So my work is getting to be constantly shorthanded and my coworker and I are being pulled in multiple directions but still expected to perform well and generate revenue in our outpatient office. Our manager wants us to try something new (and drastic) starting in July and it's a huge wrench being thrown into the mix and I just don't see how we're getting everything done that needs to be done. Neither of us feels like we can speak out because we both feel like if our manager looks at our productivity logs (which I have hardly touched due to lack of time this month), we have room for more "productive" activities. We're frustrated and tired and don't know how to get our point across. Ugh, this is a tough place to be in.
@nlc8424 That is really frustrating. Is your manager receptive to feedback? Can you backtrack and update your productivity log to reflect your work this month? (The whole productivity log sounds awful too )
Me: 32 DH: 32 BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012 BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
@southernlady07 oh I'll totally backtrack and fill it in, I just haven't had time to do so yet. Unfortunately as a contracted employee (and my manager is too) we are constantly having to please our client and our liaison has recently changed and she doesn't understand our realm of outpatient nutrition yet. My manager is limited in how much flexibility she can provide to us without forcing us to change. What's also unfortunate is that we have someone out on maternity leave, an open position (with someone new starting next week), but another person is leaving at the end of next month, so we'll continue to be short. She just sees it as a benefit that many of us are trained to work in multiple locations and this is just what needs to be done to get through. She tends to lose perspective of what has to be dropped in order to continue to get all of our work done. Shes understanding, but needs to see results.
@nlc8424 Ugh that sounds so frustrating! Especially since your manager can only help so much. And then being short staffed on top of all that?! Sounds like a stressful work environment. Which sucks because you seem to really enjoy what you do otherwise.
What not to watch while pregnant: Any cooking show. I'm now craving a dish a potential contestant made on MasterChef. Like, a goat cheese puff pastry dessert. Where in the world can I find that in real life?! Because I need it now.
@SkilledSailor it's a trap!!! I only allow myself to watch cooking shows during dinner so I'm already eating and less likely to get a hardcore craving. The worst time in my opinion is to watch cooking shows in the middle of the night when you have pregnancy insomnia! Guaranteed craving trap and at a time you can't do much about it. We totally watched MasterChef during dinner tonight.
I want so badly to be able to lay flat on my back. My back feels so sore and I just know laying flat on it would be fantastic! Last week DH was putting sunscreen on my back and oh my gosh it was so luxurious feeling. He was hardly touching me, but my body is so tired and sore it felt like a massage.
@yosemite2018 I don’t think there’s too many names to be on a finalist list...but I wonder if they’ll all stay on the list. We still have months to go, make sure you’re as willing to drop them off the list as readily as you add them!
@klj0228 I've been lying flat on my back for short periods of time to deal with back pain. My doctor said that short bursts aren't a safety concern at all. It really, really helps.
@klj0228 your body will let you know if there’s a problem being on your back. If you’re there too long or baby is in a bad position for it, it won’t feel good. I lay on my back occasionally without issues. I wish I could figure out a way to lay on my stomach. God, I miss that
I've been laying and sleeping on my back occasionally. Yesterday when I changed positions when I started to feel nauseous, but it does feel so good on my back!
Me: 34 | DH: 33 Married Aug. 2013 TTC #1 Sep. 2016 ***TW***
BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 4, 2017 at 10w6d BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF. BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
I got home from my doctor's appointment today, and the workers (who are just about finishing up! Any day now!) had propped the front door open. OK, no problem. But THERE WAS A BIRD IN MY HOUSE.
Long ranting post ahead...feel free to skip, just need to vent somewhere so I don’t flip out on my H.
I need a break from everything!!! We went boating with friends today and DH was getting annoyed because our friend was taking forever to come home. Now, we ALL KNOW that when it is time to go home the friend tries to make it take as long as possible because getting off the lake makes him sad. But because H was annoyed I was stressing because I wanted him to be happy and in a good mood.
Yesterday, my neighbor texted me saying the lady we bought our house from (I’ve met her three times all less than 30 minutes) wants to come to my baby shower and so does her adult daughter I have never met. Since we are having it at my house I’m assuming it’s because they want to see all the work we have done, but I am not doing a tour of my home in my shower!
