In regards to maternity leave I left a very large company that offered 16 weeks paid maternity leave for a very small company (less than 50 employees) that offers six weeks and up to 12 weeks at the CEO’s discretion. WTF does that mean?? I’ve been there for a year. I love the flexibility and hours of a smaller company but hate this uncertainty.
So the CEO gets to decide which women are more deserving of recovering from childbirth and spending time with their new babies that others?! Why is this country so backwards sometimes?!
@sleepy33 Ouch! I hope you didn't fall when you passed out! I know it's embarrassing (I've had something similar happen to me at work last pregnancy) but thank God your school is being supportive!
@kvh22 Im the same way. The people who bug me the most are the last ones to find out. It's my passive aggressiveness and I'm proud of it.
@sleepy33 OMG so glad you’re okay! That sounds scary! Sorry you were embarrassed, I hope they move on quickly. There are many things way more shocking than unmarried women being pregnant these days 🙄
@kvh22 anytime someone asks me that all I hear is “are you having timed, unprotected sex often?” Like, so rude! And weird to ask.
First world entitled problem: I picked up our rental car and I HATE it. So much. It’s a three row SUV but a small one so the middle row is really close to the driver and passenger seats. It’s sooo hard to get our bucket seat in and out. I’m feeling very bah humbug today. At least DS went down for a nap without a fight so I could actually have lunch.
@sleepy33 yikes! Glad you are okay. That is super embarrasing though.
I finally have my appointment scheduled but it isn't until October 30th which is so far away! They also moved my due date to June 2nd which doesn't seem right but now that makes me sad since I don't want to move groups!
@DuchessOfCambridge Don’t leave us hanging! Which SUV is it? We’re going to be getting serious about one toward the end of the year, so I need to make sure it’s not the one we’re thinking about 😂 Also, sorry you’re not enjoying your rental, but yay for DS going down for a nap. I’m really wishing my DS would start liking movies (and I’m not even big on screen time) because watching a movie sounds amazing. The child has SO much energy!
ETA: Seriously, how do people do this with another child (or more) to keep up with? I’m on the struggle bus barely holding my eyes open. 🚌
@sleepy33 that's super intense. Sorry that happened to you but I'm glad you and baby are okay! Get some rest and I hope the SCH resolves quickly for you!
@sleepy33 glad all is well! That would be so scary. I'm sorry you're embarrassed though. A girl in my old office passed out because of her pregnancy and that's how we all found out too. We were honestly just concerned that she was ok! No one worried about her being married or not so hopefully they are all decent people like that too
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Me: 32 │ DH: 35 Married 8/16/13 BFP#1 DS 11/13/16 BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18 BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
I have done so great this month being on a budget abd making alk our meals and everyones lunches that im over it.
I told DH i want to celebrate our Anniversary tonight at the china buffet. I used the excuse that it will be packed out the ass on Friday our actually anniversary.
He said ok!
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Good news about my drive all over the world day tomorrow. Grandma is going to pick #1 up from daycare and bring her back home to dad, so that saves me over an hour round trip, and I get to have dinner with some cool co-workers, but I'm still crusty about being out so late.
@psychobutthead Do you get the "Chinese buffet hangover"? It's when you eat so much that you just want to take a nap afterwards. Some people call it "the itis". Hehehe
Good news about my drive all over the world day tomorrow. Grandma is going to pick #1 up from daycare and bring her back home to dad, so that saves me over an hour round trip, and I get to have dinner with some cool co-workers, but I'm still crusty about being out so late.
@psychobutthead Do you get the "Chinese buffet hangover"? It's when you eat so much that you just want to take a nap afterwards. Some people call it "the itis". Hehehe
Yep. Everytime.
So heres some random info i need to just share.
I went to my mil today to ddrop off her grandparents day ticket for my sons school.
So I'm over there and she starts telling me what happened sunday.
Apparently my bils wife took all the car keys with her to work and he was on call and had to go into work. So he calls his mom to ask if he can borrow he car to get to work. She says yes and drives over.
So he drops his mom back off at home. Next thing she knows the twins walk into the house.
She asks them wheres your dad at? They tell her work. So she asks the girls is there someone I'm supposed to take you too? They say no they are staying with her.
My bil didn't ask her to watch them or anything. He literally dumped them at her front door and drove off.
Am i wrong for thinking that was out of line? My husband and I would never just dump our kids at her door. Wtf!
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
i really hope he doesnt do it again. My inlaws dont turn th tv off or lighta off when they leave for their dogs. Sometimes my mil will go shopping with me in my car or with her mother in her car. What if she does that one day and he pulls that shit? Then they get left alone!
I pointed that out to her and she ignored me.
