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October 2018 Moms
nugget2ehf
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Monday BF 7/30
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Hadn't seen one started and I need this now, as I'm sure others do too.
(Sorry, don't know how to GIF though, so please add a bitchy GIF for décor)
(Sorry, don't know how to GIF though, so please add a bitchy GIF for décor)
Re: Monday BF 7/30
I hate heat at the best of times but being 7 months pregnant in this weather sucks. It’s 100* with the humidex today and we are not prepared for those temperatures - most houses don’t have a/c here because we don’t usually get these temperatures but we are now on like day 10 in a row of this. It’s supposed to start cooling off a bit again mid-week and I really hope they are right about that!
To top it off, I've been having to babysit and work on projects with another office in another state, which I have quickly determined to be incompetent. So trying to work with them and get anything accomplished has severely stressed/pissed me the fudge off the last few weeks. Everything has taken 3x as long as it should and the client is being a huge dick about it to me, when it's not my fault. I'm so over it. Now the test results I've been waiting on from them for the last couple weeks, that should've taken a few days, have come back as total shit. And the client is on my ass. I'm just praying we can figure it out so I can get this report out today. But I swear if it's delayed, I CANNOT be the person to tell the client that it's screwed up again. I won't be able to handle it on top of everything else, I'll definitely cry. What's even more frustrating is I told my manager about how incompetent they are and his response was "we'll just remember that for next time". And I wanted to punch him. This shouldn't be my problem. (This probably barely makes sense to anyone (and might be incoherent), but I needed to vent.)
And my husband is at a 2-day conference and they made him get a hotel room even though it's only 30 minutes away. Which I'm a little excited for considering I can just veg out and hide and cry by myself, but I could also use a hug.
@elothair can. not. imagine. living without AC right now. Feels like 109 ish again today, and it's 99 outside right now. I need to check the mail, but that 60 second walk is hell. Stay cool!
@elothair feel you on the not having AC. I swear it's the hottest summer we've had in a while, and we don't have central AC. We have a swamp cooler. Which helps, but not enough for me. Ugh.
@hannaht8516 I think your cry fest was totally justified. Sorry to hear about your GD results, I know that's not easy to accept. Add in the work frustrations and it's enough to send any pregnant woman into a breakdown.
(now she's insisting that despite 6+ ultrasounds, I must be having twins). I shared the baby name with her and she made fun of it. She takes more than two hours for lunch each day but clocks back in after an hour. She passes off her work for me to do sometimes. I'm so tired of her. Her time here is limited so I'm just waiting it out. It will be over soon. She just doesn't know it yet.
She's planning a Disney vacation now. I can see her computer from my desk. Now, I'm on FB and here on TB right now, so I'm not one to complain that she's not working 24/7. But someone from HER department came in and asked her if she could check to see if one of the bills got paid. A bill that SHE processed. She asked me to do it.
We have over a dozen entities. I didn't know which one the bill was even paid from. I narrowed it down to the four most likely, and had to open quickbooks for each one to search for it, because she was too busy shopping for Disney tickets.
There are a few of us that are just waiting for her to be let go. Last week, we had a company breakfast down the street. Like, literally 2 blocks away, on the same street. She got lost and took over an hour to get back. We're not exactly buying her story.
The specific situation is that I have a regional work trip tomorrow. I have to wake up and hit the road at like 5, drive 3 hours, work 8 hours. I’ve been doing this trip every 3-6 months for a year and a half and it takes me to where my moms whole family lives (except my mom who is in another state). I always make the trip an extra night by driving down the day before to get to visit my aunts (planning my baby shower) and grandmother (95 years old). This time since I’m nearly 7 months pregnant I didn’t want to make the trip longer than needed so I’m driving down early morning right to where my work stuff is and I will be doing work there tomorrow and Wednesday. My one aunt offered to make a dinner plan for tomorrow night. It’s going to be my 2 aunts and me. My grandmother, being very old, isn’t up for comifn with my aun to dinner which I was bummed about (they basically live together). I mentioned to my aunt I should go see my grandmother before dinner, but she responded it wouldn’t make sense with rush hour traffic going there then back out and she told my grandmother about my quick visit and she said don’t worry about coming out of my way to visit her. I felt a little guilty, because at her age I don’t know when it will be the last time I’m seeing her, but since my aunt thought it was ok I went with it. My mom texted to see what’s new tonight so I told her about my trip. Of course the first thing she said was don’t forget to make sure I see grandma. Told her the whole to do with dinner, traffic, etc. and that I’d try to make it work and she couldnt just leave it alone and instead have me the “you never know when it will be the last time” guilt trip. So now on top of being 7 months pregnant, having to pee constantly, driving 3 hours at 5am, hate driving long distance alone by the way, hoping to just stay awake for that, working 8 hours, now I pretty much have to go from where I’m working to see my grandmother at rush hour (probably at least 30 min) so I don’t have to possibly live with that on my conscience, ask my aunt to change dinner location because it makes no sense wth where my grandmother lives, then drive backwards to where the hotel is, just to wake up Wednesday, Work 8 hours there, then drive back home another 3-4 hours because of major highway construction that will make the drive back hell.
