Work is killing me today . The majority of our store got a less than stellar inspection so upper management is on a rampage threatening to fire everyone. I believe in being proactive instead of reactive so it’s irking me bad today.
DH has been on vacation this week and has been cleaning/nesting like crazy. I feel a little bad that I am not helping, but it's also awesome to go home and have everything done. Yesterday I was determined to help and he told me he just needed a few minutes, and I promptly fell asleep sitting up on the couch. Oops! So as bad as I feel, I'm not too concerned.
Me: 34 DH: 34 Married 10/28/17 Our TTC Journey
TTC #1 February '18 Team Green turned TeamBlue 10/15/18
TTC #2 January '21 BFP June '21 MMC/Blighted Ovum that led to D&C July '21 Jan '22 - started IF testing BFP Jan '22 MMC/Blighted Ovum that led to D&C Feb '22 BFP May '22
My toddler is sick and my husband spent the majority of last night with him on the recliner. I’m currently a stay at home, and when my kiddo is sick or having an off night, my husband is the one who handles the vast majority of the wake-ups. I don’t know why (since hubs is fine with this and likes the cuddles since he misses him while at work), but I feel incredibly guilty about this.
DH works long hours a lot so it's common for him to get home anytime between 4:30 and 7:30 pm. Well yesterday it was 8:30pm when it dawned on me that he still wasn't home. He works in the field a lot and someone just died recently in an accident, which shook DH and has had him worrying. So of course I am thinking about this as I call him and go to vm. I half expected this because he doesn't carry a phone charger and his phone is usually about to die by the time he gets home but it didn't help with my worrying.
I waited until 9 pm and called the lab that he's usually at when he is in the office and went to vm. So then I really start to worry and decide that if by 9:30pm he isn't home, that I am going to call his office's main number and if there is anyone there, I will just ask for/about him and if I can't get someone to pick up, I will get one of my friends' teenagers to come to my house while I run out to DH's work to try to find him. At 9:30pm I called, DH was the one to pick up, and said he'd been back at the office for an hour working on a report. So I breathed a big sigh of relief and chewed him out a little bit for not being more considerate and calling.
Anyway, here is the confession part: at 9pm when I decided I would try to go find him if I couldn't get a hold of him at 9:30pm, I went into a cleaning frenzy. I didn't want anyone to see the disaster in our home so I was super focused on cleaning as much as possible in those 30 minutes. I was worried about DH but also about our messy house. I swept the wood floor but hadn't mopped yet when I called DH and got a hold of him. Once I talked to him, I laid down and fell asleep immediately without mopping the floor. I guess cleaning is not a priority right now unless someone is coming over.
Me: 38 DH: 36 Married 8/27/2011 BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012 BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014 BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017 BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
@vrj0522 I'm sorry you were worried about YH for a while, but that is too funny about the cleaning! @BabyBoyH92016 Awww, that is so sweet. I totally get why you would feel guilty about that, but I think it's so special YH gets time with your son at night time. Most of the time, it seems like moms always handle MOTN duty, and I love hearing about men who like to do it too.
Mine is a combined UO/FFFC. I completely judge and glare at people who video chat (without headphones) while out and about at the store, at the restaurant, etc. We were at a restaurant tonight and while a lady was waiting for her take out order, she was chatting away on a video call for about 10 minutes, with it loudly playing on speaker phone. I just don't get why people think this is okay. If she had headphones in, it would have been somewhat okay, although I still think it's odd. But it makes me furious when people do that. It's not so bad if it's in a noisy place, but in the middle of a small, quiet restaurant?
@offtoneverland I actually don't get why people need to video chat for every call in general. Like why do you need to see someone everytime you talk. The only time DH and I use video chat is when he is at work on nights, on his break so he can say goodnight to DS otherwise we just text or call regular. Can anyone tell me why you need to videochat all the time?? (On another note, hearing someones conversation out loud video or not is annoying. Especially at a small restaurant.)
