Though we're reaching the pregnancy homestretch, the crazy that is some of our families is probably only increasing. Come take a load off, rant and rave as you wish.
So I've been itching to rant since I noticed we hadn't started a current thread. If you've followed previous threads then you know that my family and I (my mom especially) have a love hate relationship. So with the recent changes in our family (pregnancy and new home) we chose to only share with a select few until very late in the process. Well we've been in our new home since the end of August and I just told my mom today (2 weeks later). Soon as we finished our conversation, she was on the horn to my favorite nephew who always knows everything. She grilled him about what our house looks like, and whether we sold our old home. Basically she wants to know our current financial situation and how we can afford to own 2 homes on only my husband's income, which she's also been dying to know but no one but the two of us have that information. It's really annoying because she can never just be happy that we're doing well and our kids are happy and cared for. She will no doubt find something to point out that's "wrong" with the house and yeah we've only been here 2 weeks so there are still some things we want to do in terms of furnishing/decorating, but who cares? We love it! This will of course lead to another passive-aggressive family text message and I'm really just so over it at this point. Oh and she still hasn't offered to buy anything/ask if we needed anything for the new baby after making the last big stink about how I shouldn't have a "secret baby" so she could celebrate it. Whatever...
This is super minor, but I thought it was funny. My SIL and her wife were here for a visit in the summer. They left small gifts for the kids with her brother (my BIL) who finally passed them on Ron DH last night.
Kids were super excited this morning and I made them wait until the evening to open them. The kids are 7 (DS1) and 4 (DS2, DD). She got them all Paw Patrol stuffies... I think DS1 had a brief interest in Paw Patrol about 4 years ago.
She just has zero concept of what kids are into, and never asks, but gets them stuff every time she sees them. I’d rather she didn’t waste her money!
At my baby shower, my MIL declared she wanted to see the baby as soon as she was all cleaned up.... I'm like slow your horses, lady. I may not even call/text anyone until I've rested for 12 hours after....
@jennybean80 it is sorta funny when someone is clueless about what to get for a gift. When my dad was married to a crazy lady we'd get the weirdest gifts from them... One Christmas, my sister and her husband got an ice cream scoop that was obviously used and a towel set that was seriously old and looked like something my grandma would've used. We got a bin of popcorn, which was great- we love popcorn, and something else I can't think of right now, but really off the wall. Another year, we did Thanksgiving and Christmas together kinda. we all got the little beanie babies about 3 per person, and each one was wrapped in tin foil... Not foil wrapping paper, tin foil, like out of the kitchen stuff... We were each supposed to tell what we were thankful for in the voice of whichever animal we got. It was interesting times for sure! They have been divorced for awhile now and she's been long gone. There is a warrant out for her arrest here so she probably won't be back.
This is copy & pasted from the FB group but I thought some of you ladies over here might enjoy the loony.
I'll start us off with a little backstory: My father was with my mother for a total of almost 20 years when they split. They were never married because my father apparently didn't believe in it. I was 13 when they broke up and 1 month later my father was married to my mother's niece. I didn't hear from him again until I turned 18 and he went to my graduation. Following my graduation I didn't hear from him again until I had ODD. He visited for her birth then got me a Mother's Day present a month later. I haven't seen him or heard from him since then, 5.5 years ago. He hasn't spoken to my brother in 9 years. I made the decision to cut him out of my life entirely when he disappeared again 5 years ago, regardless of his desire, if any, to be part of my life.
Anyway, fast forward to today. When my brother came over to visit, he shared with me this interesting fact: my dad's wife wrote a memoir about their marriage and mailed 20 copies of it to my grandmother. We ended up going over to visit my grandma together anyway so I got to get my hands on a copy and read it. I was enjoying flipping through it and reading the terribly written cheesiness until I got to the final pages of the book and found these gems. For the record, Brad = my dad and Carrie = his wife. Just so everyone knows, she changed their names for privacy reasons but everything else is the same. Anyway this woman I have never met has the audacity to say things like "It's time for Brad's kids to put the past in the past and accept me as their step-mom and Gigi to their kids" (side note, my kiddo already has a Gigi and it ain't her nor will it ever be) and "Carrie went through her swag bag and has Christmas gifts already for Brad's kids and THEIR granddaughter" (meaning ODD) and "it's time to be a part of their lives. They are adults now, Brad's kids. And she would love to get to know HER grandbabies." How DELUSIONAL does someone have to be to feel this entitled??? My child is NOT her grandchild. I don't even consider her to be my father's grandchild. Jesus Christ.
