@navete I find it really rude that people judged you for well known medical rules - - I am annoyed at that on your behalf!!
@thatbaintforbetty fingers crossed for you!! But either way take care of yourself
My randon: when my alarm went off this morning at 7:30 I couldn't get up so I reset it for 8:30. During that hour I dreamed that I threw up while riding public transit (the light rail 'train') which made the woman next to me throw up so I went to clean up in the bathroom (which doesn't exist on the light rail?) and when I woke up the smell of the dishes I was too lazy to wash last night made me gag. I'm not usually a vivid dreamer but I have had a major gag reflex the last two days!
@abbykwail I thought it was a foolproof excuse but the friend has a PhD in neuroscience and has always said the no alcohol on antibiotics rule isn't a hard rule (who am I to argue with a scientist ha). I did lie at first and said I wasn't pregnant, but I was acting all weird as a result so just decided to confess (MH didn't care either way). And dreaming about throwing up is just not fair! As if it's not enough that you're nauseous in RL
In regards to antbiotic, I was on a medicine last winter that waa a hard no alcohol, I was even told not to use mouthwash. I needed to wait until 3 days after my last dose to drink alcohol or use mouthwash. This was per my dr and pharmacist...I would become violently ill otherwise they said. Of course it was around xmas and in laws raised eyebrows and SIL is nurse and made comment that people use that med excuse when they're pregnant
@WkoutMomtoBe thats actually very true with an antibiotic called Flaggyl. My DH has diverticulitis and was on flaggyl and another antibiotic and the pharmacist told me to make sure he didnt drink or use mouthwash on the flaggyl and I was like yea OK, they say that with all antibiotics, I'm also a nurse, and I've always drank with antibiotics also, but I looked that one up because she was just so insistent on it, Flaggyl actually works the same way Antabuse works, which is the med they give alcoholics to try to keep them on the wagon, and will definitely make you violently ill! I definitely learned something new that day. I had given flaggyl to patients before, but obviously in the hospital they arent drinking, so I was actually happy to learn something new, and will never forget it!
I haven’t really participated a ton yet. I was waiting for my ultrasound to confirm baby’s heart beat before I allowed myself to get super excited. Is there an ultrasound board yet? I didn’t see one...
We have two sleeping beauties in heaven. Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016. Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015. They will be forever missed.
@meggyme It’s all so new here that I’ve tried to refrain from the snark just yet, but it’s going to be really hard to build a community when it’s just the baby version of Yahoo Answers around here.
You do an excellent job at kindly redirecting and suggesting that they should’ve posted elsewhere. I’ll be more diligent about it too. It’s going to turn me off from our BMB if it becomes the norm.
@swanbrooner I try, but it's a struggle. I recognize that a lot of people are just joining the bump and this might be their first experience with a bmb. But I agree that there will certainly be a point where the snark will be unavoidable.
And others, like the people coming here to recruit for facebook I just can't. Why are you here if you only want to be on facebook?
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
The one offs are bad. But I do remember them being really bad in my other BMB in the early stages as well. And we were REALLY snarky. It didn’t help any though. Drive byes are not going to notice/care about any of that. They just want to post. Once we get a month or so in, the masses will disappear and the community should start to build.
Also, I think this pregnancy is making me soft, really soft. Because I have been so nice to some of these randos where regular me would have got giffy on their asses. I look up the perfect gif and then this little voice in my head is like “What if this is the worst day of their life or what if this poor person who thinks they got pregnant the day after her period is some 15 year old with no family to help her who’s education system failed to teach her about her body???” Where is this sappy person coming from?? This is not going to go over well with 1st grader puppy dog eyes.
I'm new to this an BMB's in general so I'm not exactly sure what y'all are talking about. What qualifies as a "one-off"? What's the etiquette? I was always under the impression that this is a place where you'd come to share stories and ask questions (especially as a first timer because there are so. many. questions.) - so I'm just curious to know what's OK and what's not. I actually do kind of look at this as a "Yahoo Answers" but for babies...... when that analogy was thrown into this thread it made me question how this platform is meant to be used. I'd love some insight so that moving forward there's minimal snark! I think we're all just trying to ride the roller coaster of emotions and anxiety that comes along with early pregnancy. I've read the rules, but it seems there's etiquette that goes beyond that based on where this conversation went. Educate me!!
@indigoheightsblog one offs (AKA driveby’s) are posters that come and ask a question that only pertains to themselves, usually without having introduced themselves or read any of the rules. Usually it’s asking for medical advice we can’t give them or something they could have googled just as easily.
In 1st tri we’ll see a lot of Skull, nub, and Ramzi theory gender guesses. Second tri brings the “I want a girl but my trained ultrasound tech said it’s a boy, what do you think” and in 3rd tri it’s “is this the start of labor?”
