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January 2019 Moms
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Oct FTM check in
galactickates
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First time mom here checking in with my fellow FTMs. How's it going ladies? Almost to third tri!
Re: Oct FTM check in
We bought a new (to us) car this weekend! DH's car was on the brink of total collapse at 160k miles and some electrical problems. Now we can check that off the baby prep list. Next weekend we are disassembling the guest bed, but the friends we are giving it to can't pick it up for a few weeks. We are also going to Ikea to get the crib and dresser. Excited to start nesting.
3rd trimester for me starts next week and I am ready!
I had dinner with my centering group a couple nights ago and it was so nice to be around other couples going through similar things. We are all first time parents and figuring out this crazy journey together. I love feeling like I'm part of a community. It's something I've been searching for, for some time.
I seriously need to get going on his clothing storage. It's starting to pile up!
We aren’t having a baby shower so I have been slowly purchasing off the registry I created. My in laws bought a car seat, crib, pack n play, and a diaper bag plus clothes and bibs and sheets and the little fun things so far. I just bought the matteress, thermometer, rock n play napper, dish washing racks, and high chair.
I also ordered my breast pump through insurance.
I am freaking out about daycares because no one does wait list here and making sure work is set. I have panic attacks that I will go into labor early and not have work ready. It doesn’t help that my right hand and the person I share my work with is going on maternity leave at the end of Nov.
Andrea -- FTM at 39!
I am starting to panic a little bit that maybe I don’t know enough about babies and am not really adequately prepared. This morning my downstairs neighbor asked me in this really skeptical tone, “How do you think you’re going to get a baby up and down those stairs?” and I freaked out a little because she sounded so confident that I couldn’t possibly do it. Fortunately DH was home to remind me that it’s only one short flight of stairs and we’ll figure it out, it’s not really an insurmountable obstacle!
@Augusta108 I'm in the same boat with the stairs. I live in a second floor. If it makes you feel any better, my upstairs neighbors have an 8 week old baby and 2 dogs. The mom regularly takes all 3 of them out by herself and hasn't had any issues getting up to the third floor. You can do it!! It's definitely factoring in to my stroller decision. I'm looking for the lightest and most compact stroller possible so I can carry that in one hand and the baby in the other. But my neighbors somehow manage with their beast of a Vista so anything can work!
We had a big exploratory Ikea trip last weekend to figure out how the heck we're going to organize our condo to make room for all the baby stuff (the nursery is really our catch-all storage room right now). We've identified some pretty good solutions that I think will make our home a lot more liveable so I'm excited about that but not excited for the amount of money and building it's going to take. We also need a new furnace/boiler (our current one broke THREE TIMES last year, once resulting in a frozen pipe and ensuing fiasco) and I've given my husband a November 1st due date to get that taken care of. If I get stuck at home with a newborn baby and no heat I'm gonna be pissed.
@kaf1788 the dresser & crib both came in the last week, which I was super excited about but now it's time to build them and I keep putting it off lol. The dresser alone estimates 3-4 hours of building time. Ugh. SO wants to help, but the one time he built a cabinet he had an unfinished side facing up (and realized it at the very end, when everything was in place) so I'm being a control freak about it. Hoping I'll get some motivation this weekend, but Halloween decorating sounds way more fun lol.
The only other option in my town that offers infant care is at a mennonite church. Which i suppose is fine, assuming I don't need to be a member of the church? Guess ill have to find out 😆
if not, i guess we will look for a daycare near my husbands work... Which means he will have to do all pick ups and drop offs..
Also, who knew daycare was so expensive?! Its literally more per month than the mortgage on my last house!
alannac1 Is it a regular mennonite church or an old order one? I bet they have a good place. I grew up around a ton of mennonites of all types and children and families are very important. I'm also worried because the family daycare in the basement of my apartment run by my super's wife sounds great, but there is also no guarantee. We just have to wait and see how timing works out.
Absolutely sh*t is getting real!
We just built a pantry and I put everything together and made him tighten the pieces, lift it up & move it to the final spot at the very end. Kind of letting him help, right?!
fortunately he likes to build things and usually I just read the instructions and set out all the parts for each step (I like to organize), while he puts together everything.
My plan is to call my favorite choice for a daycare after my next appointment and also call another daycare I heard of.. I also need to contact two local women I know with young kids to find out who they see with their children.
@alannac1 it doesn’t hurt to check it out. The way I look at religious based day cares is if they are really young, as long as they are good with the kids it won’t matter much about what religion it is. The daycare I really love though is speech focused which is a big deal here because a lot of daycares here don’t focus on that.