@blue2mango we FaceTime almost every call with each set of grandparents if the kids are with us. It has helped them bond so much even though we live far away. The kids have always gone right to their grandparents even if it has been several months between visits and I attribute that to how much we FaceTime. But if the kids aren’t around, we just talk on the phone.
I completely forgot my dog at the groomer today I dropped her off this morning then rushed right to a meeting at work. The groomer called me around 11am to say she was done so in my head I was going to leave work early and get her. Instead, work got crazy and I ended up staying until almost 5pm. Then I drove home like normal and was about 2 blocks from my house when the groomer called again. Whoops! Luckily the lady didn’t seem mad but I gave her an extra big tip since my pup was obviously the only one left by the time I turned around and got her. Now I feel bad that she was stuck in a cage all day so she’s getting extra love
@charliesmommy6 - at least you were able to pick her up today and you made up for it with the extra tip & extra love.
@offtoneverland - thankfully I haven't seen that happen before. I would probably do the same as you or actually say something cause depending on my mood, sometimes I can't hold it in.
My FFFC for today is combined a little bit with a rant.... I mentioned before a couple times that I work for the City & County in an office, mostly true but I'm actually a police officer. I couldn't say it before because I was occasionally used for under cover work and couldn't say PO. Now that I'm pregnant and have gestational diabetes, not only am I getting transferred to a "safer" division but I'm getting put on light duty. My Dr's note says I shouldn't be driving or shooting a gun in case I get low blood sugar. I understand why shes did it but I'm kind of hating the doctor right now. I'm feeling like a failure for having issues during my first pregnancy. I have scaled back at home and DH is picking up slack there and now I gotta scale back at work too. Right now I'm just frustrated and just feeling down.
@blue2mango My husband and I video chat whenever we get the chance, since he's deployed. Sometimes that happens while I'm out and about and trying to wrangle our son. Haha. I don't care. I'm still going to answer his call.
@charliesmommy6 Oh, no! I'm glad she's getting extra snuggles this evening! It's so easy to get wrapped up in the craziness of the day, though.
@wannaflickone That makes perfect sense. We do video chats so DD can see her grandparents too, since we don't live near them. I always find it odd to see adults just casually video chatting with their friends or SOs while walking around Target or something though. @kamahina9 Oh no! That must be so hard on you coming from your line of work. I'm sorry that your doctor's note said all of that stuff and that she wants you to be so careful. I guess it's for the best, but it must be really disheartening for you. You are not a failure though. You didn't choose to have these issues, and nothing you did caused them. It's completely random, so please try not to blame yourself for it. Are your coworkers and YH supportive of the changes you've had to make?
@offtoneverland - my DH has been wonderful and has even changed his work schedule to help me through the pregnancy. He used to work the night shift (230pm-11pm) but switched to days (630am-3pm) which I know is hard for him since he is not a morning person and now he has to drive through traffic. My coworkers are being supportive but it still feels like I'm not pulling my weight. I'm sure tomorrow will look better it's just really tough today when all the news hit at once.
@kamahina9 The doctor is just being overly cautious and it’s certainly not your fault that you need to take it easy both at home and work. Don’t feel badly. I’m sure if the tables were turned you would be just as supportive to your coworkers/husband. Things like this happen and throughout life we take turns needing extra support/help and being the one that needs to give a little more.
@kamahina9 I know it’s hard not to feel guilty but remember you’re doing some really hard work right now in carrying a baby- and it won’t last forever that you will be on “lighter” duty. If it was your husband in this position, you would be supportive and I’m sure he understands.
@kamahina9 I know it’s sucks right now but try to remember that it’s only temporary and in the scheme of things it’s only a short time! Growing a baby is not an easy job either and GB is definitely not your fault.
@kamahina9 first of all, you’re a hero so don’t forget that. Second, pregnancy is no joke! Lots of us will have to scale back at work and home at some point during the pregnancy and postpartum period, it’s really nothing to be ashamed of. I’m sure your coworkers and husband will be happy to help make sure you have the best pregnancy possible.
