Twins?

adventurebirth

For those with twins...did you have any symptoms that indicated there was more than one baby in there? I don't have an ultrasound for another week, but I'm SO. SO. SICK. Way more than with my other pregnancies. I've also had consistently high hcg levels, sometimes tripling over two days. Is this...twins? ❤️😍🤮

wishiwaspreggo

I've been wondering the same thing since I did IVF and transferred 2 embryos. But from what I've heard the only way to really know if you're having twins is to verify it with an ultrasound. Some ladies with twins never have high HCG levels or crazy symptoms. Some without have rapidly elevating HCG and severe symptoms but end up with a singleton. I'm keeping all my fingers crossed only 1 is growing in there (for myself, anyway) but I put myself in this situation so I'll accept what comes.

chucksmom15

My last HCG was triple the one before and I just have one in there.  Also much higher HCG this pregnancy and not nearly as sick as I was with my first.  Only way to confirm more than 1 is an ultrasound.

eatinwatermelonseeds

The higher HCG levels could be what's making you so sick, but they don't necessarily indicates twins. Mine were tripling at some appointments and I'm pretty sure this is what death feels like, and there's just one baby in there .

missmcgonnagal

FWIW I'm a FTM and I flipped a digital test at 4 weeks pregnant (2 weeks after conception), which surprised a lot of people because I shouldn't have had enough hormone for that so early. Symptoms hit me like a pillowcase full of bricks and broken glass, and our first ultrasound showed twins last week. Going back tomorrow to confirm that both are growing ok, but symptoms have not abated so I imagine that's a good sign.

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@missmcgonnagal oooo! I got my BFP when I was just 3 weeks pregnant.  Call me crazy but I want twins! My U/S is not for a couple more weeks,  though.  

brie_and_almonds

@expandcontract Y'all who actively want twins are some brave people. My younger brothers are twins, and I can't imagine how my mom did it. For some people it really works out though. I have a friend who had twin boys a couple of years ago, and she said she would be excited/happy to have twins again. I would probably cry.

psychobutthead

@brie_and_almonds I'm with you I'd totally cry!

eatinwatermelonseeds

@brie_and_almonds I wanted twins the first time around because we struggled with infertility and I didn't want to have to ttc again. But after we had my son I was pretty sure twins would have killed me. This time around I know better 😂 I would be terrified if it was twins. I'm sure i'd get excited, but I would be so scared. 

wishiwaspreggo

@eatinwatermelonseeds - Same with me! I had 2 follicles for my IUI when I got pregnant with my son and I was hoping so hard I'd have twins. Just because I'd been through a lot and wanted double the reward. But after raising one already... phew... I'd have died with 2 of them. Especially during the rambunctious days when he was between 1-2.5 and the only things that entertained him were extremely dangerous or destructive. Like running into traffic. Holy shit, the number of times I've had to chase my son while he runs straight towards the busy road...

But I definitely put myself in a situation where I could have twins with transferring two embryos. We'll see. There are definite pros to having twins - like an instant built-in playmate, and mega-adorable twins outfits, and you generally see twins as adults having a close relationship.

But I'm thinking of the first couple years and how rough it would be. I freaked myself out thinking of having twins and there are actually a lot of programs available to help families with multiples. If you Google "multiples program" you'll find a number of freebies for diapers and formula, which I think is pretty cool.

eatinwatermelonseeds

@wishiwaspreggo I think we would definitely cope if it was multiples, I mean what other choice would there be? There are definitely resources. But I'm not sure I'm in a place where I would hope for them again. Would be pleased and love whatever we're given, but definitely know better this time lol. 

I wish you the best, however it lands. I think if we had gone through with IVF we would've also transferred two embryos (if we had them). This pregnancy was a complete surprise to us, we actually had just agreed our son would be an only child (after 3 years of trying on and off, removal of my right tube and confirmed blockage of my left tube) because IVF was too much and the age gap between our son and the baby would be too large. 2 weeks later I found out I was pregnant. No idea how, but grateful it's intrauterine. 

wishiwaspreggo

That's an amazing story, @eatinwatermelonseeds!! IVF is brutal and expensive - which is why I transferred 2. My RE said it would give me the best shot of getting pregnant and I am *so* done with fertility treatments.