Was just browsing Pinterest to decompress before dinner with our friend group and there was an article about the last time you breast feed. Now, this baby is not even here yet so I need to breast feed a first time before there can ever be a last time, but that suddenly felt overwhelming.
H wants his parents to come up on Sunday to drop off our boat. I like his dad and step mom, but I just don’t want to entertain/show off our house and talk about being pregnant. They are so supportive, and give me no pressure, but I don’t want to act happy and like I am loving every moment of this. And why does the whole world feel like they are involved in everything?! It hit me while taking a shower that my family is no longer my own. I will forever have to share my family with other people because we are having a baby. All I want is to cry a really good cry and veg out watching movies and eating popcorn.
@klj0228 just showing support ♡. I totally get all of those overwhelming feelings, I'm sorry you're feeling this way right now. I hope you can set some boundaries with all the things stressing you out and that this feeling passes.
@klj0228 uh, that lady that you bought the house from wanting to come to the shower and bring her daughter is ridiculous. There's no need for that. Feel free to give that one a firm no and don't feel an ounce of guilt about it.
I've been able to find a comfy place with sharing my family vs keeping it to myself*. It took a while! But I've found it. It's ok to establish boundaries about who you want visiting your baby and when. Other people don't have to like it. That's YOUR baby. Hopefully you can find your comfy spot quickly! As stressful as it is to feel like you HAVE to share, it's wonderful when you can feel like you and your baby are loved and supported.
*For example who I'll invite for holidays and who I won't. I refuse to invite certain family out of guilt and obligation if they ruin my time with my little family.
Big, big hugs to you!!! Adding baby is a big change and change can be scary and stressful and hard. I'm having a lot of emotions today too It sucks when the day (circumstances, life, whatever) feels overwhelming! I highly recommend a good vent*, a good cry and a shower. And sometimes a snack.
*I love having a safe place to vent before I flip out. For me it helps to figure out what if anything I actually want to bring up with hubby. Comes sometimes after I vent I don't feel the need and other times it helps me focus on the actual issue.
@klj0228 like @stothi said, your family is still yours. You may need to set some boundaries if people are trying to get too involved, but it’s totally within your rights to do that. And there will be times you want to share and that you feel oh so grateful for the additional people out there that love your LO.
Thanks @stothi@nlc8424@nackie I am definitely trying to find my boundaries, what feels right right to share and what feels like it should just be for us. I know some of this is just because as I get further along it is all becoming more real. I’ll be 24 weeks next Saturday so it seems to be hitting me I really am having a baby. Left a birthday party early so I could come home alone and spend some quiet time. Our friends will bring H home later when they all leave.
@smsaulino that donut carrier is so cute!! And now you an always remember national donut day 2018!
Before bed I went to switch the laundry so I didn't leave stuff sitting in the washer all night. As I pull the first few items out of the dryer, I notice an odd smell. It's faint, very faint, I can't identify it, but it's there. I'm standing thinking this is so weird... Is there really a smell or is this a weird pregnancy smell hallucination? Then I pull out the next item of clothing and one small pebble of dog poop comes tumbling out of the dryer. Omg! Are you freaking kidding me? No. No! How? Why? How? No! Freaking dog poop went through the washer and dryer. I tumble dried on low my laundry with an unscented dryer sheet... And a piece of dog poop. Do I laugh? Do I cry? Do I do both? At the time I was leaning towards* crying but now I'm leaning towards* laughing, cause really, what can you do besides wipe out the inside of the dryer and rewash everything? Small blessings, it was a very small piece of dry poo, so it wasn't smeared around or anything. It just gently perfumed the load... Gross! Lol!
*Autocomplete tried to turn "towards" into "turds" both times I typed it and I actually laughed out loud cause it was just too perfect.
@stothi omg that's awful and hilarious! Laughing/crying, both appropriate! We have a dog, and I'm definitely in denial about all the gross things they do
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My SIL had a miscarriage this morning and I can't stop thinking about her. I want to take off work and drive the hour to see her but not sure if she wants company.
@stothi Ack I literally cringed reading that! haha
@mrsman2018 Aw I'm so sorry to hear that. Last summer when some of our friends suffered a 2nd tri loss, the wonderful ladies of TTGP suggested Spoonful of Comfort. It was perfect for these friends since they are incredibly private and didn't want company. It was a nice way to do something practical/thoughtful for them while respecting their space to grieve.