Can I have a FFFC on a Sunday? A friend on my FB posted a picture of her kid tonight with dried snot and boogers all in and around her nose with a caption “so stinking cute, boogers and all” and I just want to comment, no. It’s not cute. It’s gross. Not judging her or anything for her kid’s nose cleanliness... but I feel like that’s something only that child’s parent can see past to see the cute. Plus snot and boogers are one bodily function that have always grossed me out more than others. So I’m just sitting here like blech..
Re: FFFC
Married 10/28/17
Our TTC Journey
Team Green turned Team Blue 10/15/18
TTC #2 January '21
BFP June '21
MMC/Blighted Ovum that led to D&C July '21
Jan '22 - started IF testing
BFP Jan '22
MMC/Blighted Ovum that led to D&C Feb '22
BFP May '22
Dx: PCOS
DS1 born 11/2014
DS2 born 11/2018
3 previous losses
Rainbow baby due 12/2021 - Team Green
I waited until 9 pm and called the lab that he's usually at when he is in the office and went to vm. So then I really start to worry and decide that if by 9:30pm he isn't home, that I am going to call his office's main number and if there is anyone there, I will just ask for/about him and if I can't get someone to pick up, I will get one of my friends' teenagers to come to my house while I run out to DH's work to try to find him. At 9:30pm I called, DH was the one to pick up, and said he'd been back at the office for an hour working on a report. So I breathed a big sigh of relief and chewed him out a little bit for not being more considerate and calling.
Anyway, here is the confession part: at 9pm when I decided I would try to go find him if I couldn't get a hold of him at 9:30pm, I went into a cleaning frenzy. I didn't want anyone to see the disaster in our home so I was super focused on cleaning as much as possible in those 30 minutes. I was worried about DH but also about our messy house. I swept the wood floor but hadn't mopped yet when I called DH and got a hold of him. Once I talked to him, I laid down and fell asleep immediately without mopping the floor. I guess cleaning is not a priority right now unless someone is coming over.
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
@BabyBoyH92016 Awww, that is so sweet. I totally get why you would feel guilty about that, but I think it's so special YH gets time with your son at night time. Most of the time, it seems like moms always handle MOTN duty, and I love hearing about men who like to do it too.
Mine is a combined UO/FFFC. I completely judge and glare at people who video chat (without headphones) while out and about at the store, at the restaurant, etc. We were at a restaurant tonight and while a lady was waiting for her take out order, she was chatting away on a video call for about 10 minutes, with it loudly playing on speaker phone. I just don't get why people think this is okay. If she had headphones in, it would have been somewhat okay, although I still think it's odd. But it makes me furious when people do that. It's not so bad if it's in a noisy place, but in the middle of a small, quiet restaurant?
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
Can anyone tell me why you need to videochat all the time?? (On another note, hearing someones conversation out loud video or not is annoying. Especially at a small restaurant.)
@offtoneverland - thankfully I haven't seen that happen before. I would probably do the same as you or actually say something cause depending on my mood, sometimes I can't hold it in.
My FFFC for today is combined a little bit with a rant.... I mentioned before a couple times that I work for the City & County in an office, mostly true but I'm actually a police officer. I couldn't say it before because I was occasionally used for under cover work and couldn't say PO.
Now that I'm pregnant and have gestational diabetes, not only am I getting transferred to a "safer" division but I'm getting put on light duty. My Dr's note says I shouldn't be driving or shooting a gun in case I get low blood sugar. I understand why shes did it but I'm kind of hating the doctor right now. I'm feeling like a failure for having issues during my first pregnancy. I have scaled back at home and DH is picking up slack there and now I gotta scale back at work too. Right now I'm just frustrated and just feeling down.
@charliesmommy6 Oh, no! I'm glad she's getting extra snuggles this evening!
@kamahina9 Oh no! That must be so hard on you coming from your line of work. I'm sorry that your doctor's note said all of that stuff and that she wants you to be so careful. I guess it's for the best, but it must be really disheartening for you. You are not a failure though. You didn't choose to have these issues, and nothing you did caused them. It's completely random, so please try not to blame yourself for it. Are your coworkers and YH supportive of the changes you've had to make?
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018