Most of the time once they get their answer they never come back to contribute or say thank you.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
@meggyme - ah, interesting. i sort of get it. while i'm sure i'll have the "is this the start of labor" question (because AHHH) i guess i could see how that's all sort of annoying. but to play devil's advocate.... when does google EVER reassure anyone?! LOL. i think google stresses me out more to be honest. i would so much rather hear answers (or similar experiences) from real people who have gone through this before. google sucks. i get 500 different answers from google and they all scare the heck out of me.
@indigoheightsblog Those types of questions and conversations definitely have their place here, but are more accepted when they come from people who have participated in the community, built relationships with other women on this board, and who give support to others.
And in the appropriate place. We have a symptom thread and a random thread and a questions thread.
If every post on the symptom thread were an individual post about how nauseous and tired we are no one’s question would ever get answered and we’d never be able to find anything or have a meaningful conversation.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
@indigoheightsblog It can cause a ton of anxiety for some people getting to know the rules and etiquette (speaking from experience). It’s a community and we want you to come to us with anything and everything. It’s just easier to keep track of conversations when they are organized a bit. And since many of us have the same issues you can usually find a lot of insight and support by opening up question threads or random threads. If you think of a hot topic that hasn’t been posted (ie ultrasounds, symptoms etc) feel free to start a thread. Anyone is more than welcome to start any thread. We just prefer that they are threads that everyone can participate in and benefit from rather than a single statement or question that can be answered with one persons response and then as a result just clog the feed.
Totally random, but we’re heading to a Scottish Highland Games today (my husband plays in a bagpipe band) and I really hope there’s no fried dough or anything similar. Or a haggis food truck. Because my stomach is iffy as is and the thought of those scents sounds beyond revolting to me right now.... #foodaversions
We were supposed to have swim lessons with my 2yo but it’s raining and I don’t wanna. They only cancel lessons for lightening but I decided it’s not worth it.
DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
@mamaoftwomonkeys I don’t recall what haggis is, just that it sounded quite unappetizing. What are Scottish Highland Games, is it a festival of some sort?
@meggyme Anything fun happening with you today? I’m going out to the city with some gfs. Going to be tough being sly about the alcohol (geez even the theater where we’re going is highlighted for serving beer during the movie). I’m hoping one of the friends doesn’t catch on. I hung out with her last night too. I got so tired of being offered wine that I let them pour me a tiny amount (said I wasn’t feeling well) and every once in a while brought the glass up to “drink” but never opened my mouth lol. But at least they stopped asking me.
@navete we have some friends visiting from out of town that we will be hanging out with. They’re staying at a friend’s house in our neighborhood but idk what the plan for the weekend is. It’s raining pretty hard now and I doubt it will let up much. Hell, it’s supposed to be rainy for the next week and a half!
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@thatbaintforbetty fingers crossed for you!! But either way take care of yourself
My randon: when my alarm went off this morning at 7:30 I couldn't get up so I reset it for 8:30. During that hour I dreamed that I threw up while riding public transit (the light rail 'train') which made the woman next to me throw up so I went to clean up in the bathroom (which doesn't exist on the light rail?) and when I woke up the smell of the dishes I was too lazy to wash last night made me gag. I'm not usually a vivid dreamer but I have had a major gag reflex the last two days!
Married: 2016
BFP #1 4/23/18, blighted ovum 5/29/18
BFP#2 7/14/18, DS 4/5/19
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Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
You do an excellent job at kindly redirecting and suggesting that they should’ve posted elsewhere. I’ll be more diligent about it too. It’s going to turn me off from our BMB if it becomes the norm.
And others, like the people coming here to recruit for facebook I just can't. Why are you here if you only want to be on facebook?
I am craving frozen yogurt so hard right now. I do not like frozen yogurt, and have been completely off sweets. Pregnancy is a weird thing.
Edited because spelling
In 1st tri we’ll see a lot of Skull, nub, and Ramzi theory gender guesses. Second tri brings the “I want a girl but my trained ultrasound tech said it’s a boy, what do you think” and in 3rd tri it’s “is this the start of labor?”
Most of the time once they get their answer they never come back to contribute or say thank you.
anyways, thank you for clarifying!!!
If every post on the symptom thread were an individual post about how nauseous and tired we are no one’s question would ever get answered and we’d never be able to find anything or have a meaningful conversation.
@meggyme Anything fun happening with you today? I’m going out to the city with some gfs. Going to be tough being sly about the alcohol (geez even the theater where we’re going is highlighted for serving beer during the movie). I’m hoping one of the friends doesn’t catch on. I hung out with her last night too. I got so tired of being offered wine that I let them pour me a tiny amount (said I wasn’t feeling well) and every once in a while brought the glass up to “drink” but never opened my mouth lol. But at least they stopped asking me.
Yup, just like a Scottish festival!