Ladybug - April 2013 Dandelion - October 2018 Angel "Aurora" - July 2020 Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021 Angel "Maxine" - January 2022 Angel "Violet" - March 2022 Baby Dove due March 2023
@mytrueloves I would have lost my mind reading that. My parents are both remarried to wonderful people who I love and who play active roles in DD's life, and they don't even consider themselves to be her grandparents. That lady is crazy.
I've never met this woman but a few years ago I had to delete my Facebook because I found out she was somehow stealing pictures of ODD from my page and sharing them on HER page.
Ladybug - April 2013 Dandelion - October 2018 Angel "Aurora" - July 2020 Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021 Angel "Maxine" - January 2022 Angel "Violet" - March 2022 Baby Dove due March 2023
This morning my mother informed me that if she is at work when I go into labor she is leaving work and having my brother drive her to the hospital. I told her no and that we'd play it by ear. I also told her she'd be more helpful at home watching DS.
I didnt let anyone at the hospital until after the baby was born last time, which happened to be nearly midnight, and she didn't come up until 6 PM the next day (her choice not mine). I DO NOT, under any circumstances, want her there while in in labor. Now she bitching and complaining to my youngest brother because I said she could come up to the hospital after the baby is born and DS has met her and we had times together.
She has some serious boundary issues and I just dont have the patience to deal with it anymore.
@nmadjeski that is a boundary issue for sure. Not the same but my mom said something similar about taking Friday off for the c section and being there and I said why dont you work till noon since I'm not sure how long I'll be in recovery or when I'm ready for visitors and I'd like some time with just DH and I and the babies before we have people come up. She was so upset and has tried guilting me on numerous occasions since then!? She claims it's not about meeting the babies right off but that I'm going through a procedure and shes my mom so she wants to be there for me if something happens. First they wont let her in the OR and second there is physically nothing she can do if something were to happen. I finally told her if it's that big of a deal just sit in the waiting room and she said "no you dont want me there so I wont come until you call" so wtf are you giving me such a hard time for!??!?!
Sorry that became a rant... lol I love my mom, shes been amazing this entire pregnancy but shes the last person I expected to get a hard time from and it's really bothering me. I see where shes coming from but If we didnt live with her then we wouldnt have told anyone when we were going into the hospital at all until after the babies are here so it sucks that I'm getting pushback on it
My in-laws live out of state, but have decided to buy a vacation home about an hour from where we live. (which fine, they have every right to do so) But my MIL said that part of this deal is that she gets my son one week of every month. To which i straight up laughed in husband's face. There is no way that woman is taking my toddler away from me 25% of the time. How is this a bargaining chip? I didn't ask you to move here. My husband said i am overreacting and just being emotional/tying to start a fight. i told him to ask any mom what they would do in that situation. Needless to say, he called his dad the next day to control that woman, but COME ON. I'm too pregnant for this.
What deal? She moves and wants your son...what do you get?? No mom would be okay giving their son up for a WEEK! DHs ex would expect my in-laws to take SS one weekend a month. Um, no. It's one thing for a monthly overnight or agree upon visiting so often.
@jengibre_zorro hahahaha! Nope. Not happening. My parents live 20 minutes away and maybe get my kids one night a month. Or when we have something going on, they’ll babysit. But they don’t get to take my kids for a week just because. Hell no. I didn’t have these kids to give them up to someone else for any amount of time.
HAHAHAHA No one gets to DEMAND time with your child from you. Sorry but if anyone I know tried to pull that crap, they'd find themselves straight in time out with restricted access to the kiddo. Anyone who thinks they're entitled to your child desperately needs a reality check.
Ladybug - April 2013 Dandelion - October 2018 Angel "Aurora" - July 2020 Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021 Angel "Maxine" - January 2022 Angel "Violet" - March 2022 Baby Dove due March 2023
@jengibre_zorro yeah, no, that would never happen here. A whole week!?!? Every month!?! I would be pissed! Like you said, you didn’t ask her to buy a house there or help out at all so no, she does not get to demand time with your kid!
@mamabearcj exactly. I didnt think it would be an issue coming from her, especially since this isnt the first time we've done this. She's stressful and panics over everything. I cont handle her being there. The only reason she'll know I'm in labor is because we live with her this time around. Last time she called me 4 hours after I had my son complaining about all the things that were going wrong in her life. Nope, not happening this time around!
@jengibre_zorro that's some sense of entitlement! Theres no way I'd be willing to agree to that and I'd probably be upset with my husband for thinking I was just trying to start a fight.
What can i say guys, she is crazy. Rather than even go down the path, i just gave a simple "No - not open for discussion." I'm just past the point of being polite about such things (the true irony is that my two year old is a HANDFUL. She would be waving the white flag after the first week!!)