I feel like if I knew the type of crazy I wwa marrying into I would have picked towbs on the other side of tx to live in.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Welp. I had sudden, intense pain at work yesterday morning and basically passed out on the floor of the bathroom. I texted a co-worker and took a very short, expensive ambulance ride. A million hours and a long US session later, and it's just subchorionic hemorrhage, thank goodness. So it should be fine. Definitely *not* the way I planned to announce my pregnancy at work...
@psychobutthead yes that's terrifying. So much could go wrong. As far as IL's go, let's just say I'm very glad my MIL lives in Mississippi and we are here in Texas!
@jarethinafrock I haven't done a puzzle in years. I miss it!
Wife. Boy mom x6. Expecting #7. Wannabe homesteader. , 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Has anyone read Girl, Wash Your Face? I’m reading (listening to it in the car) it now and I’ve gotta say...I’m not impressed. I just don’t relate to her at all and find her pretty condescending. I’m glad she’s successful but it all feels very preachy and I don’t think she’s better than me 🤷♀️ I’m not big into the self-help genre though so I think I’m just not the target audience. So many people I know have loved it.
They say say it’s written like that because it’s such a small company situations can change they need to evaluate everyone’s projects, they don’t have the corporate overhead to cover like big companies etc. but bottom line is it’s patriarchal BS.
@psychobutthead yes that's terrifying. So much could go wrong. As far as IL's go, let's just say I'm very glad my MIL lives in Mississippi and we are here in Texas!
@jarethinafrock I haven't done a puzzle in years. I miss it!
My birthday was Sunday and my husband got me that giant board and the puzzle! I’m so excited because I’ve been dying to work on one!
Has anyone read Girl, Wash Your Face? I’m reading (listening to it in the car) it now and I’ve gotta say...I’m not impressed. I just don’t relate to her at all and find her pretty condescending. I’m glad she’s successful but it all feels very preachy and I don’t think she’s better than me 🤷♀️ I’m not big into the self-help genre though so I think I’m just not the target audience. So many people I know have loved it.
I haven't read it but I keep hearing good things. What sort of self help are you looking for? I loved the subtle art of not giving a fuck.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Has anyone read Girl, Wash Your Face? I’m reading (listening to it in the car) it now and I’ve gotta say...I’m not impressed. I just don’t relate to her at all and find her pretty condescending. I’m glad she’s successful but it all feels very preachy and I don’t think she’s better than me 🤷♀️ I’m not big into the self-help genre though so I think I’m just not the target audience. So many people I know have loved it.
I haven't read it but I keep hearing good things. What sort of self help are you looking for? I loved the subtle art of not giving a fuck.
Not really any! I’m just reading this one because I heard it was good! I think that’s the problem, I don’t like self help books so I don’t like this book either.
@DuchessOfCambridge i typically don't either. Subtle art kept showing up on my kindle suggestions. I also ready 2 dave Ramsey books just to figure out some money advice.
What is it exactly you aren't liking about the book? That way i know if i should avoid it or not.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Has anyone read Girl, Wash Your Face? I’m reading (listening to it in the car) it now and I’ve gotta say...I’m not impressed. I just don’t relate to her at all and find her pretty condescending. I’m glad she’s successful but it all feels very preachy and I don’t think she’s better than me 🤷♀️ I’m not big into the self-help genre though so I think I’m just not the target audience. So many people I know have loved it.
@psychobutthead it’s very preachy and she is condescending (IMO) and goes on and on about how she’s the hardest worker who has ever existed, etc. She got mad college kids called her by her first name because kids calling adults their first name is a hippie thing to do. Butttt college kids are also adults, so...
Idk. Just not my style I suppose. Maybe I’d feel differently if I’d known about her social media stuff beforehand.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@psychobutthead not only is that an incredibly irresponsible thing to do (you listed all the good reasons why) it is also so incredibly inconsiderate. These are his parents (I’m guessing, if his in laws it’s all the more ballzy) but they are not his own personal 24/7 nanny service. People who take advantage of grandparents/aunts/uncles love for their children and desire to see them often irk the heck out of me. My MIL is an absolute saint, will do anything for her grandkids and is ALWAYS willing to help out. My SIL took advantage of it for years and it drove DH and I crazy. Basically every time we were all together she quit parenting. Like 100% didn’t do anything. Her mom fed the kids, bathed them, dressed them, slept with them the whole weekend, holiday, whatever we were doing. To this day, I am so aware of how much I allow her to do for my own kids because i never want to seem like I am taking advantage in the same way. Long story but we have been staying with them for a little while actually, since our house sold and our future plans are very up in the air until DH receives the contract he is waiting on (he has an excellent job right now, this opportunity to go overseas just kind of presented itself a while back so we decided to pursue it to see what could come). It would be so easy for me to just walk out of the house when one of them was own and go do my own thing but I try to treat it as if we didn’t live under the same roof. If I just have to run to the store quickly, obviously nbd. One of the perks of so many adults around. But if I want to go meet a gf and DH won’t be home, I have a board meeting or we want to go to a movie after the kids go to bed I always make a conscious effort to ask them ahead of time and make sure it works and is ok with them. It just feels like I’m sluffing my parental obligations otherwise.