@mrsman2018 Im so sorry to hear that. I sent my good friend Panera delivery after she lost her first IVF transfer last month. I was able to add a bunch of cookies and muffins for her DH and DD as well. It was a good way to show I cared without showing up to her house with my obvious pregnant self until she was ready to hang out again.
@stothi last year when the clothes had just got done washing, I went to put the clothes in the dryer and went to do something else real quick without shutting door. It was only like 5 mins or so... but during that time my dog took a poop on the wet clothes and I didnt know until after the clothes were dried. It was such a huge mess to clean. Thankfully it was whites so I could just use a lot of bleach on the clothes. But still, she is not allowed on the balcony anymore while I'm doing laundry.
I do have some wonderful family news today but will wait until later next week to announce.
@mrsman2018 I am so sorry to hear of the loss. I’m sure you too are going through a range of emotions with your growing baby. I would say like the other ladies have said, send something. Maybe check in with her husband by phone or text to see how you can support them. He will likely be able to gauge his wife’s desire to see you. I know you so badly want to love on her, but right now that may not be what she needs.
My random... I watched all the old seasons of Mom beginning in February but just realized I hadn't been recording the last season. Now I have to figure out if I want to pay $29.99 to watch them all or wait for the season to come back on as reruns. Ugghhh... I got hooked on them.
@mrsman2018 I’m sorry for your family’s loss. I would call or text and say you’re thinking of her and see if there is anything you can do for her. It would probably be hard for her to see you pregnant. However everyone grieves in different ways so the only way to know for sure is to offer your help to her and her H and see what they say.
@klj0228 I know this is a little late, but in my experience it gets better. I couldn't handle everyone in my business with my first pregnancy. DD is now 16 months and only a very select few still check in, and they're people who were close to me before the pregnancy. People get weird around ftms and new babies, but I wanted to give you a little hope that, at least for me, it got better.
@mrsman2018 I'm so sorry to hear it. With my loss, I didn't want to see anyone right away, but I did really appreciate food. I just wasn't ready to talk right away. About two weeks later, my brother came to visit for the weekend, and by then I was ready to have someone to talk to (and drink with).
@Patience7150 thank you for that! I am still struggling today, to the point I had a panic attack earlier, so any little bit of hope helps!
I did decide to not go out on the boat with our friends today and just said I need a quiet day at home. As soon as I told them we weren’t coming I started crying. It was like my body was relieved I was putting myself first and I didn’t have to act happy-go-lucky all afternoon. Just took a 2 hour nap and I’m already feeling more recharged and open to being around other people.
@ashh2018 not sure if you are checking the bump this weekend while you are traveling, but was thinking about you. Hope your flight went well and was uneventful and that you are enjoying your family and the wedding festivities!!
@SkilledSailor I think you usually start the product spotlight threads? Can we do a thread on what baby sleeps in? I want talk about bassinets and rock n plays and random things like this:
So I fell over backwards today, in a boat, padded seat came with me so the fall didn’t actually hurt. I was sitting and leaned too far back, it wasn’t a big fall. But scared me something awful because I was sure I landed squarely on top of dd. Like I froze and started assessing her and if it was safe to move before even thinking of what the fall did to me. She was totally fine, a bump on her arm that didn’t even leave a mark. I was fine, but all day since have been waiting for something to start hurting. Now my tailbone is sore and the muscle above the bump is sore if I use it...either of those I would attribute to fatigue any other day, so I’m not too worries. I’m hoping it doesn’t get worse overnight.
Anything especially concerning I should be keeping an eye out for? I feel like I’m not thinmong of something major. There has been plenty of in utero activity this evening so litte one seems a-ok as well.
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
@jhjocelyn I hope your aches go away overnight! If you are feeling lots of activity and didn’t fall that far I wouldn’t be too concerned. (Disclaimer: not a doctor). Glad your daughter is ok too!
Thanks @yosemite2018 ! I feel totally fine this am, I really think I scared mysrlf more than anything . I was mentally just waiting for something bad to happen, but a fresh new day seems to have shaken it for me.
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
We expanded my garden this year to just about a quarter acre which meant all new fencing, more seeds, more plants, etc. We'd decided to do this before getting ku, and of course h wanted to still do it. We're a bit late, but it did snow 20" five weeks ago so understandably so. I got the entire thing finished this weekend and planted. I'm so sore, but currently taking the most glamorous Epson salt bath. I wish I could stay here forever.
