My daughter is 11 weeks old and my in laws will be her caregivers when my husband and I go back to work. My MIL (mother-in-law) more so then my FIL (father-in-law) is extremely overbearing and has zero boundaries which has only been amplified since our daughter has been born. She acts like our daughter is her baby and thinks that she knows what is best. The times that they have babysat for a couple of hours I will give them instructions and she always tell me that she is the experienced mom and I am a new mom. We were also just told that my FIL (father-in-law) will be watching the baby by himself 2 days a week as my MIL (mother-in-law) has an obligation twice a week that she cannot get out of. Since my daughter has been born he has held her maybe a total of 3 times and has little to no interaction with her whenever they see her. My husband only has one brother and my FIL (father-in-law) has all brothers so he has never really had any experience with girls. He is very nice but very emotionally cut off and it makes me incredibly nervous to have her alone with him. I just have this pit in my stomach that having them watch her is going to create lots of tension and animosity!
Re: Overbearing in laws watching baby when husband and I go back to work
With that said, you didn’t really mention them doing anything unsafe, just that they’re a little holier than thou. That’s annoying, but not worrisome unless they are following outdated and unsafe recommendations, like putting baby to sleep on her stomach or with a lot of blankets. If something unsafe comes up, make sure you bring it up, with your pediatrician as backup if needed.