We have the nursery set up enough to be functional at this point. We just need to put up the artwork. Our showers are both happening within the next month so we are waiting to get our travel system and other bigger ticket items until after those are over.
BFP April 24, 2018 | EDD December 29, 2018
Im not sure if its old order or not - we have a mix of old and modern in our area. Either way, im not concerned about the quality of care, because theyre all wonderful people. Its just a lot different from the daycare i would prefer, where its a huge, brand new facility with really nice amenities and is pretty technologically advanced - they have an app where they give you a log of everything they do with your baby (when they ate, when they changed thier diaper, when they napped) and send you pictures throughout the day. This will end up being quite different.
We only have 3ish months left. Do you guys feel prepared?
I got my pump ordered, we had our baby shower. I still don't feel ready though. I haven't taken any classes. Have you guys started or taken any yet?
Baby shower is next weekend, but... I have a feeling I'll be getting a lot of clothes. Funny thing about the class discussion... Last night I said to my husband, "I don't think we really need to do any classes. I'm pretty solid on what's what, and I think you are, too."
Then he turns to me and says, "Yeah. It's pretty simple - you'll tell me what you want or need, and I'll do it."
Wwwhhhooooaaaaa there, horsey! Say what? Omg no. No no no. We are doing the damn prenatal class, because there is no way he is going in with that kind of naivety!
But I like the idea of an infant class. That could be a very good thing to look into.
I really want to do all the fun nesty things but I have so many tedious things to figure out before that can happen. Last night all I wanted to do was start washing and organizing the baby's clothes, but the dresser is still full of all my clothes and I can't move them out until we completely re-do my bedroom closet. And lord knows when we'll have time for that.
As far as classes, we’ve started doing some. We are halfway through a 12 week Bradley Class on birth and techniques for an unmedicated birth. Just last weekend we took a weekend long childbirth and infant care class at the hospital. The birth stuff wasn’t too much new from Bradley Class, but if we hadn’t been in that I think it would have been helpful. The baby care part was definitely useful and we learned stuff, especially DH. We have a breastfeeding class coming up next weekend and then infant first aid and CPR the week after that. I’m finding them helpful, and DH is enjoying them as well. I’d rather be in too many classes than too few, so that’s how I’ve been approaching it. We also have met new people who are potential parent friends due around the same time, which is nice!
There's only one slot left for a weekend L&D class before my due date and it's the day I scheduled my maternity shoot
Our shower isn’t till mid-November, but we received some early gifts of the crib, changing table, and travel system, so that at least helps a bit. I like that I at least have a room I can go into and easily imagine the baby being in...even if there’s still quite a bit of clutter in there too!
DH told me yesterday he wants to find some books to read that would focus on the father’s experience. Anyone have any recommendations?
Be Prepared and he really enjoyed it
Andrea -- FTM at 39!
Also not ready over here, but slowly making progress. I signed up for a birthing class and an infant care class, and will sign up for breastfeeding too once the November-December schedule goes up. I also watched a super good birth class online-
The nursery definitely isn't ready either, but it's getting close. I think we have all the major furniture and decorations, but just haven't finished putting them together. And the baby shower will be in November (and another in Dec), but at least its planned. We bought or were given the big ticket items already so I feel pretty good about that (car seat, bassinet, stroller, lots of secondhand clothes). Definitely feeling busy though and getting used to turning down invites to things, since there's quite a lot to do. My weekends are almost all full between now and the due date, between classes, showers, visitors, doula meetings, and holidays, and I'd love some nap time instead! I'm introverted and a totally empty weekend on the calendar is like...heaven.
We have childbirth, breastfeeding, and baby care classes that we're taking through our hospital in the first half of December. I've also been listening to the Birth Hour and Evidence Based Birth podcasts to try to educate myself about childbirth, what could happen, and what my options are.
We got "The Expectant Father" for DH and I think he read the first 3 pages lol. He's not much of a reader! He watches a lot of youtube while he plays computer games, so I suggested he start watching videos about babies instead of the ones he usually watches, and he actually did a bit. I'm not sure how much he learned, but it did make him realize how little he actually knows.
@merostomata, I’m a big introvert too and can totally relate to the dreams of empty weekends! Every time I think maybe I’m about to get one something comes up...
The gestational diabetes diagnosis isn’t helping either. As if there wasn’t enough to stress about, let’s add in a strictly planned diet and repeated stabbings.
BFP April 24, 2018 | EDD December 29, 2018
We have started our Bradley Method class series and that has been awesome so far but super time consuming in addition to weekly chiropractor appointments, prenatal check ups, prenatal yoga, prenatal massages, finishing the 13135 books I bought and started...oh god I am seriously drowning in to-dos these days.