@ruby696, genius! My 3 year old is great with loading the dishwasher and helping with the laundry, but (ironically) all three of them LOVE the broom and the vacuum and that task usually ends in screaming children because they DON’T love sharing with each other. Maybe I should buy three brooms and train a small cleaning army. 😂
Married 25 May, 2013 William Alexander born 18 September, 2015 Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017 Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017 Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
@KissMeImScottish pretty sure the fact that you can keep three of them alive while he's deployed makes you Superwoman. You could live in a literal pile of dirt and I'd still think you're incredible.
Not a hero, I promise. We’d both rather have him home. But there’s not much choice. The navy owns him and we get free health care out of it. We joke that we’re not sure who’s the wife and who’s the mistress - me or the submarine, haha. He spends more time with her, so I’m thinking I’m the mistress at this point! Our mantra at this point is 5 years to retirement, and he’s headed to shore duty in March, thank the Lord. Full disclosure, this baby happened 4 days after he got back from this deployment. Those deployment swimmers, man...😂
@ruby696, legit, I remember the first time my husband left for an underway (he’d been on shore duty for a year before we got married, so no sea time). He was only gone for 3 days and I was SO upset. If you’re not accustomed to separations, they’re HARD. Doesn’t matter how long it is. At least I’m used to it - I almost think people who’s husband’s travel just for work have a harder time. Deployments come with massive support networks. Work trips don’t.
Married 25 May, 2013 William Alexander born 18 September, 2015 Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017 Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017 Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
@luckystar28 As a fellow doodle mom, I must say I love grooming time because I love the shampoo they use at the groomer. If my doggo smelled like fritos, that would be a different story, but he typically smells like squirrel poop.
@KissMeImScottish The longest he's been gone is 30 days, and that was really hard. But we didn't have kids then and I had all the time in the world to dwell on it. I think this time, I'll be so exhausted I won't have the energy to feel as bad. The logistics of daycare pickup/drop off is more of a concern since I work full time and they only go to daycare 3 days a week.
@KissMeImScottish my husband left active duty when our son was a year old. It was nice having him home but it really is crazy how used to having them around you get. He's in the reserves now and when he's gone for 3-4 weeks it's a struggle.
He'll be gone for 5 months starting around August (we don't have official dates yet) for his civilian job and I am dreading it. I'll have a tiny baby and my son will be starting Kinder...at least I'll be on maternity leave for about 3 months while he's gone, but knowing I have to do all the school drop offs and pick ups even when it's not convenient due to the baby is already giving me anxiety! I'm sure we'll find our new normal though.
@KissMeImScottish my dad was in the army from when I was about 2-12. He was deployed 3 different times for 6-9 months each (not to mention the countless amount of times he was away for training). My mom ended up basically raising us alone for those 10 years. So I definitely agree with the others, it takes a hero to do that.
I also don’t like Thanksgiving food. Turkey is okay, but I’m only there for the mashed potatoes and rolls, really. I also get really sad when the only desserts are pies because I’m such a sweet tooth, but I can’t stand pumpkin/fruit/nut pies.
My UO is that I actually really like wearing bras, and I can’t sleep well without one on.
I hate when I see posts about what a SAHM is worth or videos of them running around to prove it’s tough. I feel like trying to justify the role or what you’d earn if it was a “real” job cheapens it. And it very well may only be my experience but I have never had anyone say or act like being a SAHM was an easy thing. And believe me this isn’t an argument between working or stay at home - only the concept that people need to justify SAHM as a real job.
@Dcwtada I work full time as an attorney. MH works weekends. Weekends with the kids all day by myself is exhausting, especially since I also have to clean the house, grocery shop, and run errands. My weekends are so much harder than a day at work. I have total respect for SAHM's and I know I couldn't do it without losing my shit. Hell, DS went to daycare part time when I was on maternity leave with DD.
To be honest, I have no idea how you guys are able to cope with your husbands being gone for so long! I've been with my husband for 16 years and the first few years of our relationship were long-distance. Now it's so hard for him to go. Since I work from home right now, he always leaves early in the morning and when he kisses me to say goodbye I always tell him "To be careful" and "I miss you." It usually gets a good laugh from him. At least I have my pups at home with me to keep me company. I'm pretty extroverted though, so working at home can be a challenge. Now I chit chat with my postman for some human interaction.
@ruby696 if you throw away a little of his stuff at a time he may never even notice! MH hoards t-shirts. He has some from when he was in high school. When I'm putting away laundry and I see one that's more wore out than necessary I just toss it. He has no clue. He's never said a word. And I feel satisfied. lol
My U/O I prefer sarcastic people to sincere people because I think they are more honest and upfront. If you're so nice that it's over the top I think you're hiding your true feelings.
@ki1244@ruby696 my parents live in the house my dad grew up in. Cleaning out the basement they found my great grandmas wedding dress, letters my grandpa wrote my great grandma when he was first in the navy during ww2 and a random letter from some fowl conservatory that had tagged a duck he shot. I guess he sent them a letter to update them on its demise and they let him know when and why it was tagged. My DH just hoards hats....
@kjr9519 i am on the bra train. I dont have to sleep in one but I need one on even at home. We have a friend who comes to visit and the first thing she does is bra off pjs on and i cant stand the thought of them just loose lol
@runyogamom I knew I liked you. MH clings to his 90's clothes that he's not allowed to wear in public. Also, I love sarcastic people. They're the best.
Oh I remember my probably actual UO, I dislike knitted baby blankets. I have a couple bigger worries about them: not actually warm enough, that they would unravel and choke the baby and that my baby would chew/lick the blanket (DS does) and gag on the fiber of yarn. We received a few and they were rarely used and never used alone.
