TW Tuesday

JLaVO888

Twat Waffle Tuesday

I know we try to keep it pretty positive around here but sometimes a gal just needs to let it all out. Who or what is being a twat waffle in your life right now? Spill it all! 

mamakate1616

I needed this today. My MiL is a saint but also a twat waffle.
DH is on travel and she came over twice to help with bath time, and of course my daughter is sick AGAIN so she helped with the nebulizer.
However, last night we were talking about doctor appointments and I told her I had one today and it’s far away and I needed to leave by 8. “Ok, no problem, I’ll be back from my blood test by then, I’ll text you when I get home. Actually you can see my van (we’re neighbors) so just bring her over”. 8:10 rolls around and I am getting antsy because it’s well past time to go and no van...I text her and she says she has stopped at Walmart and should be home in 15-20...... WTF. “It’s fine (FiL) is home and knows she’s coming” maybe he did but I certainly didnt and now I’m leaving my house 20 minutes late. 

Also DD is a TW. I know it’s because she is sick again but she will.not.stop.whining. 

Grrrrr. Sorry for the novel!

JLaVO888

Selfishly I created this because I need to a quick bitch fest. Whyyyy do people like to insist that you are not allowed to be miserable during your second tri?? I must have been looking about how I felt yesterday because my coworker chimes in and says “your acting awfully pregnant today. You’ve got a road ahead of you if that’s how your going to walk around already.” 

Like STFU lady!!! I am awfully pregnant!!! My sciatic pain has been a beast since the stick dried. I have more days with headaches than without them. And my nausea made a comeback. So yes, it’s a long fucking 9 months. Oh and you forgot about the heartburn thats creeping in after every meal. Or would you like me to talk about how I can’t catch my breath...like ever! Maybe you want your vag to feel like someone’s shoving splinters up it?? Get off my back and quit acting like I’m only allowed to be miserable if I’m huge. I’m growing a damn baby while working 8+ hours with small children. I’m fucking tired. 

JLaVO888

@mamakate1616 Ugh one of my worst pet peeves is being late so when other people make me late it makes me rage. 

mamakate1616

@JLaVO888 I know!! Ugh. I’m especially pissed because my original plan was to bring her with me, but MIL insisted on keeping her for me.

I’m sorry about the comments from your coworker, people suck. And I sympathize completely with feeling like garbage even though it’s the magical 2nd tri. 

dtspmama

@JLaVO888 PREACH, sister!  In some ways I hate my second tri more than the others:  I'm gaining so much weight, EVERYTHING gives me heartburn (I'm choking down water right now and it's making me nauseous), I need to eat constantly or I'm starving, but then that makes me nauseous. IT'S HARD. And having two toddlers at home doesn't make it any easier!

I'm the TW today, though.  I forgot I have to work on Saturday morning and we scheduled an open house. I'm going to have to leave super early and I won't be able to get the house ready. I'm just annoyed with myself for stacking my schedule like this right now.  Can it be the holidays already?

indigoheightsblog

@JLaVO888 i'm so with you!!!! spent my entire 1st tri worried sick that i had no symptoms and now 2nd tri i've got daily headaches, lightening crotch, can't sleep, acid reflux, zero desire to work out, RIDICULOUS acne that i've never had in my life - even during puberty... i'm STARVING at all hours and lately i've been having these crazy blood sugar dips where i'm in a total fog until i eat.... the list goes on!!! yet when people ask how i'm feeling i say "really good" because i'm not throwing up or nauseous. when i really sit back and think about why i'm miserable i'm like "oh yeah...... there's a baby in there, that's why." in no way shape or form is 2nd tri easier for me than 1st. it's worse. i'm still OKAY.... but it's def worse!!! 

kristimh80

My TW is our builders at work. I cringe daily going to work because buyers are always calling bitching in my hear about stuff I have no control over. I send their concerns to their builders and management, then days later the buyer is still pissed. If it doesn't get better soon, I may not make it to maternity leave. Constantly having to listen to so much negativity is weighing on my last nerve. I think I'd rather stay home and clean or something 

zionsmama85

My TW is my coworker that comes in everyday at 8am yanking open the blinds in our office...wouldnt mind but she does it forcefully now. Last few weeks we (the folks that sit on the side of the window) have been closing the blinds around 330-4pm bc the sun creates a blinding glare on the computers and we cant see....she passive aggressively starts complaining that they should move all the people that "hate the sun".....I am a consistently cold person so i love sitting here bc its warmer than the rest of the office...but i cant help it if i cannot SEE while i am trying to take phone calls...now everyday she makes sure to come in and immediately start grumbling about how she needs sun to wake up. I am five seconds from telling her we would not mind not hearing her mouth if she decides to work outside in her car. ugh! 

kristimh80

@zionsmama85 How annoying! I'm sure all your co-workers would love for you to say that! Maybe have her switch with someone by the windows and see how she likes the afternoon sun then. Sadly, she sounds like the type that will complain for the sake of it. 

ashley14598

@JLaVO888 I’m so with you!!!! Anytime I have a the slightest complaint And wonder if it has to do with being pregnant. And then my co-workers and mom are all oh gezz! Here she goes again making things up, how did I have “x” number of pregnancies without the internet?! Grrrr!!!! I seriously think people forget how tough pregnancy can be on the body! I know for me in the year I wasn’t pregnant (and was breastfeeding) I still forgot about all the little things that pregnancy can cause! Ugh! My last pregnancy was good until the very end (despite the exhaustion, nausea, and loss of appetite) when I had GD and HBP. This time is completely different this time I’m not only exhausted, nausea still comes and goes, dealing with loss and gain of appetite, cravings, aversions, dry eyes, and now the last two days I’ve had tingling/numbing/sore legs and feet. I swear everytime I turn around it’s one more thing. Not to mention I’m in my 30s my mom and I’d say most women her age were done having their children by that age. 

ur_mom222

I love this thread because I am SO IRRITABLE this pregnancy! I have had to work on it cause I am even getting annoyed of myself lol. I’m sorry for all dealing with the TW’s. I will say I think a lot of people will avoid this thread because TW is “trigger warning” in my head. I’m glad I clicked just to see though. 

