I hope to have 4 children. Ds 1 will be entering 7th grade (wow!), this little jellybean will be entering 4th grade and then 2 more. Hopefully, we will be very involved in the kids’ activities and have a solid group of “parent” friends. I hope to be back to teaching elementary school, hopefully in the same district as the kiddos. Also, I hope we are settling into our dream forever home.
I would like to have moved out of NYC or at least to the suburbs with a forever home that I love and a 10 and 8 year old! Really hoping our frozen embryo is a successful transfer in 2 years. I also hope to be working at a job I love.
this is so hard! There are so many good possibilities! But hopefully have 2 (maybe 3) kiddos, a more fulfilling job, H with a job he loves as well. And hopefully loving the house we are now contractually obligated to! I would LOVE to be finished with or in a PhD program, but will be a stretch with 2 littles.
Interestingly I just spoke with my husband about this. He tells me in 3 years we will start to build our forever home and be moved in in 4 years. We will have an 11 year old and a 9 1/2 year old. And oh god I hope my dog is still around. I will have won the lottery, and won’t have to work and I will have the kids in various activities and will be extremely fit lol
@katy0990 you don’t ask the hard questions or anything!
So this is tough to answer, which is really odd for me. But I realize that I have not actually been working on LT goals much in the past year since we moved here. It’s been adapting to a new job and building collaborations, trying to create my own niche in my career area, adapting to new dream job for H which is much more demanding, and helping Poppy with adapting to a new city & school & all the milestones of the year. Oh, and getting pregnant again, which was my primary goal for the year.
From my mid teens I have been super focused on long-term career goals, college, grad school, fellowship, and advanced trainings and certifications. I’m really unnerved to not have active goals with bullet point steps plotted out. I better get on that! So here goes:
Goals for 10 years: -specific work goals including promotion in academic appointments, board cerification, establishing recognized expertise in a niche within my specialty area -consider transitioning to a nearby institution if the right opportunity arises or I create it, or reducing hours and having a part-time private practice. -a good amount of time momming to two happy healthy curious and caring daughters 14 and 9 -some more finishing touches to our city-version dream home (current home) -build up circle of local friends including parent-friends, work friends, and miscellaneous friends -take care of my health and my body -last but certainly not least, spend more time with H nourishing our marriage, which feels solid and loving but too we often come last in our juggling acts.
In ten years, we will hopefully be settled into our "forever" home (hoping it's the next house). We will have 12 and 9.5 year old boys, plus a third if I get my way but not likely (DH is adamant about stopping after this one). We will have FINALLY gone to visit France!! DH will be at a much higher position (pretty guaranteed honestly) and I'm not sure about me. I like my job, but idk if I'm someone who can do the same job for 13 years (I'm at 3 currently). We'll see. Maybe I'll go back to school and get a degree, who knows. Hopefully I'll have made some more friends my age, probably other parents lol. And I'm hoping DH and I will be in good shape, I'd love to lose a good 40+ pounds and keep it off in that time. DH is usually asking me questions like this, I don't think that far into the future usually lol.
I don’t generally set long term goals because I find that I change direction as life happens. Ten years ago if you asked if I would have children we would have said absolutely not. We were buying our first house, not even engage yet, traveling and partying and I was a bank manager (first real job out of college, not because it what I wanted to do) . I feel like I barely remember that free spirited chick!! My goals then would have been to keep working to keep traveling.
However a few years down the road, a random night at a bar I saw a group of older women and they were sloppy AF and I couldn’t understand why they were still binge drinking. I knew as much as I loved going out and traveling, I wanted more in life and knew that couldn’t be my future.
Currently, we are house hunting so I hope in ten years whatever we do buy is finished to my liking. We would love third child but I am pretty sure this is my last pregnancy. My family has lots of adoption and hubs and I wanted to adopt first. However plans changed again when my OB encouraged us to start trying then and Good thing we did because it took nearly 2.5 years to get pregnant. Looking back adoption would have been faster. So in ten years I hope to have a 12 year olds, 9 year old and a 7 year old! I hope my DH still loves his job and I hope I am still able to work from home! I hope as a family we are back to traveling and hopefully not consumed by too many kid activities. I hope we still have a couple dogs because I truly believe they make a house a home! I hope my kids are outside kids and not interested in video game and addicted to their electronics.
