Why my SO is Awesome 6/2

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sparkymcgeee

DH is a really good dad. He's planned this camping trip for weeks to celebrate our daughter getting out of school. He surprised her by picking her up early from the sitter and taking her yesterday. She was so excited. But he was also prepared for our son to be sad. He pulled him aside a couple of days ago and told him what was going on so he would be "in on the secret". So DS and I had a mommy/ son date night and he didn't feel left out. 

kgg2241

When we moved into our house the previous owners left the swing set for us. It has rusted and was in pretty bad shape. Right after we found i'm pregnant I left town for the weekend and when I got back he had sanded and spray painted the swingset. I know it is simple, but I thought it was so damn cute. Jumping into dad mode like that. There are a million other things to do, so I just loved that he picked that.

kgg2241

@sparkymcgeee I love how he thought of your son too and let him in on the secret. So sweet! 

leighbrek

My DH isn't big on sappy sentimental anything, and when I showed him the pregnancy test, all he said was, "What am I looking at?" Followed by, "Okay." This just gives you context, because my story isn't any huge gesture, haha.
So last night I was feeling queasy and was lying in bed. He brought me a glass of ginger ale without being asked, climbed into bed with me, and told me to pull up baby names to go through together. He made hilarious jokes as we went through lists, and I was just so unbelievably happy. He really made my night.

Jackiemxoxo

DH has been awesome about helping out more with the girls because this morning sickness is all day long. He has been doing more of the night wakings and poop diapers. He even did a late night taco bell run which earned big bonus points. I love that he hasn't complained that the house looks like a train wreck and just helps out. I feel bad because I am not in the mood to dtd at all with feeling so nauseas but I might have to think of something special for his bday this week. 

DLpanda08

@leighbrek your DH sounds a lot like mine as far as sentimentality. What a sweet thing to do!

My whole family is out on the lake today and I couldn’t go because just standing on the dock was making me queasy. Even though he hates taking pictures, DH has been sending me pics and videos of the kids enjoying the water. 

sfgiantsgamerbabe

DH has picked up a lot of the slack because my doctor says I need to stay off my feet (spotting issues). I do what I can but DH has done most of the heavy work. He also bought me ice cream, donuts, and sweet pickles. If that doesn’t say pregnant wife I don’t know what does! 

UnbreakableKimmySchmidt

DH just left for Costco, on a Saturday. If that’s not love idk what is. He’s also getting a pizza! 

bdream0916

DH sat with me in the truck while I threw up and then we went into Target to get him some shirts and he asked me if I wanted to buy a crib. I was going to go find a sales person and he told me not to worry about and to just wait there and relax and that he'd take care of it. He just made my day. 

libertymomrn

My husband is awesome because he is so on board with the less than conventional way I do things, especially with pregnancy and childbirth. Even though it's more work for him. We've had 3 home births and my husband is my main support person every time. He spent hours and hours pushing on my back for counter pressure when our first baby was posterior. Our second baby came so fast, we hadn't even called the midwife until about 15 minutes before she was born. My husband caught her by himself, with the midwife talking him through it on speakerphone. For our third, he cleaned up the bathroom after my water broke all over the floor, and then he got the birthing pool set-up, and got my laptop set-up to play my labor music list, and did everything I asked of him. My brother was so exhausted after my SIL had a homebirth that he insisted on a hospital birth next time, and said he would prefer for her to get an epidural. My husband is ready to do it all again for this one, and that's pretty amazing.

leighbrek

@libertymomrn Your hubby sounds amazing! Exactly the guy you want around for your children to be born, and what a role model!!

