Now that DD is turning three she is playing with a lot of toys that are not really safe for babies. When new baby starts crawling and picking up things and putting all the things in the mouth, how do I keep DD1's toys away from baby without going completely bananas?
@lifesabeach85 My 4 and 2.5 year old just got a huge dollhouse and a bunch of barbies. Ya know how many little shoes I have floating around now? I planned on putting the small stuff in baggies and only letting them take it out when baby is napping/not around...
Im worried about that too, and I’ve been doing what bkosy said, putting all pieces together in ziploc bags and only letting her take out certain things at a time. But yea I don’t know else to prevent choking hazards.
I'm not experienced with that myself since I'll be an STM but we are planning to put DD's small toys (dollhouse, Legos, etc) in her bedroom and telling her they have to stay there. We'll have a gate on her door too, so I'm hoping it'll help the small toys stay put.
Now that DD is turning three she is playing with a lot of toys that are not really safe for babies. When new baby starts crawling and picking up things and putting all the things in the mouth, how do I keep DD1's toys away from baby without going completely bananas?
I have our playroom gated and any small toys (my son is huge into legos and my dayghter’s Dolls have lots of little pieces.) It’s not always foolproof. when daughter was 9 months, she somehow got ahold of my son’s legos and choked on some- it was awful. I’m already nervous about it happening again.
Oh man guys. I am really starting to freak out. I had 9 years between 1 and 2. 2 and 3 have 2.5 yrs. this will be my first time with two littles. I know my now 11.5 yo will be a great help but ahhhhhhh!!! Three BOYS!!!!!!!!! Lol I bought myself this shirt and love it. (Sorry my shorts appear to be hiding, I promise I have some on though! )
@ashkee05 My boys are 1.5 years apart - it's crazy at times, but so cute watching them play together and be best friends. You'll be just fine with a 2.5 year age gap!
@KellyT22 I am super excited to see the bond these two will have growing up closer in age! I keep telling myself to not freak out, we will be fine but it’s not working! lol gotta love the pregnancy horomones making everything more dramatic than it needs to be!
@lifesabeach85 I was wondering the same thing. My twins will be a little over 2 when the new baby is here (2 years and 3 months, roughly), but they've got some smallish things that concern me on the choking front (one likes to collect small rocks for example).
They're not really old enough to understand that they have to keep the small things away from baby brother, so this is going to be interesting.
Question - for those who used a breastfeeding pillow of some sort - did you get a new one with a new baby or use the old one? We haven't dug ours out yet (it's on a moving truck somewhere right now). Just curious what others did especially if it's been 3-4 years between kids.
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Me:35 DH:35 Dx: PCOS DS1 born 11/2014 DS2 born 11/2018 3 previous losses Rainbow babydue 12/2021 - Team Green
Mockingjay I had two, one for upstairs one for down. I kept them both and plan to use to them again. I did wash them. Just made sure to fully dry the inside stuffing.
Everyone's as uncomfortable as me, right? RIGHT? Like some days I wonder how I'm going to make it another 3+ months. I get sad because I can't do stuff with DD, I just don't have the stamina or flexibility. I'm also WAY bigger than I was at this point the first time around.
@lostarz14 yep. it often makes me really weepy to think about how much worse it’s going to get. sometimes i get po’d at how much faster dh is walking (at normal pace).
@lostarz14 I am miserable too. Yesterday my dr asked how I was and I said completely miserable and over it and he said I had a while to go. I told him he could shove that talk up his rear, I didn't want to hear it. I have zero idea how I'm going to survive. Yesterday ds asked me to play cars with him and I almost cried because I knew if I got on the floor I was guaranteed to get up.
+1 for feeling badly about not being able to keep up with my super active kiddo. I miss my first pregnancy where I just had to sit at an office desk all day, and as soon as I made it home, i could lay on the couch and relax for the remainder of the day. Those days are looooong gone.
Same, ladies. The minute I crossed into 3rd tri I went from tolerable to miserable. My back hurts sitting, standing, laying. Keeping up with DD is taking every ounce of my patience and energy. I feel huge, so uncomfortable.
So I'm not happy you ladies are suffering too, but it makes me feel more normal! I worked up until delivery doing 3 12+ hour shifts a week as a nurse with DS. I am already that uncomfortable if not more so this time around and I'm only 27 weeks. We have been making a lot of trips to get stuff for the new house, and DH just doesn't get I can't walk as fast as he can. I took DS to the zoo yesterday morning. We left early because it started raining, but I'm not sure how I would have hobbled around the whole zoo anyway. It's going to be an interesting 3 months.
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Me:35 DH:35 Dx: PCOS DS1 born 11/2014 DS2 born 11/2018 3 previous losses Rainbow babydue 12/2021 - Team Green
Team miserable here, too! I’ve been progressively more miserable each pregnancy, ugh! With my first, at least I wasn’t this sore and uncomfortable so early, and I never got to the point where I couldn’t bend over, and I’m there already. With my second I remember the last month being unbearable, but this is so much sooner!
ETA: my belly is also SO much bigger. I’ve actually eaten much better this time around and also haven’t gained quite as much weight...but my belly (and boobs!!) are out of control. I’m going to have to buy bigger maternity clothes.
+1 for me, too. I feel so much bigger and uncomfortable already whereas last time I felt pretty great the whole time. My huge belly has turned into a crumb catcher so much faster and I am just so damn sore We are taking DD to the zoo next Wednesday and I don't think I will be able to keep up, especially in the heat!
Does anyone have a pregnancy pillow? I had a hand-me-down C-shaped type pillow the first time but gave it back. Now I bought one of those little wedge pillows but I'm thinking I might want something that my whole body sort of fits in to since I wake up every time I roll over so I can move that little wedge pillow. Any recs?