My 10 year plan include my 2 (maybe 3) kids. Moving into our forever home in about 5 -7 years Making a career change and ideally helping my husband start his own law firm and running that with the flexibility to be able to pick up our kids from school and be very involved in their activities and schooling. Have more of our student loans paid off which would mean 2 high end cars in the driveway
@morgantu and @kristah2 I forgot that my student loans could be done by then, depending on when I return to teaching. What will life feel like without that albatross around my neck?!?!
Right @morgantu and @katy0990!! Our loans are literally more then we pay for our mortgage (thanks law school). Once they are done and we have no daycare... Holy moly. I might just retire.
@kristah2 ditto here with more than mortgage (maybe not the new mortgage, though). Plus poor h suffers from the rampant underemployed millennialism, so we will be very verrrrrryyyyyyy happy to be rid of private school master's loans (and maybe a promotion commensurate with education and experience? A girl can dream). 2025, here we come!
I love this question. I love to dream about the future.
Ten years...so, mid-2028. I hope to have two kids, DS (9yo) and DD (4-5yo) who are just the most amazing creatures around. DS will love his little sister to pieces. DH and I will be celebrating our 11th anniversary. We will have spent our 10th anniversary taking the kids to Hawaii. We'll be in the same house, but we'll have made a ton of changes and it will feel like a real home. All our current pets will still be alive, which is slightly wishful thinking. DH will either be making a TON more money at the job he's had since 2016 or he will be starting to pursue his dream business. I will either be working in a job I love making a good paycheck (finally) or helping DH with his dream venture. We will have savings and lots of money in our retirement accounts and no car payments! Actually, we'll totally have a car payment. There is no way DH won't have managed to get a new car by then, that stinker. We'll have a maid service come once a week or biweekly. DH's parents will live in town and have a pool. Everyone will be happy and the sun will shine and rainbows and butterflies.
This is a fun & challenging GTKY, thanks for starting @katy0990!
So, let's see. In 10 years H will be out of the military and a priest established in some parish, somewhere. Ideally, a small midwestern town? We will live in the country in a nice old farmhouse that we've fixed up to be comfortable. The house will be on a decent amount of land, and we'll have a big garden and chickens. Our kids will be 11, 9, and maybe/hopefully 7? (And, if I get it my way and don't go crazy with three, we'll also have a 5-ish year old!) They will be great kids, help me out around the house, always get along, and never fight
Me personally? I will be an established author with a couple of YA novels under my belt, working on my third book while the kids are at school. I'll be the type of mom who bakes bread and makes yogurt, and knits in the evenings. We will live a quiet life, and it will be just right for us!
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
We will have 2 or 3 kids, own a home on a lake (without a mortgage... I can dream right?), and both my husband and I will have jobs we do not hate that pay reasonably well. I hope I'll be a professor somewhere or working at a think tank and my husband will be the technology director of a school or college. We'll both be in great shape and will have a nice nest egg saved up. Our parents will be in good health and live nearby, as will some of our siblings and cousins for our kids to play with. Also I'll have a self-driving car!
Besides this LO, H and I plan to have 1 or 2 more children and at least 1 will be adopted. We are starting to house hunt now so I'd like to be established in that home/neighborhood within the next few years. We plan to stay in the same town and we don't want to settle on a few details so it's going to be a slow process. H is actually starting on our 10 year plan today by giving his two week notice at his current job! He was offered a new job which is higher paying and there are many more opportunities for growth, I'm really excited for him/us. I manage a department within my company now but I'd like to be in upper management and have a bigger role in the company overall. My pups will sadly be gone I assume and 10 years may be too soon depending on our kids' ages but I want to adopt a disabled dog. My pug is paralyzed and in a cart and while it's been a very difficult adjustment, now that I can do it, I want to help other paralyzed dogs so they don't live out their days in a shelter. But I think that will be easier once our kids would be more independent. God willing our parents will still be around and still living close by so we still get to spend a lot of time with them. And I want to visit Europe again, specifically London and Ireland.
