow.  I'm happy that you are still having symptoms   Hopefully you can keep busy until your appointment tomorrow. 

@dntstpbelieveing Good luck at your appointment today! 

@eleven_ oh man, visitors for a month?!  I was going crazy just having people here for 48 hours last week.  I hope they are good guests!  Enjoy your hair appointment!  I'm so overdue and yet I'm still dragging my feet on making an appointment.  Ponytails for me these days!

@mkfolse22 Good luck with your appointment today

1. How many weeks are you? 8w4d (my DH is always amazed that I know my exact day, every day, without needing to look)!

2. Previous loss(es)? Two CPs and one MMC in the last year

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?  I'm still nauseated and exhausted, and boobs hurt when I walk down the stairs now, so I'm trying to see all of those things as good signs.  Emotionally, I'm still really up and down.  The u/s and following appointment with my RE last week still weighs heavily on me, even though I'm trying really hard to take comfort in what my OB said.

4. Any appointment updates? Next u/s and appointment with RE on Thursday.  Will try really hard not to leap across her desk and smack her.

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Jealous of everyone with short work weeks!  Is anyone else finding that their nails aren't growing like you'd normally expect in pregnancy?  Usually mine are out of control when I'm pregnant, but this time around they're brittle and hardly growing at all.  Maybe it's the cold weather....

6. Any milestones coming up? I'm not considering anything a milestone until we hit the second trimester.

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why?  It took me so long to post on this thread because I wasn't sure how to answer this   I really have no desire to have lived in any era in the past.  I'm happy with my rights and modern technology!

ruby696

@bumblebee0210 Thanks, that's good advice. I haven't had any spotting, so I'm comfortable rolling the dice that I don't start bleeding at my in-laws (who have no idea I'm pregnant). I think my plan will be to pretend it's not happening for two days and deal with it when I get home. And maybe have some wine with dinner. 

There's also the possibility that we'll see some growth, but not enough and I'll have another week in limbo. So yay for that. Sorry, I'm going to try not to be a complete downer for the next two days.  😕

@bakerstreetboys Although you can't actually smack her, you can totally imagine yourself doing it. And you should - she deserves it. 

ETA: tag

dntstpbelieveing

@ruby696 you do what you gotta do. Its ok to be a "downer" if that is what you need. Limbo fucking blows. Sometimes for me being a "downer" is actually more therapeutic for me because I try to brace myself ahead of time. but I stick with do what you need to do. It is no one elses place to judge.

meatballs37

@ruby696 you are not a downer. For what it’s worth, I think you are handling it all with a lot of strength. Waiting is so hard. Let all that worry out here. That’s what we are here for. To listen to it all. 

mackorori

So many appointments this week, positive thoughts and prayers for happy news all around!

1. How many weeks are you? 11+5

2. Previous loss(es)? 2 MMC 7/16 (11 weeks), 8/17 (5 1/2 weeks)

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically - I still feel mildly hungover all the time.  Emotionally - Only working a day and a half this week and my mom being in town is nice for distractions, I'm pretty nervous about my MFM appointment tomorrow and my NIPT results to come back (hopefully before the holiday)

4. Any appointment updates? MFM appointment tomorrow, I believe they will do a NT scan.   

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I work from home and my dogs are play fighting in the background, which usually only lasts 5 minutes then they get bored. But not today...this has been going on for about 30 minutes with no end in sight and I don't have a break to take them out for another couple of hours with meetings and such. Combined with this mildly hungover feeling...a dog murder may happen soon...

6. Any milestones coming up? Would love to get past these genetic screenings and tests unscathed

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? I feel like the roaring 20's would be a lot of fun

meatballs37

Well after a call to insurance, my OB, and the company itself (progenity). I have no idea how much I will pay for the test. From what it sounds, since we have already met our deductible, it “should” be covered at 90%. Five bucks says we get billed for the full thing and I have to battle it. Ugh. Why can’t insurance just tell me how much the test will cost?! I’m only slightly stressed about it. We are working off 14k in medical bills slowly but surely from our losses and nicu. And I don’t want to have to budget another extra in. It does sound like I meet the criteria for high risk and shouldn’t pay out of pocket for it. But we all know until the bill comes, it’s a guessing game. Insurance and healthcare suck. 