I can imagine you're very joyful getting pregnant without intervention after IF! That's absolutely not a possibility for me being in a same-sex marriage lol

eatinwatermelonseeds

@wishiwaspreggo 😂😂😂 omg yes. That may make it slightly more difficult, huh?  😂 I'm so excited for you though that you're pregnant! We have been lucky to avoid fertility treatments so I can't really relate, but have a friend who went through it and can only imagine the stress. All the hormones and just blah. 

wishiwaspreggo

@eatinwatermelonseeds - I imagine I could've kept trying with IUI if I really wanted to but it's not guaranteed at all and the odds are abysmal, especially as I get older. I thought IVF would be a glorified version of IUI but I was dead wrong. Growing 17 eggs at once takes a HUGE toll on your body. The swollen ovaries is an indescribable, awful feeling. And I had it easier than many others. And now I have to take PIO every night, and my butt started hurting so bad I moved to my thighs and now they're starting to hurt too. I can't wait until my baby is developed enough that I won't need it anymore!!!!

brie_and_almonds

wishiwaspreggo said:

@eatinwatermelonseeds - Same with me! I had 2 follicles for my IUI when I got pregnant with my son and I was hoping so hard I'd have twins. Just because I'd been through a lot and wanted double the reward. But after raising one already... phew... I'd have died with 2 of them. Especially during the rambunctious days when he was between 1-2.5 and the only things that entertained him were extremely dangerous or destructive. Like running into traffic. Holy shit, the number of times I've had to chase my son while he runs straight towards the busy road...

But I definitely put myself in a situation where I could have twins with transferring two embryos. We'll see. There are definite pros to having twins - like an instant built-in playmate, and mega-adorable twins outfits, and you generally see twins as adults having a close relationship.

But I'm thinking of the first couple years and how rough it would be. I freaked myself out thinking of having twins and there are actually a lot of programs available to help families with multiples. If you Google "multiples program" you'll find a number of freebies for diapers and formula, which I think is pretty cool.

My brothers are definitely super close, and always have been. I was also very jealous as a kid that I could get grounded from having friends over, but they couldn't ever be grounded from each other. I can't really imagine what our family would have been like if there had only been one of them... I can see the benefits, but I also know my kids were basically demons from about 1.5-2, and I can't imagine twice as many meltdowns.

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@brie_and_almonds as others have stated,  there's a reason behind my insane desire for twins....I have endometriosis and I struggled trying to get pregnant this time.  Thankfully, I didn't need IVF or anything but I couldn't deal with the symptoms.  (I've mentioned this in other threads) Before I got my BFP, August was going to be my last month to try before I went back on birth control and had surgery for the endo.  

brie_and_almonds

@expandcontract sorry if I came off as an insensitive asshole. Definitely makes sense.

poshspice

missmcgonnagal said:

FWIW I'm a FTM and I flipped a digital test at 4 weeks pregnant (2 weeks after conception), which surprised a lot of people because I shouldn't have had enough hormone for that so early. Symptoms hit me like a pillowcase full of bricks and broken glass, and our first ultrasound showed twins last week. Going back tomorrow to confirm that both are growing ok, but symptoms have not abated so I imagine that's a good sign.

I had a significant line on a wondfo at 11 DPO and also popped a digi that day and there’s only one baby in there - confirmed via u/s. I’m also way way sicker this time than I was with my DD. Every pregnancy is different! Really the only way to tell is ultrasound. 

eatinwatermelonseeds

@wishiwaspreggo I can't even imagine! I'm sorry, that sounds terrible. At least at the end you get a sweet baby. But gah. The journey to get there sounds like a hell of a ride. 

eatinwatermelonseeds

@brie_and_almonds my brothers in law are twins and in a family of 6 kids, none of them talk to each other except the twins. They go on trips together, they're super close. My husband hates all of his siblings, and none of the others are close to each other. It's definitely an interesting dynamic to me. 

kvh22

Like @poshspice said, I also got a very faint line on a cheapie at 10DPO, did an FRER at 11DPO with a moderate line (very obvious BFP but not as dark as the control like my first test 15DPO with DD). First ultrasound on Friday but I really don't think I'm having twins.

BuckeyeNut05

*twin mom dirty lurking*

I can't speak to hcg, but I was very, VERY sick from like week 6-week 17 when I was pregnant with my girls. I think there is another mom in my BMB who was extra sick and has two in there, but that alone isn't an indicator.