@binxybaby No car payments is awesome. We haven't had one in over a year and I hope to never have a car payment again. I don't particularly care what kind of car I drive so that helps. Though if I get a self-driving one then that might require a loan... maybe I'll just ride my bike to work!
I bake bread! Not all the time, but I am planning to bake a loaf this weekend. There is a very specific Ukrainian rye bread that I can't get here (and can't get anywhere except my region of Ukraine), so I worked out a recipe and figured out how to make it myself! Not gonna lie, I got lucky that it took me maybe 4 tries to adjust the recipe enough to get the right taste. I call it my "tastes just like home" bread
This is a hard one! I really don’t have a plan for myself past the next five years but here we go.
We will have an 11 year old and a 9 year old who will get along and be happy and well adjusted. No anxiety problems for them! We will be living in our forever home which will hopefully be the next house we buy, and it will have a nice kitchen and all the storage a girl can dream of. Our Christmas tree will be fabulous. Family will be close and cousins will abound. DH will actually be nearing retirement age at his current job and we will be thinking about what he will do afterward, which will hopefully include a “retirement job” making good money for the next several years. I really don’t know what I’ll be doing. Possibly working, but I don’t know what that looks like for me with two kids in school and summer vacation, etc. Possibly substitute teaching will be an option or maybe I’ll go back and get my elementary teaching certificate. We’ll see where the world takes us!
@jens_hoes I had mine paid off by 30!! I am really good a short term goals! I was lucky and had some help and a good amount of scholarships through my Dad’s work for writing essays. My downside was it took me 5 years to graduate with one full summers worth of classes, I was 23 when I finally graduated. Let’s just say my sophomore year was rowdy and skipped/dropped a bunch of classes!! I wouldn’t have changed my experiences!!
This is harder than I thought it would be. Hopefully some of this is realistic but a good chunk is probably wishful thinking...
H will be out of academia and we will both have decent-paying jobs that we don't hate, and that don't require us to take our work home with us (bye-bye consulting!... eventually). We'll be in our forever home in our forever location, wherever that may be, but realistically either greater Cincinnati (where I am from) or western New York (where H is from). Our house will be old (we are obsessed with historic houses) and have enough land for a huge garden, a small orchard, chickens, ducks, bees, and some kind of natural area. We'll have 3 or 4 kids and I will be done having babies. My brother will be sober and my parents will be comfortably retired.
@PensiveCrayon I'm so ignorant about other religions other than my own - I didn't know others used the term "priest". Do you mind my asking what y'all practice? You can PM me and school me if that's better.
@ab_canada very true! Unless you pursue law like DH did.. holy moly. His salary is lovely but 15 years of loan payments the same as our mortgage isn't exactly fun.
@LLynde5@ab_canada and @Jens_Hoes I’m so jealous! I still owe $80 k At this rate our house will be paid off before my student loans, depending on what happens with the teacher forgiveness programs.
@hoosiermama-2 Ha, no worries! We’re Eastern Orthodox (converts from Mennonite & Baptist upbringings, coming up on our 4th anniversary with the church I think?). Their priests are allowed to be married
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@morgantu H was just in Rochester the other week! If we moved there we would likely end up in Niagara County, which is where all of his family is. There are good things and bad things about it, like everywhere else, but I do really enjoy it whenever we are there. BUT I would not complain if we happened to stray a bit to the Finger Lakes region. We don't know anyone there but I think it's sooooo pretty!
@hkom Ahhhhhh finger lakes! Yes, we try to spend a lot of time there (less, now that wineries are not as appealing haha). But if you're in Niagara, at least you'll be close to Darien lake!