DH needs to find another job after this little one is here. I can’t take another year of our shitty insurance. (We both work for a hospital). 

nmbrcrnchr1

@bakerstreetboys my nails are also less than spectacular and I’m sad bc in my previous pregnancy my nails were awesome I’m blaming it on the weather since it’s opposite season than DDs pregnancy 


1. How many weeks are you? 11+4 (I have to look that up every single day!)

2. Previous loss(es)? Ectopic in Feb

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically- much better. I had a weekend away with friends and I actually stayed up past 9 and besides a few smells that caused some nausea I didn’t feel like crap all weekend. Emotionally- struggling. I keep thinking something has gone wrong and I won’t know until next week. I’m trying to focus on other things but...not really helping

4. Any appointment updates? Next Monday for NT scan/blood draw and regular 12 week appointment 

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Had a great weekend, now back to reality.

6. Any milestones coming up? Nope

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? Late 1800s/early 1900s. I feel like times were simpler then before technology and cars and everything that makes us so busy

bakerstreetboys

@meatballs37 I'm sorry you have to go through so much of a hassle to get a non-answer from your insurance!  It seems ridiculous....

laceydelovely

1. How many weeks are you? 8+2

2. Previous loss(es)? MC 8 weeks 2015, MMC 9 weeks back in May

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically - I feel about the same. It's mostly a constant need to pee and being pretty tired all the time. Still no nausea or morning sickness which also freaks me out. Emotionally- I am still so anxious to find anything out. We finally told my in laws we were pregnant and it's good to know that they are happy for us. 

4. Any appointment updates? I still haven't had my first appointment yet. It's not until 12/7 when I will be almost 11 weeks. I keep wondering if I should just call and see if I can get an ultrasound done earlier than my appointment. 

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I am really so excited to finally have a day off today and then I only have to work Tues and wed before the holidays. We are hosting a friends giving party on fri so that should also be exciting.

6. Any milestones coming up? I have made it to the point where I lost my first child. But I won't be in the clear until after my appointment. I didn't realize I had miscarried my second child until 11 weeks at our US. 

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? Ideally I would love to Travel with the Doctor on Dr. who and see all the time periods, but if I had to pick one it might be the 1920s.

sparklingdiamond

@meatballs37 I would make sure the lab they are sending it to is in network.  My MFM ended up sending my amnio to an out of network lab and I got billed thousands originally.

meatballs37

@sparklingdiamond ugh. Why do they make this so hard? After two phone calls with my insurance this morning, I’ve come to realize we won’t know jack until they send us the bill. And then we will have to fight it if it wasn’t covered. 

sparklingdiamond

@meatballs37 I will say my MFM did say that if they billed me a lot to call and tell them I needed this certain discounted rate and I think I paid $200-300 in the end.  So annoying.  And it seems like the cost of it depends on the lab you use.  No standard price.  You would think your insurance company would be able to tell you the rate you know?!

@ruby696 I am still thinking of you!

And good luck to everyone else who has ultrasounds and appointments this week.

ruby696

You guys are the best. Seriously. On another note, I just realized some of you are almost out of 1st tri! That's so exciting!

dntstpbelieveing

Met with MFM. Everything is looking good. HB of 170. He didnt have much to say. I am guessing I will hear more from my OB once she gets his report. 

TJtheGoat

I jave court today, so I’ll try to get back tomorrow for more tags and check-in, but I wanted to say:

@ruby696 Thinking of you and sending peace to get through today and tomorrow morning. 

@dntstpbelieveing I’m glad your spot went well.  

mkfolse22

My appointment went well. Baby has a HR of 162 and measuring 9 days ahead! So he changed my EDD from 6/18 to 6/9, making me 11+1, instead of 9+6. Should get a call from the MFM in the next 2 weeks to set up an appointment. My MW offered to see me in 2-3week instead of 5w so I can hear the heart beat again 🤗 I cried like a damn baby when he said the HR and then showed me the baby. Definitely lifted some anxiety. I’ll feel better with the next US and not seeing the same issues that were found at 14wks last time. 