I’m actually very sarcastic in person but I always worry about how people will take it over text so I hold back a lot. +1 for the sarcasm bus! ;-) I also think I’m pretty funny.... that might be an unpopular opinion, lol.
@luckystar28 It is so funny you say that.....I was snuggled up to my coonhound yesterday and she tends to smell like a mix betrween freetos and cheetos lol and I oddly like the smell too. However, my shepherd just smells like old dirty basement when she needs a bath and that I don't like lol
My UO: I am a fan of watching reality/drama TV series like Desperate Housewives, PLL, love and hip hop, Claws, etc. I'm not really a drama-oriented person, but for some reason these shows are very entertaining to me.....and I have been playing Pokemon Go......and I am 30 years old.......
Ok FFTC, I lurk other BMBs (mostly when I can’t sleep in the MOTN) and I just don’t understand people who are at the beginning/end of the month who participate in both BMBs. 1. How do you find the time? I struggle to keep up with one. And 2. It just seems AW to me, like pick one!!!
I'm with you on this! My original due date was 6/2. When I went to the doctor it was changed to 5/31. I'm splitting the middle and saying 6/1 lol! I may have a late May baby or an early June baby (my son was 3 days past his EDD). No way I am joining two! I had already joined this one and I'm sticking with it.
It's kind of fun being right at the beginning. With my son I was due 7/15 and had him 7/18. I was SO antsy waiting those 18 days. This way I know as June approaches/starts I'll either have a baby already or be darn close to it!
This opinion will be unpopular only with our bosses/companies but I feel like pregnant women should have a reduced work week in the first trimester. I have not had the energy to post even though I feel 10-15% better in week 10 than in week 9. Now to get to work.... Ugh.
If my kid starts melting down in public I don't think I need to leave and drop what I'm doing. For ex: grocery shopping. Who has time to do the same shopping trip twice? Nope, I wait for my kid to gather his/her self control and then we keep going. People can stare all they want. They can judge too. Lord forbid any child not be in perfect control of their emotions. You're a horrible parent if you haven't successfully taught them to sit quietly for hours on end by the time they are 1. <<sarcasm
@ellem29 it’s Flame Free Thursday Confession. Most of the time you’ll see FFFC (on Fridays) but if it’s another day of the week I just change the 3rd F to whatever day it is 😁
@emeraldcity603 I'll admit before kids I would get annoyed at the tantrums. After having one now I just feel sympathy for everyone dealing with a tantrum because I've been there!
@emeraldcity603, this. 100% this. There is only one of me and there are 3 (soon to be 4) of them. Someone is ALWAYS melting down. I don’t have time or energy to plan my errands around their moods. When I’ve spent the time it takes to get everyone dressed, into their car seats, and spent the gas to get to the commissary, ain’t no way I’m turning around and leaving because my kid decides they can’t handle me telling them they can’t eat the fruit snacks I haven’t paid for yet. I do what I can to mitigate the tantrum, but it is what it is. As annoying as in sure it is for the people around me, bottom line is that I’m the one who has to go home with the angry toddlers. I’m definitely more annoyed than the passerby who has to hear it for three minutes.
Married 25 May, 2013 William Alexander born 18 September, 2015 Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017 Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017 Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
Re: Unpopular Opinion (UO) Thursday 11/8
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
BTW MH will be out of state training for two weeks this winter and I'm dreading it. You're definitely my hero.
@ruby696, legit, I remember the first time my husband left for an underway (he’d been on shore duty for a year before we got married, so no sea time). He was only gone for 3 days and I was SO upset. If you’re not accustomed to separations, they’re HARD. Doesn’t matter how long it is. At least I’m used to it - I almost think people who’s husband’s travel just for work have a harder time. Deployments come with massive support networks. Work trips don’t.
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
He'll be gone for 5 months starting around August (we don't have official dates yet) for his civilian job and I am dreading it. I'll have a tiny baby and my son will be starting Kinder...at least I'll be on maternity leave for about 3 months while he's gone, but knowing I have to do all the school drop offs and pick ups even when it's not convenient due to the baby is already giving me anxiety! I'm sure we'll find our new normal though.
I also don’t like Thanksgiving food. Turkey is okay, but I’m only there for the mashed potatoes and rolls, really. I also get really sad when the only desserts are pies because I’m such a sweet tooth, but I can’t stand pumpkin/fruit/nut pies.
My UO is that I actually really like wearing bras, and I can’t sleep well without one on.
I hate when I see posts about what a SAHM is worth or videos of them running around to prove it’s tough. I feel like trying to justify the role or what you’d earn if it was a “real” job cheapens it. And it very well may only be my experience but I have never had anyone say or act like being a SAHM was an easy thing. And believe me this isn’t an argument between working or stay at home - only the concept that people need to justify SAHM as a real job.
@kjr9519 i am on the bra train. I dont have to sleep in one but I need one on even at home. We have a friend who comes to visit and the first thing she does is bra off pjs on and i cant stand the thought of them just loose lol
+1 for the sarcasm bus! ;-) I also think I’m pretty funny.... that might be an unpopular opinion, lol.
It's kind of fun being right at the beginning. With my son I was due 7/15 and had him 7/18. I was SO antsy waiting those 18 days. This way I know as June approaches/starts I'll either have a baby already or be darn close to it!
If my kid starts melting down in public I don't think I need to leave and drop what I'm doing. For ex: grocery shopping. Who has time to do the same shopping trip twice? Nope, I wait for my kid to gather his/her self control and then we keep going. People can stare all they want. They can judge too. Lord forbid any child not be in perfect control of their emotions. You're a horrible parent if you haven't successfully taught them to sit quietly for hours on end by the time they are 1. <<sarcasm
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019