Just annoyed with my MIL. We told her the baby’s name a few months ago, asked her to keep it secret as we were only telling parents at that time, and telling a select group of people, close friends and family at the baby showers. So my husband calls his brother this week to share the names, and turns out MIL had told him the names like 2 months ago! I heard from another totally random person about knowing the name as well. She’s always been a handful, but things have been amping up lately and my husband has had to give her a talk several times now about expectations and boundaries.
I’m just super annoyed because it totally isn’t her place to tell anyone, least of all because we told her explicitly it was meant to be kept to herself!
So yeah, we are now planning accordingly, not sharing photo, stats or anything like that with we until we share and are ready to share with the world. She’s not finding out Jack until after the baby is born! Also, telling her explicitly she’s not to share any photos etc. of the kid on Facebook.
@dash83 that is super frustrating! I'm sorry you didnt get the joy of telling family and friends your babies name. I think its smart to keep her out of the loop until your ready for the world to know about the birth! If she can't keep something as simple as a name to herself she wouldnt be able to keep the announcement secret either, she can find out when everyone else does.
Uhhhh idk if MIL lost her mind or what.. I asked her when she was planning to come up tomorrow since well obviously be in the hosptial and my parents will be as well (MIL is staying at my parents while were in the hospital) she said she wasnt sure yet she wanted to see SIL who's coming home from college for the weekend, but MIL wanted to see her since shes "really sick" but it's okay because MIL bought a mask?!?!?!?!?! Fucking what!?!?! Then asked if she'd sti be able to see the babies tomorrow... I said idk. I told DH and hes not very impressed either but his lunch break isnt long enough to call and talk to her so I'm hoping he says something when he gets out of work...
@mamabearcj I would tell her not a chance in hell! If she wants to see her, she can either do so AFTER seeing the babies and then not again until you can be sure she isn't carrying germs/contagious. Or she can go see her and then not see babies for a week or so *shrug* her call. She has obviously lost her damn mind! Honestly if you can't count on him 100% sdoing something about it after work, I would text her letting her know it's totally not ok to expose your newborns to Neptune knows what because "she bought a mask". Hard nope. Sorry people are ridiculous!
@jomama1618 we told her we'd like her to come up before SIL gets home so she doesnt get the germs. She agreed that was best so thankfully it all worked out and she is currently getting baby snugs!
So my mother was complaining about how nervous SHE WAS when I was in labor last time. I told her she made me super nervous and was not comforting, she was not happy. Basically, after I had been at the hospital about 12 hours and tried unsuccessfully pushing for several house, she came to sit with me while DH got lunch. I was terrified of having a C section and frustrated that it was taking so long. She had nothing comforting to say and when H came back I was in tears. My Dad chimed in and said that what I needed was support and she got mad and stormed out.
@cdepperschmidt I'm sorry she's being a jerk! I will never understand people that make someone else's labor about them! I hope she is far away from your labor this time!!! My fear of people pulling this crap makes me glad no one found out we were there until after he was born (but I was lucky and had a short labor after my water broke, and I waited til my water broke to go to the hospital. Lol)
People have started attempting to invite them selves or trying to convince/guilt me into inviting them to the hospital while I'm in labor. No one was even informed I was in labor,going to the hospital OR having him until a little after he was born. So why in the hell would I let all you freakin people impede this time?! Because it's a girl?! I knew this crap was going to happen! (A lot of family and friends, especially his side, and a handful of my step dad's side, (on their side i believe it's because
***TRIGGER*** my (step)Dad's sister passed at 11 days from a heart defect among other things. ***END TRIGGER***)
Hold girls of much higher importance/the Golden children over the boys. And since L will be the first girl on his side in awhile, and the first girl grand child/great grandchild, it is just bringing out the crazy more...)
Not an ice cube's chance in hell that's happening! I'm so annoyed by all the antics starting, and it's not even October 1st yet *sigh* I have already informed DH that anyone that makes a difference between our kids because one is xx and one xy, will stop seeing our kids until they can act right and I'm ok seeing them again. (Thankfully he sees the crazy for what it is and whole heartedly agrees.)
Re: Official Crazy Family Thread (September/October)
Kids were super excited this morning and I made them wait until the evening to open them. The kids are 7 (DS1) and 4 (DS2, DD). She got them all Paw Patrol stuffies... I think DS1 had a brief interest in Paw Patrol about 4 years ago.
She just has zero concept of what kids are into, and never asks, but gets them stuff every time she sees them. I’d rather she didn’t waste her money!