@psychobutthead not only is that an incredibly irresponsible thing to do (you listed all the good reasons why) it is also so incredibly inconsiderate. These are his parents (I’m guessing, if his in laws it’s all the more ballzy) but they are not his own personal 24/7 nanny service. People who take advantage of grandparents/aunts/uncles love for their children and desire to see them often irk the heck out of me. My MIL is an absolute saint, will do anything for her grandkids and is ALWAYS willing to help out. My SIL took advantage of it for years and it drove DH and I crazy. Basically every time we were all together she quit parenting. Like 100% didn’t do anything. Her mom fed the kids, bathed them, dressed them, slept with them the whole weekend, holiday, whatever we were doing. To this day, I am so aware of how much I allow her to do for my own kids because i never want to seem like I am taking advantage in the same way. Long story but we have been staying with them for a little while actually, since our house sold and our future plans are very up in the air until DH receives the contract he is waiting on (he has an excellent job right now, this opportunity to go overseas just kind of presented itself a while back so we decided to pursue it to see what could come). It would be so easy for me to just walk out of the house when one of them was own and go do my own thing but I try to treat it as if we didn’t live under the same roof. If I just have to run to the store quickly, obviously nbd. One of the perks of so many adults around. But if I want to go meet a gf and DH won’t be home, I have a board meeting or we want to go to a movie after the kids go to bed I always make a conscious effort to ask them ahead of time and make sure it works and is ok with them. It just feels like I’m sluffing my parental obligations otherwise.
Yes its my bils parents. Its my husbands older brother.
And exactly! I dont take advantage of my inlaws like that or my own father and stepmom.
If I am at my inlaws house they may do something for my kids if my kids directly ask them or if I am in the bathroom. Otherwise when we are there if my son needs a diaper change I do it, if he needs a drink i make it for him. We maybe ask them to keep them for a date night once every two or three months. But we work it out before hand with them.
Like i get its her son and she loves being with her grandkids but there are so many ways that could go bad.
Im hoping she talks to her son about it but i know she wont.
Pregnancy #1 DD 08.30.2007 Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014 Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015 Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019 Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
I woke up with a slightly sore throat and am having trouble keeping my eyes open H set DS up in the living room (right outside my bedroom door, we have a one level apartment) enclosed in the baby fence. He’s happily chattering away to himself (dadadada) so why do I feel so guilty taking a few extra minutes to rest 😩
@expandcontract I just read the thread & thought your comment was hilarious, can't believe she escalated it to that and took such offense to innocent fun. her loss if she can't take a joke & doesn't want to participate
@DuchessOfCambridge I just got the book the other day on my kindle bc I had promotional credits to use and I also heard great things. I typically don't read self help ish books either but the reviews and things my friends said about it convinced me to try it. Haven't got past the first few pages bc life has been overwhelmingly busy this week, but I have a feeling I'm gonna feel as you do about it, we'll see though I'll give it a chance
@expandcontract SO bummed I missed that whole thread yesterday. Nice job with the gifs, everyone. People love to get offended about everything.
@DuchessOfCambridge Don't feel guilty taking some time to yourself! Especially if DS is happily chatting away. Independent play is a good thing
Yesterday was so rough. I picked up DD from my mom's house and she cried when I went to take her She wanted to stay with my mom. That has never happened before and it was super upsetting. She was fine as soon as we got home, but still. Now I know how DH feels when she freaks out when he tries to take her from me. So hard!
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DuchessOfCambridge said:
@kvh22 Im the same way. The people who bug me the most are the last ones to find out. It's my passive aggressiveness and I'm proud of it.
@kvh22 anytime someone asks me that all I hear is “are you having timed, unprotected sex often?” Like, so rude! And weird to ask.
First world entitled problem: I picked up our rental car and I HATE it. So much. It’s a three row SUV but a small one so the middle row is really close to the driver and passenger seats. It’s sooo hard to get our bucket seat in and out. I’m feeling very bah humbug today. At least DS went down for a nap without a fight so I could actually have lunch.
I finally have my appointment scheduled but it isn't until October 30th which is so far away! They also moved my due date to June 2nd which doesn't seem right but now that makes me sad since I don't want to move groups!
ETA: Seriously, how do people do this with another child (or more) to keep up with? I’m on the struggle bus barely holding my eyes open. 🚌
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
I told DH i want to celebrate our Anniversary tonight at the china buffet. I used the excuse that it will be packed out the ass on Friday our actually anniversary.