Well, we will have an almost 11 year old and a 12 1/2 year old. If I'm not still with my current company, I hope to be well established with a company that I love to work for. We will hopefully be in our forever home closer to the outskirts of town with some land so MH can have a shop where he can do his woodworking on the side. We'd be busy with the kids' activities and hopefully be more active in our church. I'd hope to have more time for hobbies that I just don't have time for like sewing, reading, crafting (of some sort) and gardening. MH and I would hopefully be healthy and happy with our bodies (unlike we are now) and we'd try to exercise together often...and our relationship and sex life will have improved to what it was before babies! @hkom That last part of yours is great...I also wish for my brother to be sober. Here's to hoping we get that wish sooner than later!
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Re: GTKY: In 10 Years
I srsly have no idea how to answer this.
So this is tough to answer, which is really odd for me. But I realize that I have not actually been working on LT goals much in the past year since we moved here. It’s been adapting to a new job and building collaborations, trying to create my own niche in my career area, adapting to new dream job for H which is much more demanding, and helping Poppy with adapting to a new city & school & all the milestones of the year. Oh, and getting pregnant again, which was my primary goal for the year.
From my mid teens I have been super focused on long-term career goals, college, grad school, fellowship, and advanced trainings and certifications. I’m really unnerved to not have active goals with bullet point steps plotted out. I better get on that! So here goes:
Goals for 10 years:
-specific work goals including promotion in academic appointments, board cerification, establishing recognized expertise in a niche within my specialty area
-consider transitioning to a nearby institution if the right opportunity arises or I create it, or reducing hours and having a part-time private practice.
-a good amount of time momming to two happy healthy curious and caring daughters 14 and 9
-some more finishing touches to our city-version dream home (current home)
-build up circle of local friends including parent-friends, work friends, and miscellaneous friends
-take care of my health and my body
-last but certainly not least, spend more time with H nourishing our marriage, which feels solid and loving but too we often come last in our juggling acts.
DS2 due 12/12/18
However a few years down the road, a random night at a bar I saw a group of older women and they were sloppy AF and I couldn’t understand why they were still binge drinking. I knew as much as I loved going out and traveling, I wanted more in life and knew that couldn’t be my future.
Currently, we are house hunting so I hope in ten years whatever we do buy is finished to my liking. We would love third child but I am pretty sure this is my last pregnancy. My family has lots of adoption and hubs and I wanted to adopt first. However plans changed again when my OB encouraged us to start trying then and Good thing we did because it took nearly 2.5 years to get pregnant. Looking back adoption would have been faster. So in ten years I hope to have a 12 year olds, 9 year old and a 7 year old! I hope my DH still loves his job and I hope I am still able to work from home! I hope as a family we are back to traveling and hopefully not consumed by too many kid activities. I hope we still have a couple dogs because I truly believe they make a house a home! I hope my kids are outside kids and not interested in video game and addicted to their electronics.
My 10 year plan include my 2 (maybe 3) kids.
Moving into our forever home in about 5 -7 years
Making a career change and ideally helping my husband start his own law firm and running that with the flexibility to be able to pick up our kids from school and be very involved in their activities and schooling.
Have more of our student loans paid off which would mean 2 high end cars in the driveway
Ten years...so, mid-2028. I hope to have two kids, DS (9yo) and DD (4-5yo) who are just the most amazing creatures around. DS will love his little sister to pieces. DH and I will be celebrating our 11th anniversary. We will have spent our 10th anniversary taking the kids to Hawaii. We'll be in the same house, but we'll have made a ton of changes and it will feel like a real home. All our current pets will still be alive, which is slightly wishful thinking. DH will either be making a TON more money at the job he's had since 2016 or he will be starting to pursue his dream business. I will either be working in a job I love making a good paycheck (finally) or helping DH with his dream venture. We will have savings and lots of money in our retirement accounts and no car payments! Actually, we'll totally have a car payment. There is no way DH won't have managed to get a new car by then, that stinker. We'll have a maid service come once a week or biweekly. DH's parents will live in town and have a pool. Everyone will be happy and the sun will shine and rainbows and butterflies.