Another year, we did Thanksgiving and Christmas together kinda. we all got the little beanie babies about 3 per person, and each one was wrapped in tin foil... Not foil wrapping paper, tin foil, like out of the kitchen stuff... We were each supposed to tell what we were thankful for in the voice of whichever animal we got. It was interesting times for sure!
They have been divorced for awhile now and she's been long gone. There is a warrant out for her arrest here so she probably won't be back.
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#4 Due 10/26/18!
One year my MIL gave my husband butterfly stickers for his birthday. He was 26 The crazy is strong in their family.
From Arsenic and Old Lace, and very fitting!
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
I'll start us off with a little backstory:
My father was with my mother for a total of almost 20 years when they split. They were never married because my father apparently didn't believe in it. I was 13 when they broke up and 1 month later my father was married to my mother's niece. I didn't hear from him again until I turned 18 and he went to my graduation. Following my graduation I didn't hear from him again until I had ODD. He visited for her birth then got me a Mother's Day present a month later. I haven't seen him or heard from him since then, 5.5 years ago. He hasn't spoken to my brother in 9 years. I made the decision to cut him out of my life entirely when he disappeared again 5 years ago, regardless of his desire, if any, to be part of my life.
Anyway, fast forward to today. When my brother came over to visit, he shared with me this interesting fact: my dad's wife wrote a memoir about their marriage and mailed 20 copies of it to my grandmother.
We ended up going over to visit my grandma together anyway so I got to get my hands on a copy and read it.
I was enjoying flipping through it and reading the terribly written cheesiness until I got to the final pages of the book and found these gems. For the record, Brad = my dad and Carrie = his wife. Just so everyone knows, she changed their names for privacy reasons but everything else is the same.
Anyway this woman I have never met has the audacity to say things like
"It's time for Brad's kids to put the past in the past and accept me as their step-mom and Gigi to their kids" (side note, my kiddo already has a Gigi and it ain't her nor will it ever be)
and "Carrie went through her swag bag and has Christmas gifts already for Brad's kids and THEIR granddaughter" (meaning ODD)
and
"it's time to be a part of their lives. They are adults now, Brad's kids. And she would love to get to know HER grandbabies."
How DELUSIONAL does someone have to be to feel this entitled??? My child is NOT her grandchild. I don't even consider her to be my father's grandchild.
Jesus Christ.
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
I didnt let anyone at the hospital until after the baby was born last time, which happened to be nearly midnight, and she didn't come up until 6 PM the next day (her choice not mine). I DO NOT, under any circumstances, want her there while in in labor. Now she bitching and complaining to my youngest brother because I said she could come up to the hospital after the baby is born and DS has met her and we had times together.
She has some serious boundary issues and I just dont have the patience to deal with it anymore.
Sorry that became a rant... lol I love my mom, shes been amazing this entire pregnancy but shes the last person I expected to get a hard time from and it's really bothering me. I see where shes coming from but If we didnt live with her then we wouldnt have told anyone when we were going into the hospital at all until after the babies are here so it sucks that I'm getting pushback on it
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
@jengibre_zorro that's some sense of entitlement! Theres no way I'd be willing to agree to that and I'd probably be upset with my husband for thinking I was just trying to start a fight.
I’m just super annoyed because it totally isn’t her place to tell anyone, least of all because we told her explicitly it was meant to be kept to herself!
So yeah, we are now planning accordingly, not sharing photo, stats or anything like that with we until we share and are ready to share with the world. She’s not finding out Jack until after the baby is born! Also, telling her explicitly she’s not to share any photos etc. of the kid on Facebook.
My fear of people pulling this crap makes me glad no one found out we were there until after he was born (but I was lucky and had a short labor after my water broke, and I waited til my water broke to go to the hospital. Lol)
People have started attempting to invite them selves or trying to convince/guilt me into inviting them to the hospital while I'm in labor. No one was even informed I was in labor,going to the hospital OR having him until a little after he was born. So why in the hell would I let all you freakin people impede this time?! Because it's a girl?! I knew this crap was going to happen! (A lot of family and friends, especially his side, and a handful of my step dad's side, (on their side i believe it's because
***TRIGGER*** my (step)Dad's sister passed at 11 days from a heart defect among other things.
***END TRIGGER***)
Hold girls of much higher importance/the Golden children over the boys. And since L will be the first girl on his side in awhile, and the first girl grand child/great grandchild, it is just bringing out the crazy more...)
Not an ice cube's chance in hell that's happening! I'm so annoyed by all the antics starting, and it's not even October 1st yet *sigh*
I have already informed DH that anyone that makes a difference between our kids because one is xx and one xy, will stop seeing our kids until they can act right and I'm ok seeing them again. (Thankfully he sees the crazy for what it is and whole heartedly agrees.)