He said ok!
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@psychobutthead Do you get the "Chinese buffet hangover"? It's when you eat so much that you just want to take a nap afterwards. Some people call it "the itis". Hehehe
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
So heres some random info i need to just share.
I went to my mil today to ddrop off her grandparents day ticket for my sons school.
So I'm over there and she starts telling me what happened sunday.
Apparently my bils wife took all the car keys with her to work and he was on call and had to go into work. So he calls his mom to ask if he can borrow he car to get to work. She says yes and drives over.
So he drops his mom back off at home. Next thing she knows the twins walk into the house.
She asks them wheres your dad at? They tell her work. So she asks the girls is there someone I'm supposed to take you too? They say no they are staying with her.
My bil didn't ask her to watch them or anything. He literally dumped them at her front door and drove off.
Am i wrong for thinking that was out of line?
My husband and I would never just dump our kids at her door. Wtf!
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
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i really hope he doesnt do it again. My inlaws dont turn th tv off or lighta off when they leave for their dogs. Sometimes my mil will go shopping with me in my car or with her mother in her car. What if she does that one day and he pulls that shit? Then they get left alone!
I pointed that out to her and she ignored me.
I feel like if I knew the type of crazy I wwa marrying into I would have picked towbs on the other side of tx to live in.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
DD: 8/20/14; DS: 11/13/16; DD: 5/3/19; DD: 8/31/21; Baby #5 (team green) due 3/24/24
DD: 8/20/14; DS: 11/13/16; DD: 5/3/19; DD: 8/31/21; Baby #5 (team green) due 3/24/24
As far as IL's go, let's just say I'm very glad my MIL lives in Mississippi and we are here in Texas!
@jarethinafrock I haven't done a puzzle in years. I miss it!
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They say say it’s written like that because it’s such a small company situations can change they need to evaluate everyone’s projects, they don’t have the corporate overhead to cover like big companies etc. but bottom line is it’s patriarchal BS.
ETA: @jarethinafrock I want to do a puzzle now!
DD: 8/20/14; DS: 11/13/16; DD: 5/3/19; DD: 8/31/21; Baby #5 (team green) due 3/24/24
DD: 8/20/14; DS: 11/13/16; DD: 5/3/19; DD: 8/31/21; Baby #5 (team green) due 3/24/24
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
What is it exactly you aren't liking about the book? That way i know if i should avoid it or not.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Idk. Just not my style I suppose. Maybe I’d feel differently if I’d known about her social media stuff beforehand.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
My MIL is an absolute saint, will do anything for her grandkids and is ALWAYS willing to help out. My SIL took advantage of it for years and it drove DH and I crazy. Basically every time we were all together she quit parenting. Like 100% didn’t do anything. Her mom fed the kids, bathed them, dressed them, slept with them the whole weekend, holiday, whatever we were doing. To this day, I am so aware of how much I allow her to do for my own kids because i never want to seem like I am taking advantage in the same way.
Long story but we have been staying with them for a little while actually, since our house sold and our future plans are very up in the air until DH receives the contract he is waiting on (he has an excellent job right now, this opportunity to go overseas just kind of presented itself a while back so we decided to pursue it to see what could come). It would be so easy for me to just walk out of the house when one of them was own and go do my own thing but I try to treat it as if we didn’t live under the same roof. If I just have to run to the store quickly, obviously nbd. One of the perks of so many adults around. But if I want to go meet a gf and DH won’t be home, I have a board meeting or we want to go to a movie after the kids go to bed I always make a conscious effort to ask them ahead of time and make sure it works and is ok with them. It just feels like I’m sluffing my parental obligations otherwise.
And exactly! I dont take advantage of my inlaws like that or my own father and stepmom.
If I am at my inlaws house they may do something for my kids if my kids directly ask them or if I am in the bathroom. Otherwise when we are there if my son needs a diaper change I do it, if he needs a drink i make it for him. We maybe ask them to keep them for a date night once every two or three months. But we work it out before hand with them.
Like i get its her son and she loves being with her grandkids but there are so many ways that could go bad.
Im hoping she talks to her son about it but i know she wont.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
@DuchessOfCambridge I just got the book the other day on my kindle bc I had promotional credits to use and I also heard great things. I typically don't read self help ish books either but the reviews and things my friends said about it convinced me to try it. Haven't got past the first few pages bc life has been overwhelmingly busy this week, but I have a feeling I'm gonna feel as you do about it, we'll see though I'll give it a chance
@DuchessOfCambridge Don't feel guilty taking some time to yourself! Especially if DS is happily chatting away. Independent play is a good thing
Yesterday was so rough. I picked up DD from my mom's house and she cried when I went to take her