So, let's see. In 10 years H will be out of the military and a priest established in some parish, somewhere. Ideally, a small midwestern town? We will live in the country in a nice old farmhouse that we've fixed up to be comfortable. The house will be on a decent amount of land, and we'll have a big garden and chickens. Our kids will be 11, 9, and maybe/hopefully 7? (And, if I get it my way and don't go crazy with three, we'll also have a 5-ish year old!) They will be great kids, help me out around the house, always get along, and never fight
Me personally? I will be an established author with a couple of YA novels under my belt, working on my third book while the kids are at school. I'll be the type of mom who bakes bread and makes yogurt, and knits in the evenings. We will live a quiet life, and it will be just right for us!
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@Jens_Hoes light at the end of the tunnel!
Besides this LO, H and I plan to have 1 or 2 more children and at least 1 will be adopted. We are starting to house hunt now so I'd like to be established in that home/neighborhood within the next few years. We plan to stay in the same town and we don't want to settle on a few details so it's going to be a slow process. H is actually starting on our 10 year plan today by giving his two week notice at his current job! He was offered a new job which is higher paying and there are many more opportunities for growth, I'm really excited for him/us. I manage a department within my company now but I'd like to be in upper management and have a bigger role in the company overall. My pups will sadly be gone I assume and 10 years may be too soon depending on our kids' ages but I want to adopt a disabled dog. My pug is paralyzed and in a cart and while it's been a very difficult adjustment, now that I can do it, I want to help other paralyzed dogs so they don't live out their days in a shelter. But I think that will be easier once our kids would be more independent. God willing our parents will still be around and still living close by so we still get to spend a lot of time with them. And I want to visit Europe again, specifically London and Ireland.
I bake bread! Not all the time, but I am planning to bake a loaf this weekend. There is a very specific Ukrainian rye bread that I can't get here (and can't get anywhere except my region of Ukraine), so I worked out a recipe and figured out how to make it myself! Not gonna lie, I got lucky that it took me maybe 4 tries to adjust the recipe enough to get the right taste. I call it my "tastes just like home" bread
We will have an 11 year old and a 9 year old who will get along and be happy and well adjusted. No anxiety problems for them! We will be living in our forever home which will hopefully be the next house we buy, and it will have a nice kitchen and all the storage a girl can dream of. Our Christmas tree will be fabulous. Family will be close and cousins will abound. DH will actually be nearing retirement age at his current job and we will be thinking about what he will do afterward, which will hopefully include a “retirement job” making good money for the next several years. I really don’t know what I’ll be doing. Possibly working, but I don’t know what that looks like for me with two kids in school and summer vacation, etc. Possibly substitute teaching will be an option or maybe I’ll go back and get my elementary teaching certificate. We’ll see where the world takes us!
H will be out of academia and we will both have decent-paying jobs that we don't hate, and that don't require us to take our work home with us (bye-bye consulting!... eventually). We'll be in our forever home in our forever location, wherever that may be, but realistically either greater Cincinnati (where I am from) or western New York (where H is from). Our house will be old (we are obsessed with historic houses) and have enough land for a huge garden, a small orchard, chickens, ducks, bees, and some kind of natural area. We'll have 3 or 4 kids and I will be done having babies. My brother will be sober and my parents will be comfortably retired.
Yes, but it can't be nearly as bad as the loans in the States..
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@PensiveCrayon ohhh I'm also intrigued by this. I find religion fascinating. Thanks for sharing
Well, we will have an almost 11 year old and a 12 1/2 year old. If I'm not still with my current company, I hope to be well established with a company that I love to work for. We will hopefully be in our forever home closer to the outskirts of town with some land so MH can have a shop where he can do his woodworking on the side. We'd be busy with the kids' activities and hopefully be more active in our church. I'd hope to have more time for hobbies that I just don't have time for like sewing, reading, crafting (of some sort) and gardening. MH and I would hopefully be healthy and happy with our bodies (unlike we are now) and we'd try to exercise together often...and our relationship and sex life will have improved to what it was before babies!