I got a call today to come in to see my Dr. My labs came back and I officially have ICP. Now we get to play the game of how sick can I get and keep baby inside. I'm worried about how this is going to affect my time with ds. I was very sick last time. I just hope it doesn't take too much out of me this go round, but since I'm already miserable, I'm not holding my breath.
@MouseMama817 Yeah, I will be on a crap ton of meds, unfortunately, none of them will mitigate the liver enzymes. That is the true concern and where the how sick can I get dance comes in.
Add me to the miserable already club. I feel like my lungs are so smooshed and I can’t take a full breath of air. This was how I felt the very last week of pregnancy last time... I don’t know how I’m going to make it through three more months of this. DD started preschool again this week and I’m so relieved. I thought I was going to be so sad because we don’t have much time left for just the two of us, but she was so much happier after a day of being with people who are actually able to play with her. November needs to get here already!
@wildrainbow I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you can keep baby cooking as long as possible and that you don't get too horribly sick. Hang in there, mama.
Awe, y'all, thanks. It's one thing to know it was coming, and another to have it happen. Thanks for the kind words, y'all. I needed to hear it. I was throwing a pity party for myself.
Since having children, has anyone had fears about their husband/partner passing away? When my son was born, I noticed I periodically would think about this.
Im not sure if it’s because my H is out of town and I miss him, or because of the pregnancy hormones, or because my two year old is absolutely obsessed with his daddy and I have no clue how I’d parent without him, but this week I’ve had a couple bouts of tears thinking about this. I’ve never had this feeling be so overwhelming/intense before.
@BabyBoyH92016 absolutely, I’ve had those anxieties. But to be honest, my true fears are a little selfish bc I worry more about something happening to me and leaving my girls without a mother. Thinking about my daughter crying for me is just an unbearable feeling. It makes anytime I leave her really stressful for me sometimes.
@BabyBoyH92016 I've noticed I tend to get more nervous about my safety and my family's safety during pregnancy. For example, during my first pregnancy, I started getting really jumpy and nervous in the car, always watching out for other cars and getting scared that they were going to randomly swerve into my lane and hurt us all. I also get more jumpy at H's driving, which he haaaates. I've noticed this has started happening again during this pregnancy, although it never fully went away after my first pregnancy, TBH. I think it's normal to have these thoughts and worry about what might happen, especially with another baby on the way. Do you guys have wills lined up? Sorry if that's a morbid question, but perhaps it would help you feel a little better/more prepared if something were to happen? Or maybe the thought of that would just freak you out more.
@BabyBoyH92016 so much yes. dh is my very best friend, the sole breadwinner, and an awesome father and husband. i worry everyday about losing him, and it’s ramped up exponentially now that there’s two more on the way. i worry about him getting into a car accident or having a sudden heart attack or something.
dd has had more potty accidents in the last 6 days than she’s had in the last 6 months. i know it’s a perfect storm of big transitions (starting school + new siblings on the way), maybe also because she’s got a little cold. started as overnight bed wetting, and now it’s also happening in the middle of the day; she just peed while sitting on the couch. we’re following all the major online parenting advice, including not making it into a big deal and prompting her to go more frequently as well as in the motn. i’m stumped. i don’t think it’s a uti because she has no other indications. anyone been through this too?
@highsteaks how old is she? My DD is 2.5 and had three accidents at daycare yesterday and that's unlike her. She also peed on the way home and peed in her chair at home the other day. We also had to start putting pullups on at night too because she was waking up wet every morning...she's only been potty trained for about 2 months though so I'm not expecting things to be perfect quite yet. She was doing well with overnights there for awhile though. She is currently sick and was out of daycare for 2 days so maybe that has something to do with it, idk. It's a bit frustrating though. Daycare said they were going to have her go every 30 minutes today to hopefully help get her back on track.
@BabyBoyH92016 - I think that's totally normal. I worry a little about it now, but I remember when DS was born I worried about it a lot more. I feel like for the first year anytime DH took DS out to do something I'd worry something would happen to them and I'd lose my whole world at once.
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@lostarz14 she’s almost 3.5, has been out of diapers for almost a year (i think). it’s been VERY sudden that she’s been having these accidents. i can’t remember the last time she peed herself before this week.
Re: STM+ Chat - August
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
i love that shirt!!
They're not really old enough to understand that they have to keep the small things away from baby brother, so this is going to be interesting.
@ashkee05 Love that shirt!
This will be boy #3 (all under 3) for us. I imagine it's only going to get crazier as they get older.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
Dx: PCOS
DS1 born 11/2014
DS2 born 11/2018
3 previous losses
Rainbow baby due 12/2021 - Team Green
Dx: PCOS
DS1 born 11/2014
DS2 born 11/2018
3 previous losses
Rainbow baby due 12/2021 - Team Green
ETA: my belly is also SO much bigger. I’ve actually eaten much better this time around and also haven’t gained quite as much weight...but my belly (and boobs!!) are out of control. I’m going to have to buy bigger maternity clothes.
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
Since having children, has anyone had fears about their husband/partner passing away? When my son was born, I noticed I periodically would think about this.
Im not sure if it’s because my H is out of town and I miss him, or because of the pregnancy hormones, or because my two year old is absolutely obsessed with his daddy and I have no clue how I’d parent without him, but this week I’ve had a couple bouts of tears thinking about this. I’ve never had this feeling be so overwhelming/intense before.
I think it's normal to have these thoughts and worry about what might happen, especially with another baby on the way. Do you guys have wills lined up? Sorry if that's a morbid question, but perhaps it would help you feel a little better/more prepared if something were to happen? Or maybe the thought of that would just freak you out more.
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
Dx: PCOS
DS1 born 11/2014
DS2 born 11/2018
3 previous losses
Rainbow baby due 12/2021 - Team Green