I have to add one more brag, because my hubby just did something for me that makes me sooo happy. Before the MS kicked in hardcore, I was setting a flagstone path in my backyard from my deck to my shed. I got it 50% done before the MS took over and I couldn't finish it. My husband, who just came home from working hard all day, went into the backyard and finished setting down the path for me! Then he washed my dog and clipped the dog's nails, and I'm so sappy with gratitude that I want to cry.

kns1988

DH is awesome because he's a feminist. He also gets indignant when there are no changing tables in the men's room because that shit shouldn't always fall to me. 

sparkymcgeee

My DH just told me that I'm allowed to leave him for this but he's buying a pair of crocs. 

gorgeousariel

@kns1988 I think it should be law to have at least one changing table in each bathroom.  I can't tell you how mad I get when I realize there isn't even one in the women's so I know there isn't one in the men's. 

mamadaisy13141619

@libertymomrn That's so sweet! My husband had always been so supportive of home birth too. I've always had bad back labor and he never stopped giving me back pressure even though he was exhausted. Our first was a long labor drawn out over 3 days (thankfully not full on active labor the whole time) and he was probably as worn out as me by the end of it, but he never complained. 

DH is awesome because he always tells me how gorgeous and sexy he thinks I am and just makes me feel amazing even when I'm not feeling the best about myself. He's just always built me up and never said anything negative about my appearance even when I felt gross and fat postpartum. It's just been great to have a cheerleader like that. 

rooonilwaazlib

She got me a cherry slurpee from 7-11 at 9:30am while we were deciding what to have for breakfast.  THEN we went to the diner.  Love her!

kianarain

@rooonilwaazlib now I want a slurpee, bad. A few days ago I went to 4 different convenience stores before I found one that had an icee machine (almost cried lmao)

My SO is the best because I have been hit HARD with fatigue, and can't find the energy to cook after a long work day. SO is NOT usually the cook (can't make a decent grilled cheese) but he's been so carefully taking instructions from me as I lay on the couch reading Harry Potter lately the best

AliKay20

I’ve been up all night for the past weekend coughing so hard bc this nasty virus is definitely taking its course. Well, last night, DH brought me a cup of hot lemon water mixed w honey. He also got me a bag of cough drops by my side of the bed in case middle of the night cough attacks come again. 

It’s the little things, y’all. ❤️

blueowl08

I told DH about this thread last night and he was offended I hadn’t posted in it.

Fast forward to this morning when I come into the kitchen post-shower still half asleep. 

DH: I don’t think we have enough coffee for both of us so I made 2 shots of espresso but you should have it. 

Me: Fair enough 

DH: That’s all?! I was counting on “Thank you! You’re the best husband in the world and I’m going to post about your sacrifice in the best husband thread.”

skilouise

DH has been so sweet during this pregnancy. For example, I mentioned in passing the idea of a story book theme for the nursery (mostly because he'd never go for a full Harry Potter theme).  DH has done a bunch of research into how to make that into a reality. He loves having projects, and is really looking forward to putting the nursery together. 

 He's also awesome because he does all the prep for my PIO shots so I can pretend that giant freaking needle doesn't exist. He's really good at the shots, so the pain/ bruising has been minimal. 

texasmommie

@Jackiemxoxo kudos to DH, but when you said taco bell... I think my mouth watered a bit. Crunch wrap supreme is on my mind right about now.   

texasmommie

@libertymomrn awesome hubby!!!!

texasmommie

@sparkymcgeee that's sweet and two happy kiddos...priceless! 

texasmommie

@blueowl08 haha, too funny! You can now tell him he has made the "great SO" thread.  

UnbreakableKimmySchmidt

DH just went to get me ice cream!

drabong88

DH bought me a whole gallon of chocolate milk at the store yesterday (I guess it's for me and DS but close enough) ....and a bag of sour patch kids! They were delicious! 

gorgeousariel

@drabong88 Sour Patch Kids was the only  thing I really craved during my PG with DD. SPK for life! 

emmaaa

The other day I was trying to think of something to post about DH and was like "well he hasn't done anything super special lately." Well, yesterday I got to thinking about it and no, he doesn't do anything out of the ordinary or super special often. However, he does take DD to and from the babysitter everyday. He gets home and does the dishes, plays with her, and starts getting supper ready. Then when I get home I get to spend time with DD while he usually finsihes up supper for us to eat as a family. He's a good partner and father and that's what I need most...not the gestures but the consistent things he does so that our household runs smoothly. 