@dntstpbelieveing so glad your appt was good! Sometimes less to say isn’t a bad thing in these cases! 

@laceydelovely I’m sorry you have to wait so long. Is there a reason they’re making you wait? My first appt was at 10wks, I thought that was just a silly military thing haha 

@ruby696 FX for your appt tomorrow! I totally get your thinking. It’s easier to prepare for bad news and get a wonderful surprise than to expect good news and not get it. But with symptoms still present and no spotting, I’ll hold out hope for some good news for you tomorrow ❤️

ncm1919

1. How many weeks are you? 10+2

2. Previous loss(es)? One last October. 

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? I’m just ready to be done with NIPT and to see Sweet Pea again. Then I want to settle in and enjoy my freaking pregnancy. I know so much more about loss I’m afraid I’m not going to be able to relax until I’m homding this baby and looking it in the eyes. 

4. Any appointment updates? Nope. Dec 5th is a lifetime away. 

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I got a new cookbook called Rustic Fruit Desserts and went overboard and committed to two desserts, dressing and a baked Brie. I’m so hungry so every time the option to make food comes up I go berserk. 

6. Any milestones coming up? Nope

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? I want to go to a million different time periods but might have to choose something modern times so I can still take a hot shower (Claire from Outlander taught me that one).

@ruby696 you’ve been in a holding pattern for a while. Glad you’re getting your appointment tomorrow. 

@dntstpbelieveing great news 

antera23

I’m thinking of you all with upcoming appointments! 

kjr9519

I’ll be thinking of you tomorrow and hoping for the best @ruby696

carleym93

Thinking of you today @ruby696 ❤️

vv826

**lurker**

thinking of you today @ruby696! 💓

dntstpbelieveing

Sending you so many thoughts today @ruby696

meatballs37

I hope the day doesn’t drag for you today @ruby696 and that it’s nothing but good news. 

meatballs37

@ncm1919 I feel like you and I are on the same timeline. (Gestational age, next appointment dec5th, and getting the NIPT drawn). I’m getting my drawn this morning. I suppose we will have to wait longer for results with the holiday this week (assuming you live in the US). 

bakerstreetboys

Hoping your day goes by quickly @ruby696 and that you get great results this afternoon!

srscott3

Thinking of you today, @ruby696! ❤️

1. How many weeks are you? 11+6

2. Previous loss(es)? CP 12/17, MC 2/18

3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically I’m starting to feel nauseous again, which is weird because I thought that was over. Emotionally, awful. Anxiety sucks. Trying to get in to see a therapist soon. I just hate having to start over with a new therapist. There’s so much to tell and discuss and explain and I just don’t like starting over. But I’ve been a shitty participant on here (and in life) and I’m feeling an overwhelming (but unwarranted) sense of mom/wife guilt at home. So I know it’s time to see someone.  

4. Any appointment updates? 12 week US and NIPT blood draw today at 4. 

5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Rave: almost all my Christmas shopping is done, thank goodness!

6. Any milestones coming up? Passed them already, thankfully ❤️

7. GTKY: if you could live in any historical era, what would it be and why? As others have mentioned, probably Victorian Era (but only if I could keep my rights).

sparklingdiamond

@ruby696 Thinking of you and hoping today goes by quickly!

eleven_

@ruby696 I will be thinking of you all day  I'm so hopeful for you, friend.

@srscott3 Ah 12 week US today!!! FX LO looks perfect. 

nmbrcrnchr1

@ruby696 also thinking about you today ❤️ 
@srscott3 hope everything looks great for you too! I can’t believe we are at 12 weeks!!!

Dcwtada

Fleeting everything crossed for you today @ruby696. I hope you have a busy and distracting day and good news and lots of growth at your u/s 

antera23

@ruby696 I’m thinking of you today!