Re: Weekly Randoms 5/29
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
What not to watch while pregnant: Any cooking show. I'm now craving a dish a potential contestant made on MasterChef. Like, a goat cheese puff pastry dessert. Where in the world can I find that in real life?! Because I need it now.
We totally watched MasterChef during dinner tonight.
Married Aug. 2013
TTC #1 Sep. 2016
***TW***
BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d
BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP
All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF.
BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th
My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
I need a break from everything!!! We went boating with friends today and DH was getting annoyed because our friend was taking forever to come home. Now, we ALL KNOW that when it is time to go home the friend tries to make it take as long as possible because getting off the lake makes him sad. But because H was annoyed I was stressing because I wanted him to be happy and in a good mood.
Yesterday, my neighbor texted me saying the lady we bought our house from (I’ve met her three times all less than 30 minutes) wants to come to my baby shower and so does her adult daughter I have never met. Since we are having it at my house I’m assuming it’s because they want to see all the work we have done, but I am not doing a tour of my home in my shower!
Was just browsing Pinterest to decompress before dinner with our friend group and there was an article about the last time you breast feed. Now, this baby is not even here yet so I need to breast feed a first time before there can ever be a last time, but that suddenly felt overwhelming.
H wants his parents to come up on Sunday to drop off our boat. I like his dad and step mom, but I just don’t want to entertain/show off our house and talk about being pregnant. They are so supportive, and give me no pressure, but I don’t want to act happy and like I am loving every moment of this. And why does the whole world feel like they are involved in everything?! It hit me while taking a shower that my family is no longer my own. I will forever have to share my family with other people because we are having a baby. All I want is to cry a really good cry and veg out watching movies and eating popcorn.
I've been able to find a comfy place with sharing my family vs keeping it to myself*. It took a while! But I've found it. It's ok to establish boundaries about who you want visiting your baby and when. Other people don't have to like it. That's YOUR baby. Hopefully you can find your comfy spot quickly! As stressful as it is to feel like you HAVE to share, it's wonderful when you can feel like you and your baby are loved and supported.
*For example who I'll invite for holidays and who I won't. I refuse to invite certain family out of guilt and obligation if they ruin my time with my little family.
Big, big hugs to you!!! Adding baby is a big change and change can be scary and stressful and hard. I'm having a lot of emotions today too
*I love having a safe place to vent before I flip out. For me it helps to figure out what if anything I actually want to bring up with hubby. Comes sometimes after I vent I don't feel the need and other times it helps me focus on the actual issue.
@smsaulino that donut carrier is so cute!! And now you an always remember national donut day 2018!
Do I laugh? Do I cry? Do I do both? At the time I was leaning towards* crying but now I'm leaning towards* laughing, cause really, what can you do besides wipe out the inside of the dryer and rewash everything? Small blessings, it was a very small piece of dry poo, so it wasn't smeared around or anything. It just gently perfumed the load... Gross! Lol!
*Autocomplete tried to turn "towards" into "turds" both times I typed it and I actually laughed out loud cause it was just too perfect.
@mrsman2018 Aw I'm so sorry to hear that. Last summer when some of our friends suffered a 2nd tri loss, the wonderful ladies of TTGP suggested Spoonful of Comfort. It was perfect for these friends since they are incredibly private and didn't want company. It was a nice way to do something practical/thoughtful for them while respecting their space to grieve.
I do have some wonderful family news today but will wait until later next week to announce.
@mrsman2018 I am so sorry for your family's loss.
I did decide to not go out on the boat with our friends today and just said I need a quiet day at home. As soon as I told them we weren’t coming I started crying. It was like my body was relieved I was putting myself first and I didn’t have to act happy-go-lucky all afternoon. Just took a 2 hour nap and I’m already feeling more recharged and open to being around other people.
https://www.little-bugzy.com/products/bugzy-hammock
My first born didn't/doesn't sleep well so I'm already having anxiety about trying to find something that this baby will sleep in.
Anything especially concerning I should be keeping an eye out for? I feel like I’m not thinmong of something major.
There has been plenty of in utero activity this evening so litte one seems a-ok as well.
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**
I feel totally fine this am, I really think I scared mysrlf more than anything
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**