ChasingTheDog

I’ve been so sick and so tired, that he’s had to pick up basically 99% of household chores. He doesn’t cook so he fetches dinner when I’m too sick/tired to cook and has just been very understanding when I say I need to go to bed at 730pm lol. Also sometimes just the look of “I can see how miserable you are and I’m sorry and I love you” makes a huge difference 

hollyandphoenix

My husband is awesome because although he gets “frustrated” with my food issues right now, he helps me out anyway. I got home from work tonight and asked him to make me some macaroni and cheese. Turns out, he had already made some but mixed it with tuna and vegetables (which is normally nbd) and I made a face because it sounded terrible. So he fed our son, washed the pot, and made me fresh Mac and cheese.

He has also been doing almost everything around the house and with our son because I’m so damn tired and feel like crap all the time.

CoastieGirl79

@emmaaa your DH sounds like a keeper to me! Sounds like our husbands were cut from the same cloth. 

My DH is super awesome because he tolerates me and my moodiness. 

AliKay20

DH has not complained once about my neediness. He’s used to cooking and doing the laundry but as of late, he’s also been the only one giving DD a bath every other night. I don’t need a fancy car or diamond necklaces. I have a guy who would respond to my text at 11 PM saying he’d make me some dino nuggets bc I’m too hungry to sleep (current situation: I’m in bed starving while he’s cleaning up). I don’t ever say it enough or let him know just how appreciative I am that he doesn’t mind doing these things. 

greenhillgirl

When we were on vacation last week and on our last night he sat in the hotel room and played on his phone from 6pm to 8:30 because I was too tired to do anything and sleeping. Then he woke me up to do my PIO shot then he went to bed at 10pm with me even though he wasn't tired so I could rest. He didn't pressure me to not waste our time and go do an activity.  

Yesterday he cooked chili for me to keep me regular and didn't make it spicy even though he loves spice. Then he did all the dishes and packed my lunch for me. And he always makes sure I have a seltzer in the flavor I like cold. 

skilouise

DH spent several hours last week waxing my car, which he does several times a year. My car is red, so it looks so damn pretty after waxing.

Then, a few days after he waxed, a huge splat of bird poop landed on my trunk. I couldn't handle cleaning it, because just thinking of the poop was making me nauseous. DH noticed it without me saying anything, and cleaned it off of my car right away. 

bb2510

DH is out of town (which sucks), but he stayed on the phone with me at 5:00 AM while I was vomiting to try to make me feel better with jokes and suggested remedies ("Do you have a lemon? I read sucking on a lemon helps...also, don't worry. I was reading that in the second trimester this gets easier.")

LCRbelle

My DH rescheduled some testing they’re doing at work tomorrow so that he can leave early and go to the doctor with me! He knows what a nervous wreck I am about the possibility of bad news and he wanted to be there for me.

saltedcaramel518

DH has always been in charge of DS in the mornings. He gets him up, dressed, fed and off to daycare. This summer, he has to be at football workouts really early, so taking care of DS in the a.m. is on me until August. 

I have always appreciated DH handling the mornings, but I extra appreciate it now. DS has to eat his breakfast in his high chair in the bathroom while I shower/get ready. I have yet to make it to work on time. HOT MESS. 

kkb0520

DH has been a really good sport about my change in diet- he’s a fairly recent gastric sleeve recipient and while I was super healthy with him post surgery, I’ve had to descend into what feels like an all carb diet since bread feels like my only friend. I know it can’t be easy for him to be around bagels and bread and pasta again, but he’s doing so well AND he ordered me a vintage grilled cheese maker since it’s pretty much the only thing I can eat right now. No idea if it’ll work, but the gesture made me a little teary

skilouise

@kkb0520 OMG I had no idea that existed, but now I think I desperately need one.  Or at least a grilled cheese sandwich. 

kaf1788

My Hubby gained hero status today when, during a particularly bumpy landing he was able to apparently use ESP and grab a barf bag and hold it up in front of me just in time to keep me from vomming all over myself on an airplane on our first day of vacation. He then held that full barf bag and carried it off the plane until he found a place to throw it out. Could have been a way worse situation had he not been paying attention! My takeaway is that two international trips within 3 weeks during the first trimester is the worst idea I’ve ever had