I sound like a whiney B for all this over seeing my grandmother. I love her and want to see her, but being that this was a ton of driving under very pregnant circumstances I wanted to give myself a pass on not adding an extra 45 minutes of driving into my day. My priority was just to keep myself awake to drive safely there at 5am, Work, dinner, sleep by 8, but good ole mom can’t just let me be a grown up and live with my own decisions without a big conscience buster. And I’m weak and always cave under her pressure, but seriously if it would have been my last opportunity and she had told me so that would eat away at me then I’d be even more pissed at my mom.
again— fully acknowledge I sound like a huge B for the subject matter I’m complaining about.
I feel kind of hurt that they couldn't just wait, or at least try to help. Never mind me while we're going to the Dr and possibly finding out life changing news here... Just do your thing... We both feel like we would've dropped everything to help them out, if the roles were reversed. DH was pretty bugged too.
I had someone else offer, after we'd asked, so I just went back to them to see if it still worked for them, and it did so the kids are going there.
I wish they'd have just said no in the first place...
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
That said- the lid being down is expected here. If I found the lid down at my parents’ place in the middle of the night, I’d probably be peeing myself too. That just isn’t something they do.
@cdepperschmidt Try not to let it stress you out too much. I'm 5'3" and started at 218. I've gained about 25lb total.
First of all, is she going to pay my bills in the mean time? No. I only have 3 weeks vacation time saved and disability takes 6 weeks to kick in. Second I cant just take myself out of work. Yes I'm miserable but I only have 10 weeks left til my due date. I'd rather save my vacation time for if theres an emergency and I NEED to go out early. Third, I'd rather have more time off once baby is born then now anyway.
I don't normally join in the BF, but please indulge me today.
I just typed out this big long thing but the TL;DR version is that my parent's blew us off after we asked them to babysit on Monday morning, and left us totally high and dry, so they could go away Sunday night/Monday day... Which was a major PITA but whatever, we will figure it out.
Until Monday morning came and I am stressed out missing meetings and calling in sick with PTO I don't have, and DH is running around like a nut, and I get a text message from my mom "Oh, Naragganset is beautiful but we are already so bored! We don't even know what to do with ourselves!"
It just made me so mad. Like, I don't even care that you blew us off, but now I'm running around like an asshole, exhausted and stressed out and I have to hear about how "bored" you are at the beach eating oysters for lunch? Go pound sand.
We got in a stupid fight this morning because I can't keep my feelings to myself ever, and now I'm just pissed off. I hate fighting with my parents but I just feel like I'm struggling SO HARD and every time I talk to them, they're complaining about some ridiculous first world problem... like my dad - Mom doesn't want to go on a vacation to South America next year with my family because she wants to go to Costa Rica instead! (seriously?) and my mom - Dad just wants to golf all the time and will never come to the casino with me (really?) and blah blah blah blah blah.
Believe me, my parents worked hard and are retired and help us out all the time, so I really would never begrudge them a vacation or a trip or anything else.... But I'm 30 weeks pregnant, have literally 8 hours of PTO until October, will have 3 kids under 5, work different shifts from my husband so we are both always burning the candle at both ends and are totally exhausted... also, we are broke... And I have to listen to you two complain about how bored you are? I love you but... go away.
Thanks! I do feel better getting it off my chest, although I didn't mean to make my parents sound so terrible, lol.
I just thought if I told them how I felt I would have gotten any reaction other than "Oh, well we forgot, sorry". Thanks guys.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
Also, Disney and Superman. Just sayin’.
I’m so tired of someone constantly needing me
or asking for me. Yes, I know it’s my job as their parent to be there for them, but DS will literally stand right in front of me and start crying and saying “I want Mommy!” I’m right here, dude. I haven’t been able to get even a free moment of peace today because my kids have constantly been up my butt. The worst part is that DH is off work and home today, but he’s basically been useless. He’s talked all day about how tired he is and how he needs a break (let’s not forget that I let him sleep in until 10am while I got up with the kids at 6:15), but I do too. I even tried locking myself myself in my bathroom just to get a couple of minutes by myself but DD managed to break the lock and get in there. She’s been touching me in some form almost all day (I’m not even exaggerating here) and I’m just over it. I just need half an hour to myself.
ETA my phone froze mid post
ETA: Maybe y'all need to talk anyway. You're growing a baby and he needs to step it up.
Also the one on the left was a 2016 Hanukkah gift (pre-inauguration...) and the one on the right was 2017 Hanukkah. Pretty much summed up my coping attempts at those times.