The TW in my life is my boss.. he has been such a douche since I told him I was pregnant. It’s a long story but pretty much he thinks my high risk pregnancy is bullshit and I’m exaggerating. last week I got diagnosed with “hormone induced vertigo” (yay!) and I got a doctors note that I couldn’t drive and had to be off Thursday Friday. Well it’s not going away. I drove to work yesterday and dropped my daughter off at daycare but I felt like it was sketchy. Today i woke up early spinning like crazy and called in. There’s literally nothing I can do. No medicine, no nothing. And I’m certainly not going to risk driving. Well his response “it’s really early to be throwing in the towel, see how you feel in an hour and we would love your attendance.” I know it sucks i can’t drive right now but doctor says it should get better. Like chill dude, I’m doing the best I can. 

Edit: typos 

kristimh80

@mamakeeg You poor thing!! What a jerk! Take care of yourself and baby. Work isn't worth putting yourself in danger because he's a moron. FX it gets better soon!!

ur_mom222

@kristimh80 aw that was so sweet, thank you! 

govanalyst86

I’m the TW in my life. In the words of my husband, “why are you being so mean?” I don’t mean to be a TW it just seems like my patience and tact  is all burned out.

litzi-2

@govanalyst86  oh man, i know what you mean!

JLaVO888

@govanalyst86 I can relate to that as well. I’ve had quite a few grumpy days lately. 

zionsmama85

@govanalyst86 yep, relate. my SO keeps telling me "man, wait until you aren't pregnant" LOL bc i keep snapping at him...and i keep reminding him...i will still be postpartum....LOL! but i am trying to be nicer...its just hard. these hormones are no joke.

lelkcot

@govanalyst86 yep, I am a cranky pregnant lady... trying to keep it in check, but my patience seems to be shot.
My TW right now is a coworker who insisted I hand something off to her as not to add another item to our bosses plate, then just never did it. Now the project is delayed by a week and our boss still had to submit the materials. I was SO annoyed...  

keikilove

Uggghhhh my sisters are the TWs in my life at the moment. Sister 1 comes over to hang out, we have a lovely time. Sister 2 comes by to vent about her day, mentions a tiff she had with Sister 3 about a misunderstanding w/their small business. Sister 1 interrupts her nonstop, I have to play referee & say “She’s just telling us about her day. Let her vent.” Sister 1 gets super harsh & blames Sister 2 for the business issue, goes waaaaay off & says a bunch of mean things about her bad business sense & lack of loyalty to her sisters. I tell her to lay off and let the business partners work it out directly themselves. Everyone leaves my house angry.

Sister 3 texts me a bit later saying “Sister 1 told me how you were making excuses for Sister 2’s bad behavior & giving her advice. Stay the hell out of my business! Don’t get involved, you don’t know what’s going on!”

Geesus, all I did was tell Sister 1 to stop being so harsh and let Sister 2 have a moment to vent without cutting her off & insulting her nonstop. I didn’t want to be involved in the first place! If anything, they should be talking directly to each other and telling Sister 1 to stay out of their business. Uuuggghhhhhh!!! 

bdesterhouse

I used to want sisters, thank you @keikilove for reminding me to be thankful for my only brother . 

@govanalyst86 I hear you on the being mean. My husband doesn’t care for me much right now. He says I’m mean and snippy. Sad part is I know I’m being mean when I do it, and try hard not to but sometimes you just can’t stop it. I wish men could experience just the hormone aspect of pregnancy.

maggiemadeit

Pelvic pain is a TW. I went for a run today that I am now sure will be my last. I thought my damn pelvis was going to split in two, it hurt so bad, and I had to stop before I even made it a mile. And now I am the TW for throwing myself the world’s biggest pity party about it  

lelkcot

@maggiemadeit you may already be using one, but if not, a support belt helped reduce the pelvic pressure of running for me with DS!

maggiemadeit

@lelkcot Thanks for the suggestion! I am considering ordering the Gabrialla. It’s expensive, but if it can buy me a few more months of running it would be worth it. 

lelkcot

@maggiemadeit I jogged up through month 7 with DS using a support belt, and used it for walks after that! But, honestly, he was kind of an easy pregnancy. Definitely not running this time around!

maggiemadeit

@lelkcot I made it to 8 months running with my first. I think that’s why I feel so sad that I might be done already. I’m only 20 weeks and I’m not ready to give it up yet! That being said, I would rather give it up now than end up with permanent pelvis problems. 

lelkcot

@maggiemadeit yes, definitely best to listen to & protect our bodies through all this! 

Runninggal28

@maggiemadeit I’m right there with you!  Running isn’t happening anymore, way too much pelvic pressure. I started seeing a pelvic floor physical therapist today so I’m hoping that helps. She also suggested a support belt so I might try that out also.