If you're hoping there are two, I will keep my fingers crossed for you. Years 0-3 were rough but they are best buds and play all day, every day, making it a lot easier now!  GL. 

anonellis

I’m a mom to twin boys who will not even be 2.5 if and when this next baby arrives. Having twins is like winning the lottery, except everyone around you feels really bad for you and openly pities you and says things like “I’m glad it’s you and not me!”  But you don’t want to be rude and rub in their faces that you are actually the lucky lottery winner, so you just smile and nod. It’s weird how open people are about telling you right to your face that they think your life sucks.

It’s a lot of work but it’s also the most amazing thing.  They keep each other entertained all day long.  They ‘talk’ to each other for an hour after bedtime from their cribs.  When one cries, the other pats his back or runs to get his brother’s lovey for him.  It is the sweetest.

That said, twin pregnancies are the worst. But the end result is worth it! 

wishiwaspreggo

Thank you for chiming in, @BuckeyeNut05 and @anonellis! It helps to hear the perspective of someone who's BTDT. Every time I've told someone I transferred 2 embryos their first response is "Aren't you scared you'll get twins?" like that's the worst thing that could happen. Then I thought about it and between the expense and raising two infants at once while juggling a preschooler it seems incredibly overwhelming. But it's good to hear the positive side. I like your lottery analogy. That's very sweet.

zuuls_mom

A co-worker of mine had IVF twins and she had zero morning sickness! Every pregnancy is different so you just never know!

DuchessOfCambridge

I haven’t been sick but I turned a strong FRER at 9DPO (3w2d) - singleton! Not to say you can’t be having twins of course, but I was a little worried since my line was so strong so early haha. There are two twin moms in my other BMB and it looks fun from the outside looking in but I also know they busted their bums. One exclusively breastfed them both which I find immensely impressive, and the other had two older kids to care for as well, also immensely impressive. Their twins are so cute together and sometimes I think how fun it must be to have them together, particularly the identical set, but I think it’s only just starting to get a little easier for them now around/approaching 1 yo. 

k2k2tog

I have a friend who had twins and she has always been very open about how hard it is. After watching her struggles, I'm on Team No Twins, but now, they're 4.5 and things are much easier for them. Eventually, no matter what, kids get easier.

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@brie_and_almonds no worries! You didn't come across as that.  

anonellis said:

I’m a mom to twin boys who will not even be 2.5 if and when this next baby arrives. Having twins is like winning the lottery, except everyone around you feels really bad for you and openly pities you and says things like “I’m glad it’s you and not me!”  But you don’t want to be rude and rub in their faces that you are actually the lucky lottery winner, so you just smile and nod. It’s weird how open people are about telling you right to your face that they think your life sucks.

It’s a lot of work but it’s also the most amazing thing.  They keep each other entertained all day long.  They ‘talk’ to each other for an hour after bedtime from their cribs.  When one cries, the other pats his back or runs to get his brother’s lovey for him.  It is the sweetest.

That said, twin pregnancies are the worst. But the end result is worth it! 

@anonellis You made me almost cry with that! That is so incredibly sweet!

merrylea

So, I just found out I am pregnant with twins and I am freaking the fuck out!!! 

Also, I don’t feel like I’ve been any sicker with this pregnancy, and my line was pretty faint when taking the test 14 dpo. So... you never know!

sleepy33

merrylea said:

So, I just found out I am pregnant with twins and I am freaking the fuck out!!! 

Also, I don’t feel like I’ve been any sicker with this pregnancy, and my line was pretty faint when taking the test 14 dpo. So... you never know!

stringofhearts

Wow, @merrylea! I’m sure that’s a shock and you’re having all the feelings. Congrats!

merrylea

Thank you @stringofhearts and @sleepy33

expandcontract

Congratulations @merrylea ! 

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f

Yayyyy @merrylea!! Can’t wait to follow you on this journey! Congratulations 

Stormiewinter

Congratulations! My close friend has twins and even though it starts out tough I am a little envious that her daughters are so close and always have someone to play with. It definitely get easier.

ibanezstarburst

Congrats @merrylea!!

chucksmom15

Congrats @merrylea!!!

MaggieG183

@merrylea Congrats!  I understand the freaking out.  DH and I were a bit nervous this one could be two, but no...happy it's not but also a bit bummed.  I wish you the best and keep us in the loop with your concerns.  We got you, girl!

mrskoz428

@merrylea I’m just getting to this board now! Congrats on the TWO little beans! How exciting. Rock it out, Momma, you will be great!

merrylea

Thank you again ladies. We are still reeling from everything but kind of promised each other we will take everything as it comes! 

imrachellea

Soooooo has @adventurebirth ever reported back post ultrasound?