2nd Trimester - *Not Feeling Pregnant*

kbyahn

So as we're all creeping into the 2nd Trimester, I have to ask, with the first having all kinds of crazy symptoms, does anyone else feel "weird" going back to "normal"? I suddenly have my normal energy back and food doesn't turn me off anymore. All good stuff. However now I don't "feel pregnant" anymore. Is that weird??? Anyone else?? It worries me at times. I'm dyyyying to feel some movement in there to remind me that it's still happening...

offtoneverland

You may want to update the title of this thread. I thought it meant you were no longer pregnant, and I was scared for you.
I understand what you mean; it's very strange starting to feel normal again after having a couple months of feeling gross and tired. But soon you should start to feel movement, and your belly will start to grow soon, so all those things are good signs that everything is progressing and going well. 
It can be hard waiting those 4 weeks between appointments to hear the heartbeat, but perhaps you can find something to focus on to take your mind off of things for a little while. 

highsteaks

this is going to sound mean, but i mean it with sincerity and kindness. you will always worry about that child until the day you die. it’s the new normal. pregnancy sucks, so try to relax and enjoy this very little bit of energy you have between the 1st trimester misery and the 3rd trimester pain.

lifesabeach85

I think it’s totally normal to be anxious. It’s also completely normal to start feeling great and symptom free during the second trimester. You’ll probably get some new symptoms soon like heartburn, constipation, nosebleeds, insomnia, swollen feet, increased sex drive or others to keep you occupied. The anxiety may not go away, unfortunately, you just find new things to worry about. Try and enjoy the good days when you get them. Remind yourself that having made it this far, the odds are overwhelmingly in your favor of it continuing just fine. 

I agree with neverland that that the title of the post could probably be better. 

kbyahn

Thanks ladies. I updated the title. Didn't mean to scare anyone! Sorry bout that!

I appreciate the encouragement. I will try to focus on the positives of feeling good and back to "normal." Fingers crossed on feeling those movements early! 

andrea0418

I actually haven't felt pregnant at all this entire time. Makes it hard to believe there's a baby in there. I can't wait to start feeling him move and get a bump. 

kamahina9

@kbyahn - I felt the same. When I went to my last Dr appointment I told him I needed to check and make sure I am still pregnant. Then I heard the heart beat a little bit and I felt a little better. 

Thanks for the encouragement from all the other ladies! 

smulrich16

I just had this conversation with my best friend (who has 2 kiddos) yesterday. Every time my symptoms subside I get a little nervous that I'm not really pregnant anymore. I'm sure it's fine (and she assured me it's totally normal), but I'm REALLY looking forward to my sono/OB appointment on Friday. My last appointment was May 1. 

soehlerk

YES!  I'm definitely there with you--suddenly I have some energy and I'm not feeling as bloated or having to pee as much, and it makes me nervous.  But the baby sizer thing keeps me grounded--baby is the size of a cinnamon roll (or whatever), which is so much bigger than the poppyseed she started out as!  And in a few weeks we'll start feeling movement, which will be SUPER exciting. 

eahayes

I totally hear you! I am still feeling symptoms, but they can all be explained away (gaining weight but eating a million bagels a day, exhausted but my idiot cat wakes me up every hour, etc..)- I am 15 weeks tomorrow and have had healthy ultrasounds but STILL get nervous to tell people I'm pregnant-- I'm sure I will feel this way until I feel them move or have an actual "bump" (not just a belly with bloat )

bkosy

@eahayes your cat sounds like my cat!

eahayes

@bkosy oh thank goodness I'm not alone! misery loves company That cat is on my shit list now.. 

skesek

Im so glad there is this post and i that i am not alone. Aside from the occasional heartburn (which i never had before and to me isn't a big indicator) i feel completely normal. I am just shy of 18 weeks and cannot wait for ultrasound or ob appointments so i can hear the little ones heartbeat.  I struggled with infertility for 4 years and and am finally pregnant from a frozen embryo transfer i had in February. I feel like that rollar coaster of a ride might have something to with it and as i am always cautiously optimistic. It still doesn't feel real and even saying the words i am pregnant to friends/family is like so weird still...

highsteaks

@skesek that must have been a tough journey, and understandable that you’d be anxious to know all is well. glad that you’re here with us! 

vrj0522

Except with my DD1 who had me nauseated the entire pregnancy, I have felt the fear of not feeling pregnant my other 3 pregnancies once 2nd tri hits and the symptoms subside. This morning I had my 16 week appointment and I felt so anxious to hear that precious heartbeat, but like others have said, try to relax and enjoy this symptom free time as much as you can. It's pretty short lived and only a matter of a few weeks before you start feeling your baby moving in there. This is  a great time to get projects done and other things which you might not have the energy to do as pregnancy progresses.  

mother_of_cats

I used to feel like this, constantly worried about a missed miscarriage or that my baby's heart has stopped (intrauterine fetal death is a disrinct possibility with my baby because of the diagnosis of cystic hygroma), so I'm really glad I shelled out the $80 for a fetal Doppler a while back. I listen to her heartbeat every day and to know that she's hanging in there keeps giving me hope. 

emjohn517

@mother_of_cats I would be a mess without my fetal Doppler! It brings me such piece of mind. 

And i agree with what you said, @highsteaks you will worry for this child forever. 

I don’t know that there’s ever a certain point of pregnancy where I truly felt safe and comfortable from a loss. Sure it gets more and more rare, but it happens, can happen, at anytime. Even once you get to 24w viability. Truly bringing a healthy child safely into the world is a miracle. And then once they’re here you have a million more things to freak out and worry about. All we can do is keep on keeping on. 

fancifemarie

The title is completely fine. She clearly stated "not FEELING pregnant"...it is a thing you know. I'm going through it as well

highsteaks

@fancifemarie she edited it in response to some suggestions. it used to say something like “no symptoms= not pregnant anymore”

smulrich16

I don't think I realized just how worried I was about it. I had a sono on Friday and I felt a weight lift off of my shoulders when I heard both babies' heartbeats. It actually took the tech a few minutes to go from Baby A to Baby B and I don't think I breathed at all during that time. I couldn't bring myself to look at her face to try to read it because I was so worried she was going to give me bad news. When she finally did let me hear the 2nd heartbeat, I teared up a little bit - which is weird for me because, even with being pregnant, I'm not an overly emotional person. Thank God they are both doing well  

offtoneverland

fancifemarie said:

The title is completely fine. She clearly stated "not FEELING pregnant"...it is a thing you know. I'm going through it as well

Of course not feeling pregnant is a thing. As PP stated, the OP edited the thread after we asked her to, because the old title said she was not pregnant anymore which was alarming and confusing. I'm not sure why you felt the need to be so rude in your response when this thread is over a week old. 

@smulrich16 So happy to hear both your babies are doing great! 

mockingjay1

kbyahn said:

Thanks ladies. I updated the title. Didn't mean to scare anyone! Sorry bout that!

I appreciate the encouragement. I will try to focus on the positives of feeling good and back to "normal." Fingers crossed on feeling those movements early! 

fancifemarie said:

The title is completely fine. She clearly stated "not FEELING pregnant"...it is a thing you know. I'm going through it as well

@fancifemarie - You clearly didn't read the thread very carefully or you would have seen that OP updated the title. She wasn't offended by the replies she was given, so I'm not sure why you seem to be.